u/Odd-Implement-1283

My family is moving to OR next year to be closer to an aging parent and we’ve been doing a lot of research that has Lake Oswego and West Linn standing out as potential candidates. I’d say about 90% of the information I need is easily available online (schools, walkability, housing cost, restaurants etc etc) but it’s harder to find info about the people, so turning to Reddit for a local’s perspective on the community/culture of the people.

We are flying out in January to visit both, and a few other areas, but still want to get perspective from people who have been there for a while.

Some comments I’ve seen searching posts about moving to LO say it’s uppity and snooty- do you find that to be true? We are pretty down to earth progressive people. Would we be outsiders in LO? I like that it seems so safe and nice park access and tons of activities for kids, but I don’t want to be in a situation where it’s hard to make friends or nobody ever wants to do play dates with our kids because we’re that weird family with tattoos and drive modest cars on purpose. Curious about an insiders perspective

Hi there, new to this community. I am 11w1d today. I am wondering if you got any additional monitoring compared to standard spontaneous pregnancy with your OB after you graduated from your clinic. With my clinic I got weekly scans because I have 3 MC (2 spontaneous, 1 from IVF) and now that I’ve graduated to OB the only extra thing they’ve mentioned so far is a fetal echocardiogram on top of the anatomy scan.

When at my first OB appt they said it would be 4 weeks between appointments I expressed my anxiety and asked for extra monitoring so they said they’d bring me in in 2 weeks for a nurse visit to listen in Doppler for heartbeat.

What I’m also concerned about is monitoring at the end of pregnancy. I knew stillbirths were more common with ivf pregnancies and reading the pinned post when finding this sub seeing all the studies linked at the bottom reiterating that, that really scared me. 4.4 in 1000 seems so high. If you’re an ivf pregnancy do you get NSTs or more ultrasounds or anything in the final weeks of pregnancy? Is it better to just go ahead and do the induction at 39 weeks?

I know this is so far ahead and I haven’t even made it out of first trimester yet so I might be getting ahead of myself, but I’m just worried and wondering if knowing the additional risks if we can get more monitoring with IVF babies vs spontaneous conception.

If you got a scan that early, could you share what the heart rate was or if your doctor gave any sort of scale or number they like to see?

I had the initial placement scan at 5w5d and my next scan isn’t supposed to be almost 2 weeks from now (7w5d) on 8/24. I’m really realllly struggling wondering if everything is okay after 3 losses but especially with a MMC where I thought everything was okay then I was blindsided at the 11 week appt and learned baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. Has anyone ever requested an extra scan just to check on baby outside of the scheduled scans? I know the worst they can do is say no but I’m still nervous to ask

I don’t even have the energy to give a whole explanation. Just, they’re gross and make my skin crawl and I’m ALWAYS the one who has to kill them because it always happens when my husband is on a work trip, or walking the dog, or in the shower, or on a work call. It’s like the universe is playing a joke bc he’s never in the room and they’re so fast you have to get them in the moment. Tonight there was one on the floor by my daughter’s crib. I’m so fucking disturbed and I want to leave this disgusting humid state and move back to somewhere cold and dry where bugs die. For real though, I’m calling the exterminator again first thing tomorrow and packing a go bag in case we need to go stay at a hotel because I am DONE.

I have zero symptoms at all, it’s scaring me. I have an early scan next Monday at 5w5d and I’m trying so hard to remain calm between now and then, but with three losses under my belt it’s hard. My betas were good. Not off the charts high to give me peace of mind, but standard doubling rates and on track for the dpo. I’m just an anxious wreck, Monday feels like years away.

I am very very very cautiously pregnant for a fourth time after my second FET on 7/20. I’ve had 3 losses in the past year—1 MMC, 1 chemical & 1 blighted ovum after my first FET. Needless to say, I’m scared shitless right now. I am trying so desperately to stay positive. I am repeating “every pregnancy is different“ but it is obviously really hard to stay positive when my personal statistics don’t have a very good track record. My betas were good so far, but it’s scary because all my RPL testing came back normal/optimal, my EMMA/ALICE results were normal, and any other tests (thyroid, vitamin d, hysteroscopy) came back normal so I have this nagging feeling there’s something we missed or didn’t address. Just looking for the stories of the ladies like me who had several losses but eventually went on to have a live birth.

Betas
8dpt- 82
10dpt- 291

Questions-

If I ran my dishes through the dishwasher (before I saw the news) but not on a sanitize cycle do I need to re-run with the high heat water?

Do water filters make a difference? Eg a whole house filtration system or a reverse osmosis filter?

Are grocery stores a mad house right now like when it snows in Winston and people storm the shelves? Unsure if it’s worth buying a few packs of water or just boiling it

I don’t have a Zillow link because we won’t be listing until about a year from now, but I’m thinking about our last house and how we had to drop the price like 3 separate times before it sold, and with that experience in mind I’m thinking about pricing strategy for when we go to sell our current house. Does it look bad if the price gets lowered a few times?

I had my trigger shot last Wednesday (5000 units pregnyl, so half dose) and my FET is tomorrow. Still giving positive tests as of this morning. Just want to make sure I’m not getting false hope from my trigger shot. My other FET was fully medicated so my only other experience with a trigger shot was for my egg retrieval. Wondering what peoples timelines looked like for testing it out

My engagement ring is a lab diamond from Vrai and I love it, but I realized I should’ve done more research before purchase because it was 10K for 3.5 carats (2.5 center stone, .5 side stones) and I see posts on here with double the carats for half the price. That being said, who are the good lab diamond vendors who charge actual lab diamond prices? I’m looking for something dangly not studs

I know a lot of us ttc are surrounded by pregnancies in our social and family groups, and the last year for me has been so strange because I’ve been surrounded by so many pregnancies that the parents explicitly said were unwanted, unplanned, disappointed about how close in age, disappointed by the gender, never wanted to be a mom, pregnancy that was “a freak accident” (as if we all don’t know how babies are made), and several elective terminations.

It just seems like I’m surrounded by people who don’t want kids and yet are getting pregnant at the drop of a hat, where I’ve been desperately trying and want what they have so badly yet it doesn’t work out for me. Like if only we could trade places. I’d gladly take the second boy because you wanted a girl instead and are devastated it’s a son. I’d gladly take the kid that didn’t come in your ideal birth month. It’s just ironic and stupid. Yes I know, no one said life would be fair. That doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to be sad about unfairness.

And to be clear, I do not wish infertility on these people, I just wish an easy ttc journey on me. I know their lives have nothing to do with my family planning, but when people seek me out and complain to me about the kid they didn’t want, it’s kinda hard to not be annoyed. I’ve just started saying “I may not be the best person to discuss this with sorry.” Like what do you mean you’re gonna terminate and try again for a different gender please don’t share that information with me.

I was on aygestin to pause my cycle while I waited for some test results to come back before my next transfer, and at my baseline scan today there was a big ol follicle ready to ovulate any day now, and apparently it broke through the meds and developed even though the whole purpose of the meds was to quiet my ovaries.

I really struggled with the side effects of aygestin (norethindrone) so now I’m extra upset I had to endure that for three weeks for nothing, on top of my transfer being delayed yet again. The waiting is so hard. I just want to get good news at an ultrasound for once. Every time I go in for a scan it’s “no heartbeat,” “empty sac,” “abnormal lining,” “RPOC, hysteroscopy needed,” “dominant follicle, need to delay.” It’s like the grey screen of an ultrasound is so associated with bad news and negative experiences I feel my heart rate spike every time the sonographer turns it to face me. I am already not feeling particularly hopefully going into this transfer, but I was at least thinking something as basic and benign as a baseline scan would be normal. Nope.