u/Significant-Fly6515

Hi all. I'm following a schedule based on the recommended wake windows for my baby's age. So it's b/w 45 minutes to 1.5 hours for my baby currently. So every 30 mins I start putting her to sleep as it takes a good 20-25 minutes to put her down for a nap. So my day looks like I'm putting her to sleep every 1/2 an hour till bedtime. She usually naps for 30 minutes to 1 hour. She gets the recommended hours of sleep for her age which I read is b/w 4-5 hours.

My question is if all of you follow a similar schedule? Mums around me don't seem to follow any wake windows and just go by the "get baby tired in the day so they'll sleep well at night" logic. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong and there's no way to tell if it's the right way. So just looking for experiences of other mums in this sub with regard to sleep schedules. Thanks!

You guys. I'm a new mum with a 3-month-old baby. My backstory: I'm from a dysfunctional family. My mother disowned me six years ago when I married a man against her wishes. Hasn't reached out ever since then. Dad is ok with me, visits me only when it's convenient for him (layovers, work, etc). Have an older sister and brother. No relationship with brother because he's abusive. I only have a relationship with my sister who's seven years older than me. She's childfree and lives abroad.

When I got pregnant, she was super duper excited. She bought tons of stuff for the baby and me. Yet she was hesitant to come for the delivery because she said she doesn't know much about babies so it's better to have an "elder" around. I was a little upset but didn't push her. My MIL came for my delivery and made my life hell and I had postpartum depression and we had to ask her to leave. My sister had planned to visit a month after the delivery but cancelled that plan because my dad was supposed to be with her too and he abruptly cancelled. In anger she cancelled the plan and I was very upset. Then she booked her tickets two months later. During this time, I called her and cried before her and told her how lonely I feel. She herself told me that it looks like I have postpartum depression. She did nothing to come earlier. She made lots n lots of plans to help me, take night shifts with baby, clean up my space, do photography with baby, cook for me etc etc. When she finally arrived, i felt a huge mismatch/w her promises and reality.

She immediately got sick with diarrhea so the first week just went away with her resting. Even before she got better, she made plans to meet her friends one after the other. She'd be gone for the whole day. She made plans for shopping, getting her hair done, all of which took hours and hours. She'd come back and it'd be time for me to sleep. She had the audacity to complain that I didn't spend time with her and that I only wanted to spend time with my daughter! She then left for two weeks to visit her family (in laws, dad, etc).

I don't expect any help. But what annoys me is her constant advice on how i should take my baby out more often, how i should travel more and prioritise myself more. I hate that she's here for a minute, wants to be the favourite aunty, doesn't actually help out at all and gives me unnecessary parenting advice. I've begun resenting her. AITK because I'm extra salty or do you guys see it too?

You guyssss. My baby was crying and i was frustrated. i ordered myself some tea. I put my baby down to go and collect the order that was kept at my doorstep. The minute I put her down she started crying. Luckily, I picked her up and went with her to get the parcel. I didn't carry a key because the tea was kept literally at my apartment door. But it's a windy day and the moment I stepped out the door slammed! I didn't panic. I just went down with the baby and got the building to call my husband and asked him to come home asap (he has his key). It took him about 45 minutes to come. I just walked around the building with baby. She was quiet the whole time except towards the end as it was her nap time!!!

I feel so happy that I didn't leave her inside! Thank GOD she cried or else she would've gotten locked inside and omg I'd have cried myself to death had that happened. I have a new perspective on why babies cry! Maybe it's not always bad that they cry and cries indeed have a purpose. I was scared she'd get overtired but she fed and slept off the minute we got home! I'm also wondering if I should just bring her down for a walk when she's crying (with the key ofcourse)!!!!

Maybe you're irritated with your LO's cry, but remember they're meant to cry for a purpose!

Hi fellow mums! Happy mother's day! My baby girl is 3 months old and currently sleeps only by feeding or in a motorized swing/jhula. I breastfeed either side lying or on my bed using the nursing pillow. She's going to outgrow the swing in a month, and I'm really stressed about how to put her to sleep once the swing is out. She feeds to sleep only say 40% of the time. Has anyone used a rocking chair? If yes, could me tell me this:

- Does the rocking motion really put baby to sleep?

- How long did you use it?

-Is it comfortable to breastfeed in?

-Which rocking chair did you use? Please share links if you can.

- Also, how are you all putting your babies to sleep?

Thanks,

An anxious, stressed out mum!

Hi all. My 12 week old baby takes long naps during the day. Usually two big naps of 3-4 hours each. I try to keep a two hour wake window before bedtime and b/w naps. Everyone I've spoken to and all books I've read say that naps at this age should be capped at 2 hours. The total daytime nap recommended is 5 hours. My baby easily naps more than this. Her night sleep was always poor, so i don't know if the longer naps affect her night sleep. I'm not sure why naps should be only 2 hours long. Also 5 hours of day time nap sounds too less for such a small baby. It means that the baby must be awake for 7 hours (in a 12-hour-day). Trying to keep her awake for over an hour makes her cranky and she starts screaming the house down.

I am looking for advice to schedule her daytime naps in a way that gives better night time sleep. Any advice is appreciated!