u/curliestmenace

This is not an invitation to fight me ah - oo alam ko our recruitment team isn’t the best.
I am an internal employee that knows enough BUT will not share anything confidential.

Currently earning 70k gross or 50k net at my current role + taxable 13th month.
Recently landed a 90k net job but no 13th month (no deductions)
Both WFH with HMO

I know he means well, nasasayangan daw sya kasi magaling naman ako, I should’ve pushed for 100k daw - and I did kaso ang offer sakin was 80k and I just managed to push it to 90k - been job hunting din for 3 months and mostly nasa 50-80k range lang, Business Development btw outsourcing space. Kahit na OA sakin yung 100k and feel ko d ko deserve at my skill level, I really tried looking.

I was so happy when I got the offer, super excited din ako sa role kasi potential for growth sya since medyo start up, I can manage my own team in the future, I will have the tools that I need. Sa current ko I’ve been slow rotting for 2 years - I haven’t been growing and been undervalued, naging unfair yung environment, siguro kaya I shrunk din?

At this point, yes I will work hard on that new role pero I don’t think I’m worth 100k net YET, ang ayaw ko mag over promise and under deliver - I’d rather accept the pay now, build a process then re-nego after 6 months.

My fiance earns 280k net per month plus 13th month, siguro kaya ang liit ng amount sakanya.

Ngayon nag seself doubt ako lalo, I know he was just trying to say I can earn more with what I can do pero parang baliktad nanyari, parang I cannot do anything right. Nasa isip ko tuloy, lagi ba akong mag chichase sa higher number? D ba pwedeng I’m just a “wife” who earns her own money and contributes what she can? I contribute naman, I pay the water (500) and electricity (5-7,000), sya sa rent and nagshishare din ako sa food around 3-5k monthly, if you look at my net right now that’s a huge chunk out of my 50k net. Pero sakanya insignificant yung amount kasi nga naman 280k net nya.

Nakakapagod makipag sabayan sa masyado nang mataas. I love him pero minsan d ko sya maabot. Yung small victories ko d nya narerecognize. And no ayaw ko naman maging housewife, but I want him proud, genuinely proud and thankful na hindi ko inaasa sakanya lahat.

I told him about how I’m feeling pero light lang, proud naman daw sya. But idk d nako motivated for the new role feeling ko it was a bad deal.

Will be in Iloilo for 5 days.
Thinking of renting a car for our Gigantes Day but the rest, motorcycle - pero baka mas ok ang car? What are your thoughts here po? Madali po ba mag park around the city? We will be full blown tourists.
Licensed drivers, 2 pax.

Cleaner sya pero sa garden lang, taga maintain and taga dispose ng garbage sa tapunan.

This happened 3 nights ago.
Buti gising pa ako around 12:00 AM, may narinig kasi akong sound ng crash sa tapat.
I quickly checked the CCTV kasi that night, pinark namin sa harap ng house yung car kasi nag karga kami ng gamit in preparation for a road trip ng 3 AM. To my horror, ayun nakita ko may dalawang nakamotor tinitignan kotse. I quickly called them ng mahinahon para alam nilang may nakakita and makapag usap. Ginising ko partner ko. Ending tumakas sila, pero nakita ng partner ko which way they went. We followed them on foot kasi mukhang local, walang helmet eh.

While walking nakita namin sila, inspecting their motorcycle also. Then nung nakita kami, pinatay nila flashlights nila. Pero lumapit kami then asked bakit kami tinakbuhan. Fairly new lang kami sa area, d namin sila kilala din. Hinanap namin kung sino nakabangga, nahiga daw. Pinalabas nila, ayun duguan, minor, lasing, no license. Unang words na sinabi nya “wala akong pambayad” d manlang nag sorry. Kaya nag decide kami na ipabarangay nalang kasi d maayos kausap eh. D namin kilala yung bata.

Then the next day, plan na sama namin magpabrangay, d na tumuloy sa road trip. Then may nag doorbell.
Si Kuya S, yung nag lilinis samin every morning. Nagulat kami, anak nya pala yung nakabangga. Akala kasi namin puro babae anak nya kasi palaging pambabae na damit binibigay ko. Since nalaman namin na anak ni kuya S, sabi namin d nalang magpapabarangay and bayad nalang kung hanggang san kaya. Nag agree naman.

The next day dinala na namin sa auto detailing. 6k ang damage. Kahit 3k lang sana, d naman kami nagmamadali and yung bata sa construction daw working, dun nya sana kukunin. The day ended d namin nasabi magkano and planning to tell the next morning.

This morning, we got the news - inatake daw si Kuya S, wala na sya.
Sabi ng kakilala namin pasaway daw talaga mga anak, nastress na daw siguro.

Part of me sobrang guilty kasi feeling ko if sana sa loob namin pinark yung car after namin magload, baka d nabangga - though d naman kami nakaharang kasi may provision talaga kami ng parking sa front na d part ng road - pero usually kasi nasa loob sya ng garage.

Or kung sana d namin hinabol nalang? Kung d ko ginising partner ko? Edi d namin malalamn kung sino - 6k lang naman eh.

Or kung siguro nasabi namin agad kung magkano damage, baka akala nya kasi sobrang mahal kaya nastress.

Alam ko d namin fault pero d ko maiwasan. Nalulungkot ako kasi I liked kuya S, mabait, masipag and someone we trust. Naiinis ako sa anak nya. Pero again parang ang dami namin nagawa sana to avoid this.

Meron na ba dito? Ako kasi I can last a month without doing anything sexual and my partner on the other hand, gusto everyday. He doesn’t force me naman and he handles cooking everyday so no question about him not helping me sa chores.

I feel bad kasi I wanna increase my libido. Thinking of taking supplements like yung Maca root.

Was talking to a friend, nagulat sya nung nalaman nya na d ako naglalaba ng underwear sa shower and parang diring diri sya.

I saw my cousins do this also when I was a kid but not a fan of may mga naka sabit na underwear sa shower everyday.

Wala lang, may washing machine and dryer naman din kasi sa house and even before na washing machine lang ang meron, ayaw ko talaga naglalaba ng panty kasi diba mas moldy sa CR? Or am I trusting detergents too much? Parang ang baboy lang ng laging may panty naka sabit and costly naman if I run the dryer every day.

Edit: Follow up question out of curiosity - I wonder if ginagawa din to sa ibang bansa? Feel ko kasi syempre a lot of us got accustomed in doing things a certain way to the point na we feel “unclean” if we stopped doing it, ang guess ko ay lack of washing machine ng mga lolos and lolas so this is what they thought us na.

I have girl friends since college and we met since year 2014 na. We don’t see each other often kasi yung iba malayo na and may iba ng priorities since may kids na yung iba. Wala na din ako ibang naging friends masyado kasi I’ve been working home since and lumipat kami sa Cavite.

My fiance and I live together and have our own cars, pero yung sakin kasi beater lang since it’s my first car pero I use it when I have to drive to Manila or around dito sa province, his car naman is newer, we use it pag longer trips or kapag lakad nya and need ng nicer vehicle. Anyway he always told me I could borrow it, so I did and quickly regretted it.

To cut the story short, ginamit namin sya ng girls pang road trip, it was long din - 3 days kami nawala, 4-5 hour drive one way. Mga 1 month prior the trip ako nagpaalam.

He started on hating on my friends nung nagpahatid pa sila sa Pasig which led me to EDSA, kasi daw d daw ako nakabalik agad ng skyway to Cavite - ok lang naman sakin cause I offered, also ambagan kasi sa gas. Isang drop off lang naman. Tyaka masaya sila kasama. His hate towards my friends started there, d daw naawa sakin. Ni hindi ako makapag kwento how much fun I had kasi grabe yung inis nya. Pag nagkikwento ako, parang uninterested sya and it’s sad kasi they played a huge part in my life. Sabi nya I have bad taste in friends daw (may history with schizophrenic yung bestfriend ko before) Pinaintindi ko naman sakanya na my friends don’t have cars so wala din awareness kung malayo ba to or what. Ako din wala kasi I really just follow Waze. Basta mahalaga sakin ambagan kami sa gas. I did tell them na medyo upset si fiance and I told them why and they realized he was right naman and apologized and said next time daw, somewhere more convenient nalang.

They left the car malinis naman, walang basura, though may dust bc of foot prints. I got home siguro mga 10 PM na, d na kaya ipacarwash so next day nalang. Also pinafull tank ko car nya, eh mga 1/4 nalang to nung nahandover sakin so actually may bonus gas sya. Nag lambing din ako nung paguwi kaso wala sya gana bc of what happened.

The next day we had errands together, plan ko was to wash the car post gym kaso sinamahan ko sya sa errands nya, sabi nya kahit sa after nalang daw. Nung pauwi na kami I reminded him na pacarwash kami and shoulder ko, sabi nya wag na muna daw. Come today, reklamo ng reklamo na maalikabok yung car. Tapos nag kwento ako about my friends taking a vid with the window open kasi maganda yung sunset nun, sabi nya “edi bukas sara yung window?!” Dito nako nainis, lahat nalang. Jusko malamang, bintana nga. Diba yun naman function nun tyaka saglit lang naman. Sya din naman nag roroll ng windows down. Parang sana nag rent nalang kami ng ibang car.

Hay basta he hates my friends and pota d ko na yan hihiramin ulit. D ka na sana nagpahiram dami ko satsat. I feel ungrateful pero if you didn’t want us to borrow edi sana you just said so? Sus. He’s done this several times, say yes to something then make me feel bad after. Ako ba yung gago kasi ako na pinahiram pero ako pa ungrateful?

Edit:
Some examples:
Make me choose food, if he hates it the trip
Is ruined.
Say yes to a family event, after the event he would complain na palagi nalang family ko eh kasalanan ko ba na wala silang ganap sa side nila?
Make me pick the hotel, then proceeds to be miserable pag may slight inconvenience. Hay

Never again sa Watsons na 600 ang markup. Jusq
Been buying here since 2021 - and compared it to one I purchased in AU. Ingat sa fake na super mura.