u/Worried_Fig00

I'm not one to believe in conspiracy theories, but the rise of data centers has really been nagging at me. Why are there so many all of a sudden? They were unheard of until around 2 years ago, so what is the big need for them now? Why do they suck up all of our resources and we're left to pay for them? What do they even do?

It just feels nefarious to me, I don't know what they are but I feel like it's not just data in those giant warehouses.

I want to forgive her, but I am really, really struggling to. I don't want to be mad at her anymore, but I can't help but to keep thinking about what she did and it makes me upset each time.

I'm going to put it pretty bluntly. I saw that my sister was casually watching porn while we were in the middle of a conversation.

2 details that make it worse:

1. This happened in a shared hotel room

2. We were sharing a hotel room due to traveling out of state for the funeral of our last grandparent.

No, this was not a situation where I caught her and she quickly stopped. And no, I was not looking over her shoulder or snooping. She was just casually watching porn videos while we were talking, with her phone screen completely facing me, up in the air while she was in bed.

I did confront her about how uncomfortable that made me and I told her that she should get help for a porn addiction. Because casually watching it while talking to your sibling is pretty darn concerning. Her reaction was quite distant and I really don't think she understands how freaking weird that was. It's been a couple of weeks and it's still on my mind. I'm mad, I'm sad, and I'm disgusted by it. We have barely talked, and I could barely look her in the eye on father's day.

This of course was a straw that broke the camel's back situation. There was so much over the years leading up to this point and when this happened, that was a line crossed too far for me. This was probably going to be the last time I visited a place that was so special to me growing up, it was supposed to be a time to mourn and find peace. Instead, I will have the memory of my sister watching porn and ruining the trip for me.

I want to forgive her. I've been praying on it, asking myself WWJD, the whole 9 yards. But I cannot bring myself to do it.

I had an old coworker just make her profile picture a picture of her sitting on an elephant from her recent vacation in Thailand. Seeing that honestly made me lose all respect for her. The poor elephant looks so sad and tired. How can you see an animal in a situation like that and then just be like heck yeah let me pay $100 to contribute to it? It just doesn't make sense to me.

I know not everyone loves animals the way I do, but I don't understand how someone can just set aside the suffering of a creature for a darn photo op? Seeing that truly made me sick.

I'm an elder Gen Z (00) and I am the first to admit that I have lost touch with what's new. I don't really follow the current memes or terms people use these days. One thing that I have noticed is the increase of people just purposely spelling things wrong as like a new form of slang or texting style. I don't understand it. Is this a new thing? Why are we doing it?

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For example: I have seen ssa for ass and Knot for not just to name a couple of examples. Similarly: asl for as hell. That one just does not make sense. If you're gonna abbreviate it, why not do AH like how everyone does AF?

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Is this a genuine new thing people are doing or am I just seeing people with poor literacy post online too often?

I'm currently in a place where I am struggling to forgive my sister for something she did. I want so badly to be able to forgive her, I want our sister bond back but it feels impossible to forgive her in this scenario. I've been praying on it and praying on it but it hasn't gotten easier. My humanly desire to judge and be angry is overshadowing my Christian values of trying to show forgiveness and unconditional love. Could use some words of encouragement and advice right now!

I started my journey as a Christian close to 2 years ago now, since that time I have tried my best to walk in Jesus' shoes. I've been more loving, kind, understanding, and welcoming. It really has been life changing. But a couple of weeks ago, my sister did something that I am having a really hard time forgiving and it's been a really big struggle emotionally and spiritually for me.

To sum up everything, for years I have been a support for her through a not so great relationship. I have given her so much advice, so much time, I have even offered for her to stay with me if she were to leave. Of course, it's one of those situations where the person doesn't want to do anything to change the situation so it's just the same conversation for 10 years.

Within the last year she started doing things that definitely doesn't align with her actual beliefs just to save the relationship. She started interacting with strangers to satisfy her needs, while it made me sad for her, she's an adult and she can make her own choices. This ended up interfering with her life too much and she had to quit.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, we had to travel together to attend a beloved family member's funeral. I was excited, this was the most time we have spent with each other since we were kids 15 years ago. I thought that all of that stuff was behind her. The day after the funeral, we were having a conversation she was turned away from me but her phone was facing me. I saw that she was just casually watching graphic porn while we were chatting. It was so disturbing to me. How could she do that while talking to her sibling? Especially only 24 hours after we had put our loved one in the ground?

I told her later on that I saw what she was watching and it made me very uncomfortable. Her response was even more concerning because it alluded to the fact that that time wasn't the only time she was watching it while we were in the same room on this trip. She gave a half hearted apology. It even seemed like she did it on purpose, like she wanted me to see it. I voiced my concerns that she needs help with this because it's obviously a problem. I even opened up to her about how it was triggering for me due to previous traumas. Every time we were alone on the trip she kept wanting to talk about it. We haven't talked since the trip ended.

The most upsetting thing is that this time that was meant for mourning and closure quickly became about my sister's sex problem, and I am really struggling with forgiving her for that.

I ask myself WWJD? And the answer is to of course forgive her and be there to offer her resources and support her in overcoming this issue. But I don't know if I can find it in myself to do that. All these years I have been trying to help her get out of this situation and then she makes me an unconsenting party to it? It's just so abhorrent. I haven't been this upset and bothered about something in years. I'm really struggling with offering unconditional love right now.

Wow I don't even know where to start with this. I feel like it has to be a first. My sister and I are both full grown adults which makes this worse. I'm in my late 20's, she's in her early 30's. My sister and I had to travel out of town together to a funeral for a family member. Although under sad circumstances, I was excited. This was going to be the most time we have spent together since I was in middle school. It was fun at first, we chatted for the whole road trip, snacked, listened to oldies, shared a hotel room, it was a good time. It felt like a sleep over with your best friend. Everything was normal until after the funeral.

The funeral happened on day 2. The morning after the funeral, she was talking to me about sexting her partner, which normally would be a little odd but it was REALLY odd considering we had just buried a close family member not even 24 hours earlier. I was thrown off by it, but shook it off.

Later that night, when coming into the hotel from taking a quick breather outside, I see she's on her phone, back turned to me, but her phone is within sight. We were having a discussion about the day and as I get closer, I see she was actively watching porn while we were holding the conversation. It wasn't like I caught her and she quickly threw the phone to the side or closed the tab. No, she was casually just scrolling through porn videos while I was talking about an older lady I just spoke with. It was the most disturbed I have ever felt. I felt (and still feel) so violated and disgusted.

I did address it with my sister the day after because I simply could not just live with that and be normal for the rest of the trip. Her reaction was rather unconcerned and more self centered than anything. She even alluded to the fact that, that wasn't the only time she was watching it while on the trip. I told her she needed serious help and it was just awkward after that. We came home a few days later and haven't talked since.

I don't even know what to do with this. I feel so violated. A trip that was supposed to be about us getting closure and mourning a loved family member, quickly turned into my sister adding onto my long list of sexual trauma. I don't know if I can forgive her or if I can ever look at her the same. How can someone do that? To their sibling? so soon after a funeral? It makes me sick to my stomach.

There's so many layers to this story that make it all worse, but I don't have time to write a novel tonight to provide the deep seeded lore. I just needed to get that big part off my chest and kind of say it to the world. I have only told a couple of people, my therapist is included, and each of them have been speechless. I feel so stuck and I'm not sure what's to come next.

I just bought this 40's house around 6 months ago. I know the electrical system is a mess and it's something we are saving up to address. We have 3 breaks between the house and the garage.

I have noticed every night, there is this sound in the house that sounds like an old lamp switch getting turned on. There's no light flicker when it happens or anything, just the sound. But it happens once a day around the same time every day, usually between 9 and 9:30pm. I work from home and I never hear it at any other time in the day. Does anyone have a clue as to what it could be?

Hey y'all! I'm visiting from the south for a few days and I need a break from hotel coffee. What coffee shop would you recommend visiting on a Monday morning? Bonus points if they have a banger chai tea latte

I'm in my late 20's, I've been working a dead end office job since I graduated highschool but now I'm looking for a lifetime career. I have always wanted to get into a trade of some sort, everyone in my family has done it. My mom is a forklift driver, my dad works in metal fabrication, my uncles are electricians and welders, etc.

The one thing that has kept me from taking the leap is my vision issues. I was born blind in one eye and have really bad vision in the one good eye I have. This has left me with no depth perception at all. That takes out all trade work that requires precision to do the job (which is the vast majority of them) I have always wanted to be a welder like my dad and uncles but I would make too many mistakes.

Are there any trades out there that I can do? Or am I cursed to the desk chair for life and should be happy that I have landed in middle management?

Once a week I have to take a Lyft to work. Most of them have been pretty good but this guy had me legitimately concerned.

The only way I can describe it is this dude was dopamine maxing the whole ride.

He had 3 phones. 1 for the map, one for watching tiktok (which he was actively scrolling through playing through Bluetooth) and his personal phone that he was constantly voice messaging someone on.

At one point he was juggling the voice message phone and the tiktok phone. I get it, it's a 30 minute drive but jeez louise we were in stop and go traffic and I was worried he was so distracted he would possibly hit someone.

I get being entertained while driving people around all day but that was a bit egregious.

**This does not apply to people who need support for their neurodivergence or are heavily impacted by it.

I think a lot of people are getting misdiagnosed with neurodivergence, especially autism and ADHD. I agree that better access to get tested is much needed, but I feel it's very misplaced. Being socially awkward, needing stimuli, being scatter brained or a little eccentric ≠ neurodivergence.

I think we should bring back being okay with some people just being weird. If I was a kid in this day and age, I most likely would be diagnosed with autism and given different accomodations and supports. Instead, adults and teachers let me be the weird kid I was and I developed well into adulthood without any short comings.

I feel like a lot of adults who seek diagnosis but do not need accomodations or support are just looking for a reason or an excuse for why they are the way they are. I feel like "that's just how I am" is just as valid as spending $100's on appointments and tests for someone to tell you they you have autism.

I will probably get roasted for this take, but I think people can just be odd without slapping a diagnosis on it.

I know this will likely not get a good response, but I'm looking for help. Ladies, what do you do to help yourself function at the same level you normally do while dealing with your menstrual cycle? Particularly if you have very bad cycles?

I feel like I do pretty well with getting the same amount of work done, and being collaborative with my team as always but people can just *tell* that I'm feeling off. I try my best to not let it show, but I'm dealing with nearly an unbearable level of pain while trying to keep a normal face in a zoom room with the other managers all day. Not to mention having to take the extra bathroom trips. Plus the added irritability.

I know I know, women have been dealing with day to day life while having bad periods since the dawn of time, I need to get over it, etc. etc. but I'm just looking for ways to cope through this week of torture. I don't have cycles consistently, and when they do happen they are BAD. I'm struggling over here.

I'm a big fella, short too. I can't find any inspo pics out there for bigger masculine people and I'm really having a hard time doing the shopping for it as well. Everything is like 20 inches too small somehow? I feel like my only option is to look like a sack of potatoes and wear an oversized linen shirt and pants.

I want to participate in my local faire's Celtic weekend. Any tips on how to look good at the faire even if you are big and masculine?

Cannot for the life of me remember her name. She had long reddish brown straight hair, was masculine, wore snapbacks a lot, hipsterish glasses and I distinctly remember her being a big fan of MGK. I think she had a medium sized following, she wasn't as big as Bria and Chrissy. I remember wanting to be her so bad. I think she mainly vlogged? Maybe identifies as a trans man now? That's all I have for you, I'm sorry lol.

Please do not let days like today cause any separation between you and God. I am sorry for all of the hate you have seen today spread by Christians, who were using God's name to make their bigotry and hatred holier than thou. It's not right, and it is not representative of who Jesus was and it's not representative of what many of us Christians believe.

Today was hard as a queer person, sometimes I forget how hateful people can be while using God as a crutch to fuel that hateful fire. But Tonight, I will pray on it. I will pray for the person the hatred was targeted towards, I will pray for the people spreading the hatred, and I will pray for those who were impacted by the awful and mean things they saw today.

Always Remember:

You belong here.

You are cared for here.

You are loved here.

And God loves you no matter what.

Peace be with all of you.