u/Vegetable_Lie_4717

I don’t follow this influencer (Risham Khan), but her posts keep popping up on my feed.

Initially I saw her post where she was basically making fun of things that “sound poor,” and now I’ve seen another one where she’s looking down on people from Johar Town and that too twice, as if living there is somehow embarrassing.

Is this meant to be satire? Is it just DHA elitism turned into content? Or am I genuinely missing the joke?

I’m curious because it seems like the humor is just “haha, people who aren’t rich are beneath us.” Do people actually find this entertaining, or is this just rage-bait that gets engagement?

I met a man and we just clicked from day one. The chemistry was undeniable. Conversation flowed effortlessly, and being around each other felt natural.

The problem was that we wanted different things.

He told me he isn’t looking for a serious relationship right now. He’s focused on getting to where he wants to be in his career, doesn’t feel emotionally or physically available for a relationship, and said that the idea of being in one actually scares him at the moment.

I, on the other hand, was looking for exactly that, a healthy relationship with a genuine emotional connection.
So logically, we knew it wasn’t going to work.

Except… neither of us could stop talking.

We’d dramatically say our goodbyes, wish each other well, and then a few days later one of us would find some ridiculously random excuse to message the other. We’d end up talking for hours. Every single time we’d eventually say, “Yeah… we really shouldn’t be doing this,” say goodbye again… and somehow end up right back where we started.

This went on for about a month.

I think this time we’ve actually had the real goodbye. It feels different. I think we’re both tired of repeating the same cycle.

It feels like the right decision, but it’s also a little sad because it genuinely felt like, under different circumstances, it could have been something really special.

So I’m curious about the men’s perspective.

Have you ever met someone who genuinely felt special but still walked away because you weren’t ready for a relationship? If so, did you ever regret it, or was it still the right decision in hindsight?

My dissertation is due in a month. I have sent my first draft. My supervisor seemed really happy with it. He thinks at the end I should be publishing it and he will help me in it.

My topic is a gap in the literature. Something I am really passionate about. So far what I have written is good but I know I can do more but I am not sure what.

I’m conducting a qualitative systematic review using the Thomas & Harden thematic synthesis approach (inductive analysis) on 25 studies. I’ve been trying to learn NVivo, but I’m finding it quite difficult to use and wondering if it’s worth the learning curve.

Has anyone done a thematic synthesis without NVivo? Did you use another software or did you code manually in Word/Excel? If you coded manually, what was your workflow for organizing codes and developing themes across multiple studies?

I’d really appreciate hearing what worked well for you

My uncle (in his 50s/60s) has stage 4 stomach cancer. Doctors initially gave him around a year, but he has already survived for 2 years after multiple rounds of chemotherapy and surgeries.

Recently, doctors told us the chemotherapy is no longer working and stopped further treatment. The cancer has spread and fractured one of his ribs. Over the last few days, he has declined significantly. From last two days he is at the hospital and he developed unbearable pain. He sleeps most of the time, struggles to walk, has difficulty talking, and is eating very little.

for those who have been through something similar, how serious does this sound?

I (29F) was recently introduced to someone for marriage (we’re South Asian). We clicked immediately and had long, deep, vulnerable conversations. He remembered little details about me, asked thoughtful questions, and despite being extremely busy with work and exam prep, he was always available whenever I texted.

Initially we both seemed on the same page that we wanted to proceed together. However, one day he told me he wanted to end things because he was too focused on his career and couldn’t give me the time and energy I deserved. On one end I was happy that he didnt lead me on and told me early on but on the other hand I suggested him ways to make it work. He took some time to think and came back to say the same thing.

He repeatedly apologized, said it wouldn’t be fair to ask me to wait, and was firm that we should end it, even though he said he could see himself exploring things in a year if he was in a better place.

We said our goodbyes, thinking we are not going to talk again but within two days he reached out again to ask me if I was okay. Somehow one thing lead into anyother and we talked for 7 hours. At the end we both realised we shouldnt be talking.

A week later he reached out again. Again to talk about random stuff and that conversation last two days. Even if I tell him that I had to go he will keep the conversation alive.

It was soo confusing for me because we were genuinely aligned on everything. We were like eachother. Our conversations were natural and he seemed genuinely interested in talking to me.

Later I told him that we shouldnt be talking and I need him to stop contacting. Which he said he respects. He also wished me luck and said he hope I find a good partner.

I’m confused because his words and actions don’t match. If he was so certain about ending things, why continue reaching out and maintaining the same emotional connection? I ended the connection for my own sanity but I still dont understand his behaviour.

I (29F) was recently introduced to someone for marriage (we’re South Asian). We clicked immediately and had long, deep, vulnerable conversations. He remembered little details about me, asked thoughtful questions, and despite being extremely busy with work and exam prep, he was always available whenever I texted.

Initially we both seemed on the same page that we wanted to proceed together. However, one day he told me he wanted to end things because he was too focused on his career and couldn’t give me the time and energy I deserved. On one end I was happy that he didnt lead me on and told me early on but on the other hand I suggested him ways to make it work. He took some time to think and came back to say the same thing.

He repeatedly apologized, said it wouldn’t be fair to ask me to wait, and was firm that we should end it, even though he said he could see himself exploring things in a year if he was in a better place.

We said our goodbyes, thinking we are not going to talk again but within two days he reached out again to ask me if I was okay. Somehow one thing lead into anyother and we talked for 7 hours. At the end we both realised we shouldnt be talking.

A week later he reached out again. Again to talk about random stuff and that conversation last two days. Even if I tell him that I had to go he will keep the conversation alive.

It was soo confusing for me because we were genuinely aligned on everything. We were like eachother. Our conversations were natural and he seemed genuinely interested in talking to me.

Later I told him that we shouldnt be talking and I need him to stop contacting. Which he said he respects. He also wished me luck and said he hope I find a good partner.

I’m confused because his words and actions don’t match. If he was so certain about ending things, why continue reaching out and maintaining the same emotional connection? I ended the connection for my own sanity but I still dont understand his behaviour.

Same as mentioned

I was talking to a guy and things were going really well. Conversations felt effortless and we’d often spend hours talking.

On our first call, he mentioned he had something major going on in his life. Recently, he brought it up again and said he’s deeply stuck in it and doesn’t feel able to give enough time or energy to a relationship. He said he’d feel guilty committing to someone while not being fully present.

We had a very honest 2-hour conversation about it, and he asked for some time to think. After reflecting, he came back and said he still isn’t ready and it could take sometime before he is. He said he doesn’t want to lead someone on or make promises he can’t keep. He also mentioned that if circumstances change in the future, he would be open to reconsidering.

We ended things on good terms, which made it even harder.

In your experience, when someone says this, is it usually a genuine timing/life issue, or is it often a kind way of rejecting someone?

So I recently talked to someone. We were talking for marriage (South asian culture of arranged marriage).

Initially we both seemed to fit well into each other’s criteria of partners. Then we proceeded to talking on call. We both enjoyed the call. We decided on the call to meet each other.

We met and the meeting felt nice and calm. He texted me afterwards to ask if reached home. Followed by a call where he asked me how I felt about the meeting. We both gave positive feeling. He said good things about me like being calm and mature.

He later called me again that night and we again discussed our meeting in detail. He seemed really interested and then asked me if I want to proceed with him? I said yes and he said yes too. He then said goodbye and said to call me again tomorrow.

The next day passed and he didn’t text me all day. I always got a vibe from him that he was not a texter. So I assumed he would just call at night. He didn’t.

The day after that (2 days after our meeting) I dropped a text asking just checking on him and if he was okay? He did not reply. Some hours passed and I just assumed he wasnt interested. So I dropped another text very respectfully saying that I would have appreciated if he told me directly he wasnt interested. And wished him luck.

It was yesterday and he did not reply whole day. Today has passed as well.

Does this mean he is not interested anymore and I got ghosted? Or it could be any other thing?

started talking to someone and we got along really well. Then we decided to meet. We were basically talking to consider eachother for marriage. We ticked each other’s majority of criteria.

After I got home he texted if I was home. Then called to ask what I felt. We discussed everything in detail. Like really maturely. I shared my concern that I felt he wanted the date to end quickly which he said was only because he was late and he didn’t want me to be late while going back and he was just being protective.

Later that night he called again. He again asked me if I was satisfied with the meeting. We both talked again and very openly told eachother we enjoyed the date and would like to proceed. On that call we both said we will continue to know eachother and see where it goes. At the end of the call he just told me talk to you tomorrow.

Anyways. From the beginning he was more like a call person not a texter. So I didnt text the next whole day thinking we would talk at night. Whole day passed he didnt text nor did he call. I waited.

The next day I texted him in the morning. Asking how he was and that I was just checking on him. My gut was telling me something was off. After few hours of no reply I texted him very respectfully that I would have appreciated if he told me directly he was not interested and then I wished him luck. He did not reply to these two texts the whole day yesterday.

I am now sure I am being ghosted. This feeling sucks a bit. I know I was not attached to him in anyway so I am not heartbroken but still it just sucks.

Being new in this dating culture. Am I right to assume I am being ghosted right?

Started talking to a guy recently. The next day we had a call which went good. We planned a meeting on that call. The next day we met. Meeting was fine too. Got back home and got a text from him, if I reached home safely. He then called and we discussed the meeting. We both had positive feeling about it. He again called later at night where we mutually agreed to proceed together.

The next day after this, complete silence. No texts and no calls. I was waiting for him to call since he told me the last night he would call. Whole day passed like that.

The next day after this silent day (2 days after the date) I texted him that I am checking on you, everything okay? He didn’t reply it’s been hours.

Does this show disinterest? And I am probably ghosted?

Sorry if it’s something obvious because I am new to dating and I don’t know how things work.

I recently submitted a coursework before the deadline. Later realised after the deadline passed that two references were missing from key paragraphs which were the core of that coursework.

I contacted my module lead immediately and upon his suggestion I resubmitted my coursework with in 24 hours after the deadline and applied for mitigating circumstances to avoid penalty for late submission. According to our Uni guidelines we get penalised for 10 marks.

In my MCF, I attached my module lead’s support letter in which he stated that penalty can be removed. What are the chances that it will be accepted or rejected?