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my doctor wants me to go on the contraceptive pill to treat a medical condition i have. however, i’m scared it could affect my libido. i was put on an anti-depressant last year, and it caused me to feel completely numb and i had no sex drive whatsoever. this triggered me to go on a crazy spin where my fear that i wasn’t attracted enough to my bf intensified, and i became paranoid that i was asexual. i don’t want to ever go back to that again, and i’ve read that sometimes the pill can have a similar effect. so i just wondered if there so happened to be anyone else on here with ROCD who has also been on the pill, and if they could tell me what their experience was like? TIA

19F recently diagnosed. my consultant has suggested hormones to prevent the endometriosis from spreading, however i’m a bit wary of this due to the side effects and don’t know much about it. my main fears are weight gain and the increased risk of breast cancer. can anyone suggest what i should look into? how do i work out which pill/hormone treatment is best for me? is there anything you wish you knew before going on the pill? TIA :)

I’ve been using the Bondi Sands Gradual Tanning Milk and it works great everywhere except below my knees. My arms, thighs and the rest of my body develop a nice colour, but my lower legs barely tan at all. There’s a tiny bit of colour, but it’s so faint it’s basically not there.

I’ve already tried all the usual advice like exfoliating, moisturising heavily and building it up over several days. I don’t think it’s an application issue. Especially also given that it works everywhere else on my body.

I don’t want to buy mousse, and a lot of other affordable gradual tan lotions (I can’t really justify spending more than I currently am) pull orange on me as I’m so fair naturally. Has anyone else had this happen? If you managed to fix it, what actually worked? TIA

19F I’ve gone up a few cup sizes since gaining weight (my band size is the same). I’ve bought some new bras but I’m worried about having to repeatedly spend on new ones as I lose weight - I can’t afford to spend £30 each on them every month or two. I’m really conscientious of if a bra doesn’t fit me right as I’m naturally a bigger cup size anyway (even pre-weight gain). Does anyone have tips on how they managed this while losing weight? What styles etc should I look for? Just any advice on this would be appreciated. Thanks

I have fair cool toned skin. Looking for recommendations for gradual tanning lotions/moisturisers only - not mousses. I want something you apply like a normal body lotion that builds up over several days with repeated use. Preferably one that’s not too orange. Any favourites?

I’m very fair and cool toned. I’m looking for a tanning lotion that won’t look orange on me because they always do. Suggestions please? The more affordable the better. Thanks

I am fair neutral-cool olive and I have level 5 ash brown hair, although my brows appear lighter/softer. I am looking for a light brown/taupe brow pencil that won’t pull warm or orangey-yellow against my complexion. Suggestions please? Preferably in the drugstore price range. Thank you

There’s a guy I’m considering getting back together with. When I’m actually with him, I can find him handsome, I want physical closeness, and I’ve caught myself wanting to lean into him, touch him, kiss him, and generally be near him. The idea of losing him genuinely upsets me.

The problem is that I’ve become extremely fixated on his appearance, particularly his body type. He isn’t my usual physical type. He’s quite slim and has a narrower build, whereas I tend to be drawn to men with broader shoulders and a larger frame. I find myself constantly comparing him to other men, analysing individual features, wondering whether I’m more attractive than he is, worrying that I’m settling, or that I could do better. Eventually, I convince myself that these thoughts must mean I shouldn’t be with him.

When we dated before, this became so intense that I ended up feeling repulsed by him and frightened to be around him. Looking back, I think I was completely burnt out from the constant analysis and monitoring of my feelings. I felt as though I’d lost my feelings for him, and I ended the relationship. Now that some time has passed, those feelings seem to have returned. I find myself desperately searching for certainty that getting back together would work, and the idea that it never could is genuinely painful. But I simultaneously still have the worried I outlined above.

One of the biggest sticking points is that I can’t stop analysing his shoulders and my reactions to them. I’ve noticed that I tend to find him much more attractive in a fitted T-shirt and joggers than in a collared shirt and jeans. When he wears the latter, especially if the shirt is loose or oversized, I often feel less attracted to him. His build can look different to me, and I become fixated on it and feel much less attracted. It feels like this worry is now so ingrained in my head I cannot let it go.

Part of what troubles me is the belief that this preference is somehow wrong. I feel as though I should be attracted to him all the time, regardless of what he’s wearing, and that anything less would be unfair to him. Recently though, I’ve started wondering whether that expectation itself might be unrealistic. I’m not looking for reassurance, I’m more interested in hearing an alternative perspective, because I’m struggling to judge how much of this is a genuine compatibility issue and how much of it is an irrational standard I’m imposing on myself.

i primarily worry about his appearance, and i have also had thoughts before as well as being told by others that i am ‘too attractive for him.’ i feel ashamed to be seen with him in public and constantly worry i could do better. could this be related to my ROCD? i’m terrified of it being a genuine concern