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If you’ve ever done this and it worked, what did you say to convince them ? I’m really nervous and I need advice. Please help!!!

If you’ve ever done this and it worked, what did you say to convince them ? I’m really nervous and I need advice. Please help!!!

I often find myself wondering if my very existence is what bothers people the most. I genuinely don’t think I’m a bad person. I’ve never done anything to harm anyone yet it feels like sometimes you can’t even exist without people wanting to hurt you.

My mother was my first bully. She constantly reminded me of how "ugly and disgusting" she thought I looked. But she wasn’t the only one. My siblings joined in too, especially my older sister, who made it a daily routine during my teen years to tell me how undesirable my face was. For some reason, my appearance was always the focal point of their cruelty. I never understood what I did to deserve that treatment, I didn’t choose to look the way I do.

That torment followed me to school. I was teased relentlessly by boys, likely because they found me unattractive, they certainly never bothered the popular girls. There was even a girl I didn't even know who made it her life’s mission to mock my looks.

Because of this, I grew up believing I was the ugliest thing to ever walk the earth.

Then, things unexpectedly shifted. I started receiving compliments from multiple people, even total strangers. It felt incredibly jarring. Slowly, though, it helped lift my confidence. For the first time, I could look in the mirror and occasionally be okay with what I saw, which is extremely rare. Suddenly, boys and strangers were interested in me. It felt surreal after a lifetime of being told I wasn't pretty.

Fortunately, I am in a much better place now than I was a few years ago. I can look in the mirror and be okay with the person looking back at me. I once posted that I’ve reached a place of acceptance, but not necessarily satisfaction, when it comes to my appearance. I still want to change certain things, but I view it now as enhancing myself rather than fixing something broken.

I still wear a mask when I go out sometimes because I’m not entirely comfortable with people looking at me, but I hold onto the hope that I will completely heal from this one day.

I really want to hear other people’s stories. If you have been through something similar, please share (if you’re comfortable of course) I just want to know that I’m not alone in this journey.

I was a very smiley person until something happened to me and I lost my spark. I recently heard that smiling a lot tricks your brain into thinking that you’re actually happy, is that true? My mom used to say that I’m ugly because I’ve stopped smiling, does smiling also make you prettier? Just curious to know.

I’m so overwhelmed that I haven’t been to school in two months because I can’t keep up, I don’t even know what they’re talking about. I hate what I’m doing and I didn’t even choose it, my mom did. Now I have to catch up so I can at least pass my first year. I need to stop procrastinating or it’ll be over for me. Anyone has any tips ?

I’ve been bullied by my family for how I look most of my life so I always thought that I had to look like someone else to be loved and accepted. Long story short that just scarred me even more and my body dysmorphia got worse. Today I can look at myself in the mirror and be okay with how I look, I accept that even if I’m not the prettiest there’s more to life than just looks. I have insecurities but even the people I find the most beautiful have them. I have reached acceptance but not satisfaction. I still feel like I need to change some things about myself to feel completely at peace. Am I the only one that feels this way ?

I’ve been bullied by my family for how I look most of my life so I always thought that I had to look like someone else to be loved and accepted. Long story short that just scarred me even more and my body dysmorphia got worse. Today I can look at myself in the mirror and be okay with how I look, I accept that even if I’m not the prettiest there’s more to life than just looks. I have insecurities but even the people I find the most beautiful have them. I have reached acceptance but not satisfaction. I still feel like I need to change some things about myself to feel completely at peace. Am I the only one that feels this way ?

I’ve been bullied by my family for how I look most of my life so I always thought that I had to look like someone else to be loved and accepted. Long story short that just scarred me even more and my body dysmorphia got worse. Today I can look at myself in the mirror and be okay with how I look, I accept that even if I’m not the prettiest there’s more to life than just looks. I have insecurities but even the people I find the most beautiful have them. I have reached acceptance but not satisfaction. I still feel like I need to change some things about myself to feel completely at peace. Am I the only one that feels this way ?

I tried dermaplanning without researching more about it but it deepened my wrinkles or created new ones. I’m kind of freaking out and I wonder if this is irreparable damage. Has anyone experienced this ? I also plucked my hair last month with metal tweezers and it left dark spots but I didn’t notice any marks.

I can’t live like this anymore, I’m completely damaged. I can’t even get out of my bed because how I drained I am. My mom is really emotionally abusive and I really wanna get away from her, no matter what it costs me. I’m a Canadian citizen who’s lived in another country all her life and I really wanna move there to study administration/finance. I’m trying to find a fully funded scholarship (like tuition + housing + living costs all covered).I’ve looked everywhere, asked on many subreddits but I couldn’t get any information unfortunately. I’ve saved up enough money for a plane ticket. If someone has any information that could help I’ll forever be grateful.

I tried dermaplanning without researching more about it but it deepened my wrinkles or created new ones. I’m kind of freaking out and I wonder if this is irreparable damage. Has anyone experienced this ?

I tried dermaplanning but it left a deep line near my wrinkles and I’m kind of freaking out. It kind of looks like a really deep wrinkle. Has anyone ever experienced this? Is this irreparable damage? Please help!!

It kind of looks like a really deep wrinkle and I’m also getting tiny white bumps near my mouth

Please help I’ve been crying about this for a day

She’s been bashing me for how I look ever since I was a teenager and today she says “you’re so pretty but so insecure, sometimes I feel ashamed because of you”. She and my siblings bullied me for how I look ever since I was 13 years old. This makes me super emotional because looking back I was always the most confident girl in the room. She’s such a hypocrite because she used to straight up call me ugly to my face and now I’m pretty ? I wear a mask to school, I don’t get out of my room until it’s absolutely necessary, I avoid pictures and my reflection like the plague, I don’t want anyone to see my face. She’s the reason for all of this then has the audacity to say that I’m doing this to myself. If she really wanted to help she’d take me to a therapist but she always talks about how it’s bullshit and that I don’t need help.

Sorry if it sounds messy, English isn’t my first language.

Edit: I want to add that she says that she’d like to be close to me and to help me achieve my dreams. But what really hurts me is when I asked to move to Canada she completely refused saying that I wanna leave because “I hate her”. Honestly it’s kind of true that I wanna get away from her and the rest of my family but it’s really because I need a new beginning . Life in my country is miserable. The mentality is awful and people are so judgmental. I wanna be able to start from scratch, meet new people, heal from my wounds. But she’s keeping me away from all of that and claims she wants to “help me”.

I was really self conscious about the hair that were growing on my mouth corners so I just decided to pluck them one day. It gave me PIH and I think deepened my wrinkles. When I look in the mirror I can see it more clearly. I’m scared it’s never gonna go away and I sooo regret doing this. Does anyone have a solution for me ?

I was really self conscious about the hair that were growing on my mouth corners so I just decided to pluck them one day. It gave me PIH and I think deepened my wrinkles. When I look in the mirror I can see it more clearly. I’m scared it’s never gonna go away and I sooo regret doing this. Does anyone have a solution for me ?

I'm a full-time student in Canada and I need this surgery, but since it's considered "cosmetic" by my province, I have to pay for it all myself and trying to save up a serious amount of money in one year while juggling a full course load feels pretty overwhelming. So I'm wondering: has anyone here actually managed to save a big chunk of cash while studying full-time? What budgeting tricks, part-time jobs, or side hustles actually worked for you?