u/Significant-Fly6515

Hello mums! I'm rejoining work after my maternity leave ends in a few weeks. My baby will be 5.5 months old then. She current only naps latched to my boob the entire time and i don't see that changing anytime soon. I just lay down on the bed with her while she nurses and naps. This has worked out this far since I had nothing else do but I'm wondering how to manage this while I'm working?

I'm a copywriter so most of my job is just reading up and writing a lot with two meetings a week. While there's not many meetings, I do have large chunks of work that need uninterrupted focus.

Have you any of you managed to WFH with a nip napping baby? Please give me any tips and suggestions! Thanks

You guys! I hired a nanny and today was her first day. She's a 40 year old, traditional Nepali woman who has handled small babies. My five month old baby girl kept screaming in her arms and refused to settle with her. Baby girl played with her on the mat though. Here are The red flags/ annoying things the nanny said: and I quote:

1. Your baby cries too often. I think your milk is not sufficient enough for and she's crying so frequently because she's hungry. Pls squeeze your breasts and check if milk is coming and start formula.

2. You got her used to just your arms and now she won't come to anyone except you.

3. You got her used to nursing to sleep so now no one can put her to sleep. You should have rocked her to sleep. You need to start doing it now only after that can I try.

Today was first day and it was just me showing her a day in the life. She couldn't handle the baby patiently was just fault finding either with me or baby each time my baby cried. I'm wondering if I'm paying 16k per month to just listen to stuff my MIL would tell me for free? Do all nannies give this much unsolicited advice and crib about everything so much? First baby, first time even speaking to a nanny so I'm super clueless. What do you guys think? Should I keep her or look for someone else?

Hi guys, my baby's hair has grown out enough that falls on her eyes. I want to start making a fountain ponytail but no hair ties sit well on her silky, fine hair. How are you guys tying up your babies' hair? Any recommendations for hair ties or elastics will be super useful, thanks!

Hi guys. So I have a typical MIL: very insecure, constantly policing me and monitoring me, always crossing boundaries and pushing her advice on me. We live in different cities and I'm motherless so I was super desperate to be loved by her. From the time I got married, i tried extra hard to please her: I'd call her everyday, gift her stuff, learnt her language and culture (she's telugu and I'm north Indian). I must admit I've been quite fake too: just buttering her up all the time etc.

Cut to three years after marriage when I gave birth: she came to "help" but obviously just wanted to make sure she's incharge. She'd police me about everything from what I eat to what I wear. Would come and stare at my boobs to check if milk was really coming. Would constantly try to snatch my baby from me. Would watch me like a hawk to check if I was hurting my baby. She'd justify all her creepy behaviour saying I don't have a mum so someone needs to tell me. I lost my shit and told her I am angry with her behaviour and even cried before her. She didn't back off and continued to boss around. My husband finally told her to leave. She left immediately and I've cut all contact with her. I stopped calling her, stopped speaking to her on video calls etc. She however tries to keep contact. She called me on my birthday to wish me. I just kept everything cordial and didn't say anything beyond exchanging pleasantries. My question is: I will to see her face at least thrice a year. How do I navigate this low contact situation when she visits or we visit her? My baby girl would love to her granny around and i can't take that away from her. MIL has been bitching to my husband that I don't even bother talking to her or asking about her health. Husband defends me and says I can be as low contact as I need to.

Are any of you guys in such a situation? Where the relationship went from being good to non-existent? How did it turn out?

Hello everyone! I implemented the fuss it out method mentioned in the book precious little sleep and it has worked for us, so far. After a bedtime routine that we've been following for three months now, we put her down in her crib and she falls asleep on her own in less than ten minutes. But every single time she wakes up half an later, crying hysterically! I'm too scared to FIO for the wake up because the cry is too intense it's not fussing by any means. I end up bringing her to bed with me and feeding her to sleep. She wakes almost every 1.5- 2 hours through the night and I just nurse her back to sleep. Any advice on how to fix the wakeups? I'm working on filling her up during the day so she isn't starving at night. Other than that, what can I do?

Hello mums! I have a baby who'll soon become a toddler and I want to be as prepared as I can! Any books you read that helped you handle meltdowns, difficult behaviour, discipline and just in general raise emotionallly healthy toddlers? Please give me as much advice and recommendations you can because I've no one to ask around!

Ugh you guyss. Parenting without a village is soooo hard. Even harder is knowing that your village is not dead, very much alive but just absolutely unsafe and useless. I live in a culture where the mum's family practically raises the baby. My mother is mentally sick, violent and unsafe to be around. Father is so useless it's more work when he's around. Siblings are so fake i don't even want them around. I know I seem to hate everyone but I really have been dealt really horrible cards. Mental illness and narcissism is all I've inherited. It hurts to think my baby has zero good relatives while other babies get to be pampered and spoiled by doting relatives. How not to boil in resentment.

Guyssss my 4 month old has mastered rolling back-to- belly but gets stuck there, drowns in a puddle of her drool and screams bloody murder. When I flip her back she's even more angry. When do babies learn rolling both ways? Also, I want to to start putting her to sleep in her crib but this rolling and getting stuck thing scares me so I'm waiting for her to roll both ways to start placing her in her crib. Any tips and suggestions are welcome

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Hi guys does anyone have any leads for a nanny for my four month old baby? Location is near CV Raman Nagar bus stand. Preferably Hindi speaking. If you know anyone interested please let me know in the comments or DMs! Thanks

Hi y'all my baby girl is 4 months exactly. She used to take glorious naps until two days ago. Her daily nap average was 5 hours till now. Suddenly she's fighting naps and napping maximum for 22 minutes. She sleeps at night but wakes up a million times, sucks boob a bit n goes back to sleep. We cosleep so it's manageable. Her wake windows are 1.5 throughout the day, four naps and last wake window is 2.5 hours. Now everything is messed up because of the smaller naps and constant crying.

Could this be the sleep regression? How long does this last? Her wake windows were predictable to the dot and now idk how to live without predictable WWs. What do I dooooooo friends😭😭😭😭😭

Hello nawabs! Yesterday for the first time in life I had lucknawi biryani and I'm in love! The best kind of biryani I've had ever. Unlike Hyderabadi Biryani that bursts with globs of masala, your biryani has such a subtle tehzeeb vaala flavour. Had it from some random place in Bangalore but now I want to make it at home. Looked up youtube but found many different variations of the recipe.

Can someone share the authentic recipe, the way it's made in Lucknow homes? Thanks!

My 3.5 month just learned to roll into her belly. The minute she rolls, she starts crying which quickly escalates to screaming the roof off. I flip her back gently, pick her up, let her be: nothing calms her down! I can see she's frustrated because she's stuck on her belly. Could this be because of an underlying issue? She's drools out a puddle while on her belly. Sometimes she spits up curled milk while on her belly. I'm wondering if her tummy/neck hurts and that's why she cries? But if I leave her on the floor, rolling over is all she does and then endless cycle of screaming and rolling begins. Did anyone experience this? I'm so tired of the constant screaming!

You guys. I cosleep with my 15 week old baby for naps and bedtime. Till about 2.5 months, i could nurse her to sleep n roll away, go do my stuff n come back to bed. I'd get a good 2-3 hours at bedtime.

But now, she immediately wakes up n cries the minute I get up. She clearly sensed the separation. Did anyone experience this? How long does this last? Any solutions or tips would be super helpful! Thanks

Hi all! EBF mum to a four month here. It's extremely hot where I live and breastfeeding is making me super sweaty and jittery. The feeding pillow is drenched in underboob sweat and my LO often leaves the pillow fully wet due to sweating. The clusterfeeding sessions are especiallly hard, pushing me to start pumping and formula feeding.

I'm writing a story on how climate change affects women's EBF journeys. If you've experienced something similar, please do share them in the comments! How did the heat affect your BF journey? Did you reduce the amount of time you BFd? Did you switch out for bottle or formula or water even? Did the heat decrease your supply?

Any thoughts and experiences are welcome! Looking to craft an insightful story for world breastfeeding week coming up in August.

Hi! I'm a new mum, three months postpartum. I'm riding high on hormones and emotions which is very expected in this season of life. I'm getting snappy and angry with people and it's begun to affect relationships I care about. Any resources from Stoicism I can benefit from? Of course, the hope is that I'll adopt it as a life philosophy and not just a hack to survive postpartum. I'm a complete beginner who only heard of Stoicism a year ago when someone was mansplaining something about not being reactive. Thanks!

Hi all. I'm following a schedule based on the recommended wake windows for my baby's age. So it's b/w 45 minutes to 1.5 hours for my baby currently. So every 30 mins I start putting her to sleep as it takes a good 20-25 minutes to put her down for a nap. So my day looks like I'm putting her to sleep every 1/2 an hour till bedtime. She usually naps for 30 minutes to 1 hour. She gets the recommended hours of sleep for her age which I read is b/w 4-5 hours.

My question is if all of you follow a similar schedule? Mums around me don't seem to follow any wake windows and just go by the "get baby tired in the day so they'll sleep well at night" logic. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong and there's no way to tell if it's the right way. So just looking for experiences of other mums in this sub with regard to sleep schedules. Thanks!

You guys. I'm a new mum with a 3-month-old baby. My backstory: I'm from a dysfunctional family. My mother disowned me six years ago when I married a man against her wishes. Hasn't reached out ever since then. Dad is ok with me, visits me only when it's convenient for him (layovers, work, etc). Have an older sister and brother. No relationship with brother because he's abusive. I only have a relationship with my sister who's seven years older than me. She's childfree and lives abroad.

When I got pregnant, she was super duper excited. She bought tons of stuff for the baby and me. Yet she was hesitant to come for the delivery because she said she doesn't know much about babies so it's better to have an "elder" around. I was a little upset but didn't push her. My MIL came for my delivery and made my life hell and I had postpartum depression and we had to ask her to leave. My sister had planned to visit a month after the delivery but cancelled that plan because my dad was supposed to be with her too and he abruptly cancelled. In anger she cancelled the plan and I was very upset. Then she booked her tickets two months later. During this time, I called her and cried before her and told her how lonely I feel. She herself told me that it looks like I have postpartum depression. She did nothing to come earlier. She made lots n lots of plans to help me, take night shifts with baby, clean up my space, do photography with baby, cook for me etc etc. When she finally arrived, i felt a huge mismatch/w her promises and reality.

She immediately got sick with diarrhea so the first week just went away with her resting. Even before she got better, she made plans to meet her friends one after the other. She'd be gone for the whole day. She made plans for shopping, getting her hair done, all of which took hours and hours. She'd come back and it'd be time for me to sleep. She had the audacity to complain that I didn't spend time with her and that I only wanted to spend time with my daughter! She then left for two weeks to visit her family (in laws, dad, etc).

I don't expect any help. But what annoys me is her constant advice on how i should take my baby out more often, how i should travel more and prioritise myself more. I hate that she's here for a minute, wants to be the favourite aunty, doesn't actually help out at all and gives me unnecessary parenting advice. I've begun resenting her. AITK because I'm extra salty or do you guys see it too?