u/TheSeedsYouSow

Not judging or kink shaming, just sharing my thoughts

I admittedly have next to zero experience being in a relationship as I’ve never had a boyfriend yet. However, when I like a guy/am dating a guy, I go completely googoo gaga heart eyes for him.

I want to hold him and protect him, be gentle with him and show him affection and warmth. The last thing I would ever want to do is cause him pain, either emotional but especially physical pain. The concept is just so foreign to me.

I fail to comprehend how someone in a loving relationship could compartmentalize to the point of hitting/whipping/flogging/whatever and then go about their day as if they didn’t just exchange physical trauma with their loved one.

Curious to hear your thoughts though and I’m open to being wrong

Curious to hear some perspectives