u/TradesforChurros

Called twice this week and waited over an hour both times. First time my phone ended up dying (my fault), and three second time the last hung up on me because I needed to grab my laptop to email her my K-1. Is there a best time to call? I had the document within one minute of grabbing my laptop but she hung up so quickly when I said I had to go get it.

I’m a SAHM and i do all the cooking. And dishwashing. There is no way that’s happening pp. We’re having our 3rd baby in August with no family around for the weeks following giving birth. My mon will come for a visit but she’s a horrible cook and my MIL doesn’t like to cook.

First baby we ate mostly uber eats and doordash, but that’s not ideal as it gets real expensive.

Second baby we had a private chef but that was a job in itself. I had to order all the groceries, pick all the meals, schedule grocery pickup and delivery and payment each week. And then if there are leftovers i had to coordinate storing things before they went bad etc. We also had several aupairs over the first year of his life and none of them cooked so often times i would end up cooking for them too, which i normally don’t mind but postpartum is just a lot.

It’s just so much easier to have the perfect amount of what you need. We have also used Factor before and my husband doesn’t want that. Plus my 3yo and 1yo are varying degrees of picky eaters so i am not sure how to prep for that. Any other ideas on how i can make sure everyone is fed while recovering myself?

I made a postpartum companion for venting on my phone for those late nights when my mind won’t slow down. I was really going through it with my last baby and with my next baby due in August i want to be prepared to *deal* with whatever crops up.

My youngest is currently 17 months and he will be 20 months when his baby sister is born. When i had him, i was so frustrated with my husband and just people around me not respecting boundaries but feeling like i couldn’t say anything without it being consequential in the future. Its like nobody gets it but other moms of young kids.

Anyway, i built this app and i want to put it on the app store but i need to see what real pp moms think. Would anyone be willing to test it out and let me know what you think?

We want to add something at the center bottom of our in ground spa to make it shallow like a kiddie pool for our toddlers. They want to practice swimming before going into the deeper pool but our pool is all 5ft. Can you just put wood? Our spa waterfalls into the pool so would it affect the flow and suction much? No clue if this modification is possible or what else we might use but the toddlers need some shallow water to play in that’s not a kiddie pool.

We live in central FL. Everything gets moldy outside. If it’s not moldy it seems to get weaker at holding air. Is it normal to throw away your $50 floaties every season? Or maybe there’s a storage trick im missing here?

I’m a sahm and my husband wfh 20 hrs a week. So we are both with the kids a lot. We have a 3yo and 1yo and they both tend to get way more whiney and needy when dad is around. He says i need to be “more fun” which i somewhat agree with.

However, i do almost all diapers, cook all of the kids food (aside from heating up frozen pancakes, i do all dishes and cook & clean for our family as a whole, all laundry, all the kids bathing and hygiene, sleep routines (dad will take the oldest to his room and them i go behind and tuck him in, sing, etc), and i manage all appointments, handle the paying of bills and bank accts etc.

I have also always gotten up with the kids at night as need so my husband can get a full nights sleep. I don’t shower alone, i don’t sleep alone, i barely use the bathroom alone. Idk it just feels deflating to be told i need to be more fun because it feels like saying they are whining and fussing because i did something wrong instead of the plethora of reasons.

He feels like he can’t step away for 2hrs without hearing children crying and calling him but i told him he just needs to consistently take those same hrs each day because sneaking away for 20mins here and there is destabilizing to them. Anyone else experience a dynamic like this?

He’s definitely the preferred parent… Feels like im always the one limiting snacks and candy and screens and new toys. Ugh I’m just looking for some outside perspective as we don’t have family around.

I’m a sahm but my husband wfh. We have a 3yo and 1yo and they won’t let him breathe if they know he’s available. Even if they have nothing they really want or need, “i want carry you”’or “ i want a lot of blue cars in a bucket”… I’m also 27 weeks pregnant so I’m slowing down a bit. How do you keep them entertained when a parent is working?

I’m headed back into the 2u2 trenches with baby #3. At the time my oldest will be 3.5 and my youngest will be 20 months (both boys). I’m nervous about keeping them from hitting their baby sister. Or just hugging her too hard. When i just had one toddler, i sat the baby in the bjorn bouncer and tended to the toddler. Or if i needed both hands free, i put the newborn the in stroller bassinet and wheeled it around the house with me. But what do i do with 3 kids, like if the 20mo needs a diaper change or the 3yo has a fall?