Hi! I'm a recent graduate of the University of South Carolina with my Master of Mass Communications degree. I am looking to gain experience with running paid ads (and social media management) for businesses. If anyone has a startup business that needs help with getting started on social media and scaling their business digitally, send me a message for more details.
Hi! I'm a recent graduate of the University of South Carolina with my Master of Mass Communications degree. I am looking to gain experience with running paid ads (and social media management) for businesses. If anyone has a startup business that needs help with getting started on social media and scaling their business digitally, send me a message for more details.
When she pisses me off and throws things up in my face that I can't get mad when people say things I don't like, I stonewall her. This is out of years of frustration trying to express my feelings only to get them shut down. I don't do that to her. I let her whine and moan about the same trivial things, but I don't tell her to get over it. I listen and don't argue back anymore. I just get quiet and let her think about it. She tries to sweep it under the rug & act as if nothing happened by saying "want to watch a movie?" "want to talk to me?" no.. she likes to ask me what's wrong to only then say the same thing. get over it. its manipulative. why ask if you're not going to change? am i wrong? we haven't talked because I'm sick of her bullshit. none of my friends experience this with their mothers. i'm walking around mad and so is she. anyways, she's been otp with her friends and acting like everything is normal. "idk if she realizes i need a ride to my appointment tomorrow." instead of her asking me for a ride knowing she can't drive, she's acting upset. you can't act mad cause i'm mad. i refuse to apologize to her so i guess we won't talk. im not sorry, she is stubborn and pompous, asf. I need some honest advice on if im wrong. i do say a basic goodbye & hello, but nothing more cause she really pushed it this time. and she's hypocritical.
Would anyone like to become pen pals? i'd like a sounding board and i can be the same thing in return. maybe it could turn into a friendship, which im also open to 😊🫶🏾 shoot me a message or leave a comment! (girls only)
Every time my mom says something that is infuriating to me, I clam up and shut down. It's a response to she and my dad dismissing my feelings all the time. The issue I have is that they get mad over trivial things, but I can't. She gets mad over stupid stuff all the time but I don't make her feel bad. "You're too old to get upset like this every time people say things you don't like or agree with." My thing is I didn't feel bad. I've been taking care of her ever since I got out of surgery, and the one freaking time I say my knee hurts, it's "you'll be okay." This is what pissed me off because it was dismissive. I have never said anything dismissive or rude while she's been moaning about every ache and pain. That hurt me because I don't like a hypocrite--family member or not. So she goes in on me, etc and I'm thinking to myself I don't care and this is why I shut down on you. Instead of apologizing for being dismissive (even though I didn't say what she specifically did wrong), she turns it around me. Sure, it is pretty immature but I don't care. I'd never dismiss my child's feelings if I hurt them unknowingly. I don't understand why parents think saying things like get over it or stop doing that is going to get the child/adult child to change. If anything, I'm going to continue doing this. She'll just have to learn how to be mindful of what she says, and maybe I'll work on it. When I've brought issues up to her, she'd get mad. If you're a parent reading this, please stop making your children feel like they can't be emotional about anything. I do not care how stressed, tired, or upset you are, don't take it out on them. Parents--how would you feel if your child told you to get over stuff or dismissed your feelings? I'm not a disrespectful or mean child, but if you constantly do the same shit, i can turn into one mean winch.
as we speak, she's gotten over it but i haven't. and im being mean on purpose as she's trying to be nice. i don't believe in sweeping things under the rug. i will not apologize and we will not speak until im ready to get over it. i don't care how bad it hurts her feelings. i won't be disrespected or have my feelings dismissed. i'll stay in my room all day. and since i need to get over stuff, she can fix her own meals the rest of the day. i will not bust my ass waiting on her hand and foot while she talks to me like that. my mom has got to be one of the most hypocritical people I know. i kind of enjoy the peace and quiet to do what i want while freezing her out. it doesn't hurt one bit.
i've noticed people have stopped talking to my mom before because she has a) talked about them b) been unapproachable c) too blunt. and its honestly a dose what she needed. she always is single because of this behavior that I've told her in the past it was not okay. she picks on this guy who likes her and i told her "how would you feel if he picked on you?" exactly. not a word but silence.
Every time my mom says something that is infuriating to me, I clam up and shut down. It's a response to she and my dad dismissing my feelings all the time. The issue I have is that they get mad over trivial things, but I can't. She gets mad about the stupidest things people have done to her and not once have I said "she's too old for that" or anything. "You're too old to get upset like this every time people say things you don't like or agree with." My thing is I didn't feel bad. I've been taking care of her ever since I got out of surgery, and the one freaking time I say my knee hurts, it's "you'll be okay." This is what pissed me off because it was dismissive. I have never said anything dismissive or rude while she's been moaning about every ache and pain. That hurt me because I don't like a hypocrite--family member or not. So she goes in on me, etc and I'm thinking to myself I don't care and this is why I shut down on you. Instead of apologizing for being dismissive (even though I didn't say what she specifically did wrong), she turns it around me. Sure, it is pretty immature but I don't care. I'd never dismiss my child's feelings if I hurt them unknowingly. I don't understand why parents think saying things like get over it or stop doing that is going to get the child/adult child to change. If anything, I'm going to continue doing this. She'll just have to learn how to be mindful of what she says, and maybe I'll work on it. When I've brought issues up to her, she'd get mad. If you're a parent reading this, please stop making your children feel like they can't be emotional about anything. I do not care how stressed, tired, or upset you are, don't take it out on the child by shutting them down. Parents--how would you feel if your child told you to get over stuff or dismissed your feelings? I'm not a disrespectful or mean child, but if you constantly do the same shit, i can turn into one mean winch.
As we speak, she's trying to talk to me like normal and I refuse to let it go under the rug. I will not be apologizing & I will stonewall my own mother. I don't care. She does this bullshit all the time. She won't let me be in my feelings about anything because of her own guilt. We will not talk until I'm ready. I'm currently in my room for the rest of the day. It sounds harsh, but she will have to make her own meals since "I need to get over stuff." I won't be disrespected and I've been working my ass off to make sure she's okay waiting on her hand and foot out of surgery.
Since I was a little girl, I've always had a fear of birds (specifically pigeons, doves, and seagulls). I one time saw a dead one (major trigger for me) and then I've been startled by them. What sends me over is lots of them near me, near my feet, flying really fast/spooking me, the hard wing flaps, and the way they move their bodies. I'm working really hard on this because I've become the laughing stock on vacation. I need to work on this. I did make progress holding a small bird in Barbados and a huge parrot in Chicago. It was hard, but those were big steps for me. What are your thoughts? I usually run away, panic, or scream when they are flying or near me. I did a little better when one flew near me in Chicago.
Since I was little girl, I struggled with addition and subtraction. I don't know if it's how my teacher taught me or if it's a real learning disability. Math can be fun, but I cannot seem to get over this hurdle. I can do basic multiplication and division, but not addition and subtraction. Is this a learning block? I can also do basic math on paper, but not in my head. I've always made A's and B's in my math classes which doesn't make sense to me. Students would ask me for help which was also shocking?? 🤷🏾♀️
I don't know if this also ties into struggling with counting money and remembering highways (odd versus even). My parents can be hard on me with basic math but I think it's because they had no choice but to master it because they didn't have calculators or phones to tell them the answer. My dad even got mad at me for needing help with math... I think it's because he didn't know how to do it. I'd never do that to my child. If they need help, I'd get them tutoring or try my very best to teach them. Some parents must stop thinking all children are born the same. What could be easy for one child, could be hard for another. Funny how my Dad argued with me that India was not apart of Asia, but I got my Master's degree. Go figure! 🤔
Are there any recommendations for math websites or things you'd find helpful. I want to get better at math as it can be vital, but fun skill to have.
In my youth, people would stare at me. It caused a lot of social anxiety for me because they made me feel like I was an alien/different even though i'm a regular girl. I would even get ostracized or excluded from things for no reason. I would get a few mean things said to me, but never bullied. I was never picked on for my appearance. It led me to getting mad when i'd see girls and guys staring at me without saying anything. It makes me anxious because I don't know what they are thinking. In my mind I'm thinking they're either being judgmental, interested romantically, or insecure. How can I work on this? My coworkers do the same thing and it makes me self-conscious. Like "take a picture" 🤷🏾♀️🤣 as if you don't see me everyday lol. One of the girls does this at my job and I would think "is she gay?" It's rude and I used to call people out on it. Guys I assumed its because they were interested romantically or I remind them of someone. Girls, it could be for any reason I feel (competition, gay, or want to be friends). I'm a girl, btw. It still makes me anxious when I go into the store and I will sense one person staring or a group of people and I'm think what the hell are you staring at lmao?
I get very anxious when I run into people from the past especially if we weren't close. It could be someone from an old job, high school, etc but I always feel this sense of I should speak first. Why? How can I accept that I don't have to say hello to them if I don't want to?
Hi everyone! I’d love some advice as I transition into marketing.
I have an undergrad degree in political science and I'll have my Master of Mass Communications this Friday 🎉. I did have some exposure to marketing during undergrad, but it was a while ago and I don’t really remember specific metrics or results from those campaigns. Right now I work in a legal setting, but I’ve started pivoting by earning certifications in SEO, graphic design (Canva), and Google Display Ads. From what I’ve seen, these seem like the most common certs—am I missing any that would really make a difference?
I do have an internship lined up for this summer, and I also help with a nonprofit, but I don’t want to wait to build more hands-on experience. I’m thinking about creating a website for the nonprofit to apply what I’ve learned (SEO, content, design, etc.) and use that as a resume and portfolio piece. Would it be better to focus on a general project like that, or create a passion project tailored to a specific company/industry I want to work for?
Also, when it comes to building a portfolio—should I include everything I’ve done so far, or focus more on recent work with measurable results (especially after I complete my internship)?
If you want to see my LinkedIn and/or resume, please message me privately.
Would really appreciate any thoughts or guidance!
Hi everyone! I’d love some advice as I transition into marketing.
I have an undergrad degree in political science and I'll have my Master of Mass Communications this Friday 🎉. I did have some exposure to marketing during undergrad, but it was a while ago and I don’t really remember specific metrics or results from those campaigns. Right now I work in a legal setting, but I’ve started pivoting by earning certifications in SEO, graphic design (Canva), and Google Display Ads. From what I’ve seen, these seem like the most common certs—am I missing any that would really make a difference?
I do have an internship lined up for this summer, and I also help with a nonprofit, but I don’t want to wait to build more hands-on experience. I’m thinking about creating a website for the nonprofit to apply what I’ve learned (SEO, content, design, etc.) and use that as a resume and portfolio piece. Would it be better to focus on a general project like that, or create a passion project tailored to a specific company/industry I want to work for?
Also, when it comes to building a portfolio—should I include everything I’ve done so far, or focus more on recent work with measurable results (especially after I complete my internship)?
If you want to see my LinkedIn and/or resume, please message me privately.
Would really appreciate any thoughts or guidance!
I'm finding that I need to stop telling my mom everything. It's just she and I, so she created this relationship where she likes to know everything because she's an anxious, overbearing person. I told her about this new script that I got, I was excited to use it, and she instantly tells me it's not good. This is because she's had a negative experience and a point to convince me I'll have the
same reaction. I get she's trying to help, but when she's passionate about helping, it comes off like she's talking at me. "Your doctor is lazy. I did xyz to get approved for it. Trust me. Just like how I helped you out with xyz, it worked. I know what I'm talking about. It made my mouth dry, it made me feel like I had lockjaw, and I only lost a couple of lbs." I think it's quite foolish for my mom to think her testimonial alone should have that much influence over what I choose to do. Her thinking is fear-based because she doesn't want me to make the same mistakes she made.
I get quiet because I'm thinking two things:
• Why is she trying to have such an influence on what I choose to take?
• Why did she add the unecessary comments?
• Why couldn't she say she feels different about it, but she respects my decision?
Someone please give me a way to stop telling my mom things and then when she gives an unsolicited opinion or blunt, harsh advice, I get upset. It needs to be subtle where she doesn't know I'm not letting her in on anything. I also need to create space from her and be in my room more. She's not going to change & neither am I. It will be like this until I move out which will be healthy.
I'm finding that I need to stop telling my mom everything. It's just she and I, so she created this relationship where she likes to know everything because she's an anxious, overbearing person. I told her about this new script that I got, I was excited to use it, and she instantly tells me it's not good. This is because she's had a negative experience and a point to convince me I'll have the
same reaction. I get she's trying to help, but when she's passionate about helping, it comes off like she's talking at me. "Your doctor is lazy. I did xyz to get approved for it. Trust me. Just like how I helped you out with xyz, it worked. I know what I'm talking about. It made my mouth dry, it made me feel like I had lockjaw, and I only lost a couple of lbs." I think it's quite foolish for my mom to think her testimonial alone should have that much influence over what I choose to do. Her thinking is fear-based because she doesn't want me to make the same mistakes she made.
I get quiet because I'm thinking three things:
• Why is she trying to have such an influence on what I choose to take at 26 years old?
• Why did she add the unecessary comments?
• Why couldn't she say she feels different about it, but she respects my decision?
Someone please give me a way to stop telling my mom things and then when she gives an unsolicited opinion or blunt, harsh advice, I get upset. It needs to be subtle where she doesn't know I'm not letting her in on anything anymore. I also need to create space from her and be in my room more. She's not going to change & neither am I. It will be like this until I move out which will be healthy.
I'm finding that I need to stop telling my mom everything. It's just she and I, so she created this relationship where she likes to know everything because she's an anxious, overbearing person. I told her about this new script that I got, I was excited to use it, and she instantly tells me it's not good. This is because she's had a negative experience and made a point to convince me I'll have the same reaction. I get she's trying to help, but when she's passionate about helping, it comes off like she's talking at me. "Your doctor is lazy. I did xyz to get approved for it. Trust me. Just like how I helped you out with xyz, it worked. I know what I'm talking about. It made my mouth dry, it made me feel like I had lockjaw, and I only lost a couple of lbs." I think it's quite foolish for my mom to think her testimonial alone should have that much influence over what I choose to do. Her thinking is fear-based because she doesn't want me to make the same mistakes she made.
I get quiet because I'm thinking three things:
• Why is she trying to have such an influence on what I choose to take at 26 years old?
• Why did she add the unecessary comments?
• Why couldn't she say she feels different about it, but she respects my decision?
Someone please give me a way to stop telling my mom things and then when she gives an unsolicited opinion or blunt, harsh advice, I get upset. It needs to be subtle where she doesn't know I'm not letting her in on anything. I also need to create space from her and be in my room more. She's not going to change & neither am I. It will be like this until I move out which will be healthy.
I call my mom with good news regarding school. She asks me a specific question, and I answer it. Her response is, "Okay, not bad. When I asked you in the past, you jumped down my throat." My response is defensive because I'm thinking "what the hell are you talking about?" I then say, "Huh? What attitude in the past are you talking about?..." Her response is "You kinda had an attitude when I asked. You "put me in check." So I'm looking at the phone thinking yeah, you ruined my mood bringing up something old. I don't even recall having an attitude, but apparently it bothered her. After I got quiet because I was annoyed and borderline mad, she proceeded to change the subject and move on to something else positive. She ended the convo saying she was happy for me. But part of me wanted her to know that unnecessary ass comment really has me wanting to get the hell away from her. I don't know if this is guilt, it's not a big deal to her what she said, or she's hoping I'm going to apologize. Let me offer some context here:
- My mom grew up with siblings so she is okay with voicing anything that hurt her feelings by making you aware.
- I'm an only child who used to have no conflict-resolution skills. I sometimes resort to the silent treatment to keep from doing low blows if I feel like there was injustice and the person is fowl. I also hold stuff in and don't like fights. I instantly regret it after I get frustrated and snap.
- Anytime I've let her know I didn't appreciate something she did, she'd get immediately defensive. But later on, she'd stop doing the thing I asked or confronted her about. The only sound advice she's given me about my silent treatments is that "People are going to hurt my feelings. I cannot get in my feelings every time people say things I don't like. My parents would beat me if I confronted them about things like this."
- I also have a bad habit of pondering on something that hurt my feelings. I sit, think about it, and research solutions. I think it's because I'm hoping the person will stop their behavior. Sometimes I forget that I hurt people's feelings and they forgive me. But when someone hurts my feelings, I give them a petty silent treatment and avoid them until I'm ready to get over it.
How can I let this stuff go? I have an ego that needs to be checked. I take some jokes as personal attacks, constructive criticism at home as sheer criticism, instantly don't like a person for the moment if they've pissed me off.
PS: I live at home & my mom grew up in the 60's. She does not tolerate me or for that matter anyone confronting her about something she did wrong. She was in an abusive (physical, mental, and emotional) marriage to my dad for 20 years, so I think she's become outspoken to any inkling of injustice. I can only change myself, not her. I will be trying to move out end of this year or next year at the latest. I need some advice on how to cope and not spiral when I'm triggered by being falsely accused or spoken to in a mean tone.
I call my mom with good news regarding school. She asks me a specific question, and I answer it. Her response is, "Okay, not bad. When I asked you in the past, you jumped down my throat." My response is defensive because I'm thinking "what the hell are you talking about?" I then say, "Huh? What attitude in the past are you talking about?..." Her response is "You kinda had an attitude when I asked. You "put me in check." So I'm looking at the phone thinking yeah, you ruined my mood bringing up something old. I don't even recall having an attitude, but apparently it bothered her. After I got quiet because I was annoyed and borderline mad, she proceeded to change the subject and move on to something else positive. She ended the convo saying she was happy for me. But part of me wanted her to know that unnecessary ass comment really has me wanting to get the hell away from her. I don't know if this is guilt, it's not a big deal to her what she said, or she's hoping I'm going to apologize. Let me offer some context here:
- My mom grew up with siblings so she is okay with voicing anything that hurt her feelings by making you aware.
- I'm an only child who used to have no conflict-resolution skills. I sometimes resort to the silent treatment to keep from doing low blows if I feel like there was injustice and the person is fowl. I also hold stuff in and don't like fights. I instantly regret it after I get frustrated and snap.
- Anytime I've let her know I didn't appreciate something she did, she'd get immediately defensive. But later on, she'd stop doing the thing I asked or confronted her about. The only sound advice she's given me about my silent treatments is that "People are going to hurt my feelings. I cannot get in my feelings every time people say things I don't like. My parents would beat me if I confronted them about things like this."
- I also have a bad habit of pondering on something that hurt my feelings. I sit, think about it, and research solutions. I think it's because I'm hoping the person will stop their behavior. Sometimes I forget that I hurt people's feelings and they forgive me. But when someone hurts my feelings, I give them a petty silent treatment and avoid them until I'm ready to get over it.
How can I let this stuff go? I have an ego that needs to be checked. I take some jokes as personal attacks, constructive criticism at home as sheer criticism, instantly don't like a person for the moment if they've pissed me off.
PS: I live at home & my mom grew up in the 60's. She does not tolerate me or for that matter anyone confronting her about something she did wrong. She was in an abusive (physical, mental, and emotional) marriage to my dad for 20 years, so I think she's become outspoken to any inkling of injustice. I can only change myself, not her. I will be trying to move out end of this year or next year at the latest. I need some advice on how to cope and not spiral when I'm triggered by being falsely accused or spoken to in a mean tone.
I call my mom with good news regarding school. She asks me a specific question, and I answer it. Her response is, "Okay, not bad. When I asked you in the past, you jumped down my throat." My response is defensive because I'm thinking "what the hell are you talking about?" I then say, "Huh? What attitude in the past are you talking about?..." Her response is "You kinda had an attitude when I asked. You "put me in check." So I'm looking at the phone thinking yeah, you ruined my mood bringing up something old. I don't even recall having an attitude, but apparently it bothered her. Afterwards, I got quiet because I was annoyed, borderline mad, she then proceeds to change the subject and moves on to something else. I don't know if this is guilt, it's not a big deal to her what she said, or she's hoping I'm going to apologize. Let me offer some context here:
- My mom grew up with siblings so she is okay with voicing anything that hurt her feelings by making you aware.
- I'm an only child who used to have no conflict-resolution skills. I sometimes resort to the silent treatment to keep from doing low blows if I feel like there was injustice and the person is fowl. I also hold stuff in and don't like fights. I instantly regret it after I get frustrated and snap.
- Anytime I've let her know I didn't appreciate something she did, she'd get immediately defensive. But later on, she'd stop doing the thing I asked or confronted her about. The only sound advice she's given me about my silent treatments is that "People are going to hurt my feelings. I cannot get in my feelings every time people say things I don't like. My parents would beat me if I confronted them about things like this."
- I also have a bad habit of pondering on something that hurt my feelings. I sit, think about it, and research solutions. I think it's because I'm hoping the person will stop their behavior. Sometimes I forget that I hurt people's feelings and they forgive me. But when someone hurts my feelings, I give them a petty silent treatment and avoid them until I'm ready to get over it.
How can I let this stuff go? I have an ego that needs to be checked. I take some jokes as personal attacks, constructive criticism at home as sheer criticism, instantly don't like a person for the moment if they've pissed me off.
PS: I live at home & my mom grew up in the 60's. She does not tolerate me or for that matter anyone confronting her about something she did wrong. She was in an abusive (physical, mental, and emotional) marriage to my dad for 20 years, so I think she's become outspoken to any inkling of injustice. I can only change myself, not her. I will be trying to move out end of this year or next year at the latest. I need some advice on how to cope and not spiral when I'm triggered by being falsely accused or spoken to in a mean tone.