How do you practice verbal restraint in tense conversations? We all say things we regret in the heat of the moment. My husband says the single worst thing about me is my mouth and i agree. I impulsively say undermining things and defend myself in every argument, skating accountability. I would like to have a little mantra or something i can say in my head that will stop me from making comments i later regret.
I feel like our pool boy is lacking. What should be included in annual pool service that comes by weekly? Located in Tampa
I have three young kids I’m traveling with around the holidays. Ages 3,2, and 6 months. A non-stop flight is a non-negotiable. The only airlines im seeing that offer direct flights from Tampa to STL are Southwest, American, and Delta. I used to see frontier flights a year ago when i signed up but they’re no longer populating. Actually no flights are populating, any clue as to why?
My husband and i have argued for over a year after having our second baby about our “help” last time. We had an au pair who was wonderful, although she had imo high emotional needs. There was no room for me to be a postpartum hot mess and i had to provide meals for her and take care of her when she was sick. She was also not quick to change poopy diapers and wanted to talk about her dating life every day. Anyway, i voiced to my husband that this time around for baby #3 i want to “professional” help meaning someone who doesn’t need direction, doesn’t need emotional support, doesn’t require me to pour from an empty cup & can actually help with merging our family dynamic and welcoming the new baby. As well as someone who can do house chores while i recover, au pairs are more like older teen children and usually don’t help clean like a roommate would - so you end up cleaning up after them as well as your children. He took that as i want the help to be all about me and it disturbs him that i say she pulled his attention & distracted him. But several times (we had 4 au pairs over the course of a year) they would be chatting with him, forget their nightly duties, and i would have to clean up. They all say they cook, they don’t. And the general irresponsibility and immaturity was really frustrating for me while having a newborn and toddler. Anyway it feels like he just doesn’t get what its like having a baby and how heavy a load that places on the mind, body and emotions. He just says i think I’m the Queen of Sheba and stuff like that but i think he feels like its social hour with a new fun young girl. Its just so frustrating. I was actually diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and ptsd. So now he says im “special needs” and that’s why we can’t get another au pair which is really perfect for our needs - which feels like a complete dismissal of the fact it was not perfect for my needs at all. Of course this post is my own biased pov but can you help me look at this from an outside perspective? My feelings have been really hurt through it all and I’m partially having a third baby to erase the last experience from my mind, i know that’s not ideal but i had zero baby bliss with our second and it was hell for me, partially mental but also dealing with constant criticism and condescension was really hard.
I’m planning to give birth next month and will have help for about a month. My kids will be 3, 20mo, and a newborn. I can hire another babysitter but i would really like to find my groove with the kids and not rely on help. If you have 3+ kids how long did it take it to recover after baby #3 before you were able to manage most of the kids daily care on your own?
I’m planning to give birth next month and have help for about a month. I can hire another babysitter but i would really like to find my groove with the kids and not rely on help. If you have 3+ kids how long did it take it to recover after baby #3 before you were able to manage most of the kids daily care on your own?
I have a 3yo and 19mo, both boys. At first the oldest didn’t want anything to do with his brother, now he won’t leave him alone. If i don’t watch them closely he will body slam his little brother, but the youngest loves it. The younger one gets back at his brother by stealing his food and toys. I’m just looking forward to when my younger toddler can hold his own against his brother. He’s still about 30% smaller and says partial words but the 3yo is saying full sentences and pushing boundaries. If anyone has boys close in age, can you give me an idea of when they will be more equally matched?
I have two toddler boys, a 3yo and an 18mo - our third is due in a few weeks. My boys are feral. When there was only one toddler, i used the bjorn bouncer & high chair and usually had one kid while the other was seated. But what do i do with two wild boys? Idk if i should even bother pulling out the baby swing?
The argument is:
Wife:
“Six months without washing a comforter is unreasonable.”
Husband:
“My sleep matters more than solving a problem I don’t perceive.”
TLDR: husband won’t let me touch his comforter because he thinks if it doesn’t dry by bedtime, he won’t sleep using a different blanket
When you had your third, what happened with your middle? How did they adjust? I have a 3yo and 18mo and I’m so worried that i won’t be able to give my middle toddler attention when the baby gets here soon. He’s moving from my bedroom to upstairs with his dad, the oldest has his own room, and maybe I’m just concerned. But i remember doing 2u2 the first time and it was like i blinked and my oldest went from this ago to a preschooler over night. He moved upstairs and now he feels all grown up 😭
I’m about 8 weeks out from giving birth to my third in 4 years. Is there anything i should prep or do differently? After having baby #2 i learned that having multiple kids is very different than having one kid. I really did not prepare enough or hire the right kind of support postpartum which sent me into a ppd spiral for over a year. I’m hoping to maintain my sanity this time around. We don’t have family support living nearby. We have a solid sleep schedule for the toddlers. Husband is planning to help a lot more with food. The oldest is potty trained and i plan to have a cleaner come weekly. I have supplements and a therapist lined up. My doula is making soups. What else am i missing?
I have a 3yo, 18mo, and am due in August with my third. We hit a sweet spot and decided to get pregnant again. Now I’m wondering why i did this lol. I will always love my children but having such little kids is so taxing on our marriage, on my body, etc. i feel like i was so positive and optimistic after having my first, but now im dying to have a glass of wine and be done with the baby/toddler years. Idk, it’s beautiful chaos but it’s so hard to keep our flame burning, especially without a village or family around to support us.
I barely use my phone. I want to switch to value plan or 4gb plan however I’m getting $27.78 for my trade in + $5.56 device installment credits. I’m wondering if i switch will i lose my credits? I’ve seen moved comments on this because some say the value plan isn’t eligible, some say you need a plan over $60, some say if you signed up before march 12 up keep the credits. Just trying to see if anyone has successfully made the switch.
I was induced with my first baby at 41+3 and induced again with my second baby at 41 weeks. The first time I had an epidural and pitocin (21 hour labor). The second time just pictocin (3 hr labor). I was not dilated or effaced at all first time, second time I was 3cm and 50% before the induction because I had a membrane sweep at 39 weeks.
Here's my dilemma. We have a 3yo and 1yo. My MIL is coming into town 2 days before my due date to watch our toddlers. We don't have family or regular childcare as I'm a sahm. We just have a few local babysitters we call and hope that someone is available. I want to have another membrane sweep this time around for an easier labor, however idk when to get it. Last time I got it at 39 weeks and still had to be induced at 41 weeks. Although it was a really fast labor that would've started naturally in the next few days in theory. Given this is my third baby, when should I get the membrane sweep?
The most important things are that we have childcare, my husband is there for the birth, and that I don't have to be induced again. So I hope to not progress too fast or too slowly. Obviously i can't control these things but when would you get a membrane sweep? 39 weeks? 40 weeks? Skip the sweep?
Just curious if you’ve managed to find “your person” even though you’re vastly different from one another?
Is there anything i should know or plan with transitioning to three young kids? My oldest is 3.5 and my middle will be 20 months at the time. So I’ve done 2u2 before and i wish i knew certain things like having a super strong routine helps. And getting someone to come help tidy my house & feed everyone would be more impactful than having an au pair to play with my toddler. I feel like the first time, i had a physically hard recovery but the second time was mentally harder. I think if i prepared better, the mental toll wouldn’t have been so much.
I have a few of the Bissell air 320 Smart Air Purifier model 2768A in white that look like speakers. I love them but it appears they’ve been discontinued.
I had mine done after both my my boys were born. However, the first time was amazing and the second time I didn't feel them at all. They didn't help my ppd at all. Have you done this and gotten mixed results? I'm thinking about having it done for my third baby but last time I found it to be a complete waste of money.
Called twice this week and waited over an hour both times. First time my phone ended up dying (my fault), and three second time the last hung up on me because I needed to grab my laptop to email her my K-1. Is there a best time to call? I had the document within one minute of grabbing my laptop but she hung up so quickly when I said I had to go get it.
I’m a SAHM and i do all the cooking. And dishwashing. There is no way that’s happening pp. We’re having our 3rd baby in August with no family around for the weeks following giving birth. My mon will come for a visit but she’s a horrible cook and my MIL doesn’t like to cook.
First baby we ate mostly uber eats and doordash, but that’s not ideal as it gets real expensive.
Second baby we had a private chef but that was a job in itself. I had to order all the groceries, pick all the meals, schedule grocery pickup and delivery and payment each week. And then if there are leftovers i had to coordinate storing things before they went bad etc. We also had several aupairs over the first year of his life and none of them cooked so often times i would end up cooking for them too, which i normally don’t mind but postpartum is just a lot.
It’s just so much easier to have the perfect amount of what you need. We have also used Factor before and my husband doesn’t want that. Plus my 3yo and 1yo are varying degrees of picky eaters so i am not sure how to prep for that. Any other ideas on how i can make sure everyone is fed while recovering myself?