u/Zombie_Zeke

New to the sub, so please forgive me if this isn't the right place.

The title kind of sums it up, but back in January I (32M) had a massive falling out with my parents. In this falling out I decided to take a step back from family stuff since they're so entwined with the rest of my family.

To make a very, very long story short, I am the oldest of 3 boys, and have always been treated both as an afterthought and as the third parent. I spent 32 years of my life being an afterthought, an inconvenience, and a burden. I was told to my face, by my own mother, that I am secondary, and that everyone else comes before me.

In January, my mom tried to extort me for an obscene amount of money, and I hit my breaking point. I snapped at her for always treating me like I don't matter, etc. etc. etc., and that I was done. I blocked her and my dad and haven't spoken to them since.

I sent a text to our shared WhatsApp group chat saying as much, that I'm just taking a step back, and if anyone has any questions to just text me directly. After making sure the text sent and several people read it, I quietly left the group chat.

Well... it's May now. And I know it hasn't been TERRIBLY long, but nobody has reached out to me. Not a single member. Aunts, uncles, cousins, my own brothers, nobody. Am I being insane in wishing they at least TRIED to contact me to get my side of the story? To ask if I'm okay?

I guess I just feel... let down? My wife and I have talked about it a lot, and I have said in the past that I always felt less loved by the rest of my family, but damn. I want to scream and cry and throw up and make a huge scene at them at the next gathering for not giving a half of a rat's ass about me, but I know that wouldn't fix anything, if at all make things significantly worse.

I don't know, has anyone else done something similar with similar results? What did you do afterwards?

I feel kind of lost, and tired, and just... kind of dead inside. Like everything I felt growing up was confirmed by their inaction.

Before anyone asks yes I have a long-time therapist who I adore, and who has been here through this entire saga.