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Im specifically talking about the shorter kind here btw. I LOVE skirts. They're so pretty and I feel so pretty too wearing them. But oh, are they impractical. Youre going up the stairs? Keep a hand at the back of your skirt. Getting on or off a chair? Make sure you don't flash anybody. Oh, and you want to move your legs in a position that isn't tightly together or crossed over? Tough luck my friend, nor in front of anybody else at least. And you know, you can do everything right, and STILL be hit with a gust of wind that flies your skirt up when you least expect it. I swear you gotta weigh these things down with stones.

He physically assaulted her. Then when it was brought up in class he audibly laughed. He showed no shame. He never once apologized to her. She reported his assault to the police, but she died before she got to see retribution for her assault. Even before she joined the school she had gone through several traumas and had chronic pains and problems. She thought she could find a safe place in school. She was happy for once in her life before it happened. Then he did it. He beat the shit out of a traumatized disabled teenage girl. The school didn't kick him out because it happened outside of school and they couldn't do anything without risk of lawsuits from parents. She wasn't the same ever since. She was at least better during the summer, because she didn't have to put up with that piece of shit. Then, before school started, she killed herself. He came to her memorial that the school held. But he didn't even look remorseful then. He just laughed with his friends. Laughed in her face. She would hate him being there. I think he knew. That fucker.

Aa, Aa de ere

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Since I was sexually harassed and coerced by two boyfriends I've had in my life it's wounded my perception of men so bad. So bad that I associate men who are attracted to women with that experience. The experience of begging and pleading to have your boundaries listened to, experience of being gaslit into thinking that you owe men pleasure and that you are a sexual object to be used for their desires.

I am terrified of being perceived as a sexual object by a man. Knowing that I have no control over what a man thinks about me. Knowing that I can't wear clothes I feel pretty in if that means there's a higher chance of a man taking that as invitation to stare.

I hate when male artists so obviously project their sexual desires onto their art. Drawing women in skimpy outfits that cling to every curve of their breasts. I hate it.

I can't imagine myself in a relationship with a man. I know I am attracted to women, and I wish I could explore the idea of bisexuality. And I like the idea of romantic relationships with men, I just can't stand the thought of being lusted over by one. Objectified. Owing them sex to keep the relationship going. And moreover, I hate the fact I can never discuss this without being misconstrued. I know all men aren't like this, I know these two men don't define the entire male population. But that's the thing about trauma responses, they don't always match up to a realistic perception of reality. I can't help myself feeling like this. I just want to be normal.

So I have a 6 year old house cat and this has been going on for quite some time now.

At first we saw she was puking up flowers and plastic glitter bits, so we made sure to clean more properly so there wasn't plastic for her to chew and that we only bought cat friendly flowers that were out of her reach. But since them she's been puking just as regularly. Her vomit looks just like cat food, and it's reached a point where sometimes it's just her stomach acid. I'm really concerned about her. Is this worth going to the vet to? In my country it can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars just for a check up so we wanna see if maybe there's something we're missing or something we can treat at home.

Do you guys have any similar experiences?

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So my (16f) friend (16f) met a while back through a class we share. We've advanced to the stage of friendship where we even meet outside of it. We've had a few succesful hangouts, but recently I've noticed a behavior from her. The first time this happened was that we initiated a plan, she canceled the very same day due to "not feeling well" and then me, her, and her other friend we'll call P, were on the subway. And I saw them both leave at the same station, and as she left she just quickly blurted out "I'm gonna hang with P now, bye!" As if it wasn't weird at all.

This had happened multiple times, even just a week ago. I had plans with her, and I asked her the morning of what time she wanted to meet, and she said "I haven't hung out with P in a while so I'm meeting her instead" ??? And I got genuinely upset because she was gonna meet me, we had planned to meet, and she just replanned out of nowhere?

Then what finally broke me is what happened 4 days ago. She had done pretty much the same thing, in the middle of a convention where it was so busy and loud that I didn't get the chance to defend myself before she had disappeared into the crowd. I messaged her on the way home that I really didn't appreciate her doing that. She wrote me, sort of an apology? She defended why she left in the middle of nowhere but she didn't really get the point about why I was upset. I just feel so lost. I don't know how to bring it up again cause I don't know if it's such a big deal that I have to have a serious discussion about it. Is this normal among friends or should I try again to talk to her?