The sound goes very 'digital' sounding and garbled. Then if I restart the phone it's back to normal.
Seems to go a few weeks without issue then occur again. Each time a restart has fixed it.
I’m trans femme 52.
I don’t have millions of people asking me out on dates, and an abundance of suitors.
I also don’t post alluring photos online or get lots of comments. I just try and go about my life, go out for coffee, jog in the park, go to work etc.
I don’t go to pubs, but just try and meet friends daytimes. What I’m saying is my love life is currently non-existent and I’d like to change it!lol
I met someone online who is not trans or at least they don’t know. Currently they CD in private, and to me seem very repressed like they are ‘pre egg crack’!
When I met ‘him’ straight away I could see ‘he’ would be absolutely stunning as a woman. Age 39, amazing bone structure, fabulous long hair, eyes, wow! Also a lovely person and we clicked. But clicked in a way I was the more experienced older established woman, and they were just starting.
Obviously I have not tried to suggest they are trans to them, or push in that direction. I just indicated if they wanted to come out a bit more publicly (they would like to but worry about work/family reaction), I’d be happy to meet them etc.
After our coffee date, they text to say they found me attractive and I indicated the same.
Now they want to meet and dress up, and I’m confused what I want!
I’m not a crossdresser and don’t want confuse myself.
Any advice please? Sorry so long!!
So, I've been studying carefully how it looks when I wear the head cover and a NORMAL wig. I needed more wefts in my DIY hat wig to create a similar effect.
This is the result.
It looks a lot more natural now, rather than sparse. Quite pleased with it.
The head covers are from Shien and cost about £2. The wig was originally from Amazon (Creamily short bob) for £20.
I'm considering sewing in a little piece where I could add wig tape because I'm slightly scared it will come off my head.
Worth try though if you are happy to destroy an old wig :)
Hi folks, 52 trans femme been with The Gender Hormone Clinic 2 years with GP shared care. They spoke to me about switching to an NHS GIC.
I've been on the list for Tavistock for at least a couple of years, but it was mentioned I could possibly transfer to one with a shorter wait time. However, this scares me.
My main worry is they will want to 're-evaluate' me for gender dysphoria. Maybe they will have tougher criteria? I just don;t want to rock the boat and go through that stress again. If they are re-diagnosing me there is a change they'll say no.
If I knew it was to be a smooth process, where they simply take over then I'd do it, but for now I feel more secure with my private clinic.
I would like to look into bottom surgery at some point, and the NHS clinic is a requirement for this.
Can anyone help me understand how the switchover works? Do you have to have the evaluation again? Thank you.
I'm a single parent and daughter is only child. Always close, and she moved in with me about 4 years ago. I'm Dad (but as a side note I'm gender transitioning which I think complicates it).
She has finished Year 1 or 4 and we are at the end of summer hols. She loves it, is happy, and thriving. She's doing well, and I'm super proud and actively supportive and pro-her-independence as a default.
When she is at uni, it's fine because I feel we both get on with out separate lives. Also, when she comes back after a few weeks things settle (a bit).
But it's the feeling when she is getting ready to leave that is hard to deal with. For her it's nothing, and she really can't wait to get back and get on with her future life.
I'm the problem here! I haven't really stopped crying for very long today. Of course, trying to explain to her just pushes her away more from me. It feels like a wall between us. I feel kind of toxic to her, and she is feeling like I need her here for me to be happy.
When I told her I factually feel happy when she is away, she heard this as I'd rather her not be here at all. I'm honestly a bit confused right now. Could just do with hearing from anyone else who has been through this.
I'm happy SHE is happy, but it is just hard to deal with. I keep writing sad poems!
I feel like we have another 3 years of this, then a big long period of her being here. Then moving out forever.
Any advice would honestly be really welcome XX
I think I have PET. My tube pops open on a fairly regular basis giving me autophony.
Sometimes just momentarily, but sometimes longer. Up to a couple of minutes, but I can usually fix it by doing some swallowing, or moving my head around. My nuclear fix is to lean my head away from the side that is open and that closes it again.
I need to point out I’m a transgender woman, age 52 taking estrogen supplements. I use gel, and the aim is to get my E levels into a decent place to feminise my body.
This is slowly happening and I’ve been on it 2 years. My E level is around 300nmol/L.
I recently also had about 54 months of progesterone 200mg per day. Could this have affected things too?
I’m just at a bit of a loss but it’s really making me feel sad!!
Is there anything simple I could try to stop it happening? What is Patulend?
Thank you for any insight on this x
I have this annoying thing where my ears feel full, called Autophony. It’s not tinnitus!
I think it is linked to something I read about called Patulous Eustachian Tube. This is the tube gets momentarily stuck open, and you hear everything louder.
I’m a singer and this is really frustrating.
I’ve also read it can be linked to hormones and estrogen levels, as this affects the amount of fat around these tiny ear and tube muscles.
Anyway, I’m on HRT for 2 years. I’m getting it more now.
Has anyone experienced anything like this?
Thank you x
Had my long awaited clinic vid-chat, been with them nearly 2 years. See them around every 6 months. However, you need a blood test BEFORE you can get into the booking system for an appointment, and that can take an extra month, then you have to get a clinician who's available and this can drag out another month too. This is one of the main London private clinics in the UK. The Gender Clinic.
I'm NOT a hormone expert in any way at all, but have learnt more over time. It's just so frustrating. My feminisation seems slow. My breast are about Tanner 2/3, and I have a little fat redistribution, but not much. Sometimes I feel it is a lot from just putting on a bit of weight.
I'm nearly 53. I feel the years ticking away and just want to get my full potential.
The clinic know my entire hormone level history from before I started HRT, all the little changes over the last two year. Dosing, test timing, application site etc etc.
I'm on 3mg of Sandrena, and for around 6 months we added on 200mg of Progesterone.
I apply to scrotum in a split dose, and then this gets smeared all over the upper inner thighs too. So the application site is slightly mixed.
My test timing is at a near trough level, 8 hours after my evening 1.5mg gel dose.
My current levels are :
Oestradiol - 302 pmol/L
Testosterone - BELOW 0.4 nmol/L
Prolactin - 305 mU/L
Serum globulin level (XE2eB) - 22 g/L
I've insisted my Oestradiol level is too low and I need a good boost of gel to get well into the target range. They insist I AM in the target range, and also because I'm testing a trough, my peak is probably much higher.
These levels just feel WAY below what people are quoting on here, and it just makes me sad. Why would they want to not give me what I need? I'm just confused and quite sad!
We have agreed to increase my gel from 3mg to 3.5mg. Also we are to do a new blood teat and try and capture the a peak level.
What is going on? Surely they want this to be successful. I'm getting mixed info from them and from here. Also, from my own research.
Thoughts? Thank you X
I’ve been trying the Selene archive for about a year now and the size weight change might be having a negative effect on my vocal cords and other moving parts in my throat. I’m getting some Eustachian tube issues. Anyway I may be aiming for a too small size and too high pitch. At 52 my voice is just not used to it.
Then I remembered a cis female voice that was much lower in pitch, yet sounded 100% female. Trinny Woodhall.
Can you folks have a listen and let me know why her voice works so well despite the low register? I might try to emulate this instead.
Thank you xxx
Mature (52) trans non-op non-passing woman. Ready to get out there. It’s hard at this age to find a lot of new things to get involved with and I plan to kick start things with some online dating!
Look, I want people to see me as the woman I am and I’m working everyday to push towards this. However, I have to be realistic, out of the men who would like a cis-woman there will be a subset who are interested in me.
These will include all the chaser/fetish types but also some genuinely nice people .
Anyone navigated this?
Or should I just start going local groups and hope for the best? It all seems a bit desperate!
I know I could find men to want to have sex on various sites but I’m not really looking for that. I want someone to hang out with xx
Ahhh, just frustrated today.
Quite tall 52 year old AMAB mtf trans woman, 2 years HRT.
I kind of ditched the wigs for now as I couldn’t seem to get them comfortable. I like to think I look okay bald, but when taken in context (height, voice etc etc) I nearly alway get read male. Despite wearing my favourite summer dress and trying really hard with make up.
My general plan is to work hard on my voice and behaviour. It’s just sad for me though. Also family are not being accepting right now. It’s all a bit much to be honest. Trying to keep positive!
Any tips to help get read as female fpr someone like me?xx
I get misgendered very often and have been working a bit at eliminating the giveaway signs! It’s extra hard presenting with a bald head lol
But there you go…
Anyway after being so pleased to be gendered correctly (female) a couple of times recently, I was disappointed with an exchange at a bar just now.
I’m second in the serving order but get picked first. I say ‘oh I think THIS man is next’ pointing at him. His response ‘thanks mate’. Ok maybe he calls all women ‘mate’ but I think he just read me as male.
Did you spot my mistake?
What I should have said is this ‘oh I think this MAN is next’.
See the difference? By say ‘THIS man’ I group him and me together. Whereas by saying ‘this MAN’ I separate us.
If you pass so well you never get misgendered then this will be of no interest to you, but for those of us that need a little help this could be useful:)
Just thought I’d share! Xxx
I know the reports it causes ingrown hairs, makes electrolysis harder, and doesn't work. However, after trying laser many times and not having much success due to white/grey hairs, and also experiencing some electrolysis (only 15 hours) I've decided to try it.
The electrolysis was very painful, an unpleasant environment and also seemed to scar my skin + didn't really seem to be having much effect. Perhaps this was expected after a small number of sessions, but I'm going on vibes here. I wasn't feeling it. I did not have full confidence in the abilities of these various clinicians (I tried 5 in the end after the first wasn't working out).
I may return to it later. It's just such a large amount (money, energy, emotion) to invest in something with so many potential complications.
So for now I've decided that as women for decades have been plucking face hairs, and I'm sure many men have too - it's worth a go.
Most of my face can be shaved and it really looks fine for now, it's just the mouth area I have issue with. If I can just create a couple of clear patches each side my dysphoria would be reduced significantly!
I'm doing it ladies.
I started today, upper lip on my left side (right side in pic).
Watch this space!
(52 - 2 years HRT) I used to go bald, once transitioned but not really presenting fully female.
However after the last 4 months or so struggling with wigs, I decided to embrace the dome again! For a couple of weeks now I've gone 100% female presenting WITH my bald head.
Here's my feelings and some pics in case anyone else is considering this.
Summary :
Harder to be read as female even by myself, but forces me to work on other aspects of femininity like voice/behaviour/walk/ clothing. Overall I'm sticking with it for now, and feel like it will be better in the long run. Kind of hard though!
Here's some pics good and not so good. FYI I work as a care home singer.
I wish baldness was more normalised for women as so many have hair loss especially the older community XX
52 Mtf HRT 2 years. Working occasionally on voice for about a year but only seriously trying the last month.
I really want to start using my voice all the time but feel self conscious especially round close family, as if everyone will know I’m trying to put on a new voice. Also, it feel an effort to use the voice so if I forget to use it, I revert to my default more
Male voice.
Any tips to :
be more confident using the voice
make it your natural default voice without having to think about it
Thank you for any advice xx
Fed up with wigs for now.
Any bald presenting 45+ trans women out there got any tips for how to be read as female? As much as I think I do look quite feminine, I’m fairly tall, at early stage of voice training, electrolysis didnt really work so I just close shave. Basic makeup. I think people basically think I look male despite wearing dresses.
I’m looking into a custom headpiece right now, an every day feminising hat. Any other tips please thank you xx
Thank you :)
Pic 1 - light makeup good lighting / smart dress
Pic 2 - light make up statement glasses / casual dress / good lighting
Hi everyone, I'm a bald mature (52) trans woman living in UK. I've struggled to get wigs to work for me, and like the idea of headwear. I must have bought 25 hats online, caps, headscarves, hair loss caps, etc. You name it!
This is a long shot, but maybe you could help me with suggestions.
I want something :
Feminising (it must have a feminising effect, as I am trans and have that gender history I wish to divert attention from, so think female shape/colour/materials)
Cooling, I work in hot environments so non-heat retaining (mesh? Bamboo?)
Volumising, my head is totally bald and skull caps etc look too flat, I need a bit of puffiness and volume like I had hair.
Daily + indoor/outdoor wear. I need to be able to go to a family dinner, sit at the table and the headpiece look enough like part of my outfit that I'll keep it on.
I know this is a kind of impossible combination and nothing will be absolutely perfect. Yet, I have faith in you guys to coexist up with something good!!
Suggestions appreciated thank you XXX
Hi folks,
Been adding progesterone to my regime for a few months now. I do feel quite crappy and confused about my life right at the moment.
It might be the P, or it might be just the circumstances in my life and things I need to sort out.
How can I tell?
Is it okay to just stop the P for a while and see how I feel, and restart if it makes no change?
I'm 2 years into mono therapy HRT.
Thank you XX
**EDIT UPDATE - thanks for the replies and I got bored after another message and reported and blocked the profile. **
Thought I'd just add some screenshots of this one to just name-and-shame!
This person seems REALLY REALLY angry with me, I've tried to calm them down but it's not working!
Anyway, I guess we all get this type of thing. It actually spurs me on so much to exist harder and be more visible! Weirdly, it doesn't affect me mentally at all and I just see this person as quite sad to be so hateful.
Hi folks, this might be a strange situation but if anyone can offer advice I’d appreciate it.
I’m a mature trans woman with a bald head. Not through illness or alopecia but from full male baldness in my previous life as a man. I went bald around 29 and did a full shave around 31.
I’ve struggled with wigs and recently decided to just rock the bald look (also posted here and had lots of lovely comments!).
However, I work as a singer in care homes and many have know me first as a man, then a trans woman with wigs. Now I’m arriving completely hairless, and I think it’s a shock for some residents. One lady today acted as if I were seriously ill with great sympathy.
I had to make an announcement to say ‘I’m not ill I’m just a bald woman as a fashion choice’.
There is of course nothing to be in anyway ashamed of to have hair loss with alopecia or treatment. But this IS how I look. I think women who decide go with bald in those situations are very beautiful, and also basically any women who just choose this are beautiful and bold to me.
I just don’t want people to give me sympathy and feel upset for me like today when it’s not the case.
This with constantly being misgendered made today a tough gig!
What could I say or do to help? Or just not say anything?
Any ideas very welcome. Sitting in my car now a bit exhausted!x