I am fair neutral-cool olive and I have level 5 ash brown hair, although my brows appear lighter/softer. I am looking for a light brown/taupe brow pencil that won’t pull warm or orangey-yellow against my complexion. Suggestions please? Preferably in the drugstore price range. Thank you
There’s a guy I’m considering getting back together with. When I’m actually with him, I can find him handsome, I want physical closeness, and I’ve caught myself wanting to lean into him, touch him, kiss him, and generally be near him. The idea of losing him genuinely upsets me.
The problem is that I’ve become extremely fixated on his appearance, particularly his body type. He isn’t my usual physical type. He’s quite slim and has a narrower build, whereas I tend to be drawn to men with broader shoulders and a larger frame. I find myself constantly comparing him to other men, analysing individual features, wondering whether I’m more attractive than he is, worrying that I’m settling, or that I could do better. Eventually, I convince myself that these thoughts must mean I shouldn’t be with him.
When we dated before, this became so intense that I ended up feeling repulsed by him and frightened to be around him. Looking back, I think I was completely burnt out from the constant analysis and monitoring of my feelings. I felt as though I’d lost my feelings for him, and I ended the relationship. Now that some time has passed, those feelings seem to have returned. I find myself desperately searching for certainty that getting back together would work, and the idea that it never could is genuinely painful. But I simultaneously still have the worried I outlined above.
One of the biggest sticking points is that I can’t stop analysing his shoulders and my reactions to them. I’ve noticed that I tend to find him much more attractive in a fitted T-shirt and joggers than in a collared shirt and jeans. When he wears the latter, especially if the shirt is loose or oversized, I often feel less attracted to him. His build can look different to me, and I become fixated on it and feel much less attracted. It feels like this worry is now so ingrained in my head I cannot let it go.
Part of what troubles me is the belief that this preference is somehow wrong. I feel as though I should be attracted to him all the time, regardless of what he’s wearing, and that anything less would be unfair to him. Recently though, I’ve started wondering whether that expectation itself might be unrealistic. I’m not looking for reassurance, I’m more interested in hearing an alternative perspective, because I’m struggling to judge how much of this is a genuine compatibility issue and how much of it is an irrational standard I’m imposing on myself.
i primarily worry about his appearance, and i have also had thoughts before as well as being told by others that i am ‘too attractive for him.’ i feel ashamed to be seen with him in public and constantly worry i could do better. could this be related to my ROCD? i’m terrified of it being a genuine concern
I’ve never dyed my hair before and I’m looking for some advice.
My hair is naturally around a level 5 brown, but it has a lot of natural lighter pieces running through it. In certain lighting it can look quite warm and there are some lighter/blonder sections that I don’t like.
I’m not looking to go lighter or dramatically change my colour. I basically want my hair to still look like my hair, just a bit more neutral-cool/ashy and less warm and I want to get rid of the lighter pieces.
My hair is naturally wavy/curly, so I’m worried about damage and affecting my curl pattern. I’ve also reacted to brow tints before, so I’m quite cautious about allergies and hair dye ingredients.
Does anyone have any product recommendations for this sort of result?
Thank you