u/MissFox26

Let me start by saying absolutely no judgement for those who do! This is just meant to be a funny fluff post.

We have a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old. We never coslept with either of them. They slept in their bedside bassinet, and then in their crib in their room. I never had any desire to cosleep, and my kids were good sleepers so it was never an issue.

We started potty training this weekend, so our toddler is already having a rough time. Last night (or I guess this morning), she wakes up at 4 am screaming and crying. We rush in, and she’s hot. I take her temp and she has a fever. We give her meds, get her settled, she falls back asleep no problem.

At 5 am, she’s up and crying again. My husband gets her and she will not go back to sleep. She is hysterical. I tell him to take the baby monitor and go in the guest room to sleep and listen for the baby, and I’ll take the toddler in our bed. I’m all for having them come in our bed when they’re sick, it’s just never happened before. She also normally doesn’t wake up until 7:30/8 am so I knew she would need rest and probably go to sleep.

Nope! King size bed and she wants to sleep right up against me. On my pillow, even though she has her own. She keeps whispering things to me, like “mommy look at your eyes” as she pokes my closed eyelids while I’m trying to go back to sleep. I turn the other way, and she is still right there, making random toddler commentary like “wow, look at that fan spinning!” (She has a ceiling fan in her room) and “I think we should turn the lamps on!” (It’s bright daylight by this point). Finally I said “you can watch bluey while mommy sleeps” and that kept her happily occupied while I was able to get another hour of sleep.

I’m sure she thought this was the best thing she’s ever experienced- cuddling with mommy and then getting to watch bluey in mommy’s bed. Living the dream! And I love that for her. And I love that I was able to give that to her. But holy shit I hated it for me 😂 crossing my fingers that she wants to sleep in her own bed tonight because I don’t think I’m cut out for this lol

We have 2 daughters- almost 3, and 10 months. Their birthdays are a month apart (because who doesn’t love planning birthday parties back to back 🤪)

With our first, there were always toys and activities to get for her, as she was hitting new developmental milestones and needed new toys and activities. Even for her 3rd birthday, I have a whole list of things she would love and be interested in as she reaches this new age.

But with our second, we have SO many toys that are developmentally appropriate for her. There’s really no toy or activity that we don’t have. Of course she won’t always have hand me down toys, and I’m sure it will be easier once she gets older and develops her own hobby or interests. But right now, with another girl, she literally needs nothing (and doesn’t know the difference.)

We are a big “wishlist” family, so everyone always asks for birthday/Christmas lists for the kids. I feel like the only thing I can think of to put on it is a nugget couch (we don’t have one yet), a 2 seater bike trailer for bike rides, the link for gift contributions to get 529, and gift contributions to classes she’ll take this year (swim, “gymnastics”, etc). They both have fall birthdays, so we’re going to wait to do a zoo membership next summer when we’ll get more use.

Is there anything else parents do for gifts for a second child that is the same gender? It’s so hard to think of stuff, and I also don’t want more junk because we have a whole playroom full of toys. Would love any other ideas or advice from parents that have gone through this with 2 kids.

Also to preface- our girls have tons of “boy gendered” toys- trucks, basketball hoop, dinosaurs, you name it. I’m just saying it’s harder with 2 kids of the same gender as they tend to like and play with the same things, and we already have it all because of it.

We are potty training our 2.5 year old on Friday due to the 3 day weekend (no 4th of July plans- we can see fireworks from our backyard when kids are asleep and don’t plan on going anywhere). We are doing the oh crap potty training method, and I am a SAHM so I can be consistent with it.

We’re definitely ready to potty train and have been talking it up all week- and I’m feeling really optimistic about it! But I also feel like we kind of messed up our ability to go out for fun day trips for most of the summer (museums, the zoo, etc) and am kicking myself for not thinking to do it a few months ago instead. I know eventually we’ll be able to do short outings like a quick errand, but how long was it before you felt you could go out and about as normal and not have to worry as much about accidents?

I know every kid is different, but I really have no clue what to expect and would love to know how it went for other parents!

Long story short, the account used to set up my daughter’s yoto (last October) is an email I don’t use anymore, and can’t receive emails at because it’s out of space. I never used the yoto app until recently, which is when I realized this. I apparently do not know the password (tried everything I could be), and the account was never verified because it went to my email that can’t receive emails. I am logged in on my phone, but cannot change the password because the account was never verified. I also cannot add another email as part of the family, and then delete this email, since the account is not verified.

I ended up paying for space on my old email for the month, so I could get the verification email. However, the app won’t let me click “resend” the verification code. I tried exiting out of the app multiple times, but it won’t let me click it to resend. I can’t try logging out and logging back in because I don’t know my password. I can’t log in on another device, because again I don’t know my password. So essentially I am stuck and have to hope that I don’t ever get logged out or I would be completely locked out.

To solve all of this, can I just unlink the yoto from my current account, and then relink it to the new account with the correct email? This seems like the easiest way, but I also don’t know if it would work. I don’t have any digital purchases or gift cards I’d have to worry about losing, just physical cards that I assume can be still used. It almost seems too simple of a fix that I’m worried it’s going to mess something up lol

Has anyone ever done this before?

This post was almost a gush/rave, but I just finished the book and I am so mad. Spoilers ahead of you haven’t read it.

The book starts off cute. I love Annabelle Monaghan books, and while I could tell early on that it wasn’t going to be as good as Nora Goes off Script or Summer Romance, I was still really enjoying it.

Dolly and Stewart start fake dating so he can secure his spot of CEO over his cousin Grant, they fall in love for real, yada yada. The third act breakup comes around. We all knew it was going to happen, as it often does when fake dating is being done.

Grant throws them under the bus at the big fancy party, and Henry, who is so embarrassed by it all, decides it’s a good idea to hash it out at the party in front of everyone. Because that totally makes sense. And even though Grant broke into Stewart’s property and stole documents and admits it, he gets to become CEO. But Stewart can’t because he hired a fake girlfriend for PR after being publicly cheated on. Got it.

Then Stewart acts like a total douche and doesn’t defend Dolly or explain that he’s really in love with her. A week goes by and he’s giving her the cold shoulder. I think to myself, this third act breakup is definitely going to be a few months.

Boy was I wrong. Because, TEN MONTHS? Ten months and Stewart doesn’t come back to grovel? Stewart, who told Dolly a week away from her on a business trip was too much and he never wanted to do it again? Stewart, who said he would change the world if the world tried to get in their way of being together? He just… does nothing? Like come on Stewart, don’t be a little bitch.

To make matters worse, after months and months of radio silence, Dolly is the one to go to him to yell (-ish. She could have been way meaner) at him. And also becomes friends with his mom who apparently also kind of scolds him? Like why is everyone trying to convince Stewart to come to his senses? Stewart is supposed to come to his senses on his own because he is 40, not 14. And it doesn’t even seem like he’s tortured about losing Dolly, he’s just working his ass off at his job he hates, not becoming CEO because Grant gets it instead, and not even trying to better himself until the very end of his almost year hiatus. And then after 10 months, and being yelled at twice, he finally comes back with a lame excuse and a weak ass grovel, if you can even call it that. And Dolly is just like “yeah sure we can get back together I still love you after you were a total dick who ghosted me for almost a year.” Like Dolly I know he’s loaded and has a boat, but be so fucking for real right now.

Anyways, I’m mad and I’m going to stay mad.

I cannot figure this out. I have kindle unlimited, and I like to favorite (click the heart) books I want to read that haven’t been released yet. However, clicking this automatically saves it to my “houseware” list I have on Amazon. I have created a “books to read” list, but cannot figure out how to change it to be saved there when clicking the heart. Yes, I can go into the Amazon app and move it, but it’s an annoying extra step. Does anyone know how to fix this?

I have 2 kids, 2.5 years and 9 months. We have been with our pediatrician since our first was born and I really adore her. She has met my husband only a handful of times during both kids early appointments when he was on paternity leave.

Yesterday while changing our 9 month olds diaper, I noticed a bruise right on the crease between her butt and her thigh. Maybe the size of a dime, or a little smaller. Didn’t think anything of it because she recently started pulling herself up to stand, and is also starting to cruise on furniture, so she falls on her butt roughly 926382864 times a day.

Today at her 9 month appointment this morning, her doctor saw and brightly (not like accusingly) said “uh oh what happened here” and I said “I know! she’s got a little bruise.” Still didn’t think anything of it. Appointment went well, she’s doing wonderful with her milestones, I left feeling great.

At like 2 pm I receive a call from her doctors office. I assume it’s to check in to see how her first MMR vaccine went (she got a dose early because we have a flight in a few months before she gets the normal MMR dose). She ends up telling me she wants to talk to me about something and that it’s being bugging her all day. She brings up the bruise and asks if everything is ok at home, if we feel safe, if anyone else watches her, etc. I was shocked. I’m a SAHM and I’m the only one that’s with them during the day. My husband would never lay a hand on me or the kids. I would absolutely never lay a hand on him or the kids. I told her we have never even spanked our toddler because we don’t believe in spanking. Her older sister is usually very sweet with her, aside from the occasional snatching away a toy because she wants to play with it, which we are constantly working on.

I told her I assumed it was from a fall on her butt, maybe she landed on a toy in our playroom after pulling up to stand. That she falls a million times a day because she hasn’t learned how to get down without plopping onto her butt. We talked for about 15 minutes and she seemed content with the info.

I know it’s nothing personal, but I feel so shaken by it. I sobbed in the car on my way home (I was getting in my car after being at target getting batteries). I was just so shocked I couldn’t even believe it was a conversation or a concern. I absolutely adore our pediatrician and I do understand that it’s better to be safe than sorry and that’s why she called. I get that it’s nothing personal. She only sees a snippet of our day and can never really know what goes on at home. But now I’m like, now what? What if she doesn’t believe me? Do I have to worry about CPS coming? Would she have given me a heads up if she was going to call? I have absolutely nothing to hide and they would clearly see that they are well taken care of and loved. But the whole thing is so scary. Has anyone else dealt with something like this when there was actually nothing bad going on at home?

I had my physical and labs done in April, and I had an elevated ALT OF 50. Normal AST right at 35 (35 is the max normal according to the lab). Doctor said to retest in a month or 2. Retested, and my ALT went down to 42, AST still normal and also lower this time at 26. My doctor ordered an ultrasound because the ALT is still elevated (their lab considers normal 35 or under, even though it seems like other labs might consider this within normal range).

I’m just not sure what to expect and feeling really anxious. I’m a 35 year old woman, with 2 small kids, one of them being 9 months old. I still have about 20 lbs to lose to get back to my pre pregnancy weight. Not at all a big drinker, NSAID user, etc.

Looking back at the trends of my bloodwork, I did have an elevated ALT of 49 in December 2023, I was 2 months postpartum with my firstborn, but it wasn’t flagged because at the time the lab considered 54 normal (it has since changed to 35). Last July when I was pregnant with my second, my ALT was 15.

Could the high ALT simply be because I’m postpartum again? How worried should I actually be? It’s hard not to worry about my health now that I’m a mom, and my liver ultrasound isn’t until next month. Any advice or personal experiences with this would be much appreciated.

I have 2 kids- a 2.5 year old and a 9 month old. Both were EFF from birth, and both were huge eaters from from the very beginning.

With my first, I assumed she would start eating less when we switched to solids. But I had to physically decrease bottles amounts and (then drop bottles) as we approached 12 months when it was clear she wasn’t going to decrease bottles on her own lol

But my 9 month old is starting to decrease bottles on her own. She used to drink five 7 oz bottles a day, and now we’re lucky if she finishes 4 ounces each feed. We do offer formula before meals, and then she eats breakfast, lunch and dinner. I of course offer water with meals, but we’re very much in the “it’s fun to drink and then spit it all in my bib” phase.

Did anyone’s baby start to wean themselves at 9 months? She is a pretty good eater at this point but I do worry it might be too early. But maybe I’m just overthinking it because my first was still wanting to drink 35 ounces of formula until the very end lol

Was trying to prep dinner as I have two young kids and it’s easier if I prep during the day. I’m making salmon bowls, and so I diced the salmon and put it in the marinade of soy and sesame oil. Normally I do this shortly before cooking. After it was done I thought, is it even ok to marinade fish this long? (I start cooking at 5:30 to eat at 6). I looked it up and it appears that you are NOT Supposed to marinade it that long.

What should I do? Rinse it off? Cook it now and try to reheat it at dinner? Just leave it and hope it will be ok?

Edit: I know that it is safe to eat. It is getting cooked today. I am worried about the texture of the fish being mushy. I did rinse it and pat it dry, so hopefully that saves it.

I feel like I’m losing my mind, because I cannot for the life of me keep my toddlers clothes stain free. She’s a toddler, so naturally food and things are going to spill on her clothes. I do a load of toddler/baby clothes every few days, so it’s not like things are sitting for a week. If something has a stain, I spray it with oxiclean max force spray. I also add the powdered oxiclean to every load in case I missed something. Yet when I dry her clothes it seems like they all have stains. Some food stains (watermelon legit ruined several of her outfits lol), some grease stains (which I know can be from bubbles but we don’t do bubbles for that reason). I have the Miss Mouths Messy eater spray, but I find the only stain it works on is berries.

What are your holy grail products, and how are we keeping our toddler clothes clean?

Not technically a “what should I buy?” but more of a “what should I keep?”

My husband and I have 2 kids under 3. I drive a 2015 Honda CRV touring, and my husband drives a 2018 Honda Accord. Both have about 70k miles, and are paid off in full. We don’t want a car payment at the moment, but I also could use a bigger car for me and the kids.

My mother in law drives a 2018 Infiniti QX60 and wants a new car. It is about to hit 100k miles, and once it does and she does the big service for it, she wants to gift it to us (specifically me, since I am the one usually driving around the kids). This would happen in a few months.

Here is the dilemma- she is worried that having 100k miles, it might not last a long time, and will leave us with expensive maintenance. Because of this, she also said she can trade in the car and gift us the cash she gets for it. She is fine with whatever we want to do.

So here are our choices-

1.) I take the Infiniti to drive as my car. We sell both mine and my husband’s cars, and use that to buy him a 2026 Honda CRV hybrid (we’d put in the difference so no car loan, it wouldn’t be much maybe about $6k). I hopefully drive the Infiniti for a few years, and then sell it and do a loan for a Honda Pilot or a Hybrid Toyota Grand Highlander. The risk is that the Infiniti might not last that long, the trade in will deplete a lot more by the time I want to sell it, or that the maintenance will be expensive.

2.) I keep my CRV to drive. My husband sells his car, my MIL sells her car, and we use that money to buy my husband a hybrid CRV (again, put in the difference so no car loan). In a few years, we sell my car and I get my bigger car. The downside is that I don’t have a bigger car for the next few years.

Either way, the accord (not AWD and we can’t fit 2 long cars in our garage) is getting sold and my husband is getting a hybrid CRV. Me getting the new, bigger car now is not in the cards, because they are over $50k and we really don’t want to spend that right now.

However, should I keep my car or stick with the Infiniti? Will the Infiniti last? Is maintenance going to be super expensive? Is it worth it to just sell it now while it’s still worth about $15k trade in (according to Infiniti). What would you do?

I have KU, and have an audible account but not an active subscription. I recently, on accident, realized when you download a book on KU with audio, you can listen to it on audible (or in the kindle app). Which is pretty great considering I am always looking for new audiobooks on Libby and Hoopla.

However, I cannot for the life of me find a way to specifically search for books with the audio option on the kindle app. Does anyone know how to do this? There has to be a simple way out there somewhere.

I have 2 daughters, 2.5 years old and 9 months. We have a playroom filled with a variety of toys (I will be so happy to get rid of all the baby toys soon and love a good donate pile), but sometimes when my toddler shows interest in something I just want to buy her a new toy that feeds into that interest.

For instance, right now she’s super into “making ice cream” and I feel like she would LOVE the Melissa and Doug ice cream set. Her birthday is not until October so I will probably end up getting it as a “just because” toy.

I wouldn’t say I do it super often (aside from books, the limit does not exist for books), but I definitely do it lol. I’m curious as to what other people do. How often do you buy things “just because” as opposed to waiting for a birthday or holiday?

Our second baby is 9 months old next week. She started sleeping through the night (7 pm to 7 am) at 4 months old. At 6 months, she started sleeping in her room in her crib. No disruptions, still 12 hours of great sleep. She even would wake up in the morning and just be happy to chill for a while.

However, at the end of April, she started waking up twice a night. Once at 1ish am and once at 4ish am, before waking up at 7 am for the day. The whole night wake up is very quick- diaper change, bottle, she immediately falls back asleep and transfers to her crib no problem. Start to finish it’s 10 minutes. When this started, she was close to crawling (now crawling and standing) *and* was teething, so I figured this was your standard regression. Our first never had any regressions (unicorn sleeper) so this was all new to us, but we figured it would pass in a few weeks. However, it’s now been almost 7 weeks of this and we don’t know what to do.

We tried capping her naps, and it left her absolutely feral and cranky all day, and she still woke up twice at night. We always give her 10 minutes at night to try and settle, but she does not self soothe back to sleep. We tried going in and soothing her without picking her up, but that just makes her hysterical, and we end up having to get her anyways. So we’ve just been giving a bottle because at least it’s fast and she’s obviously hungry. But maybe that’s feeding into the problem? We just don’t know where to go from here. Ride it out? Try something new? I have no idea.

Current nap schedule is up at 7 am, nap at 10 am, nap at 2 pm, bedtime at 8 pm. So 3/2.5/4. The second wake window is so short, but she is always totally ready for a nap at 2 and she falls asleep instantly. I thought about pushing her nap to 3 pm, but I’m worried that will make her sleep worse because she’s napping so late in the day. However I am open to any suggestions for how to improve our schedule!

Anyone have advice on what needs to be changed to hopefully get her sleeping through the night again?