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Any deaths or plot lines that wasn't included in the show?

Im sorry i couldn't figure out a better title for the post lmao. My parents both do this all the time. If I ask them to do something for me instead of saying no they just complain about how much they dont want to do it. Am I alone on this? Am I tweaking to think this may be apart of it? It reminds me of when they dont give straight up replies and just say "wait" over and over again. Whenever I do that my parents say im just chasing them. The word in itself has become a trigger. Am I crazy to be askinf once every other hour for the same thing if I just get the "wait". It can be asking for a ride or asking permission to go somewhere.

Also i always get snarky comments when I pos ton here about how I should just leave and blah blah blah, im a minor, I have no controll over my situation. And yes, English is my second language and my grammar isnt good!

Hi, does anyone know what brands nestle own in sweden? Since it seems to be way less than in the states. I really want to avoid them.

Like the title says:)

Hi, i have come along way on my recovery journey but something i sitll struggle with is pushing people away when i forst meet them. I dont let anyone become my friend or get close to me, because of this is get very lonely. I wasnt even aware of this before my boyfriend pointed it out, and how there has been so many people trying to become my friend, or that sees me as a friend and i refuse to see them the same way. I think this comes from a fear of being obessive, that if I admit i want to be friends with someone theyre gonna find me weird because they dont want to be my friend.

Has anyone else struggled with this, what did you do to help with that?

I dont know if this is a healthy way to recover but you eat with your eyes too, ive realised that a portion that looks big is more satisfying to then ones that look small. I think this is called volume eating or something. It dosent need to be a big one, just look the part. I hope someone gets what i mean

When youre not hungry, make food to binge, the realise you're only about to eat just to eat. what do you do? I still live with my parents and they'd kill me if I threw out perfectly good food etc. Does anyone have any advice?

I just want to start of with a disclaimer.

This is what has worked for me, I dont know if this is a healthy way of recovery, i am not a trained medical professional, but i have not had the privilege of therapy and has to do this on my own(besides with the help of my amazing boyfriend). This might not work for you, this is not a sign for you to drop therapy to do this instead, this is just to help people who are already doing therapy or like me, dosent have the privilege for it. But this is what has helped me. Recovery takes a long time but you will be able to do it, do not compare your recovery journey to someone elses. You are loved and important.

THE 24H RULE

• If something happens that upsets you, That isnt a repeating pattern, you need to bring it within the forst 24 hours. Otherwise you need to completely let go of it.

DONT TALK SHIT

• A friend did something and you're upset? Do not go to another on of your friends and talk shit about them, no matter how fun it is. Nothing will happen besides those feelings bubbling up and becoming bigger. Communicate, always communicate.

REMIND YOURSELF OF YOUR BIAS

• Theres this girl I have to see pretty often, my boyfriend used to have a huge thing for her i cant stomach her. Im allowed to hate on her to myself. As long as i remind myself that im only doing it because I have a bias. This has worked far easier for me than to do the "she's probably super nice, am I a bitch for thinking like this?". Your feelings are yours and you dont need to like everyone.

FACTS VS FEELINGS

• When you split and want to lash out at someone, try to think facts vs feelings. What parts of this are facts and what parts of this is feelings? Not everyone is out to get you, Someone answering a little slow one day is not proof that they dont want to be around you anymore. That is just a feeling, a feeling that youre being abandoned, it's not proof of it, it's not facts. But this dosent make your feelings less valid, communicate.

PERSPECTIVE

• If my boyfriend came home screaming and crying about how I dont love him anymore because I accidentally left him on read for an hour, how would I feel? How would I react? What would I think? Try putting those scenarios in perspective, try seeing it like others do.

DONT BE AFRAID TO DROP PEOPLE

• Something I've had a hard time with is not dropping people that aren't treating me well, because of the fear of being alone. But don't be afraid to do it, if this person isnt treating you well you don't need to be their friend, you don't need to spend time with them. It's okay.

DONT LOATHE

• got into an argument and now you want to sit and maldaptive daydream about the revenge and he'll youre going to ensue? Remind yourself that you love this person and these feelings are now only so big in that moment. Again, communicate.

REVENGE

• this is kind of connected to my last point, but don't do it. An eye for an eye never works. So don't. Revenge does nothing but hurt the person, it's only going to hurt people you love and worsen relationships, and a big part of bpd recovery is repairing relationships. Communicate, communicate, and communicate instead.

This is all I can think of now but there's a chance I add things as I remember them. As i said before, this might not work for everyone, but these are things that has helped me over several months, I haven't had a real split in forever it feels like. Sorry for any bad English its not my first language🫶

Hi, We're a young couple and he has ADHD.

There are some struggles he has and I really want to find a way to help him but I dont really know what to do.

He is super easily distracted, I'll paint up a scenario for you.

We are at a party, we need to leave in 5. He gets ready to get his stuff and put on his shoes. Someone starts talking to him or he sees another task. He forgets about it.

What i usually do in this scenario is to tell him "Hey, go put on your shoes." And in those moments he tells me it just feels like I'm his mom and that it's degrading, I totally get that but what are other ways I can do reminders like this?

Something more he does is fidget with alot of my stuff, he will pick something in my room up and forget where he put it and suddenly I can't find it. He will also fidget and stretch out my hair ties. He says fidget toys aren't as exiting in some ways so what can I do about this?

Please tell me if you have any advice on how to handle this since I really want to find ways to help him. Medication is off the table.

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Hi, We're a young couple and he has ADHD.

There are some struggles he has and I really want to find a way to help him but I dont really know what to do.

He is super easily distracted, I'll paint up a scenario for you.

We are at a party, we need to leave in 5. He gets ready to get his stuff and put on his shoes. Someone starts talking to him or he sees another task. He forgets about it.

What i usually do in this scenario is to tell him "Hey, go put on your shoes." And in those moments he tells me it just feels like I'm his mom and that it's degrading, I totally get that but what are other ways I can do reminders like this?

Something more he does is fidget with alot of my stuff, he will pick something in my room up and forget where he put it and suddenly I can't find it. He will also fidget and stretch out my hair ties. He says fidget toys aren't as exiting in some ways so what can I do about this?

Please tell me if you have any advice on how to handle this since I really want to find ways to help him. Medication is off the table.

Im 75kgs and 164 cms roughly and im 17. It feels like every girl my age is skinny and beautiful because of it.

Its gotten really bad last couple years too with the "2000s skinny" coming back in style.

I have a friend who is completely oblivious to the fact that theres a 30 kg gaps in our sizes, and its so obvious she brings up body image so I will comfort her and that she "isnt even fat, youre beautiful!"

I really dont know what to do, i feel ugly constantly and im convinced its because of my weight. I try to act all casual about my weight, calling myself fat before anyone else can but this is so hard. Its just opened more doors for people to call me fat comfortably. I dont know if anyone else feels like this, but whenever someone brings up how im bigger chested and tells me theyre jealous of it, it also feels like getting called fat, especially when theyre the "boobs dont count if you're fat" type of people

Oh my days i just get so so so angry. If theres anyone else who gets what im talking about and has any advice thatd be highly appreciated.

Sorry for any bad English its not my first language.

I dont know if this is a way to specific request. But i have so many sims die on me because they decide to go swimming in the middle of winter and then they freeze to death. I really dont want to turn of autonomy, anyone know what do about this?

My question goes specifically for more underrated places that aren't brought up as often. Im not a regular in this subreddit so I don't know how often this is brought up. But I feel like storage lockers could be so good for both loot and housing/shelter? What would you do?

Is it better or worse? What's it like missing your parents? Is there anything you miss?

Hopefully i will get away after graduation and I'll be able to be independent, so I'd love to know the answer to this question.

Hi, im not asking if this is abuse, because i know it isn't, but more what happens if you add it to the full picture.

"Can you drive me at 9?"

"Im on the toilet"

"Well, can you dirve me in an hour?"

"I just told you im on the toilet, am i not allowed to piss?"

Conversations like that will occur all the time. Along with the:

"Hey can we get this next week?"

"Not now"

"Could we get it next week?"

"I told you we cant get this right now"(by right now she means this exact moment)

It gets super annoying and it riles up a very similiar feeling to the times they do that thing where they just ignore you, and make you look around the room waiting for an answer.

I also think they forget that i as a minor need plans set in stone and theres a difference in if i take the bus or they drive me. Because its always "maybe" and dont let me know until the last minute. Stuff like that ends with me only really leaving the house every 2 weeks. (Im a minor and cant get a license here until 18)

These are just few examples and i could probably drop more if any of you dont understand me. I just really want to know if anyone else is experiencing or vas experienced this and where it plays a part.

Sorry for any bad English its not my first language

Hi i dont know if this is the right subreddit for this but you guys must be the pros.

Together my parents make roughly 8k a month before taxes.

I(17f) just found out my mom blew 600$ on her hobby while screaming at me how we cant afford grocerys.

School starts again soon so i will be looking for a part time job. My general plan is to just save every single penny and in a year be able to buy a car and get my drivers license.

But is that a good plan? Only getting really the necessities and saving everything else until i graduate and can get out of here. Id love your guys advice.

Sorry for any bad English its not my first language!

My mom told me just today that we can barely afford grocerys and that they cant buy me fucking almond milk. I get shit so often for my parents financial issues. My dad makes 5k each month and my mom makes around 3k. We do not live in poverty, well they dont live in poverty. All my underwear is worn out and too small, so are my clothes. We barely have food at home and thats apparently my fault too.

My mom left her accounting book she got off temu on the kitchen table and i just saw that she spent 600$ on her hobby, which is making jewlery. It sucks even more because its my birthday august 31st and itll suck so hard. Im sorry for just coming on here to rant im just so tired of their financial irresponsibility. Theyre both smokers and dad drinks about 5 beers a day btw, which is not cheap where i live.

Im just so tired off this, i also found put theyre using my savings account for things they want. It also sucks even more since the work market is sucked dry here so you cant get a job when youre underaged, but im going to start trying again. Im sorry for any bad English its not my first language, thank you for reading.

EDIT: alot of people here seems to think im an adult, im not, im a minor.

Hi, i ordered something with amazon. Checked my bank account today and noticed i got my money back the day after i ordered(this was a couple days ago)

I check to see if the amazon order got cancelled but its still on its way and i cant withdraw the order since its already left the warehouse. Has this happened to someone else? What should i do? Do i just kwep it if it arrives?

Edit: I didnt cancel the order myself, so dont know what happened

Okay so I want to do a story where my mom sim is married to the bio dad Sim and they find out they're pregnant, bio dad Sim dies and mom Sim marries his best friend. Their daughter grows up thinking that's her real dad and then she finds out he's not and it's this big drama.

I know that it's a pretty basic storyline and that im not gonna find anything that can help this play out exactly. But if there's any mods for strained parent relationship etc. Im okay with having to just play with my imagination and cheats but if any of you have any recommendations I would love that!! Thank you beforehand.