Did you hate it? Was it fast food? Retail? And to those who’s first job was related to anything music whether being in a successful touring band or a record store any recommendations on what others should do and where to look?
So I’m trying to buy a used 2020 Ford fusion SE with only 46,000 miles on it and it costs $14k in the monthly payment would be around 292 bucks. I have never bought a car before but I think I’m doing my math wrong because everyone around me is saying i gotta take out a loan and i just keep thinking i don’t want to spend over $15k on a car.
Like as much as I love a safe state to live in and be who i want to be I just feel isolated when i think beyond that. Like outside of major cities like NYC or Chicago or even D.C the majority of these states are in the north obviously good sign but like even those cheaper states are majority white like Maine I don’t know how accurate The LGBTQ Equality Map is but it just feels like idk I’d be isolated as a POC just cause i can’t afford to live in the major cities and those are my only options. I grew up in north Texas and I came out when I was 14 i didn’t face any discrimination from my memory but I don’t wanna go back because well i don’t want to live in Texas anymore.
Is it too early to think about Halloween? NO! My boyfriend is struggling to find anything other than white chicks or a nightmare at the museum. I’m black he’s white so I’m just looking everywhere for something.
Like I just need one I can do, get my GED, some certificates and that’s mainly that. I just need one that pays at least $18.27 per hour or lower if that’s more realistic. I don’t think there’s many out there but I just can’t do the traditional work anymore it’s all so chaotic and overstimulating and I just want to be able to be able to do some type of work on a laptop or iPad and calm my mind without burning out.
Like I just need one I can do, get my GED, some certificates and that’s mainly that. I just need one that pays at least $18.27 per hour or lower if that’s more realistic. I don’t think there’s many out there but I just can’t do the traditional work anymore it’s all so chaotic and overstimulating and I just want to be able to be able to do some type of work on a laptop or iPad and calm my mind without burning out.
Based solely on this video and the comments, it appears that these straight people are content with being single and don’t desire a romantic relationship. I’m not trying to label them, it just seems like the right terminology for people who act like that.
My boyfriend, Jim, and I have been together for two years. We’re in a long-distance relationship, so we meet in person regularly when we can. We plan to move in together next year.
Jim has three friends from elementary and middle school. 2 of them are a lesbian couple(Janet and Eliza), and the other one is a single girl(Gwen). Gwen, is not very nice, in my opinion.
Jim has known Janet since they were very young. Janet’s girlfriend, Eliza, has only known Gwen, as her only friend. This group of friends has gone on trips together, planned full-on outings to different states, and will cancel plans for anything random.
Jim is a very big introvert. He enjoys a nice night in with me, watching a movie, playing Minecraft, and eating a home-cooked meal together. His friends, on the other hand, want to go out every weekend, every night, to restaurants, movie theaters, and sleepovers.
Jim has a medium to low social battery. He can’t take constant social interactions with his friends without having some downtime with either me or himself. He gets overwhelmed and stressed out if he doesn’t have some time to himself.
His friends will constantly cancel plans whenever they feel like it. Jim will say okay, and they will say okay. But as soon as he says, “I don’t want to go anywhere today,” it becomes a problem. This friend group will also complain about him never saying no to not wanting to do something.
Obviously, some people might say that half of the problem is that the other half of the group is breaking up. My boyfriend is completely fine with that. However, he is very anti-confrontational and doesn’t want to leave anyone lonely or upset because he’s a huge people pleaser like me.
We have a group trip coming up with them in my state in late August so I wonder what we could do to either talk this out or help Jim out with this friend group’s situation or just go about having this friendship go down because this is very toxic and it’s driving me insane because I really wanna help but I don’t know what to do because I don’t really have that many friends so any advice is really welcomed.
TL;DR: I’m in long-distance relationship with my boyfriend Jim, who is a dedicated introvert and people-pleaser. His long-time friend group is demanding, inconsistent, and hypocritical—they cancel plans at will but guilt-trip him when he needs downtime. I’m looking for ways to support Jim and handle this toxic dynamic ahead of a group trip in August.
I’m trying to be more independent and get a job but majority of first jobs seem so overstimulating, sensory nightmare and just awful. I really don’t want to be picky but like I don’t want to be working at Walmart or fast food cause Ik I’ll just die.
I’m 20 years old, high school dropout due to mental health issues. I can’t drive, have never had a job, and don’t regularly take my medication, which keeps me stuck in a cycle of dopamine, motivation, and then complete depression and paranoia. I have autism and ADHD, and I know I need to work hard to succeed in life. I’ve taken some steps towards that goal, like aiming to get my GED. I just need to finish one more test to be done. I’m not sure what jobs I’d be good at, but I know that retail and fast food overwhelm me to the point where I start panicking and having a meltdown. I don’t want to make excuses for myself, but I just know that’s what happens, and I don’t want that. I prefer being in a quiet place where I can control the noise and not be miserable. I know the world won’t accommodate me like my teachers, counselors, and family have done, but I just want some semblance of peace without burnout or anything else I don’t think that’s too much to ask for.
I’m going on a week trip to Kure beach with friends next month and i either have to take a bus or train but majority of the things i hear are “bathrooms are terrible” and “the people are gross” now i know i can sit on a bus for 6 hours straight but i am worried about other things to look out for and if I should just keep my head down and not pay attention to anything.
I plan to work diligently for approximately 5 to 8 months to save enough money to move out with my boyfriend by March 2027. I require around $5,000 to $6,000, plus an additional $12,000 for a used car. My only preferences are if the job offers the option to wear one earbud, and that’s it.
I don’t have a degree; I only have a GED. I’m not interested in trades, so if you recommend trade school hell no. Some of the job options I’ve considered so far are sorta appealing to me. These include auto parts merchandising, working at a museum, working at a print shop, working at a greenhouse, and working at a record store.
Many people, especially those on Reddit, have suggested that I join the military or become a trucker. However, I’ve always asked this question and then forgotten to mention that I have autism and an actual social life. I simply dislike customer service because of its chaotic nature and the fact that humans act like humans, and I don’t want to deal with that.
I understand that some people on this post might argue that auto parts merchandising is customer service. However, from what I’ve seen at various auto parts stores like O’Reilly’s, it’s usually not that chaotic or stressful. It feels much calmer compared to working at retail stores like Walmart or Target.
What I’m looking for is a job that is relatively calm and allows me to wear one earbud if I want. I’m also open to doing whatever the job requires, as long as it’s not too much noise or dealing with stupid people.
Also, if there’s any jobs out there that you know involve stuff I actually like, like music, drawing painting(not walls just stuff like Keith haring and early 2000s comics), fashion, design, and stuff like that I’m not really into anything sporty. I sound entitled probably but I’m 20 so makes sense ig.
Location: Pennsylvania
So like the title says my boyfriend‘s company is in refurbishing products mostly electronics. They get DVD players, computers, phones, laptops etc basically anything electronic. My boyfriend works in the section that has these products tested before they’re sent out now his boss has gotten rid of that section and multiple visit. Coworkers are now lying to customers complaining about broken products things not working and just sliding it underneath the rug. They’ve been a very sketchy company from the beginning everybody there is either getting stuff that doesn’t probably belong there or to them. Like slot machines that have a government property sticker on them. I’m wondering what would actually happen to this company if this information got out to like law-enforcement or if a customer reports that they’re doing something really shady with his boss get arrested? Would the coworkers that are lying to customers about these products being faulty and not working be arrested? Would my boyfriend be arrested for just working there and not saying anything?
So, my boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He’s getting restless and more upset about the fact that we don’t live together. I’m completely ready to move in with him, but financially, I’m trying to catch up and get there. We both live with our parents, and I need to save up some money before I even consider buying an apartment in his state. I’ve just completed the first three tests for my GED, and I’ll be taking my last one in August. I also need to learn to drive, but I can’t afford driving school, and I don’t have anyone qualified to teach me (mostly because my mom has a lot of anxiety and paranoia). And I need a job which I have been applying to but he doesn’t like my resume.
He’s been trying to cope with it but it’s been getting harder as every day goes by. He hates his family mostly because his mom has a narcissistic personality and controlling tendencies, I am trying to get my life in order as fast as I can but he’s just very upset with everything. We have a lot of time together coming up this summer with a vacation we’re taking this summer with his friends. I want to help him with the waiting period because our main goal is save up at least $5k-6k together and move somewhere near his work in his home state then move to a bigger city in a different state after a year. I definitely think this is possible with some things I plan after I get my license and job.
When I get my licenses I plan to buy a moped and then save up for a cheap used car and then move out with that after selling said moped. So I think I’d need roughly $17-20k to buy the car then have enough saved over to move out. If anyone has any extra advice for any of this please tell me.
TL;DR: me and my boyfriend want to move in together, but I’m not financially ready yet. I’m finishing my GED, need a job, and still have to learn to drive. He’s getting increasingly frustrated living at home (especially due to family issues), while I’m trying to catch up and save money. Our plan is to save \~$5k–$6k first, move near his job, then relocate to a bigger city later. I’m also planning to get a license, start with a moped, then eventually buy a cheap car and move out once I’ve saved around $17k–$20k.
Like they don’t want to think about where they’re gonna sleep, where they’re going to eat, when I have to eat, when they have to drink. I just want static brain and nothing else just pure static and no thinking. They don’t wanna work. They don’t wanna drive. They don’t wanna do anything with their life.
I am 20, audhd (autism and ADHD), and working on my GED’s last part which is math. I don’t wanna be picky, but I just know what I can function with what I can’t function with. I have a sensitivity to loud noises and crowds not a lot of people have been giving a lot of support for it other than well my therapist and my mom and my boyfriend. I sort of have mini panic attacks.
I don’t wanna go to college I know what college could do for me. I know what’s available, but none of it interests me at all. It never has ever since I was young. And then, as I got older and start under understanding like financial stability and everything like that, I realized I don’t wanna go to college at all mostly because none of the majors around anything interest me at all like even the things that are in my interest in life (like music, painting, drawing art in general fashion design, and things like that) I don’t really see a point in pursuing them at a college level.
Many people on Reddit, which I’m starting to realize I should never be taking advice from anybody on the Internet have suggested going into trades or joining the military. And I will hear about this over and over again that these are what are available for me and if I don’t do them, I’m shit luck but I know there’s probably something there has to be something that isn’t just I work 12 hours a day or I have to pay you to go to a school (again, which is why I don’t even wanna go to college either) to learn how to be a construction worker, a plumber or an electrician. Now that is at all appealing to me. None of it and people say just choose the job that you feel like you can just tolerate well. I have a very low tolerance for everything other than the stuff I like.
Now that I’m hearing myself type this, I do sound picky. Maybe spoiled, but I ever wanted it out of a job was someone who told me what to do I get to Ware maybe one headphone and then go about my day and nobody bother me other than people who need me to do stuff. I’m not asking for the highest raise. I’m asking for like maybe 12 bucks an hour or hell even seven. I’m not even asking for the most flattering job. I just don’t wanna face customers which is unfortunately, the majority of any job I’ve seen available for autistic people which is fast food or a janitor or “you can work at Walmart“ (I’m saying this in the most sarcastic tone) I honestly feel like I’m just asking for only these two things.
I don’t want to talk to customers or deal with customers.
Just let me wear one earbud in my ear.
Most of the time, and I don’t want to belittle people’s experiences, but as a pansexual, I find the way people talk about pansexual cis men in majority of LGBT subreddits to be deeply unsettling. It makes me feel like I should just disappear and that I’m somehow a bad person. I’ve been in relationships with women, men, trans men, non-binary individuals of all spectrums, and almost dated a trans woman. However, she had lived a life that was far more extensive than mine, so I decided to step back. While I haven’t dated everyone in the LGBTQ+ community, I’ve found a healthy and fulfilling relationship. I struggle with OCD and severe anxiety, so I’m likely overthinking things. If anyone else relates to my feelings, I appreciate your understanding and empathy. :)
Most of the time, and I don’t want to belittle people’s experiences, but as a pansexual, I find the way people talk about pansexual cis men in majority of LGBT subreddits to be deeply unsettling. It makes me feel like I should just disappear and that I’m somehow a bad person. I’ve been in relationships with women, men, trans men, non-binary individuals of all spectrums, and almost dated a trans woman. However, she had lived a life that was far more extensive than mine, so I decided to step back. While I haven’t dated everyone in the LGBTQ+ community, I’ve found a healthy and fulfilling relationship. I struggle with OCD and severe anxiety, so I’m likely overthinking things. If anyone else relates to my feelings, I appreciate your understanding and empathy. :)
Let’s say your spouse found a message from a boy sent to your son. Noting weird or Inappropriate just something innocent like “you looked cute today” and your spouse instantly interrogates him and says “if you are gonna live that filthy life then get out”