u/disillusionedmatcha

hi guys. like the title, i dont know what i want to become anymore. I'm currently an incoming freshman @ my instate public university, so i guess it might be too early for me to decide. However, I am a chemistry major so if I dont do dental school wouldn't changing majors and everything be complicated. I saw this girl being an actuary and I was influenced but then i remembered im absolute shit at math.

I'm looking for job recommendations that can't be replaced by AI, lets me take big breaks (1-2 months) for vacation, good pay.

If the job is all of the above i am willing to put in work for it, but as of rn i feel like dental school, residency is a lot of time before i actually start making good money. right now im 18, by the time im making good money im alr 30+ or smth. and not to mention the amount of debt/loans.

for background info im the oldest daughter of an asian immigrant household, my brother is only 5 so that being said my parents still have a long way to go before they can acctually retire. We have a restaurant but it hasnt been doing well since we opened. they work 11 or 12 hour shifts 5 days a week, i just want to retire them as soon as possible, it hurts my heart and head seeing them working so hard for such little money.

any advice truly helps, thank you so much.

plz. i need to see how much everyone's paying. apprently my net cost is not acc what i pay? im so confused. i had this wonderful sophomore help me out but i wanna see everyone elses. thank you so much!

so i got into a car accidnet, i was 100% at fault, when the accident happened i was 17. Was just wondering if anyone can give me an estimate of how much my familys insurance will go up by as my parents aren't telling me. Guys what do i do ive been so anxious everyday over money its always money money in this world my anxiety is so bad i usualy sleep at 4 am and wake up at 7 am.

Hi guys, i wanna know if my current net cost of $15k per year is normal. i only have hope, full pel, and reach these came to a total of $19,075. Can i appeal this even more im also going to take out the $5500 loans

none of us are in honors, we didn't complete the LLC, I dont know what the problem is.

I email the housing department all they said is wait. dog i cannot wait rn I'm literally leaving for vacation in a week wtf

i went this opposite route of my destination yesterday to pick up up this friend and i got into a car accident. i rlly need help figuring out my emotions and i can’t tell my mom bc she would kill me bc she told me to not pick anyone up. I know it’s so selfish of me bc i keep on thinking oh it’s fine but now it’s at her expense. the friend i was supposed to pick up low-key just acts like nothing happened. but i can’t help but feel disgusted when im around her. i know something is wrong w me for this but i jus can’t. i don’t want her to touch me and i don’t want to make eye contact w her

. i’ve given her so many rides atleats 50, most of the time it’s out of my way too but i still decided to give her one. everytime i go pick her up i would call her before i leave my house saying im on the way, and she says she’s ready yet when i arrive at her house suddenly she can’t find her shoes or something else.

the day after the incident she also made this insensitive joke about me being immature. (btw i didn’t talk abt how i felt abt the car accident yet, bc i know me unconsciously blaming her is immature) Basicxqlly i called someone mature and she put her hand on my shoulder and said “oh you wouldn’t know a thing about being mature” jus to make it worse thinking i didn’t hear her the first time, she repeated it. I confronted her saying that made me rlly mad but she just played it off saying we always joke like that. bitch shut up i don’t say shitty jokes like tha about you. and isn’t there a time and place for everything? i just got into an accident that you were lowkey a factor of and you’re jus being so fucking inconsiderate of what’s going on in my fucking house and mind. i’m being billed $11k while this bitch acting like nothing happened. i’m sorry but if she ask me for a ride ever again im gonna crash the fuck out.

ok sorry kinda went off there but i’m rlly angry im gonn calm myself down. AGAIN I ACKONWLEDGE THE CAR ACCIDENT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER AND ACCIDENT/JOKE R 2 DIFF THINGS

hi parents, so i went this opposite route of my destination yesterday to pick up up this friend and i got into a car accident. i rlly need help figuring out my emotions and i can’t tell my mom bc she would kill me bc she told me to not pick anyone up. I know it’s so selfish of me bc i keep on thinking oh it’s fine but now it’s at her expense. the friend i was supposed to pick up low-key just acts like nothing happened. but i can’t help but feel disgusted when im around her. i know something is wrong w me for this but i jus can’t. i don’t want her to touch me and i don’t want to make eye contact w her

. i’ve given her so many rides atleats 50, most of the time it’s out of my way too but i still decided to give her one. everytime i go pick her up i would call her before i leave my house saying im on the way, and she says she’s ready yet when i arrive at her house suddenly she can’t find her shoes or something else.

the day after the incident she also made this insensitive joke about me being immature. (btw i didn’t talk abt how i felt abt the car accident yet, bc i know me unconsciously blaming her is immature) Basicxqlly i called someone mature and she put her hand on my shoulder and said “oh you wouldn’t know a thing about being mature” jus to make it worse thinking i didn’t hear her the first time, she repeated it. I confronted her saying that made me rlly mad but she just played it off saying we always joke like that. bitch shut up i don’t say shitty jokes like tha about you. and isn’t there a time and place for everything? i just got into an accident that you were lowkey a factor of and you’re jus being so fucking inconsiderate of what’s going on in my fucking house and mind. i’m being billed $11k while this bitch acting like nothing happened. i’m sorry but if she ask me for a ride ever again im gonna crash the fuck out.

ok sorry kinda went off there but i’m rlly angry im gonn calm myself down. AGAIN I ACKONWLEDGE THE CAR ACCIDENT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER AND ACCIDENT/JOKE R 2 DIFF THINGS

ok i think most of yall r prob tired of me and this whole car accident thing so if you’ve seen my posts before, and you’re tired of me plz js close this post lol.

ok so for context my trio was going to starbucks to study. plan A was for 🍀 to pick up 💗. but 🍀 kept on sleeping in and going later so i’ve started picking up 💗 because she asked me to. so it was normal day whatever and i got into a car accident which is 100% my fault im not blaming 💗. but right now 🍀 is expressing to me that she feels really bad bc she feels like if she didn’t choose to sleep in and pick 💗 up this week then my accident wouldn’t have happened. where on the other hand 💗 is acting like nothing happened. just for context btw when i pick up 💗 i go the opposite direction of our destination so i feel like it would be more reasonable for 💗 to feel bad than 🍀 but yea it’s whatever im never giving 💗 a ride ever again, not bc of the car accident which but bc of many other factors that has led me to this decision.

ok i think most of yall r prob tired of me and this whole car accident thing so if you’ve seen my posts before, and you’re tired of me plz js close this post lol.

ok so for context my trio was going to starbucks to study. plan A was for 🍀 to pick up 💗. but 🍀 kept on sleeping in and going later so i’ve started picking up 💗 because she asked me to. so it was normal day whatever and i got into a car accident which is 100% my fault im not blaming 💗. but right now 🍀 is expressing to me that she feels really bad bc she feels like if she didn’t choose to sleep in and pick 💗 up this week then my accident wouldn’t have happened. where on the other hand 💗 is acting like nothing happened. just for context btw when i pick up 💗 i go the opposite direction of our destination so i feel like it would be more reasonable for 💗 to feel bad than 🍀 but yea it’s whatever im never giving 💗 a ride ever again, not bc of the car accident which but bc of many other factors that has led me to this decision.

hi guys before I start on the actual story, I just want to give you guys some context of what’s been happening during these few past days

so yesterday I got into a car accident on the way to pick up my friend. the total loss came out to be about $11k. (10k for insurance spike next yr) It was my fault and I 100% acknowledge that it was my fault but right now I cannot help it but feel resentful and disgusted towards my friend. like I don’t want her to touch me and I avoid making eye contact with her but like I said I’m self-aware and I’m trying to fix it.

so today we were all hanging out in a friend group me, this friend and a few other friends. Everything was going well and I was having lots of fun. I even started to accept myself and stopped feeling disgusted towards this person until she made this insensitive joke.
basically, I called this other person mature and she just had the urge to come up to me put her shoulder on me and say oh you wouldn’t know a thing about maturity. just to make it worse she said it again thinking that I didn’t hear her the first time

i’m not saying that I can’t take this sense of humor. I just feel like this is something that’s really out of bounds and when I tell you guys, it really shattered my heart in half. we usually joke like this I don’t care but I feel like maybe it’s because the car accident my heart is so sensitive these days

I always pick this friend up whenever she needs me to I think ever since I got my license. I probably have given her a ride 100 times at least. another thing is she’s a person that’s really slow and always needs me to wait on her so every time I arrive at her house, she takes on average 2 to 3 minutes for me to just wait there even though when I called her she said she’s ready and when I arrive at the house, she says she can’t find her shoes. but that’s another thing for me to talk to her about because it’s been happening a lot and I feel like I need to talk to her abt it (there’s no point now because I’m never picking up anyone again, especially her)

i’ve also seen a reoccurring trend where she favors this other friend in our trio. for example, she would call the other friend and be lovey dovey with her, but she would never call me unless she needed me for a ride or to hang out because she’s bored. there are many other stuff that happened that has led me to this conclusion and I promise you guys I’m not making this up. I’m not delusional. I told the other friend about this and the other friend has also been seeing this and told me that she sees what I’m saying.

she has also told other hurtful jokes, such as saying that I’m all bark and no bites even though I hate being called that because when my lunch table was getting bashed by this one girl in the cafeteria, I was the only one that came out and stood up for my group when everyone else was just talking shit behind and not saying a word out

i’ve been friends with this person for more than six years and I don’t know because I’m also going to college with them. right now I’m so done. I don’t know.

again, if you decide that I’m in the wrong or she’s in the wrong please give me reasons so I can see and improve because I know that I need therapy, but I haven’t been able to get it which I’m really sad about

hi guys before I start on the actual story, I just want to give you guys some context of what’s been happening during these few past days

so yesterday I got into a car accident on the way to pick up my friend. the total loss came out to be about $11k. (10k for insurance spike next yr) It was my fault and I 100% acknowledge that it was my fault but right now I cannot help it but feel resentful and disgusted towards my friend. like I don’t want her to touch me and I avoid making eye contact with her but like I said I’m self-aware and I’m trying to fix it.

so today we were all hanging out in a friend group me, this friend and a few other friends. Everything was going well and I was having lots of fun. I even started to accept myself and stopped feeling disgusted towards this person until she made this insensitive joke.
basically, I called this other person mature and she just had the urge to come up to me put her shoulder on me and say oh you wouldn’t know a thing about maturity. just to make it worse she said it again thinking that I didn’t hear her the first time

i’m not saying that I can’t take this sense of humor. I just feel like this is something that’s really out of bounds and when I tell you guys, it really shattered my heart in half. we usually joke like this I don’t care but I feel like maybe it’s because the car accident my heart is so sensitive these days

I always pick this friend up whenever she needs me to I think ever since I got my license. I probably have given her a ride 100 times at least. another thing is she’s a person that’s really slow and always needs me to wait on her so every time I arrive at her house, she takes on average 2 to 3 minutes for me to just wait there even though when I called her she said she’s ready and when I arrive at the house, she says she can’t find her shoes. but that’s another thing for me to talk to her about because it’s been happening a lot and I feel like I need to talk to her abt it (there’s no point now because I’m never picking up anyone again, especially her)

i’ve also seen a reoccurring trend where she favors this other friend in our trio. for example, she would call the other friend and be lovey dovey with her, but she would never call me unless she needed me for a ride or to hang out because she’s bored. there are many other stuff that happened that has led me to this conclusion and I promise you guys I’m not making this up. I’m not delusional. I told the other friend about this and the other friend has also been seeing this and told me that she sees what I’m saying.

i’ve been friends with this person for more than six years and I don’t know because I’m also going to college with them. right now I’m so done. I don’t know.

again, if you decide that I’m in the wrong or she’s in the wrong please give me reasons so I can see and improve because I know that I need therapy, but I haven’t been able to get it which I’m really sad about

hi guys before I start on the actual story, I just want to give you guys some context of what’s been happening during these few past days

so yesterday I got into a car accident on the way to pick up my friend. the total loss came out to be about $11k. (10k for insurance spike next yr) It was my fault and I 100% acknowledge that it was my fault but right now I cannot help it but feel resentful and disgusted towards my friend. like I don’t want her to touch me and I avoid making eye contact with her but like I said I’m self-aware and I’m trying to fix it.

so today we were all hanging out in a friend group me, this friend and a few other friends. Everything was going well and I was having lots of fun. I even started to accept myself and stopped feeling disgusted towards this person until she made this insensitive joke.
basically, I called this other person mature and she just had the urge to come up to me put her shoulder on me and say oh you wouldn’t know a thing about maturity. just to make it worse she said it again thinking that I didn’t hear her the first time

i’m not saying that I can’t take this sense of humor. I just feel like this is something that’s really out of bounds and when I tell you guys, it really shattered my heart in half. we usually joke like this I don’t care but I feel like maybe it’s because the car accident my heart is so sensitive these days

I always pick this friend up whenever she needs me to I think ever since I got my license. I probably have given her a ride 100 times at least. another thing is she’s a person that’s really slow and always needs me to wait on her so every time I arrive at her house, she takes on average 2 to 3 minutes for me to just wait there even though when I called her she said she’s ready and when I arrive at the house, she says she can’t find her shoes. but that’s another thing for me to talk to her about because it’s been happening a lot and I feel like I need to talk to her abt it (there’s no point now because I’m never picking up anyone again, especially her)

i’ve also seen a reoccurring trend where she favors this other friend in our trio. for example, she would call the other friend and be lovey dovey with her, but she would never call me unless she needed me for a ride or to hang out because she’s bored. there are many other stuff that happened that has led me to this conclusion and I promise you guys I’m not making this up. I’m not delusional. I told the other friend about this and the other friend has also been seeing this and told me that she sees what I’m saying.

i’ve been friends with this person for more than six years and I don’t know because I’m also going to college with them. right now I’m so done. I don’t know.

again, if you decide that I’m in the wrong or she’s in the wrong please give me reasons so I can see and improve because I know that I need therapy, but I haven’t been able to get it which I’m really sad about

so today me and this friend were in a friend group and we were hanging out. I made a comment about someone saying that they’re really mature and she put her hand on my shoulder and said oh you wouldn’t know a thing about being mature and she repeated herself twice, which was like OK I heard you the first time and I got really pissed after that so I told her that she made me really mad and she just said oh you know I’m joking

yesterday I got into a car accident on the way to pick her up because she asked me for a ride and the context is I’ve been giving her a ride every time she asks so when she made that joke, it was very insensitive and it was very hurtful

before you guys comment anything, I just want to say that I 100% acknowledge that I’m in the wrong and I was the one that caused the car accident. this friend is not at blame but right now I just feel a lot of resentment towards her but IM SLOWLY HEALING AND NOT BEING RESENTFUL!!!!! I think it’s just my defense mechanism because today whenever she tried to touch me, I was biologically disgusted I did not want her to touch me and I did not want to make eye contact with her

today we were hanging out w our friends and you know everything started to go really well and I was having lots of fun. I was actually healing within myself and forgiving myself for the car accident because it did cost me a lot financially but just as I started to be happy and heal from this, she comes up with the insensitive joke and it’s just kind of makes me mad you know

I feel like the timing really isn’t right but at the same time, how would she know that I’m mad at her right now for the car accident and I know that I’m not supposed to be mad at her which is what I’m trying to get over but I feel like her making that joke just made things so much worse right now.

so today me and this friend were in a friend group and we were hanging out. I made a comment about someone saying that they’re really mature and she put her hand on my shoulder and said oh you wouldn’t know a thing about being mature and she repeated herself twice, which was like OK I heard you the first time and I got really pissed after that so I told her that she made me really mad and she just said oh you know I’m joking

yesterday I got into a car accident on the way to pick her up because she asked me for a ride and the context is I’ve been giving her a ride every time she asks so when she made that joke, it was very insensitive and it was very hurtful

before you guys comment anything, I just want to say that I 100% acknowledge that I’m in the wrong and I was the one that caused the car accident. this friend is not at blame but right now I just feel a lot of resentment towards her but IM SLOWLY HEALING AND NOT BEING RESENTFUL!!!!! I think it’s just my defense mechanism because today whenever she tried to touch me, I was biologically disgusted I did not want her to touch me and I did not want to make eye contact with her

today we were hanging out w our friends and you know everything started to go really well and I was having lots of fun. I was actually healing within myself and forgiving myself for the car accident because it did cost me a lot financially but just as I started to be happy and heal from this, she comes up with the insensitive joke and it’s just kind of makes me mad you know

I feel like the timing really isn’t right but at the same time, how would she know that I’m mad at her right now for the car accident and I know that I’m not supposed to be mad at her which is what I’m trying to get over but I feel like her making that joke just made things so much worse right now.

hi guys, so basically the story is yesterday. I was going to pick her up from her house because she asked me to so we could go to a place and study but on the way there I got into a car accident which resulted me in 1000 for fixing my car and also 10k for my insurance next year so on top of that today we were around a couple of friends and the topic maturity came up because I was talking about how someone is so mature and she goes. Oh you wouldn’t know a thing about mature. I’m sorry what the fuck bro OK for the accident I’m not blaming her well I kinda am I guess right now, but I’m trying my best to fix my resentment towards her because today whenever she would touch me I would genuinely be biologically disgusted and not want her to touch me because I’m having a defense mechanism and I keep on thinking it is her fault that my car got hit but no, it’s myself that I fucked up and I understand that but today, why is she saying this bullshit to me and then when I said OK you made me mad she said oh you know I’m joking, blah blah blah what the hell bro? I’m so pissed like what no consideration at all for me.

im blaming her and I KNOW I SHOULD NOT but im still getting over the process of me getting into a car accident for the first time ever. i just think it's so inconsiderate for her to act like nothing happened when if i didnt have to pick her bitchass up the accident wouldnt have happened becuase her house and the place we were gonna study at are opposite directions.

literally im so mad right now, please help in comments if i should change or are my feelings valid.

hello, so this morning I was driving to go pick up my friend so we could go to dunkin and study, but as i made it out my neighborhood, there's an intersection that I fucked up at. I was on the call with a family member, and they were giving me directions for some really complicated stuff that I had to use some brain cells to think for. and while I'm thinking I'm also making right turn on a red light with on coming traffic. In my head all I saw was the car infront of me got to go and so I followed. I fucked up and i didn't check the oncoming traffic at all.

First, I jsut want to say I'm taking full responsibility with this and I know I'm the one fucked up myself and not my friend. But it's just really hard for me to not think he's at any fault because if I didn't have to pick him up I would've went to the opposite way and this might've never happened. Showed up to school and he just ask if everything's ok and that's it. btw now my parents have to pay 1k for fixing my car and also 10k for next year's insurance becuase I'm still a teenager even though I'm turning 18 in june.

I did not tell my parents that I was picking up my friend and lied that I was acctually going to school, and thank god i did that bc when we got home my parents said if i were to go out bc i needed to pick up a friend they would've k**led me. (not literally but yea). DONT WORRY I'M NEVER GIVING ANYONE A RIDE AGAIN.

I dont know, i really dont know. I've given this friend multiple rides before and for him just to ask if everything's ok it's kind of underwhelming considering that I took this route just for him. I dont know, let me know.

again, I know i'm at fault for this so I really dont want anyone to tell me that even more in the comments.