u/lilacsky2102

I'll start:

Mine is brain dumping.

As soon as I wake up. I immediately write down the things I worry about, things that bothered me, people who were crap, people who offended me, me not being able to finish some to-do list, or sometimes about a nightmare.

It's like getting things out of your head. It's like scribbling no formal writing.

Example:

"I need to clean the cat litter box--god I feel lazy. I don't wanna do it. But I must"

Or:

"I dreamt that my brother was super nice to me. I hate this dreams because in reality it's so different. Well, fuck him. Blablabla"

Would love to hear yours!

I'm so tired and I honestly want to give up.

I have been studying for 14 months. On and off due to mental health issues.

I have never studied something so difficult. I have finished my university degree and I love learning STEM but jesus christ this is so difficult. Unfucking believable. :(

I'm just honestly venting. I feel like crying....

The progress is so slow. I do not know maybe I'm just freaking dumb. I do not need validation. I'm just venting. I'm so fed up.

I'm just self-studying it but god damn it's so hard... like I have been studying so hard but it just doesn't stick.... :( I feel like crying honestly

I'm sorry for venting... I'm just... so fucking fed up...

Edit: Downvote me if you want I do not care. Nice to see people just winging the entire thing easily good for you all.

Hi!

I'm just gonna rant! All messages I got are people asking weird questions. Guys, we are here to study not to flirt! Jesus christ.

Anyway, I'm looking for a study partner within Europe because of timezone issue.

Dm me.

Looking for a study buddy in CET time zone.

I am self studying German. I would like to find someone who also wants structure, accountability, and regular study sessions.

The goal is simple: study together, check in with each other, stay consistent, and motivate each other when discipline gets weak.

I prefer someone serious, calm, and consistent. We do not need to study the same subject, but it would help if you are also working toward a long term academic or professional goal.

Ideally:

• CET or close to CET

• 25+ preferred

• willing to do regular check ins

• comfortable with quiet study sessions

• interested in mutual accountability, not just chatting

I am not looking for pressure or perfection. I am looking for consistency.

Looking for a study buddy in CET time zone.

I am self studying chemistry, microbiology, algebra, physics, and German. I would like to find someone who also wants structure, accountability, and regular study sessions.

The goal is simple: study together, check in with each other, stay consistent, and motivate each other when discipline gets weak.

I prefer someone serious, calm, and consistent. We do not need to study the same subject, but it would help if you are also working toward a long term academic or professional goal.

Ideally:

• CET or close to CET

• 25+ preferred

• willing to do regular check ins

• comfortable with quiet study sessions

• interested in mutual accountability, not just chatting

I am not looking for pressure or perfection. I am looking for consistency.

I’m looking for a friend in Europe because the time zone would make communication easier and more realistic.

A bit about me: I’m married, I’m trying to build a more stable and structured life, and I’m currently working on myself, my studies, and my habits. I’m interested in learning, science, chemistry, immunology, pathology, psychology, books, journaling, self improvement, and meaningful conversations.

I’m not looking for shallow small talk only. I would like to find someone I can talk to regularly, share thoughts with, discuss life with, and maybe keep each other accountable in a healthy way. I value honesty, curiosity, emotional maturity, and consistency.

Ideally, I would like to meet someone who enjoys deeper conversations, learning new things, talking about books or science, and slowly building a real friendship over time.

If you’re also in Europe and looking for a sincere friend, feel free to message me.

I’m looking for a mentor in Europe while I’m trying to rebuild my life and work toward my goals.

I’m married, so I’m not looking for anything romantic or inappropriate. What I’m looking for is a stable mentor, older guidance figure, or father figure type of connection. Someone grounded, intellectually present, and emotionally mature.

My family traumatized me, and I was diagnosed with CPTSD. I eventually had to cut off contact with them because staying connected was damaging to me. Logically, I know that distance was necessary. Emotionally, there is still a part of me that grieves not having a safe family connection.

I’m trying to build a better life. I want to become more disciplined, study seriously, become more stable, and move toward my future goals. But while doing that, I often feel painfully alone. It feels like I’m climbing without a family behind me.

One thing I deeply crave is intellectual familial connection. I want someone I can talk to about chemistry, science, immunology, pathology, learning, life structure, and personal growth. I want the feeling of being guided by someone who can meet me mentally, not just emotionally. Someone I can look up to, ask questions, and have meaningful conversations with.

Ideally, I would like to find a mentor within Europe because the time zone would make communication easier and more realistic. I am not looking for someone to replace therapy or rescue me. I am looking for a healthy connection with boundaries, perspective, accountability, and meaningful intellectual conversation. I'm already on therapy btw.

I’m not looking for judgment or pressure to reconnect with family. I’m looking for someone who understands trauma, loneliness, personal growth, and the need for safe guidance while trying to build a better life.

I’m looking for practical advice on how to manage my time and studies while dealing with mental health issues.

I have CPTSD, and I often feel like my day can become chaotic very quickly. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts, emotional shifts, emptiness, or the feeling that I don’t have my life together. I can start with good intentions, but then I lose structure, spiral, avoid things, or become mentally exhausted. :/

I’m trying to build a more stable life. I want to study consistently, keep my space clean, journal, take care of myself, and stop relying only on mood or panic to get things done. I don’t want to keep living in cycles of “everything is a mess to panic productivity to crash to repeat.”

The areas I’m struggling with most are:

1. planning my day without making it too intense

2. studying without burning out

3. staying consistent when my emotions change

3 doing basic chores when I feel mentally stuck

4. not abandoning everything when I fall behind

5. building routines that are realistic, not perfect

6. managing intrusive thoughts without letting them control my day..

Waaaaah I feel like a mess honestlyyy...

I would appreciate advice from people who have dealt with mental health struggles, trauma, emotional dysregulation, ADHD-like inconsistency, or general life instability and still found a way to create structure. -_-

What helped you actually manage your time?

How do you plan your studies?

How do you break tasks down when everything feels too much?

What routines, systems, apps, rules, or habits helped you stay functional?

How do you recover after a bad day without giving up completely?

I’m not looking for vague motivational quotes. I’m looking for practical systems, realistic advice, and things that worked in real life.

God I feel like a mess.....

So I have struggled mentally for the last few years.

I noticed that losing a sense of control kinda adds to it.

So now, I wake up then what I do is I sit down.

And have my journal with me and then I just dumb all the stuff in my head.

It's called brain dumping.

I just dump everything that worries me and everything. From a person who offended me to other things. It really helped me out to be honest.

It's like saying the things you wanted to say or things that have been troubling you. And then I go through my to-do list and start with my day.

I think it's a nice way to get things out of your head or get some clarity on things that happened in the last few days. It kinda helps a lot!

I’m looking for someone to have an actual thoughtful conversation with.

Not small talk, not flirting, not random chaos. I’m more interested in discussing ideas, psychology, science, books, human behavior, self-improvement, philosophy, emotions, discipline, or how people think.

I don’t need someone to agree with me. I’d rather talk to someone who can challenge ideas, ask good questions, and actually stay engaged in the conversation.

A bit about me: I’m 30, interested in science, learning, self-analysis, and trying to understand myself and life better. I like conversations that have depth, structure, curiosity, and honesty.

If you enjoy deeper discussions and can hold a real conversation, feel free to message me.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for a mentor who is thoughtful, grounded, and intellectually serious without being arrogant.

I want someone I can look up to, learn from, and have deeper conversations with. I’m especially drawn to people who enjoy ideas, science, psychology, self-improvement, books, and understanding how people think. I don’t need someone to fix my life. I’m looking for someone who can challenge me, ask better questions, and meet me halfway mentally.

A bit about me: I’m 30, currently trying to get my life more structured, and I’m working on studying, journaling, cleaning, emotional regulation, and building discipline. I’m also very interested in science, especially chemistry, biology, immunology, and how the mind works.

I’m not looking for vague motivation or empty positivity. I’d appreciate someone direct, honest, mature, and patient enough to help me think more clearly.

Ideally, I’d like a mentor who is older than me or at least has more life experience, but what matters most is depth, consistency, and the ability to have real conversations.

If this sounds like something you’d be open to, feel free to message me.

My favorite hobby is learning new things, especially science.

I’m currently very interested in chemistry, biology, microbiology, immunology, and anything that helps me understand how the world works at a deeper level. I like learning about atoms, molecules, cells, reactions, immunity, and the mechanisms behind life.

I’m not an expert. I’m just someone who genuinely enjoys studying, asking questions, taking notes, and slowly building understanding. For me, learning science feels like a hobby because it gives me structure, curiosity, and something meaningful to focus on.

Outside of science, I also enjoy journaling, reading, and spending time with my husband. I’m mostly looking to connect with people who also have learning-based hobbies or who enjoy curiosity-driven conversations.

Hi. I'm 30f restarting life.

I finally found what I want to do in life.

It took me awhile tho.

I'm a bit disappointed yet happy to be able to have this opportunity.

So, I want to be a scientist specializing in Immunology.

I'm pretty excited haha.

I wish I can tell my family about this but I don't feel like sharing this with them since I was physically abused by them for 22 years.

So here I am just posting about it because I don't have anyone to share this with aside from my husband.

I'm excited to work in a lab. Learn new things. Practice my knowledge and just enjoy it.

I love learning most of all so yeah. Haha. 30 years old. Here we go. ^_^

I’m looking for an accountability partner who is 30 or older.

I’m trying to get my life more organized and consistent. My main focus areas are:

- journal writing

- cleaning and keeping my space under control

- studying regularly

- building structure

- getting my life together instead of constantly feeling scattered

I’m not looking for toxic positivity or motivational speeches. I’m looking for someone who also wants practical accountability: checking in, being honest, setting small goals, and actually following through.

Ideally, we could do simple daily or weekly check-ins, share what we planned to do, what we actually did, and what needs to be adjusted.

I’m in the Central European Time zone, so I prefer someone from this region as well.

Please be 30 or older. I would prefer someone serious, consistent, and also trying to improve their own life in a realistic way.

About me:

I am 30f, introverted, and based in Europe. Most of my time goes into studying, especially chemistry, microbiology, German, and immunology. I am a slow reader, but I am trying to read more consistently and improve my German at the same time.

I like honest conversations, dark books, science, and people who can talk about difficult things without turning everything fake-positive. My favorite hobby is spending time with my husband. Mostly I am looking for a calm book buddy or friend who likes reading and talking about what a book actually does to your brain.

Books I am looking for:

I want dark, tragic, page-turning novels, preferably from the 21st century. I like stories with lonely, damaged, intense characters who are mentally unraveling. Themes I am drawn to include depression, emptiness, anhedonia, rage, trauma, abuse, isolation, obsession, and descent into madness.

I do not want heavy romance, explicit sexual content, or books where romance is the main point. I prefer psychological, literary, or realistic fiction, though light science fiction is fine if the emotional core is still human suffering and mental collapse.

The kind of mood I want is somewhere near The Bell Jar, No Longer Human, and A Little Life, but preferably more modern and easier to get hooked on.

Hallo zusammen, :))

ich bin 30W Jahre alt und wohne in Österreich. Ich suche neue Freunde zum Schreiben oder Reden.

Ich lerne Deutsch und lerne gern verschiedene Dinge wie Biologie, Psychologie und Chemie. Ich bin eher introvertiert, aber ich mag ehrliche und interessante Gespräche.

In meiner Freizeit lese ich, lerne Deutsch und verbringe am liebsten Zeit mit meinem Mann.

Du musst nicht perfekt oder sehr sozial sein. Wenn du ruhig und freundlich bist, können wir vielleicht gut reden.

Es tut mir leid, mein Deutsch ist noch nicht fließend. Ich kann auf Englisch auch sprechen. ^_^

Schreib mir etwas über dich oder deine Interessen.

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I’m 30f, living somewhere in Europe. I spend a lot of time self-studying things like chemistry, microbiology, Immunology, and German. I’m somewhere between “curious person” and “person trapped in 40 browser tabs.”

I tend to get along better with people who like: deep conversations over small talk exchanging ideas theories/random observations dark humor and irony talking about books, science, systems, identity, or life patterns honest conversations instead of social performance. I enjoy talking to my husband the most. I’m introverted, reflective, and sometimes bored. I like people who can disagree without turning it into ego warfare.

You do not need to be academically impressive. Curiosity matters more. I usually connect better with people who think a lot, question things, or feel slightly out of sync with normal social culture.

Some things I like:

1. Psychology

2. Tragic/literary fiction

3. Self-improvement without fake motivational culture

4. Learning for its own sake

If you message me, tell me:

1.what you’re trying to become or one idea you can’t stop thinking about.

So I'm currently learning Deutsch and currently reading the book The Silent Patient but in german.

Deutsch is my 4th language and honestly this language is not easy.

So I took in the challenge to read it in German to help me better my deutsch.

I am looking for a slow reader like me. Haha. I usually read nonfiction books but here I am reading a fiction one because nonfiction would be very difficult to read-at least in my opinion.

About me:

I'm 30f. I live somewhere in Europe. I would describe myself as introverted but straightforward. I'm not originally from Europe but I love the culture here in comparison to my home country.

I usually enjoy self-learning Chemistry, Immunology, Microbiology, Neuroscience, Philosophy and so many other subjects. But currently I need to focus on my german comprehension so resorted to reading fiction novels.

I rarely read fiction novels. In the past I've read:

1. Bell Jar

2. No Longer Human

3. Crime And Punishment

4. The Convenience Store Woman

5. The Heaven

Anyway, I'm looking for a patient reader. Haha. Because I'm slow at reading german texts.

Thanks again for reading. :3

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Hi everyone,

I’m looking for a serious study partner.

I’m currently self-studying:

- Chemistry

-Microbiology

- Algebra

- Physics

My goal is to build a strong foundation, stay consistent, and improve through accountability. I would like someone who is also serious about studying, but not rigid or overly formal. Ideally, we can check in regularly, share progress, explain topics to each other, and keep each other from disappearing into procrastination.

I’m also open to genuine friendship, not just silent study sessions. It would be nice to have someone to talk to about learning, science, goals, struggles, and life in general.

Preferred setup:

- Online study sessions

- Central European Time preferred

- Beginner-friendly, but consistent

- Respectful and low-drama

- Chemistry/science/math learners especially welcome

If you are also self-studying or preparing for university/science-related studies, feel free to message me.

I'm 30f very introverted. I'm usually reading nonfiction books.

But now I need to start reading fiction novels!

I want something refreshing. Exciting. No romance. Just something exciting like Crime and Punishment.

But please nothing too long haha. 🙈

I plan to read it in German which is my 4th language. It will help me in bettering my language skills.