u/Worried_Fig00

I crave community and friendship. For the last 2 years I have been trying to do my best to be an active member in my community, but there are no options that work with the schedule of an adult that works a 9-5 job. I have looked through my local libraries, I have even joined multiple churches looking for volunteer opportunities and it seems that everything is catered for retired people or parents. Every class at the library I want to take is at like 10am on a Wednesday. Every volunteer opportunity is some random day of the week at 2pm. If there is something that works with my schedule, usually it's something geared towards families and parents. I can't win.

I get it, these demographics have the most time on their hands and are more likely to be able to attend at these times. But what about those of us out there that work full time and still want to spend some of our free time being involved with our community? It sucks, I was really hoping to find something where I can help others or make connections. The work I do is very independent so I don't have any work friends. It's lonely out here.

Currently spending almost $200 for 2 lines at Verizon and I'm ready to make the switch. We don't use our phones for much and we're connected to wifi most of the time. We have only had to use our hotspot a handful of times in the last 10 years. I know that the base plan and the plus plan would give me huge savings regardless. But what would I be missing out on if I just got the base plan?

I have been working with the same company for over 7 years now. I started as an entry level employee and I have made my way to be just under the D suite. I'm a good worker no matter what I do. I listen, I learn, I find efficiencies and better processes, I get promoted. But, these promotions are usually in the wake of me being a leading cause of someone losing their job. It's not intentional, I swear. (Sometimes I'm worried that subconsciously that's the driving force but I'll dive deeper into that with my therapist next week)

Maybe I have just been dealt crappy cards for leaders and I'm just a very honest person at heart. The first two people that I "helped" get fired were pretty valid. They were managers that were making me do 90% of their jobs for them and their bosses started noticing, and I just built the case. I'm honest, I document, I go to the higher ups when things get out of hand and I let things fall down when they need to. They were terminated.

Recently, I was given a supervisor to manage and it has not been good. I'm not sure how she became a supervisor but it has been a consistent uphill battle. I did I always do. I was honest, I documented, and brought it to the superiors when it became necessary. She was terminated just like the others.

This pattern is starting to make me feel ... Icky. I just follow the process but it doesn't feel good. What if people think I'm going out of my way to get people "in trouble" or fired? That's not how I want people to see me. Am I just a useful cog in the corporate machine that the execs use to weed out the bad eggs? Am I doing this for my own joy and drive to climb the ladder? I don't think so, it doesn't feel like that. I'm not sure.

I always tell everyone, honesty is the best policy. I manage a team of 60+ employees with 3 supervisors. I have a feeling that one of my supervisors is a compulsive liar. I just can't prove it. She seems to be someone that enjoys getting reactions out of people and this fuels the lies. She also does it to try to cover up on mistakes. For example, I had her learn how to create a report. When I asked her if she checked a certain data point she said yes, I then asked her how she calculated it to which she then said she didn't know and she didn't actually look into it. I know this instance can come off as being nervous to ask questions but this is one of many examples where she is dishonest first and asks questions later. Today she shared something that was really concerning for me and I just can't tell if it's true or not, if it is I need to raise the red flag. As I started asking questions the story kept changing. I just feel such a big distrust around her. I'm not sure how to handle this, and I don't want to raise it to my bosses just yet who are C suites. This is a first for me.

I understand and know the history of drag and what it has done for the lgbtq community, it's huge and super important. but I just can't bring myself to enjoy it. I also understand all of the time effort and money drag queens/kings put into their craft. My childhood best friend is a drag queen, I know the behind the scenes very well. I just don't think it's fun to watch people in costume dance/prance/lip sync to music. I find myself bored and it feels a little misogynistic. I feel like an outsider for this. Almost all of the gay events in my city are centered around drag shows. It's exhausting. I would much rather see my local community showcase a variety of queer artistry. Especially musicians.

I'm not sure how to better describe it than this. Some times my good eye just doesn't feel synced up with my brain. Sometimes it feels uncomfortable, sometimes it's hard to focus on things, it just feels out of sorts.

Romance story lines just always throw me off and make me feel disinterested in the rest of the story. I'm open to any historical fiction stories but have a special interest in the middle ages and the world wars! Female MC's for bonus points!

1. I know how we can go home

2. Batsh*t crazy

3. Accepted their fate

I love a good lesbian character, but I feel like most lesbian book recommendations are books where the plot is the main character being a lesbian. I much prefer stories where it's something mentioned in passing, or it's a very minor aspect of the character, or it's just the general vibe of the character. It feels more relatable!

Genre preferences but open:

Horror

Sci-fi

Mystery

History

I have been obsessed with this show and I'm rounding off the end of the most recent season. But, I want to keep these good vibes going and bury myself into a book (preferably series) that has similar themes to the show. I want creepy purgatory place, weird happenings, scary monsters, psychological horror, the whole sha-bang. I love From but I crave the finer details of how a place like that works, and I feel that a book would scratch that itch.

Needing some advice on an overwhelming day. I became a program manager for this department almost 6 months ago, because of the changes I made, we are now growing exponentially. The team is doubling, we've doubled the work load, it's a good problem to have.

But I am just starting to feel very overwhelmed. My boss is great and helps out when she can and always checks in, but I don't know what to ask for help on when I feel overwhelmed like this. I'm young and it's a big weight on my shoulder to know that I'm carrying the company.

I'm not one to believe in conspiracy theories, but the rise of data centers has really been nagging at me. Why are there so many all of a sudden? They were unheard of until around 2 years ago, so what is the big need for them now? Why do they suck up all of our resources and we're left to pay for them? What do they even do?

It just feels nefarious to me, I don't know what they are but I feel like it's not just data in those giant warehouses.

I want to forgive her, but I am really, really struggling to. I don't want to be mad at her anymore, but I can't help but to keep thinking about what she did and it makes me upset each time.

I'm going to put it pretty bluntly. I saw that my sister was casually watching porn while we were in the middle of a conversation.

2 details that make it worse:

1. This happened in a shared hotel room

2. We were sharing a hotel room due to traveling out of state for the funeral of our last grandparent.

No, this was not a situation where I caught her and she quickly stopped. And no, I was not looking over her shoulder or snooping. She was just casually watching porn videos while we were talking, with her phone screen completely facing me, up in the air while she was in bed.

I did confront her about how uncomfortable that made me and I told her that she should get help for a porn addiction. Because casually watching it while talking to your sibling is pretty darn concerning. Her reaction was quite distant and I really don't think she understands how freaking weird that was. It's been a couple of weeks and it's still on my mind. I'm mad, I'm sad, and I'm disgusted by it. We have barely talked, and I could barely look her in the eye on father's day.

This of course was a straw that broke the camel's back situation. There was so much over the years leading up to this point and when this happened, that was a line crossed too far for me. This was probably going to be the last time I visited a place that was so special to me growing up, it was supposed to be a time to mourn and find peace. Instead, I will have the memory of my sister watching porn and ruining the trip for me.

I want to forgive her. I've been praying on it, asking myself WWJD, the whole 9 yards. But I cannot bring myself to do it.

I had an old coworker just make her profile picture a picture of her sitting on an elephant from her recent vacation in Thailand. Seeing that honestly made me lose all respect for her. The poor elephant looks so sad and tired. How can you see an animal in a situation like that and then just be like heck yeah let me pay $100 to contribute to it? It just doesn't make sense to me.

I know not everyone loves animals the way I do, but I don't understand how someone can just set aside the suffering of a creature for a darn photo op? Seeing that truly made me sick.

I'm an elder Gen Z (00) and I am the first to admit that I have lost touch with what's new. I don't really follow the current memes or terms people use these days. One thing that I have noticed is the increase of people just purposely spelling things wrong as like a new form of slang or texting style. I don't understand it. Is this a new thing? Why are we doing it?

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For example: I have seen ssa for ass and Knot for not just to name a couple of examples. Similarly: asl for as hell. That one just does not make sense. If you're gonna abbreviate it, why not do AH like how everyone does AF?

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Is this a genuine new thing people are doing or am I just seeing people with poor literacy post online too often?

I'm currently in a place where I am struggling to forgive my sister for something she did. I want so badly to be able to forgive her, I want our sister bond back but it feels impossible to forgive her in this scenario. I've been praying on it and praying on it but it hasn't gotten easier. My humanly desire to judge and be angry is overshadowing my Christian values of trying to show forgiveness and unconditional love. Could use some words of encouragement and advice right now!

I started my journey as a Christian close to 2 years ago now, since that time I have tried my best to walk in Jesus' shoes. I've been more loving, kind, understanding, and welcoming. It really has been life changing. But a couple of weeks ago, my sister did something that I am having a really hard time forgiving and it's been a really big struggle emotionally and spiritually for me.

To sum up everything, for years I have been a support for her through a not so great relationship. I have given her so much advice, so much time, I have even offered for her to stay with me if she were to leave. Of course, it's one of those situations where the person doesn't want to do anything to change the situation so it's just the same conversation for 10 years.

Within the last year she started doing things that definitely doesn't align with her actual beliefs just to save the relationship. She started interacting with strangers to satisfy her needs, while it made me sad for her, she's an adult and she can make her own choices. This ended up interfering with her life too much and she had to quit.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, we had to travel together to attend a beloved family member's funeral. I was excited, this was the most time we have spent with each other since we were kids 15 years ago. I thought that all of that stuff was behind her. The day after the funeral, we were having a conversation she was turned away from me but her phone was facing me. I saw that she was just casually watching graphic porn while we were chatting. It was so disturbing to me. How could she do that while talking to her sibling? Especially only 24 hours after we had put our loved one in the ground?

I told her later on that I saw what she was watching and it made me very uncomfortable. Her response was even more concerning because it alluded to the fact that that time wasn't the only time she was watching it while we were in the same room on this trip. She gave a half hearted apology. It even seemed like she did it on purpose, like she wanted me to see it. I voiced my concerns that she needs help with this because it's obviously a problem. I even opened up to her about how it was triggering for me due to previous traumas. Every time we were alone on the trip she kept wanting to talk about it. We haven't talked since the trip ended.

The most upsetting thing is that this time that was meant for mourning and closure quickly became about my sister's sex problem, and I am really struggling with forgiving her for that.

I ask myself WWJD? And the answer is to of course forgive her and be there to offer her resources and support her in overcoming this issue. But I don't know if I can find it in myself to do that. All these years I have been trying to help her get out of this situation and then she makes me an unconsenting party to it? It's just so abhorrent. I haven't been this upset and bothered about something in years. I'm really struggling with offering unconditional love right now.