u/These_Shallot_6906

Has anyone here ever successfully hired them for a job? They came by about a month ago to take some photos for an estimate for some repairs and then they ghosted us. They straight up will not answer a phone call or respond to an email.

Once or twice we were able to get somebody on the phone, and they said "We'll call you back later" but went back to ignoring us entirely. I wanted to go with them because I'd rather support a family than a corporation but I may have to go with one.

For reference, I have been sober from alcohol for nearly 6 months and clean from meth for 7-8 years.

I was recently prescribed a medication that is completely contraindicated with medications I am on and warned by the FDA to never mix due to a serious risk of CNS depression. So, I brought this to my NP attention, and she remarked in my file that I sought treatment for "Long Term Amphetamine Abuse" that day, and states she prescribed me this medication because I requested something to curb my cravings, but indicated I was unwilling to stop doing Amphetamines. All of this was a lie. My drug and alcohol tests came back negative because I do neither.

So, I report this to the proper authorities, and each time, the person who I reported this to learns that I sought treatment for meth and alcohol voluntarily in 2017 and they no longer believe me. I have no idea what to do. If somebody had accused me of being dishonest or a piece of shit when I was in active addiction, it would have hurt my feelings but it would have been correct. But I have been clean for close to a decade and I don't feel like this stigma should follow me in perpetuity.

Like I have no desire to relapse but it is feeling like seeking treatment at all has had further reaching consequences than the substances themselves.

Anyone deal with something like this?

That's when I realized that he was British and meant something else entirely

I only recently gotten out of the financial hole I was in from the COVID crisis. See, I opened my first line of credit 3 months before COVID, lost work, and had to live on credit cards for a period of time. This WRECKED my credit but I was able to use my actual money for housing, and this is what I had to do.

My credit is only now good enough that legitimate financial institutions are allowing me to take out loans. I have a good rate on my car, my credit is decent, I have money saved and I am ready to purchase a home. My fear is that I will take out a 150,000 dollar loan and then lose my job due to the Trump oil crisis. I am afraid of being in another situation where I am locked out of lending thru no real fault of my own.

The city officials have decided to stop sucking the dick of Centerpoint's CEO every time he asks "pretty please" and are now sucking the dicks of data center developers instead.

I don't know if this post should be Politics, business, or nature flair but

Ever since I upgraded my phone, my service has been entiterely worse and there is no way to opt out of this stupid fucking service.

When I used Google maps in the past while I was driving, my phone would plan the directions immediately and usually accurately. Now, it is like a 20 second monologue each time beforehand, and the directions may not even right. But most annoyingly, there is no way to make Google Gemini shut the fuck up. And it is ALWAYS talking and always acknowledging my commands and giving very vague but positive affirmations, it's like driving with an entire HR department in my passengers seat.

When I would tell my phone to play a song from my device before Gemini came fully integrated with Android phones it would do so immediately without talking. Now there is, yet again, another 20 second monologue before it tells me that I can't Google something while I am driving, despite me clearly meaning to use the dedicated streaming service on my device. Generally, what it plays is something else entirely.

The other day, I told my phone to play Grindcore. It responded in Mandarin and played Chinese Pop music instead. I didn't even fucking know China had terrible Americanized pop music.

And to top this all off, every hour or so my phone asks me to give permissions to some stupid fucking AI generated lock screen? Why would anybody want this? Like who ASKED to have this?

I hate you Google Gemini.

Like warfare, a borderline lie has levels of escalation, and each time the lie is told it moves further up the ladder of escalation, changing and becoming a more dramatic version of itself along the way.

An example: She has been screaming at you and blocking you from leaving the room for an hour and a half. You are having a panic attack. You raise your voice out of desperation to make the abuse stop.

You raising your voice becomes "You screamed at me"

In later iterations this becomes "You always scream at me"

Even later this becomes "verbal assault"

And when repeating this lie to her friends, the entire notion of verbal has been dropped altogether, it is just now "assault."

And just like that, everyone assumes that you are a person who beats women. Your only crime was having a panic attack. Her plan worked.

Why do they do this?

They want to get in front of allegations of their own misconduct. Next to being ignored or abandoned, the worst fear of a pwBPD is to be exposed. Whether or not you intend to "expose" them, they cannot help but try to prevent you from doing so. If they are known as an abuser, their "supply" will become limited in the future. And this to them is a fate that is worse than death.

They want to triangulate your entire community against you. Their worst fear is abandonment, and as they lack cognitive empathy, it must also be yours. Their deep emotional wound is not being loved or seen as a child and they intend to inflict this same pain upon you by isolating you from everyone you have ever known. They will enmesh themselves into every aspect of your life to do this. They will contact exes, collect friends, contact family and parents. You stood up to them, and this triggered their fear of being abandoned. You will be the one who is abandoned, they are going to show you.

And finally, they want to turn you into everything they already suspect they are: An unreliable narrarator, an abuser, likely someone who has histrionic pd disorder as a comorbidity. You cannot dispute any of these claims or come forth with the true story without looking like a worse abuser, without seeming dramatic, without seeming attention-seeking. Telling the truth from now on will look like a lie. Denying the lie will seem pathetic. Now your only route forward is to either keep your head down or live the lie completely. You may also begin to believe the lie. They won.

This dude rules.

"According to the police report, Rincon told one officer he was “maybe on drugs,” and told another officer that he was on “shrooms, fish, and shrimp.”

This post primarily has to deal with me trying (and failing) to be prescribed Vyvanse which I had taken in the past, but I have had similar experiences when I have had surgeries been to the ER etc.

So, I was prescribed Vyvanse all thru high-school and my early 20s and it was the ONLY medication that touched my ADHD symptoms with only minor and manageable side effects out of everything I had previously tried. I stopped taking it and my other medications at some point, and then got into methamphetamine.

A whole decade has passed since I last used, and because I have a medically documented history of substance abuse, they will not prescribe me the medication that I know has worked for treating my ADD in the past. Instead, they want to prescribe me medications that have worse side effects, could interact with medications I am already taking, and will require me to change my diet entirely.

So basically, they are putting me at risk because the treatment that already has worked for me with zero harm might be too pleasurable? Dumb. If I was drug seeking, I would have merely sought drugs in the last 10 years. Has anyone dealt with anything like this?

This post primarily has to deal with me trying (and failing) to be prescribed Vyvanse which I had taken in the past, but I have had similar experiences when I have had surgeries been to the ER etc.

So, I was prescribed Vyvanse all thru high-school and my early 20s and it was the ONLY medication that touched my ADHD symptoms with only minor and manageable side effects out of everything I had previously tried. I stopped taking it and my other medications at some point, and then got into methamphetamine.

A whole decade has passed since I last used, and because I have a medically documented history of substance abuse, they will not prescribe me the medication that I know has worked for treating my ADD in the past. Instead, they want to prescribe me medications that have worse side effects, could interact with medications I am already taking, and will require me to change my diet entirely.

So basically, they are putting me at risk because the treatment that already has worked for me with zero harm might be too pleasurable? Dumb. If I was drug seeking, I would have merely sought drugs in the last 10 years. Has anyone dealt with anything like this?

"Not as much as me!" said the guy who fucks trains.

I had to essentially estrange myself from an entire side of my family to get away from my Dad who abused me all throughout my life, and the thing is, most of his family act exactly the way he does. They see nothing wrong with continuing to reach out after I've repeatedly told them to stop contacting me. They feel fine with manipulating on his behalf. Quite a few members of this side of my family have been diagnosed with BPD and each of them mirror the exact same negative behaviors. They each have abused each other and they each deny or minimize this abuse. Most of them are alcoholics and they each believe it is everyone else who drinks too much. BPD is a family disease in my case.

So my grand dad died - who I was not even close to, and there was no way possible for me to safely go to the funeral. I was terrified my Dad would have somehow figured out which car I drive / where I live etc. I was terrified the family would corner me and work their magic on me and I would give in to their demands and lower my boundaries

Everyone I was close to in this family, aside from my Dad, is dead now but I still feel guilty for not being there.

They already believe I am scum and this is fine but I don't know. I can't shake the feeling that I somehow did something wrong.

This is a question all of those who are considering leaving a partner or cutting contact with a friend or family member who has BPD: Are they who you want to be with on the worst day of your life?

One day you will probably have cancer. Do you trust them to support you while you are coping with this diagnosis or do you think they will make it about themselves?

One day both of your parents will die. Do you trust that they will support you emotionally while you are grieving or do you think they will explode when they are not the center of attention?

One day you will lose a job. Will they help you out in all of the ways you help them or will there be strings attached if they do?

One day your beloved pet will die. Will they listen to you while you are grieving or will they not care because it is "only a pet?"

One day you will have to face traumas from your youth. Will they listen to you speak without interjecting with their own tales of trauma?

I can't even find most of their music on YouTube, and they do not have a Bandcamp that I can find. I want to listen to Amara Tanta Lyri but there is no option anywhere to buy the digital files.

I've been smeared and called every vile thing under the sun by people with BPD, and I almost believed that I was yet another narcissist in their very tragic and very unfair lives but looking back on it, I was just another name on their long, long, long list of resentments.

The people with BPD I have dated would have casual friendships with old flings and things of that nature, but in every case all of their serious exes had become essentially dead to them, while all of my long-term relationships with healthier people only turned into life long friendships. We do not talk more than is appropriate but I do care about them nonetheless.

I personally can't imagine a reality where a person who I've loved stops mattering altogether once the romantic aspect of our relationship ends. To the person with BPD though, this is their reality. Once the relationship stops serving them, they would prefer if you disappeared altogether.

So take time to listen to how they are talking about their exes now because that will probably be how they describe you someday.

If BPD is allegedly the most painful mental health condition of all, and if people who are being raised by a person who has untreated BPD have a higher likelihood of developing BPD themselves, wouldn't not having a relationship at all with their kids be the kind and sensible thing for an untreated person with BPD to do?

If only to prevent their kids from experiencing the same kind of pain they allegedly feel?

Why do I believe this? This is the only action that satisfies everyone enough for him to be reelected.

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It satisfies the far-right who hate all Jews regardless of context. It satisfies the far-left who believe that all forms of colonialism are bad. It satisfies moderate Republicans who believe that America should not be fighting a war on another nation's behalf. It satisfies moderate Democrats who oppose genocide. It satisfies the billionaire donor class who view all forms of foreign aid as wasteful government spending. It satisfies The Kremlin who want America to become completely isolated from its allies.

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My evidence: The way Trump has been rebuking Netanyahu recently

Date: Next election

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