u/rainbowbrites

To preface, I’m going to keep learning the words for X for each module. It’s just that ironically, I’m having trouble memorizing the words now and having less struggles with N4 Kanji and (beginning) N4 grammar.

Hell, I got so bored with how well I kept scoring on N4 Kanji I’m now learning N3 kanji!

So with that, I’m taking the words for N4 much slower now and I was curious: is that module actually necessary? Especially since you could maybe pick up these terms through immersion?

Are the “Words for X” modules a necessity for passing the N- tests? I’m super curious

I think tangles are perfect for me because they not only help me focus, but they keep me calm as well. I got a cheap rainbow one on Aliexpress, along with two other ones that look different in color presentation. But the problem is that the cheap rainbow one slowly started breaking as I stim with it often.

I hear good things about Tangle brand, but I'm not entirely sure if it's durable enough. I've heard of metal stim toys, but idk if I would want to use them if they're not tangle-like. Do stronger tangles exist? Ones that won't break if you just spend hours stimming with them? Or should I perhaps cool it with the stimming XD

I think tangles are perfect for me because they not only help me focus, but they keep me calm as well. I got a cheap rainbow one on Aliexpress, along with two other ones that look different in color presentation. But the problem is that the cheap rainbow one slowly started breaking as I stim with it often.

I hear good things about Tangle brand, but I'm not entirely sure if it's durable enough. I've heard of metal stim toys, but idk if I would want to use them if they're not tangle-like. Do stronger tangles exist? Ones that won't break if you just spend hours stimming with them? Or should I perhaps cool it with the stimming XD

I’m not sure if this is the right place for this but is it because it’s OOP and TikTok blew it up? It’s strange that it’s so expensive now because the movie was always sort of popular and you’d see screenshots of it all the time on Tumblr in the 2010s. I think it was well known beforehand too.

I’m not looking to buy the novel as I already have a copy that I bought for $6.57 ages back in 2021 but I gotta admit, I reallllly wish that the prices would go down because I’m afraid to even display this book because it suddenly skyrocketed in price WTF. I’m so afraid something may happen to it and I’ll never be able to get it again! I’m hoping that it gets republished someday because the prices of the book are WILD

I was wondering if my theory was right or if it’s because of another reason. It’s really sad that a novel for a lolita fashion staple film is so expensive for no reason now 😔

I’m sure people have LOL but I notice that these people say fiction affects reality, but they’re here thinking people are actual genuine pedophiles over fiction.

Also just in general, I note that these people seem to be very, very attached to fiction and use it as a coping mechanism themselves. It seems like they mix up what’s acceptable in real life with fiction and what’s unacceptable in real life and mix it with their discomfort and then assume that harassing proshippers makes them advocates for people’s rights.

I’m sure that someone can make comparisons and stuff more eloquently than I have. But do others feel like this is the case?

I’m 30 and my life is never going to improve. I’m never going to get away from my controlling parents. My partner doesn’t even want me self loathing and believing things won’t change. But it’s true. It won’t. I keep having issues quitting an unpaid internship. I’m too scared to find a job. I don’t trust anyone anymore. I don’t even have a stable friendship. The only person I truly have is my partner.

My body is destroying myself. Have ear pain and ringing that sounds like pulsating. My left foot hurts really bad. I still have a runners knee from a year ago. But I don’t have health insurance or jack shit to fix it. Because of this issue. Constantly scared of moving out because my parents will probably stalk me! And of course when they go out places I have to be around my higher needs brother who just screams about how he wants to die and how he wants to move out even though he can’t function.

But oh putting him in a group home is SO hard when they can buy a 800k house and move out of our childhood home because they’re racist and hate that the population is changing

I don’t think I’ll ever be a functioning human being in society. My parents destroyed me. I just honestly need the guts to die. Then my parents will feel guilt for once in their life even though mom said it was selfish for me to think such thoughts at 18.

I don’t care if it’s selfish anymore. I’ll be free from everyone who hurt me. If I write their names down on a letter maybe and how their treatment has ruined me permanently they’d feel guilt. Maybe they’d feel guilt so badly they change themselves finally.

All I want is guts to eventually do this.

Theres not even media that Im passionate about to live for. The internet used to be escapism but now I hate it. The world is just downgrading. I don’t care about living for the family cats either. There’s nothing for me to live for. Like medication is not going to fix any of this. It’s not.

Should I just quietly cancel? I haven’t shipped it out, it’s a $1.50 item. I am currently unemployed and do not have a car so I can’t easily get to FedEx. I thought I marked every setting I couldn’t get to, Better Trucks and SpeedX. But FedEx is simply not there.

I don’t know how cancelling works and I’m afraid it’s going to give me an automatic one star. But it gets on my nerves that you can’t even choose shipping options like on other sites. I’m not sure what I should do? I notice there’s an option to not choose FedEx, but it doesn’t show up on my app at all

I sell things on Depop and SO much of my items never get scanned. I’ve had many packages take literal weeks to ship to people and properly get to the destination when they were meant to only take a few days. It’s getting on my nerves. I’ve had the same thing happen on Mercari recently and I don’t get why it’s so bad nowadays. I also have a package that I got sent out and it’s been 5 days and the tracking NEVER updated.

I’ve never had this problem until recently. In all the years I’ve sold on similar apps they would always go to the post office and actually get there on time. I don’t know what’s happening but it makes me want to just stop selling all of all my junk and just donate it. But thing is I kind of need to right now as I’m jobless. It’s just so annoying. I seriously don’t know what’s going on.

This may be a weird question but I just sold internationally from the first time and I noticed the “G” on the shipping label is white, when it’s usually black. I also noted the Pitney Bowes label.

I usually put all my packages in the mail and lift the red flag up. Do I have to take this to the post office or is it just treated like a regular package and I can just send it normally?

Someone forgot some of their information when buying, and it looks like they have the right street. But they didn’t have proper address information like the numbers and so on

It’s like

“[Urb + name] -[number]”

[accurate street]

Would it be okay to write that down on the label? I might send it tomorrow anyways. I know people have done that, but I’m worried the product will return, especially with the QR code on the package and all. It wouldn’t be too much of a loss since it’s literally a $1.50 product but I just wanted to know if this would work.

So I just got a sale and noticed they’re from PR. I’m using Depop’s shipping. Will it be okay if I just print and ship out? Will I have to pay additional fees? I found some answers but I haven’t seen anything specifically referring to the default shipping labels from Depop

I’m a little nervous if I have to because I currently do not have a job and can’t pay additional fees (especially for a $3.50 dollar package!!). I think it’s fine because it’s a US territory. I’ve shipped packages to Hawaii before. So I assume it’s similar to that.

But I still have my worries. Any help would be great. Especially those who have shipped packages to PR and similar places.

I’m so tired. I’m 30 and they just try to control every aspect of my life still! I didn’t realize I forgot to put in bank information into the IRS for my taxes last year. Now my dad’s like “get your mom to help you don’t file anything”… I put my bank account information in behind their backs.

I worked a bit without my parents knowledge and want to keep it that way because they’re so controlling and adamant about trying to file MY taxes. A big reason why I do it is because my father takes forever to file taxes. The last time this happened I had to pay $300 in fees (which went on because it got late. I thought they were paid.) because my dad claimed me as a dependent for some reason.

Which is apparently okay according to the law even though I’m over the dependent age because I never made over $5k. I just had a seasonal job and online work.

I feel dread because they’re going to want to see all my tax return information and I don’t know how I’m going to lie about making $1.3k!! I don’t even WANT them going in my account. Like there has to be a way to legally stop them. I’m so sick of this shit. I want to move out but I doubt I’m ever going to at this rate with no job and my original social security card and my passport in the mail.

I need to move my shit and get a credit card and a PO Box and everything else too. Which is too much money.

At this point maybe I’ll just be dependent on them forever and eventually have to lie about myself and get put on social security like they want.

I’m already 30 and I’m still here. People say moving out in the US is hard nowadays, and it is. But I think I’m just lazy. Everyone with bad parents moved out. I know someone who is moving out at 25. and I just sit here crying and moaning about my parents infantilizing me and etc but do nothing. People say that I’m hard on myself but I don’t think I am when other people mock people my age still living with them and people leave when they’re 18.

I seriously don’t think I’ll make it if I stay another year. It’s too much. I can’t even find a job. I wouldn’t even be in this mess if I moved a few years back but I’m too much of a coward. Guess it’ll either be me passing and my parents winning or me waiting until I’m 50 to start my life because my parents will pass. Then my partner will eventually get sick of me.

I’m starting to really dislike learning grammar on Renshuu. Still at N5. While I do relatively better now than I did previously. And get 70-90% scores in the Beginner Japanese and the Japanese Basics It feels like I’m not learning it properly and it’s making me close to giving up. Especially since I keep messing up at the Beginner Sentences section with all the new sentences (I’m close to the end)

I acknowledge Renshuu has grammar written down. However, with the SRS learning method, it eventually feels like I’m trying to memorize the sentences in order than actually being able to understand the grammar itself. I feel like it doesn’t give time to process things and I don’t know if it’s me or if other people are facing this issue. SRS is one of the best learning methods to me, but imo it does not work with grammar.

The grammar section is beginning to just stress me out. I was going to wait until I finished all of the sentence lessons on the app to start in my Genki 1 and 2 elementary textbooks, but I think I should start right now. Along with doing more reading immersion. Reading Tae Kim has felt more beneficial too, as I can sit down and see how grammar works instead of being like “oh I have to get these blocks right so I don’t get a bad score”.

Is there any alternatives that work well? Or should I do this planned method? I was going to do Bunpro for grammar, but it feels like they pressure you to do meetings at the end of each lesson.

(Reposted cause I messed up on the title)

Like, you can’t be buying a visual novel that you know has content that you hate in it like lolisho, incest, gore, etc.

You can’t be doing the same for figures, or plushies, or whatever.

You can’t go “but ohhh I have a paternal bond for the poor anime girls and I’m rescuing them from the perverts!”

Like do these people not realize that even if they buy from a reseller they’re STILL supporting the series? And if you think that you can dissociate the anime girls from their original erotic series, you’re wrong. Because the creators think these girls are hot and agree to make sexualized merch of them.

Like SCA-DI said the rape scene he wrote about Takuji was hot. He shows attraction to his underaged characters. A writer who keeps putting lolisho connotations in their series is probably into that. It’s not a way to “clap back” at the “perverts who like it”. The writer actually has the kink. They’re just a good writer to the point they can hide that they have that kink.

People do this with Super Sonico too, when she is undeniably an eroge mascot. You can’t cry about her sexualization when she is an eroge mascot. From an eroge studio that has a loli villain vn and another vn with a character saying she fucks everything that moves, nonetheless. Including animals!

I would say it’s because they’re closeted with their interests. But these people will be open about their interests and seriously think they’re “critical”… wtf? Like why do they think they can like niche porn with very specific kinks in a critical way.

Like I’m losing my marbles. I dont even buy merch for series I don’t like, but it’s like antis HAVE to do this. It seems like a horrid waste of money. It’s hard as is to enjoy visual novels and anime culture because all the new fans are like this. At least back in the 2010s people actually condoned things they hate. Like, seriously.