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Hi i am 4'11 156 lbs trying to get back into exercising. i am also trying to lose weight but i tried to do that in the past (by jogging almost daily and cutting out all snack foods) but i was not able to have much success so i figured my body probably isn't compatible with weight loss.

i have been working out on and off in the past, mostly jogging and gym workouts, but have never been able to stick to anything. however lately i wanted to get back into exercising so have been trying to walk more. on the weekends i can easily get 10k steps but since i work a desk job during the week i can only get 6-7k if i try. i also started basketball and occasional jump rope. i want an exercise that doesn't feel like a "workout" moreso feels fun or like playing so that i'll actually stick to it!! does anyone have any suggestions? also do i need to add strength training? should i ramp up my activity level slowly or all at once?

another thing i wanted to mention is that i frequently get pains while exercising, like shin & knee pain when running or jump rope, or random joint pains when doing strength training. sometimes the knee pain is so much that i need to stop exercising for a while, which is a bummer as i really want to stick to something.

Hi i am 4'11 156 lbs trying to get back into exercising. i am also trying to lose weight but i tried to do that in the past (by jogging almost daily and cutting out all snack foods) but i was not able to have much success so i figured my body probably isn't compatible with weight loss.

i have been working out on and off in the past, mostly jogging and gym workouts, but have never been able to stick to anything. however lately i wanted to get back into exercising so have been trying to walk more. on the weekends i can easily get 10k steps but since i work a desk job during the week i can only get 6-7k if i try. i also started basketball and occasional jump rope. i want an exercise that doesn't feel like a "workout" moreso feels fun or like playing so that i'll actually stick to it!! does anyone have any suggestions? also do i need to add strength training? should i ramp up my activity level slowly or all at once?

another thing i wanted to mention is that i frequently get pains while exercising, like shin & knee pain when running or jump rope, or random joint pains when doing strength training. sometimes the knee pain is so much that i need to stop exercising for a while, which is a bummer as i really want to stick to something.

Assalamu alaykum sisters. i have been struggling lately with low iman and need some advice. i used to be more religious before, i used to watch lectures, listen to podcasts and reminders, and do more quran and dhikr. but lately i am not sure what happened but from the past over a month i have begun to feel so distant from the deen. i never watch lectures or think about the deen anymore, i am struggling to get myself to pray (though i still pray alhamdulillah). i haven't read quran in over a month. i really want to get back though but i'm not sure it feels like something is stopping me. i don't really feel any source of comfort from the deen, it feels like a place where i am evaluated and need to measure up or be a certain way. allah swt feels scary and distant. i don't feel like i belong.

does anyone have any advice?

Hey everyone, i'm looking for book suggestions of middle grade fiction (preferably in verse, but doesn't have to be!) I'm looking for a book with a female lead, someone with a rich inner world, and a poetic, lyrical writing style. Books i enjoyed in the past are The Thing About Jellyfish by Ali Benjamin (literally loved this one), Other Words for Home by Jasmine Warga, and I'm currently reading Good Different by Meg Eden Kuyatt. Looking for something with a similar vibe as these!

hey everyone ❤️ apologies if this kind of post is not allowed here but as time goes on i've come to the conclusion that i'm just not pretty enough as other women. i am obese (according to bmi) yet no matter what i do i cannot lose weight. i have lots of body hair that doesn't come off via hair removal methods, makeup in fact makes me look worse, and i always look fat in pictures, my family and friends criticize my appearance. i attend women's parties from time to time and the other girls there always have their hair done up nicely but my hair doesn't respond to any products. i am trying to find a husband but am getting rejected left and right, usually right after sending my photos. i know physical attraction is important but i've known but i don't feel i'm the type of woman a man could be attracted to.

sorry i'm not sure what is the purpose i had behind posting this, just needed to vent. i'd appreciate any advice you have. 💕

Salam everyone, i notice i am getting rejected by almost everyone i'm interested in and usually right after sharing my photos. this is happening with men across different ethnic backgrounds, professions, locations etc. i am trying to figure out if looks are the issue or if i am going for men above my league. Many women my age are already married and I notice they are a lot prettier/popular/trendier than I am. Is there any specific look or body type/skin color or anything needed to get married? Any way I can improve myself in this regard?

Jazak Allah Khair

Salam everyone, i notice i am getting rejected by almost everyone i'm interested in and usually right after sharing my photos. this is happening with men across different ethnic backgrounds, professions, locations etc. i am trying to figure out if looks are the issue or if i am going for men above my league. Many women my age are already married and I notice they are a lot prettier/popular/trendier than I am. Is there any specific look or body type/skin color or anything needed to get married? Any way I can improve myself in this regard?

Jazak Allah Khair

Salam sisters, I've been interested in starting to wear makeup at womens only events and such (as i don't feel comfortable wearing makeup in front of non mahrams). And also doing my hair. I was wondering if you sisters had any tips for what you do here and whether or not it's worth it for me because honestly I don't attend womens events too often (i'm mainly a homebody lol). How did you learn to do makeup and hairstyles? I feel like not much suits me. Tbh i don't know whether i'd like wearing makeup or not because i feel i need it in order to be considered pretty. How do you handle wearing makeup and wudu/praying

i don't feel my life has any purpose besides marriage. my life revolves around finding a husband and my biggest dream in this dunya is to be a wife and mother.

i hate how people treat single people in this world. i get a lot of unsolicited advice and condescending comments from married people. also this whole thing of "you need to be happy with yourself before getting married" no one tells married people they need to be happy on their own, the assumption is that their spouse makes them happy. so how come single people need to do all this self development work "become confident" "be happy with yourself" while married people can just exist?

salam everyone ❤️ i wanted to ask about an issue that i've been facing since childhood basically where all my friendships end up becoming one sided, with me making most (if not all) of the effort. i'm always the one texting first, making plans, initiating things. i'm not sure why it always ends up this way. last year i honestly got really tired of it and felt unvalued so i simply stopped reaching out and was like whoever reaches out reaches out. well almost no one reached out and most of my friends faded away from my life. i wanted to ask if any of you ladies are facing the same issue and if people who text first actually exist???

salam y'all ❤️ apologies if this kind of post is not allowed here but as time goes on i've come to the conclusion that i'm just not pretty enough as other muslim sisters. i am obese (according to bmi) yet no matter what i do i cannot lose weight. i have lots of body hair that doesn't come off via hair removal methods, makeup in fact makes me look worse, and i always look fat in pictures, my family and friends criticize my appearance. i attend women's parties from time to time and the other girls there always have their hair done up nicely but my hair doesn't respond to any products. i am trying to find a husband but am getting rejected left and right, usually right after sending my photos. i know physical attraction is important but i've known from long ago that i'm not the type of woman a man could be attracted to. my life feels meaningless without a husband but it marriage seems to only be restricted to pretty women

sorry i'm not sure what is the purpose i had behind posting this, just needed to vent. i'd appreciate any advice you ladies have. jazak allah khair