u/Ok-Atmosphere-6272

Hello, I am originally from the north shore (Sea Cliff). Lived upstate in college (Buffalo), then to nyc, got married and now we are looking to buy on Long Island. We love the north shore but prices are insane. It’s $1,000,000 + for a nice house. Plainview caught our eye because it is more affordable. Are there any negatives to living there? For some context we are hybrid and need to be in the city 3 days a week and we bring in combined $250,000 a year. We saw Hicksville station is right near plainview and the schools are good. We were looking at Northport but the commute just feels too far for us.

I think the ending of The Sopranos is pretty much settled at this point — Tony gets killed in the final episode, and that’s why it cuts to black. I don’t really see it as a big debate anymore. My question is about the mob “code.” There’s supposed to be a rule (or at least a strong tradition) that you don’t hit a guy in front of his wife and kids. Yet if Tony does get whacked at Holsten’s, it happens right there with Carmela and A.J. sitting across from him (and Meadow about to walk in). Was this New York’s payback for how Phil was taken out — shot and then run over right in front of his wife and grandchildren? Or do those old rules just go out the window once a war gets this messy? What do you guys think?

Got a “friendly reminder” from the landlord about loud door-closing and our dog barking/howling when left alone.

We’re extremely quiet (mostly just lay in bed), don’t slam doors, and have only left the dog alone once since moving in. Feels completely made up.

Older neighbors below are nice to our faces and the lady next to us won’t even look at us it’s bizarre… any advice on pushing back or finding out who complained without making it worse?

My wife and I have been no-contact with her parents for months, and every new thing they do just confirms it was the right decision. I’m done with them for good.
For the entire year leading up to our wedding they treated us like children. Constant criticism, control, and undermining. The mom would randomly text my then-fiancée things like “it seems like you don’t want to get married” or “it seems like you don’t want to have a wedding.”

before the wedding they screamed and cursed at us. We tried to “clear the air” once and it turned into a disaster — the mom started with “we don’t feel appreciated,” It became an hour-long verbal assault.

After the wedding my wife set a no-contact boundary because of the unhealthy behavior. We were too exhausted to list every single incident at the time. Their response? Flying monkeys, long paragraphs ignoring her request for space, talking shit about her to her best friend, involving my brother and sending her brother to humiliate me over my finances, talking shit about me for missing one holiday, and multiple threats.

Months later the mom sent a vague text: “we’re really sorry for crossing your boundaries and would like to meet up to talk.” It felt like a setup to get access and verbally attack her again, which is their pattern. We didn’t respond.

They act like they have no idea why we don’t want contact. They seem to have expected we’d just accept being controlled and treated like kids as “one big happy family.” We’re not living that way.
My wife is the sweetest, kindest person. There’s a reason someone like her cut contact with her parents right after the wedding. We’re both still emotionally exhausted from all of it. I never want to be around them again. They keep doubling down instead of taking any real accountability.
Has anyone dealt with in-laws this controlling and clueless about their own behavior? How do you stick to permanent NC when they keep escalating with petty retaliation? Any advice on protecting the marriage while one spouse processes cutting off their parents? My poor wife is an emotional mess because she does still love them.
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I’m talking something really good that would compare with Angelo’s in Philly or Danny and coops in NYC. It just seems bizarre to me because Long Island has AMAZING Italian and semolina bread. A key ingredient in a good cheese steak.

I love her very much but it’s been hard recently.

I’m questioning my decision to marry my wife because of how her family treated me. Right before the wedding they completely humiliated both of us and disrespected me. It was bad enough that we went no-contact with them afterward. My wife is also furious at them, hasn’t spoken to them in months. I honestly never want to see or speak to them again — they showed zero respect for me or our relationship and they are the most abusive narcissists I have ever met. Horrible people who love causing drama.
The problem is my wife misses them badly. The other day she cried in the car because she feels so alone without her family. I get that it’s hard for her, but it’s created a lot of resentment on my end. We’re both emotionally exhausted, moody all the time, and arguing constantly about what happened. We’re just not happy right now, and it feels like we’re living in hell. It’s not how I envisioned our marriage to start off.
I’m also dreading what’s coming. We’ve talked about therapy where she’ll eventually meet with them, but I’m worried they’ll double down, attack us, play the victim, and flip the narrative so we look like the horrible ones. That upcoming drama is hanging over us and making everything worse.
I want peace in my life and to protect the home we’re trying to build. I don’t know how to move forward with kids in the future if her family is involved at all. Right now the constant tension makes me question whether getting married was the right choice. It feels like her family is getting exactly what they wanted — disrupting our marriage from the very beginning.
Has anyone dealt with toxic in-laws + a spouse caught in the middle? Did low/no contact work long-term? Did couples or family therapy actually help, or did it just create more drama? Looking for real advice on how to move forward when you’re already this unhappy this early on.
Thanks.

Feeling really dehydrated lately from this heat. Was thinking of going to an urgent care to get an IV, but every time I go to one I never see a doctor, just the PA and they never do anything for me. I could go to the hospital to get IV but I’d rather avoid getting sick.

I started smoking cigarettes at age 16 and I am now 33. At 22 I completely switched to vaping e cigarettes. Had the whole mod with the sub tank and all that. After couple years of using that I switched exclusively to juul for convenience. I’m kind of getting sick of constantly inhaling nicotine everyday and I’m thinking of quitting using zyns and alps. Has anyone had any positive success with this? After 17 years of inhaling my body is telling me to just stop already.

I’m on 14.2.2.5 Model Y Standard AWD and have had zero issues. Car literally drove me without interruption from Long Island to Connecticut the entire way to my destination without interruption. I haven’t upgraded newest update because I keep seeing on Reddit it’s broken. I’ve seen a lot of videos on here of newest update just not working. Should I just stay on 14.2.2.5? My logic is don’t fix it if it ain’t broke!

In broadway mall they had a kiosk with massage chairs and they did a quick deep tissue massage. Unfortunately that mall closed down are there other malls that have this nearby?