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I’m in my late twenties and decided to go back to school last year. I’m not sure if I picked the right major. I picked social work to become a therapist. I work full-time and am very burnt out from my job. I could make a career out of my current job and be a retail manager (public) but idk if that’s as fulfilling. I’m torn between staying with my company long term and getting through my degree.
Im an online student. I’m taking five classes this semester to get into the profession program next spring. I have to take a 15 hour service thing this semester and another class where I need to attend an on campus event.
The 15 service hour intro to social work class is a class that I have to retake because I did not finish all the hours in the spring. I’m retaking it with a new professor, and this lady has a much larger courseload than the first professor. This semester is going to be filled with a ton of research and writing along with a statistics course.
I’m starting to think I can’t do all five of these classes and work full-time.
I remember my advisor asking me “ do you think you can take a full-time courseload in the fall?” And I told her yes. I think I might need to drop two classes which will delay my graduation about a year.

So about three years ago, I got a really physical demanding job as a stock clerk around that time I started taking metformin because I have insulin resistance. I went from about 210 pounds to now 155 or so. I have been off of metformin for a year. I’m trying to get back on it. I just moved out of the state and haven’t found a doctor yet.
But everybody in my family is always talking about how skinny I got and saying things like “ I need to take what you’re taking.” And I keep trying to explain to them. It’s not a weight loss drug, and I actually have insulin resistance and without the metformin it’s difficult for me to lose weight and easy for me to gain weight.
Anyone else here experience this ? It’s kind of annoying that they think I just got on a weight loss drug.

So I thought about doing this job a couple of years ago, but never gave it a shot . My local hospital, which really isn’t a good hospital to work for from what I hear, is hiring for sterile processing. I am currently doing online college interested in getting into medical social work. I work full-time as a stock clerk and I really hate my job. I make $17.80/hr I would like the opportunity for more pay.

Do you think this job is worth leaving retail for? What has your experience been like? Are you in college?

This is for all the people that don’t live in Florida. People who worked at Publix, but there is not much opportunity around you how did you manage to leave? Unfortunately, I don’t think anywhere near me would pay the same amount. I’m making at Publix but I really want to leave. I’m currently in college but I’m getting my degree in social work and that’s really not gonna pay a lot until I go to graduate school.

So what are we doing? That pays more than 17/hr? How did you escape?

Just some context: late 20s, never been in a relationship, ready for a relationship with a guy lol. This is a work situation, but I work a job not a career, so. I hope for the love of God he doesn’t see this post. Lmao. I’ll be so embarrassed. But then I guess that would mean we were both lonely and on the body language subreddit.

OK, so lately I’ve been thinking my coworker has a crush on me . So now I’ve developed a crush on him. I’m skipping the earlier things that pointed in the crush direction.
Yesterday seemed to be a clear sign, but idk for sure…. Yesterday he was all like “we’re skinny” so I said “thanks for saying that I appreciate it” because I used to be a fat fuck. Ofc, he won’t know that unless he’s reading this post . Then like 10-20 mins later, he was behind me and asked “who said you were fat?” I said “?? No one. Blah blah”. Then he’s all like, “yeah, I’m thinking fat where?” And I almost said “not on my ass ;)”. Then he’s looking at my body (tbh just seemed like he was staring at titty. That’s fine, I pepped his print) talking about “if I had to guess” I said “please don’t guess!” Trying to guess my weight or some shit 😳. So he ended it by saying “you don’t look fat” or some shit. Then he shared some of his body insecurities with me and i almost said “you’re fine to me.” Because that’s true , believe it or not, I really don’t like very muscular tall men.

Then today, he was behind me talking about some “rawr” like trying to playfully scare me? Idk. Kinda scared me tbh . He Rawr xD me
Now here’s where it gets tricky. He’s always down to help out at work. Later on, he was walking out the back, I was on the floor and dropped some things off my float. Mind you, I’m on the floor picking it up. He comes behind me to pick up on thing. I swear I felt him presence . I almost said “I knew you were coming” because I did 😳.

Then, he saw a piece of paper and it had a name on it, and I guess he thought it was my paper because he thought it was my last name and he told me “blah blah paper. Thought about you. Blah blah”
Please don’t bring this post up at work 😩 😩 and I’m not weird for being single. I was a fat whale

Just some context: late 20s, never been in a relationship, ready for a relationship with a guy lol. This is a work situation, but I work a job not a career, so. I hope for the love of God he doesn’t see this post. Lmao. I’ll be so embarrassed. But then I guess that would mean we were both lonely and on the body language subreddit.

OK, so lately I’ve been thinking my coworker has a crush on me . So now I’ve developed a crush on him. I’m skipping the earlier things that pointed in the crush direction.
Yesterday seemed to be a clear sign, but idk for sure…. Yesterday he was all like “we’re skinny” so I said “thanks for saying that I appreciate it” because I used to be a fat fuck. Ofc, he won’t know that unless he’s reading this post . Then like 10-20 mins later, he was behind me and asked “who said you were fat?” I said “?? No one. Blah blah”. Then he’s all like, “yeah, I’m thinking fat where?” And I almost said “not on my ass ;)”. Then he’s looking at my body (tbh just seemed like he was staring at titty. That’s fine, I pepped his print) talking about “if I had to guess” I said “please don’t guess!” Trying to guess my weight or some shit 😳. So he ended it by saying “you don’t look fat” or some shit. Then he shared some of his body insecurities with me and i almost said “you’re fine to me.” Because that’s true , believe it or not, I really don’t like very muscular tall men.

Then today, he was behind me talking about some “rawr” like trying to playfully scare me? Idk. Kinda scared me tbh . He Rawr xD me
Now here’s where it gets tricky. He’s always down to help out at work. Later on, he was walking out the back, I was on the floor and dropped some things off my float. Mind you, I’m on the floor picking it up. He comes behind me to pick up on thing. I swear I felt him presence . I almost said “I knew you were coming” because I did 😳.

Then, he saw a piece of paper and it had a name on it, and I guess he thought it was my paper because he thought it was my last name and he told me “blah blah paper. Thought about you. Blah blah”
Please don’t bring this post up at work 😩 😩 and I’m not weird for being single. I was a fat whale.🐳

So I work in retail and I am interested in advancing at my company. However, I do not want to advance in my current department. A couple months ago I’d talk to my store manager about cross training into another department. But then I told him to forget about it. I did not explain why I just told him “ I take it back”. The reason I took it back is because my car is having a ton of problems and I didn’t want my schedule to change. I want to bring it back up though because I have no future in my current department and I do not want to waste any time not advancing.
Is there any way to go about this without seeming indecisive? I’m probably just gonna be honest with him. I just don’t want him to think I’m indecisive.
In hindsight, I realize I did not have to take back cross training because of my car problems

I’m 27, and decided to go back to school last year. I’m a sophomore and attending my local university online. I work full-time as a stock clerk and hate it! My plan was to get my bachelor’s in social work and then my masters in social work. I wanted to become a therapist. I’m currently taking one biology summer course, and hate it so much! I don’t think I’m going to pass this course! This course is a requirement for the profession program at my university. If I don’t take it now, I will graduate in 2029 instead of 2028. I also signed up for five classes next semester and am second guessing it all! I don’t think I can do this! I want a career though and want to stop being a service worker. I just don’t see a future without college.
Other careers I thought about being are mortician , something like crime scene investigator or teacher. Idk anymore. The therapy thing seems great until I take into consideration all the unpaid work. I have to work! It just seems impossible. Idk if I should change my degree or what?
My dad is helping me pay for my classes and will be angry if I change my mine, again. I just don’t think I’m smart enough to juggle school and a job I hate.
I don’t know what to do

I work at a store. There’s is an assistant that I’m starting to like. A couple weeks ago I started getting suspicious that he likes me. But I really don’t know for sure because he’s generally outgoing and smiley around everyone. I started getting suspicious because in one week he basically complimented my scent three times.
So basically, he had said something like “ he needs some of your spray” referring to a smelly customer. On this day, I wasn’t wearing my spray so he was bringing up my perfume that he had previously commented a few weeks prior.
Then he told me I smell good, but I wasn’t sure if he was talking to me so I just ignored him . About two hours later, we were talking about something and he ended the conversation by saying “ you smell great by the way”.
In the past, he has noticed that I was wearing a different perfume from the first one. He commented on that, but his excuse was that he smells a lot of bad smells so when he notices a good smell, it fills his nose.
Maybe a couple other things that I think are signs but this is the stuff that started making me think he liked me. Don’t know for sure, though he might just be nice.

Not sure if I should shoot my shot
Edit: not staying here much longer. Almost done with college

I’m beginning to think my coworker has a crush on me but idk for sure. I’ve been talking to him a little more to try and make my way in, but idk what to ask besides work topics. He was acting a bit weird yesterday, but that could’ve been anything.
I have no dating experience and doubt anyone has ever had a crush on me lol. I’m ready to find someone…
I just feel like since I’ve starting talking to him more, he might not actually like me. Idk.

I fucking hate my manager! She shit talks everyone, takes everything personally, and gets mad/ passive aggressive over stupid shit like not telling her you’re leaving or taking your break. She wants us to run around and find her to tell her we are going home or breaking. No paging her or texting her! She will literally talk shit about me when I’m standing there. God forbid you’re quiet or anxious person! She thinks you’re stuck up and hate life! Had to claw my way out so she doesn’t think I fucking hate my job! She also tries to twist what I say to the higher manager around. Tries to joke and isn’t funny at all.
She is fat, immature, and has nothing going for her outside of this clothing store. I can’t stand her at all. I’m so sick of her!
Recently, I think she’s going the “kill them with kindness” route. This fake kindness and happiness all of the sudden is coming out. Worse than her just being a bitch.
Can anyone relate? I’ve been documenting the shit she does. Can’t get too specific.

I understand that religion and patriarchy play a major role in this all. Why is it that if a woman likes consensual sex and has a lot of it she’s a slut? Why would you degrade the sex you’re attracted to? I’m a virgin but horny as hell. Anytime I post about it online I get stupid dms from men calling me a slut because I’m 27 and want something natural I’ve never had!
Why is it wrong to want and have sex? I don’t get this puritan BS the USA needs to let it go. I don’t see the issues with two consenting adults with a healthy age range having sex. It’s natural and nothing wrong to want or to like.
I just think it’s stupid that they degrade women for liking or wanting sex. There’s 9 billion people on this planet! Let’s not act like most of us don’t love or want sex!

I’m 27 and decided to go back to school for social work. I had almost two years of general education completed and am sick of working retail. How many of you are in the same boat? Any current MSW that lurk here that were in a similar boat? Any advice/hope? Sometimes I feel like I’ll never finish college because my full-time job is so demanding and draining. I feel like I’m unmotivated and will end up living at home forever and never making more that $17/hr.
Guess I’m just looking to see if anyone else here can relate. I’m also in need of some hope from current social workers who love what they do and make enough to live on alone.

I’m not involved in this practice at all. I’ve thought about getting into it for years now. Sometimes I stop by this sub to see what’s up.
I don’t want to sound crazy lol.
A few weeks ago, my car tire blew out, I then saw a bee flying in front of my car while I was pulled over. Whatever, it’s summer, but that hasn’t happened for a while. Today, I see another bee fly in the same spot of my car, I was waiting to go into work. I felt like I needed to interpret this as spiritual. So I google the meaning of bees and one thing caught my eye. Someone said bees could be beezulbub reaching out. Then at work, a ladybug was on my shelf, then after work, I went to get gas and a stink bug landed on the gas card pad.
Problem? I don’t like bugs. I did put the ladybug outside though.
Would he reach out to an inexperienced person? I might be crazy though because it’s summer and I live in the South.

I will say he is a naturally playful guy in a higher position (not my direct superior). He is in his 40s, I’m on my 20s. Idky I’m attracted to him, I just am. Give it to me straight so I can forget about him.

It’s a lot to read though.

-sometimes, he gets very close to me or I get close to him. We don’t move

-lately, he has seemed to be more smiley around me. Examples: sometimes smiling during our whole conversation. Could be nothing since it’s a work setting.

- seems to say my name a lot more than others. Not really a good sign

- one time, while we were alone and having a conversation, I was talking and he slowly licked his top lip without breaking eye contact with me. Could be dry lips.

- remembers information about my family that works at the same company. I never told him any of the information. Could just be a manager thing, maybe he has a good memory?

-I changed a common phrase that he says, and he started saying it to me the way I changed it. I did this one time.

- usually greets me with a smile and arms in the arm (almost like a hug). Maybe because I’m shy? Idk.

- I was working at another location one day. I then had to cover an emergency at my normal office. I was off the clock and there was no set time for me to be there. He called me on my cell after 20 minutes said “are you here? I was getting worried?” Could be nothing

-jokes with me, but this isn’t really anything. Idk if you want specifics to see if it’s flirty or what.

- gave me a nickname

- could be me overthinking. We did a volunteer event, and as soon as I pulled up he was giddy. BUT IT MAY HAVE BEEN A COINCIDENCE BECAUSE HE WAS TALKING TO SOMEONE SO.

- I didn’t want to take a picture and he said “you look good.” Could just be being nice

- often points me out in group settings. Jokingly points me out if he’s with the other higher up’s and I’m around. Like calling attention to me from across the room to make a joke in front of the other higher ups (not higher than him though.). Not mean jokes, just silly things.

-often has his body or feet pointed towards me.

Probably more, but I can’t think of any . If you want the specific jokes he’s said lmk. I just don’t want to type a bunch of crap no one will read.

Am I delusional?

I’m at my wits end with my job! I work retail and I’m tired of it, but I don’t know how to pivot out of it.
Pay with my company for almost 3 years started out making 15.50 an hour . First evaluation gave me an $.85 raise, I was then promoted to full-time and had a title change and I received an $.80 raise for that. I then had to transfer stores and had my second evaluation, which gave me a $.60 raise. After my evaluation, they changed my class to what I’m doing now, but I receive no raise for that. So already I have not been getting raises for title changes even though other people do.

So since I did amother job before this one, they use me to back up the role when the person’s away. Even though I told my manager, I really hate doing that job and I don’t wanna do it. Keep in mind I’m not in a position of leadership at all.

So my job is to stock a sub department . This sub department is two aisles and half an aisle. Well, then, the lady who worked the part-time sub department, which is candy and housewares quit. So now I have to do her stuff. It’s been like this for almost a year. So what they have me doing is basically two part-time jobs and a full-time job.
Then I have to back up a role I hate. Then my manager tells me I’m going to start coming in early to help someone else with their role. Keep in mind my manager never showed me any appreciation, even though they’ve shown almost everybody else in my department appreciation.

Am I crazy for thinking this is too much work for one person?

I currently work at a grocery store and have been with this company for almost three years. I’m at my wits end with this job! No promotion in sight, yet they have me stocking two sub departments (the part timer quit so they just threw her department on me), backing up the receiver when she’s off, and now I have to come in early to help the tag lady?! My title is a stocker! I’m not a lead at all. Am I being used?

I’m getting no raise or promotion! Just extra work! I have a little over a year of college left and would like to find a job till I graduate.
Preferably one that pays $17.80/hr but I live in the south and the wages suck!

I currently work at a grocery store and have been with this company for most three years. I’m at my wits end with this job! No promotion in sight, yet they have me stocking two sub departments (the part timer quit so they just threw it on me), backing up the receiver when she’s off, and now I have to come in early to help the tag lady?! My title is a stocker! I’m getting no raise or promotion! Just extra work! I have a year of college yet and would like to find a job till I graduate. Preferably one that pays $17.80/hr but I live in the south and the wages suck!

Am I being used?

I currently work retail and I’m only making 1780 an hour. I’ve been at my company for almost 3 years and see no signs of advancement. I’m 27 and a full-time college student on top of working full-time. I’ll be done with college next year and I’m hoping to work in insurance.
Do you think I could find a claims adjuster job While I’m in college ? Would you recommend leaving retail for this job? Pros and cons of this job?