u/Santana_delRey

I’m tired now so unlike my usual Reddit posts I’ll try not to overchat, but speak in relevant points.

So I’m female 24, diagnosed with adhd since 22 (University). Currently on a year or semester off cause I’m at a ‘day care’ thing for mental health strugglers.

So I may not understand or comprehend what being autistic truly means - and that’s not for lack of trying, but probably not a ton of trying.

I’ll say a few points about myself that make me suspect or unsuspect the possibility of me being Autistic:

- so now I do have ADHD (if that’s even correct) which is a big co-morbidity factor
- I do occasionally get tantrums that are unfit for my age of 24. These would never occur in Public though, they would instead appear as anxiety attack (perhaps severe - I’m not sure)
- the concept of ‘special interest’ or diving into details is very familiar, but I hear this may be an adhd thing too.
- I do feel like I catch all social cues, I mean most, and sometimes perhaps too many. I don’t feel like an outsider in social situation, I always feel like I can detect someone that is more of an outsider than I am, but I do also get the “oh you’re so unique and authentic and so in your world” thing.
- I do have anxiety and some bits of depression, enough to make me unfunctional and need a time in this day care thing. And I’m one of the few in there who do not have ptsd. And beneath those who don’t suffer any trauma I’m the only one I know of to have not received a BPD diagnosis (but I also only saw the psychiatrist once so it doesn’t really count)
- My girlfriend once casually mentioned that they just consider me autistic, 10 months into our relationship. And when I asked why, or how it presents itself all they said was something along the lines of “idk, vibes”.
- I’ve no clue if a genetic component gives anything in here but I do have a 13 year old cousin who’s autistic. I need to check up on him, see if he still does the Cotton Eyed Joe.

Just some dry facts, I’m not used to writing like this. It’s just Autism feels so unexplained to me it’s infuriating. Like I understood it as mostly a social issue, but that might not even be true.
I have no clue if reciving a diagnosis will cause a deep personality crisis in me or not, but oh well - we only live once. I don’t think I can get more benefits from the state but who knows.

So basically this is a hypothetical question because I have no plans or whatsoever of visiting any part of the UK or Ireland in the foreseeable future, but this has suddenly bugged my mind and I had to find it out.

So say I manage to figure out my hypothetical UK/Ireland trip, how and where from to get to the Isle. I wonder if it’s doable with no car, and if the commute services are good enough - to get to all kinds of stuff the isle has to offer.
Or if I would have to choose to stay at one major place, and perhaps finding a line that can take me somewhere else once in a while - but no opportunity of deeply exploring the place.

Thank you all. I don’t know why yall and your little Isle have crossed my mind today - But I wish you all the best, and an end to all the struggles I’ve seen on this sub, are happening ❤️🇮🇲

Other than the good old, being there, being yourself and sending them goodies.
I don’t want to elaborate too much as I am kind of looking for general advice I could draw conclusions from, and also know my gf would not appreciate me just telling the internet about what’s going on in their life, but the sub requires details so:
I am 24F have been with my girlfriend who’s 25NB for around 8-10 months, depends how you count, like we don’t know if we should count since meeting or since officially becoming a couple, we also don’t care much but it is not the issue.
As I said, I will not elaborate but my gf is going through a rough patch (hope this isn’t exposing you hun) which is more of ‘cause of life and circumstances’ than ‘cause of the individual’s state’ kind of rough.
Now I know cheering up ain’t as easy as sending bouquets of flowers or fries, but I’m trying to come up with some more ideas for creative, or non creative ways to cheer them up - or take some of the pressure off their chest.
Now cause of stuff - we currently can’t spontaneously meet. Only if we decide beforehand and then take about 2 hours.
So, offering a spontaneous cuddle is sadly not an option (only most days).
And I will admit I do have a habit of having good intentions but accidentally over chatting my partner on WhatsApp and leaving them, well, not cheered up, and rather confused/overwhelmed with many bits of unrelated information. But this is a me issue I am trying to work on (unsuccessfully yet, but I’ll get there).
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TLDR:
So yeah short story long, I am trying to think of ways to let my gf know I’m with them, but not make it like a desperate or anxious reach. Thus At times when giving physical comfort and reassurance is not a possibility. I know trying to change their outlook on the situation is not a solution, nor my business, and am really trying to think of ways to just make reality a tiny bit lighter for them to bare, rather than accidentally adding things to their worry list.
Thank you for listening (reading), sorry for the severe adhd displayed in these paragraphs and thank you for future advice 🙏

Disclaimer: I know yall are most likely not doctors, and most certainly not my doctor - I am not looking to switch doctors advice with comments I get on this sub.

So I am F, 24 years old. Just weighed myself after a long time not doing so and my BMI came out 20.9 . It still is on the down side of the scale but the thing is - I’m used to being much lower.
My height is 1.68 and I’m used to weighing around 55 - 56 AT MOST when I check my weight. A few years back I was used to tops being 52-54, but I was also on the verge of being underweight.
The thing is, I just weighed myself now (to weigh the cat, mind you), and I weighed nearly 59 (we’re talking kg here just so we’re clear). Now I don’t see any visible body changes, nor do I feel like my clothes are tighter or anything, and I just worry that I might be at the beginning of gaining weight. I do not do any regular exercise nor do I eat too healthy or too organized - so I can’t tell if something has changed. But I find it weird that I would become aware of a 3-5kg weight gain, just from looking at the scale and not from sensing it in my body.
Would appreciate any info or advice.

Also: I have struggled with a light ED before, I believe it was a symptom of anxiety rather than a full diagnosis-deserving situation. But I’ve since debunked the ‘being scared of the number on the scale’ thing and am happy with my current body. However, the thought of gaining weight still frightens we (turns out society still controls us all). I hope to trigger nobody with this post.

As simple as that

Well of course it wouldn’t be THE SAME - I mean it wasn’t as fun as the first one.
And I just wander if it’s the destination I picked or if I was in a different state of mind than I was last time.

So my first time solo traveling was almost a year ago, in September 2025 - I stayed two nights in Budapest in a hostel, then took a bus to Bratislava Slovakia, stayed one night there and returned to Budapest for a 2ish night (as the flight was at 5 am).

This time I went to Bulgaria and did a slightly similar thing. 2 nights in a hotel in Sofia, 2 nights in Plovdiv and then 1ish night in Sofia as again, the flight back was at 5 am.

I still had a great time, but I couldn’t not notice that it was way less great than the first solo travel. Now I’m thinking it could be due to certain things. Perhaps, the fact that in Budapest I stayed in a hostel which is a very pro-friendly act kept me less lonely. Even tho I didn’t really make any friends at that hostel or hung with any, it still had a very “not alone” vibe to it (as I literally was not alone). This time in Bulgaria I felt like I’m too exaughsted to deal with a hostel and opted for a hotel. Well, my quality of sleep was significantly better and I had better chilling-alone times. But I was very much alone.
\- another possibility that comes to mind is the destinations. As sad and uncultured as it is, I find that I’m not much of a museum girl. And while I can’t tell you what there is in Budapest - I’m certain there were more things there, than in Sofia. Perhaps the way the city is built - the fact that there are two distinct parts, possibly the fact that the streets seem slightly interesting (or perhaps I’m making this up). I don’t want to be one of those people who say Bulgaria is boring - but perhaps it is?
It’s just, in Bulgaria I felt like having friends with me could make it way more fun. In Budapest I did not feel that as often - which is the thing I mostly find weird.
Note: when I go on vacation family I feel like I just NEED that walk alone, I’m basically starving for some alone time, and I also feel like I get way less familiar with the destination. So I really wonder what it is.

With return no less than a week after
For a trip
If you want reasons on why yes and why nah I’m happy to supply in the comments.
Not sharing the country to be safe on the internet, but, clues: - it is in Europe
- it has more than 2 cities
- it has a flag

Edit: Okay adding reasons why and why not.

Why yes: I have the financial backing for it, it’s a trip!!!, it’s travel!!!, I love trips and travel, I enjoyed my last solo trip, it’s a place I haven’t been to yet, pure dopamine, fun and experience, it’s the only time in the few next months when I’m able to do so, I’ve a bunch of free time and need a break of routine and habits

Why no: it’s so spontaneous idk if I’m built for it, I might not enjoy my second solo trip, solo tripping as a female has its dangers, I’m tired, I don’t have much energy, I’m not the most mentally stable person (but also never been), finding hotels and stuff feels like a drag right now, it’s scary, it would be the first time I go abroad while in a relationship and it scares me for a reason unknown although it’s for less than a week.

I wonder if anyone else has this feeling, of all the things they’re missing by having anxiety.
I don’t really mean this in a ‘scared to do something’, ‘avoiding something’, like I’ve travelled alone and wouldn’t mind skydiving if it came up.
I’m talking about the everyday anxiety that is always there. Just being afraid - for no reason. If it wasn’t there, I could do so many things, if they’re inside the house, outside, ordinary everyday things, or special things - but instead my time is consumed by this damn fear of nothing, that makes me be unproductive and disfunctional for hours, just wastes my time and my energy.
Sometimes I think I escaped it for the day and then by evening it catches me again.
No pill actually helps for real - as I do take them.
It’s just, the amount of time I’m either, cancelling future plans cause they make me uneasy, am frozen in fear, trying to procrastinate something, or the times where I’m in full panic or frustration over this - I could do so much more with this time, and suffer way less.
My anxiety just exists no matter the states of things.
And it kills me to know some people just don’t deal with it and manage to live the life that they want without this invisible thing trying to stop them at every turn.
I’m so behind in uni and hopefully will not lose my degree, and I’m in so many care systems and nothing seems to work. I don’t know what to do anymore.

So say you’re prescribed benzos.
My question goes in 2:

1. What do you do when you’ve already taken your daily amount and still feel a pinge pf anxiety?

2. What do you do when you feel like you’ve over benzoed yourself. I mean other than regret it - after it’s done.

Is the simple answer just wait it out and go to sleep eventually?

If you have other advice or insight I’d love to hear that!

I still strongly feel like being a tiny bit productive before declaring it a night and going on about sleeping.

Just tired of having to drink so much water and its consequences

I’m here to vent. Over a silly thing. But it’s vent worthy. Hopefully it’s not a medical concern I’m gonna find out about!
But I’m tired of being so thirsty all the time!! And needing to drink water every damn second. I don’t think I’ve used glasses in the past year I’ve a bottle on me at all time in the house.
I know - we need to keep hydrated even when inside, cause there’s a heat wave and it’s damn summer + I’m on every mental health medication so those make you more thirsty (I don’t even know if I get dry-mouth at this point). I do know my mouth at the moment is dry and is asking for water (it’s not the same thirst you get when it’s hot and you need to chug a whole bottle). And having adhd waiting for the bottle to get completely full is fckn boringgg - I end up filling a cup full each time and I’m so tired of getting up to refill every other minute. Right now I’m finally laying on a comfortable position, but oh no, my silly little mouth is dry and needs water. Smh - shut up, no more water for today.
So yes there’s getting up to keep refilling the same water bottle that’s getting on my nerves (plus I don’t like being reminded of my kitchen but that’s for another vent/rant - I can’t tell the difference between these words and like, there’s a sunb for each, so I hope I picked the right one).
Now the obvious outcome of drinking a lot of water, and being so hydrated in these hot summer days, cause I’m not Australian, is having to pee. Which is another thing that I’m damn tired of. I don’t mind peeing but I literally am so fed up with having to get up to pee every chunk of minutes. You can’t ignore it for too long cause it takes focus away and I’m just so tired of going to my bathroom and peeing. I know it’s a short routine but I’m so fed up with it I just don’t want to do it anymore. But I will of course, again and again. Cause I keep hydrated. But I’m honestly considering quitting water. Not really I don’t need more health concerns (I don’t have many but I’m good at making them up). Imma send this message off into the wild and go pee and angry pee and hope to not be consumed by anxiety!
I think maybe this is the serious sub and I should’ve gone to r rant

Could be a mindset shift, an actual action, random thing that happened to you and you didn’t even have control over - anything! Just as long as it made your life take a turn, even if teeny tiny, for the better.

So I’ve been regular journaling x lowkey junk journaling for the past few years. But my question is only somewhat related.
Lately I’ve been obsessed with looking through Instagram for any ideas for inspiration, cool things to do etc. and I came across an old term: “scrapbooking” so here comes my true question:

What is the difference between scrapbooking and junk journaling? Between a scrapbook and a junk-journal, if there even is one.

Sorry for the long entrance but the tl;dr is right in the paragraph above this one!

So gladly I am now on Adderal which also makes my anxiety go away for most of the day, as I’m occupied or I think I’m occupied.
But at night I just get a weird feeling I can’t get rid of without my Klonopin. And it of course doesn’t go away with just one, I’m not there anymore.
And this night I keep running into concerning information anywhere online and I don’t know what to do anymore. Already on Seroquell that should shush my brain and relax my muscles - but it doesn’t seem to work tonight specifically.
I don’t know what to do anymore, I’ve been on so many program like things for my anxiety and functioning and the klonopin dependency doesn’t go away, as well as the anxiety, even if most days it’s quiet and not full on panic. Did reduce klonopin use. But my country is of those with constant war threat and if there’s another round I know Im not making it without packets of klonopin or a new alcohol dependency or something of that kind.
I just don’t know what to do anymore.
And tomorrow I’ll wake up and take my Adderal and everything will be perfect again and I won’t know why I wrote this post, even regret it a bit, but then at night it’ll all be back again