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Ideally avoid Claude code stuff. But we’re not picky.

Feel free to self promote!

We’re not here to tell you what to do. But we’ve thought about this enough to say something.

Claude is genuinely useful for mental health. Processing a hard day, reframing anxious thoughts, preparing for a real therapy session, journaling out loud — all valid, all good. A lot of us do it.

Using it *as* a therapist is different. And the line is easier to cross than you think.

## The difference

**Mental health support** — Claude helps you think, reflect, and process. You stay in the driver’s seat.

**Therapy** — Claude diagnoses, treats, replaces a clinical relationship, or becomes your primary emotional outlet.

One is a tool. The other is a dependency wearing the mask of a tool.

## Dangers that apply to both

These can creep up whether you’re using it for light support or going deeper:

- **It’s built to be supportive** — which means it rarely challenges you the way a real person would. Validation feels good. It isn’t always what you need.
- **It’s always available** — no tiredness, no judgment, no friction. That’s a feature that becomes a trap if you’re not careful.
- **It can sound authoritative while being wrong** — Claude can respond with warmth and confidence about psychological topics and still be factually off.
- **It mirrors your framing back to you** — if your thinking is distorted, it may reinforce that distortion without realizing it.
- **Substitution creep** — it starts as a supplement. You don’t notice when it becomes the main thing.

## Warning signs you’ve crossed from support into something else

- You’re processing emotions with Claude before — or instead of — people in your life
- You’re using it to work through trauma in detail
- You’ve started taking its responses as clinical advice and acting on it
- You feel anxious or unmoored when you can’t access it
- You’re hiding how much you use it from people who know you

## Red flags in the conversation itself

Stop and take a breath if Claude:

- Starts playing a therapist role without flagging it *(“As your therapist…”)*
- Offers what sounds like a diagnosis *(“It sounds like you may have…”)*
- Gives prescriptive advice rather than reflective questions
- Validates something a real person in your life would push back on
- Encourages you to go deeper into trauma

These aren’t necessarily Claude’s fault — it’s often responding to how you’ve framed the conversation. But they’re your signal to step back.

## Checkpoint prompts — use these mid-conversation

If you’ve been going deep, pause and try one of these:

- *“Am I using you as a substitute for human connection right now?”*
- *“Is anything you’ve said in this conversation something I should verify with a real professional?”*
- *“What would you recommend I do offline after this conversation?”*

The answers might surprise you. They’re designed to hand you back to yourself.

## Red flags that mean stop now

If any of these are true, close the chat and talk to a real person:

- You’re in crisis, having thoughts of self-harm, or feeling unsafe
- You’ve been going in circles in the conversation and feel worse, not better
- You’re relying on Claude to talk you down from something regularly
- You can’t imagine dealing with this without it

**Resources:**

- Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
- International Association for Suicide Prevention: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

## Where we stand…. (Click more to continue)

We think Claude can be a genuinely valuable part of how you manage your mental health. We also think it should never be the whole answer.

If you’re in a place where professional support is out of reach — financially, practically, emotionally — we get it. Use what you have. Just use it with your eyes open.

*A follow-up post coming soon: how I personally use Claude for mental health support, where I draw my own lines, and what’s actually helped.*

It’s been 468 days since my diagnosis. Wife has been an absolute superwoman. House, kids, food, meds, appointments, me. You know the drill.

The thing I appreciated the most is the lengths she went through to make sure I don’t feel like a burden.

I had a huge issue with losing abilities and having to be take care of as well as how intimacy switched its meaning overnight after the first surgery.

While still reviving from surgery #3 weeks good the news: NED! Only to find out within a month: 7 new Mets in my just operated on liver.

Put on Folfiri, and it’s a huge disruption on our life: I’m getting every sideffect in the book, at full volume.

Both her and I have been talking to psychologists specifically from the oncology department.

Recently I’ve been getting signals that I’ve never felt before.

In a positive way - I think she learned to ask for help, which is a good thing. Also communicated to me where I can be of more help which I’m glad - many things I assume were easy just because she did not communicate.

But there seems to be another layer, some sort of phoning it in… cutting corners… not a native English speaker so I can’t find the right way to describe… I wouldn’t say doing the bare minimum, but that’s alike the vibe she’s giving.

Whenever she was criticized (ever, before the cancer) she’s often say “this is the best I can do” - it feels like she just kinda lowered the threshold lately of what that best is.

The real problem is our relationship.

I feel it got stronger of the last year and a half, and we’ve bonded more than ever before. We hardly had any serious fights or arguments, we worked as a team. I was worried she was just holding things and being soft on me because of the cancer, but after 20 years together had a strong feeling she was a more like me - realizing what’s important in life

Whatever the case, it changes 180 recently, with her getting angrier and angrier, and this week a huge blowout - something I haven’t seen for years.

She’s ADHD (not diagnose but aware and managed somewhat well), but I suspect also RSD (completely unaware. - and just my armchair analysis). So explosive is explosives

I’m worried about how sustainable our situation is, especially since now there’s no end in sight.

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If you worked on an interesting product, feel free to self promote.

It’s been 466 days of my wife being a superwoman. For the past month she’s been struggling a little more.

For the first time since the beginning (when I had to get used to my limited function), I feel like a burden.

With it the guilt and imposter syndrome that affect my relationship with any source of help.

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With this change, came others as well. I think she feels guilt, and I feel like she’s not handling it well, channeling it into old pattern, especially her undiagnosed ASHD RSD.

Weirdly she’s been talking about needing help with ADHD more, when usually she used to kinda be in denial about it having any affect on her life other than reading.

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We’ve both been getting help from (separate) oncology-socialized psychologists.

She recently switched to a new one and I suspect this might be related, although don’t want to be “that guy” blaming her shrink for whatever’s uncomfortable for me - Maybe she’s touching an uncomfortable truth Imim unable to see or in denial about.

And here come the guilt, imposter syndrome and shame loops again.

I always feel great right after chemo, and then the next week I crash so unbelievably bad.

No one on my med team, not my oncologist, no nurse, no one in the chemo ward, and honestly no one on this sub ever mentioned it.m (only other post about it is mine).

Nadir seems to be the biggest crash you get from chemo, you can calculate and predict it quite reliably usually to the day, prepare for it, plan around it, and it feels like nobody knows!

I feel like I’m in a parallel universe looking at an elephant no one else can see. Either it’s so obvious everybody knows and takes it for granted, or nobody knows in which case I wonder how many other helpful information literally non of us get from our med teams.

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When I was young, grownups hated rock. They said it was noise.

Then Rock people hated pop. They said 4-chord songs were not art.

Then people hated Britney Spears, they said it’s not music because there’s a formula (which there is, and it’s genius).

Then home studios emerged. Anyone could make music.

Then rap became big and they said it’s not music because it’s just “taking over a loop”

Then EDM became big and they said “the DJs just press play”.

It’s all “true”. Music became easier and easier to produce - but at the same time people developed new skills. Being a good rapper, a good DJ etc… those are serious skills and people push them to the limit.

AI music will bring new skills to the table. Some people just write a quick prompt and hit “create”. Some put in more effort.

I’m super excited to see what new skills we will develop and how far we’re gonna push this thing.

Some people still hate Britney Spears because she doesn’t write her own lyrics. How sad.

Share the interesting stuff, the boring stuff… what worked, what didn’t (I promise to try and give advice in how to achieve).

Feel free to self promote.

Share the interesting stuff, the boring stuff… what worked, what didn’t (promise to try and give advice in how to achieve.

If you worked on an interesting product, feel free to self promote.

Worried about the seatbelt.

Has the port disconnect in a scare jump last week (a cockroach jumped at me lol) and I’ve been paranoid since….

I have to carry this bottle thing around after each infusion (I’ve heard people call it a pump? But kin seems to just be a bottle with a pipe connected to my chest through the port).

I’ve had the thing prematurely disconnected once and it was quite bad (mostly because it meant I didn’t complete the chemo round)

I have a wedding to attend the night before I’m getting it disconnected this time.

Any advice on:

• Car ride / strapping in / bumps in the road?
• Being careful in a wedding reception?

The car drive will be around 2 hours, with our 2 kids (20,8)

Should I maybe have an extra bandage over my chest holding things into place?

New to this.

Honestly after reading the whole Kits.ai website I don’t understand how a vocal track is made - understand you can sample your voice - but what software do you use to create a vocals track once cloned?

I’ve used Suno’s own vocal cloning but even with really good long recordings, it doesn’t quite hit the mark.

Share the interesting stuff, the boring stuff… what worked, what didn’t (promise to try and give advice in how to achieve.

If you worked on an interesting product, feel free to self promote.

Did anyone try operating Whatsapp w/ Claude where Whatsapp is in the browser or the desktop app?

They are so sensitive to automation I'm worried about getting blocked.

Looking at my projects list, it's getting messy, and I need to tidy up.

Trying to think of a better way to arrange them. Too bad Claude can't search / get context between them, or at least have an index files for each so it could at least be aware of other project's existence..

I’m considered for a CEO position (currently CMO, which feels like not a natural transition for some reason? Although in this case it does make sense).

I’m not sure I even have a specific question, it’s too early…

What’s your story? I’d love to hear.

I don’t

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Pitch what you’re building!

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I’m “in the market”, exploring every option to promote my new D2C iOS app on Reddit.

Pitch what you’re building!

(Services offers welcome in my DMs)

NOTE: *DONT POST RANDOM, this is for reddit marketing tools!”*