u/maplesyrup4all

What are we doing with toddlers who are refusing food but are definitely hungry?

always give her fruit and yoghurt which will be eaten but the main bit (carbs, meat, veg) will go mostly untouched. However, I know that if I put down a plate of pasta in a tomato sauce my 16mo will eat as much as I give her so I know she must be hungry.

I don’t offer her an alternate meal often (only once or twice when I was genuinely concerned) so most meals consist of one or two bites of food and then yoghurt and fruit aside from twice a week where she gorges herself on pasta.

Am I doing the right thing? Should I always give her some pasta with other food so she’s at least regularly getting more than just fruit/yoghurt? Should I lose the fruit/yoghurt and try and get her to eat more ‘main’ that way? Cut down on milk?

I’m honestly at a loss and it’s really stressing me out. She’s never been a great eater, has CMPA and still has 12-15oz oat milk a day.

Can someone please help me with an English to Greek translation? I’m going to Greece with my daughter and we both have dietary restrictions so I’d like to make sure the language is correct rather than using an online translator.

“My daughter cannot eat things containing milk and butter. I cannot eat things containing gluten”

I’d love some advice please. I’m starting to get really concerned about my 13mos intake of liquids and solids.

A usual day looks like this:

- oatmeal and fruit for breakfast (decent portion)

- 3-4 bites of lunch (sandwich/pizza wheels/left overs etc and fruit)

- one small banana and some rice cakes for her snacks

- dinner is totally hit or miss. Some days just fruit and yoghurt, other days what I would consider an actual portion

- 2-3oz water

- 12oz milk

I don’t think she’s eating nearly enough solids and I’m concerned about the limited liquid intake. She was recently poorly with a virus and got so dehydrated we ended up in the hospital. I can see this happening more and more if she just won’t drink more.

With her milk it’s currently a combo of 9oz oat milk and 3oz formula while I wean her off formula (CMPA hence no cows milk). But she won’t drink it from anything other than a bottle. Totally fine drinking water from a cup/straw cup but not milk.

I’m finding this whole thing so stressful. She’s currently maintaining her percentile but I can see things stalling unless she eats/drinks more. Has anyone had something like this or got any advice?

LO had her chicken pox vaccine 3 weeks ago and over the weekend has come out in 2 chicken pox looking spots on her legs. Shes super happy in herself and no more spots have appeared in the last 48hrs.

I’m convinced it’s a reaction to the vaccine that I know can happen and therefore isn’t contagious provided they’re covered. But I’m worried about nursery sending her home…

Any experience of this?

I feel like if I draw their attention to it tomorrow morning they’ll just turn her away at the door and it’s a really big week at work with no alternative childcare!

For the last week or so my 12mo is barely eating any food. I’m talking a mouthful or two per meal. They’re simply not getting enough calories and I’ve estimated it’s about 500-600 per day depending on how much milk they’re getting (typically 12-18oz per day of 50:50 oat milk and formula while I transition on to oat milk - no cows milk as CMPA).

She’s definitely teething at the moment and has recently failed a step on the milk ladder so has an upset tummy.

But the lack of food is really stressing me out. I know about the division of responsibility (I provide the food and they decide if they want to eat) but when do I need to worry if this just keeps happening?

I don’t want to reduce milk as it’s the only thing she’s reliably having and it’s good nutrients with CMPA but I’m wondering if I need to to increase her appetite? I’m really worried this is going to turn into something more significant like Afrid or complete food refusal as it feels like it’s heading that way.

Any suggestions please!

My 12mo has always been high needs and challenging but as she’s getting more independent and mobile (walking since 10mo) she is getting harder to manage and throwing between 20-30 tantrums a day.

I’ve tried redirection, distraction, just being present, talking to her, holding her. Nothing works or stops the screaming/crying/whinging. It is set off mostly by her trying to do things she isn’t allowed (climbing the stair gates, hitting the dog, pulling things off the side, and I just have to say no for her to start with one.

I’m loosing my mind a bit to be honest.

What else can I do?

My 12mo has always been high needs and challenging but as she’s getting more independent and mobile (walking since 10mo) she is getting harder to manage and throwing between 20-30 tantrums a day.

I’ve tried redirection, distraction, just being present, talking to her, holding her. Nothing works or stops the screaming/crying/whinging. It is set off mostly by her trying to do things she isn’t allowed (climbing the stair gates, hitting the dog, pulling things off the side, and I just have to say no for her to start with one.

I’m loosing my mind a bit to be honest.

What else can I do?

As the title says really. 11mo is barely drinking any formula lately (maybe 10oz a day, 15oz max) but also not eating great solids portions. She does drink water but not what I would consider enough given the lack of milk. She’s also CMPA so getting enough calcium without milk is really concerning me. She’s being offered 4 bottles throughout the day but sometimes only having 1oz or just refusing totally and I can’t force her. Also doesn’t want milk alternatives or formula in another cup etc.

Has anyone been through this?

It’s really stressing me out and I’m sure she’s not actually getting enough calories considering how active she is (walking and running)

Anyone had this before? Had our 9-12mo check in today and I raised some minor concerns about my child’s temperament and communication and whether it was normal or could be something more. Watch wait and wonder sessions were recommended to me and sold to me as means to help improve her communication and better understand and manage her temperament. But on Googling it seems it’s actually all about mother/baby attachment… I’m well attached to my baby and she is to me so I’m a bit confused and worried about all of this… anyone have any reassurance?

My little one will be 12-16mo over the summer months and I’m wondering how to paddle with her? Is it possible? Is there a safe way to do it?

I’d love to hear from other mum’s and dad’s who have paddled with a small toddler for tips!

Hi all,

Looking for some advice. I’m wanting a rear mounted seat for bike for my toddler. Already have a solid pannier rack on the bike and loads of kids seats can attach to those, however they all say they want a rack frame diameter of 10-20mm. I’ve measured mine and it’s about 8mm…

Is this going to stop them being safe/fitting? Are there any kids seats that need a frame less than 10mm? Or do I just need either a new rack or a frame mounted kids seat?

Hi all, looking for some advice on tackling EMWs please. LO is 11mos and doing 3/3.5/4 or 3/4/4 at home and then one nap at day care (6/5) three days a week. Sleep trained. Day sleep capped at 2hrs in all cases and nights around 10.5-11hrs (typically sleeping through). However no matter when she goes to bed or what her day has looked like wake up time has crept earlier and earlier and is now 5.30am (should be no earlier than 6).

What can I try?

Little one has just turned 11mo and sleep has nose dived in the last week. Previously doing great on 3/4/4, 2hrs max naps and 11hr nights, sleep trained and only having one night wake needing some help getting comfy (straight back to sleep so not even really a wake).

However this last week things have taken a turn… she’s resisting one or both naps but still going down broadly independently but bedtime is another story. She’s crying intensely when I leave the room and it’s taking +45mins before she falls asleep. It’s very bizarre during that time, she’s trying to sleep desperately and falls asleep for about 1min before writhing and crying for 10seconds, then back to sleep and repeat until she eventually sleeps. It’s like she’s got herself so worked up and disregulated but she’s not overtired (this is after her usual 4hr final ww). Shes also waking up earlier than usual (5.45am when 6am is DWT).

She’s done a 1 nap day once at nursery and it went well but she is usually ready for her first nap 3hrs after waking.

So, ready to take the plunge for 1 nap? Needing naps cutting down or more awake time? Or could this be a developmental blip? She’s met loads of milestones in the last 2 weeks, including walking! Any advice would be really appreciated as I’m floundering a bit here and struggling with such stressful evenings.

We are leaving the baby era and entering toddler hood so lots of toys are no longer played with with need a refresh. LO is currently 11mo and walking, very keen on climbing in case that helps!

Currently bought or on the to buy list:

- stepping stones (knock off stablestein)

- pikler triangle, arch and slide

- peg dolls and rings for open ended play

- soft doll

- animal figures

- trike that converts into a balance bike

Is there anything obvious missing (FTM here!) or any must haves you’d recommend?

I’m hoping to take my LO and mum away (just the 3 of us) in September somewhere warm for a week/10days. LO will be 15mo when we go.

Because we want two bedrooms (I mean 3 would be better!) to keep costs down an apartment seems like the best option. Kitchenette would be useful with toddler! Flight time 2-3hrs, quick transfer times. Beach and pool.

Has anyone got any suggestions on locations or actual places to stay? I’ve looked at the usual holiday websites but they’re all single rooms. Happy to book flights and accommodation separately.

I used to be so good at booking holidays but I genuinely feel a bit lost now!

My 10mo has just learned to walk last week and there was no gradual introduction - she just started walking 10+ steps at a time straight up. Shes now certifiably dangerous on her feet and seems to have the confidence of a 10yr old after a sugar hit.

Once the novelty of walking wears off a bit and they get more stable do they calm down?! Day care were genuinely worried for her safety when I picked her up today (and after I’d singed the accident book 🤦🏼‍♀️)