u/slimypeters

Not necessarily just for US but it's actually for everywhere.
I was wondering if any adults here that had divorced parents and one parent moving you away from the other parent?
Briefly describe what you remember in your life during that time and how are you doing now?

Another question is if anyone here who has adult children that grew up getting moved away by you?
Did they eventually moved back to the other parent when had the chance?
Or later on, the Court Order got switched for whatever reason (state the reasons)?
If you moved the child away, did they resent you or favor you more now?

I'm not a product of a Move Away but I am a product of divorced parents, because my Dad left for work reasons, he wanted to bring us but my mom didn't want to move and at least with me, not sure what my siblings thought, but I didn't want to move.

So my situation isn't what I wanted to know about. Wanted to know stores of adults that was a product of a Move Away situation. And also wanted to know stories of their adult children that you moved away from the other parent. I have an 11 yr old son and 9 yr old daughter that's being moved away from me. I just wanted insights how kids from a move away situation especially if you as a parent moved them away. Thanks

Hello ya'll. What are your opinions about Boon Elementary School? Are there any affordable housing or apartments around that school and area? Is that area pretty safe compared to other areas? What close by hotels do you recommend for a like a week stay? Any warehouse, stocker, security, preferably Evening shift jobs there? How's the public transportation like there?

Currently living in San Diego and renting a 3br for $2700 with a sibling helping with rent. Working as a non-military contractor at the Navy Base commissary/warehouse and also Event Security from time to time. I believe that Security company has a branch an hour or so from that area. I may not have a vehicle at first, but I do have an e-bike, any strict laws on e-rides? I will likely live alone so a 1br may be enough but I may want an extra room for 2 children.

I am considering and weighing in the option in moving from CA to TX, so I could continue to provide and be there for the children, 11yr old son and 9yr old daughter. Ex is relocating there for opportunity to expand her real-estate career and Judge allowed the move with children even if Mediator sided with me and best interests for children. Upcoming Orders states I will get them during most of the Vacations/Holidays and whenever I visit there I can always care for the children with no restriction. Order also includes for ex to pay for flights, kids and even mine, so I guess that's a sweet deal. If I do decide to move, we agree that we could go back to our previous 2-2-5 parenting time 50/50 physical custody. My jobs here were so flexible so I was able to be there for children when I have them in the day, and during working nights I had help to watch them as they sleep. Will not have that for now if I move there. I may branch out to maybe other type of jobs.

I appreciate any recommendations. They already have a place in the area but children will start living there in August. I'm planning on visiting in September. I've been checking weather and it's pretty extreme compared to San Diego weather right now, sheesh. Let me know what else to expect and look out for. Thank you

Married for 14 years, share an 11yr old and 9yr old, divorced for 6 years, have/had 50/50 legal and physical custody and have been coparenting with no issues since divorce. We have lived in CA for like 40 years and the kids were born and raised here. The ex requested to move from CA to TX for higher paying job. I did not consent, so we went to mediation and the Mediator sided with me because we have no support system in TX, Mediator also reported there's no reason why I couldn't continue to provide care for the children, no domestic issues or anything, I have stable employment, 3 br apartment and sis/mom could help with children if need be. The ex is a mortgage loan officer and Navy Reserves, and I brought up how she'll be more busy working instead of taking care of the children. Ultimately the Judge reversed the recommendation and allowed the move away, kept the 50/50 legal custody but she'll be primary and I'll get vacations. His reasoning was financial benefits for kids and the ex also made it seem like she was the only one to take them to doctor visits and such which isn't true.

My lawyer and I were surprised in the ruling. We only had like 20 minutes to present our pleading but judge took a break, and after the break the judge made the ruling. I was the stay at home parent while she was deployed and even recently as last month, she had training out of the country and I took care of the children. That's why Mediator sided with me and my concerns. Is there anything else I could have done or shown or do anything now to appeal this? Kids never lived anywhere else. Ex will pay for their flights and even mines according to the order. We can FaceTime or get calls anytime too. But is it worth it to try to appeal this? Sigh. Thank you

Was married for 14 yrs, we share an 11 yr old and a 9 yr old, been divorced for like 6 years. We have 50/50 legal and physical and been coparenting well. Kids have lived in CA all their lives and both of us for like 40 years. All our family and support system are here in CA. The Mediator sided with the children's best interested and not allowing the move, and recommended for me to be the primary parent. But for whatever reason the Judge did the opposite, really believing she'll be more financially stable, so they'll be moving, still have 50/50 legal but she's primary now.

I have Chronic Myeloid Leukemia but medication helps me live life normally, I have Medi-Cal which assists me in getting these medication and oncologist visits covered. Does Plano have services like Medi-Cal or has assistance for low income? I work as a contractor at Navy Base here, at the Commissary and also Event Security. What's the closest Military Base to Plano? How's the job market for Night Stocker looking like there? Lastly, currently my rent here is $2700 for a 3 bedroom apartment, but I have 2 renters that help pay the rent. Since I'll probably live alone, recommendation for someone hopefully making more than $1800 a month? She pays me child support too.

The ex offered an option for me to also move to TX, she knows I'm a great Father. I will keep that option open because I want to be close to our children but everything happened so fast, I really got railroaded, so it may take time and money for me to even consider moving. I'm just numb right now but trying to list down plans, I need to be there for my kids. Thank you

Even though the Mediator sided with me because the kids were born and raised here in SoCal and all their support system and friends are here, recommending me to be the primary parent while she get vacations, the Judge reversed it because of how the ex claimed she will have more financial benefits. We don't have, the children don't have any family support in Texas but Judge sided with her anyway. I had a feeling Judge was iffy by the way he was looking at her previously. Sigh. Son just turned 11 and daughter is 9.

Lawyer said if I move to TX and live there, the jurisdiction of the kids will become TX. I'm getting cancer treatment here and I don't know what employment opportunities are there at Plano TX, plus my sis and mom paying rent at our place here. I want to be where my kids are at. I'm just stuck and just really need time to digest all this. I want to see how it is being the "vacation/holiday" parent and see how the kids will handle it. I have been there for them since the beginning as the stay at home parent while they are use to her being away for work.

Is there a way to reverse this? If the children just don't adjust or get depressed or anything? She said in the order that she'll pay for flights even for mine, my lawyer said that's a good thing. She pays me child support, so that may change now even though the amount for 2 kids is only like $800. Even when she texted me about the move, she had an option for me to also move there. She knows how great of a dad I am for them. It's just sad. Now I get why Courts are sometimes against Fathers no matter what. It's just insane how the judge disregarded what the Mediator reported.

So flipping the screen vertically gets you vertical 3k videos. But in the same mode, the 4x3 photos are horizontal. Am I missing a setting? Thanks

I just got delivery info and it’ll be delivered by DoorDash by end of day tomorrow. First time I’m getting something delivered by DoorDash. Hopefully everything goes smooth. What about you and your order?

So I Reserved the Steam Controller on May 8th 959am PST and today June 5th at 949am I was able to Purchase!

I now have like 10,766 Steam Points. What’s the best thing to use them for? Do they expire? Thanks

Hiboy U2 Pro seated e-scooter with fat tires just came into my radar. What comes to mind with you?

I recently purchased an Eilleo US-12. Got it so my 2 kiddos and I could just have fun around the park. It's been a blast. But since the Hiboy U2 Pro came into my viewing algorithm, I'm really digging the fat tires and off road capabilities for my solo rides. I'm wondering if there's others like it? I also got the iScooter DX5 models in mind but both of those are a bit too heavy and big to fit in my car.

Any suggestions? Thanks

I searched and so far only fireproof blanket and weatherproof covers pops up for e-bikes. Is there such a thing as fireproof e-bike cover? If so could someone post a link. Thank you

Married 2007. Divorced 2021. Been living separately, coparenting, following the 50/50 Stipulation since 2020, two children ages 11 and 9. Both kids born and raised and have lived in this area all their lives, CA. All theirs and our support system are here in CA. She wants to move to Texas with children for job opportunity. She only mentioned one cousin and a couple of friends somewhere in Texas.

I think she really emphasized that the move will get her financial gains. While I emphasized how we've been coparenting and doing child exchanges just fine, and how all the children's friends and support system are here in CA. She made it seem like my sis renting a room here and my mom staying at my 3 bedroom apartment was a bad thing. While I told the Mediator, the children have family like my mom and sister to watch the kids while I'm at work. I work evenings and job is flexible so there's only like one night my family have to watch the kids, they're asleep anyway since I work evenings.

She's a Mortgage Loan officer and I just found out that she is still in the Navy Reserves, I thought she was out. She claims she'll choose her work hours or whatever for the Mortgage job and claims that the Reserves job will be flexible too. I told the Mediator that she has a pattern of leaving for days for work, training or whatever and I'm the one that takes cares of the children. And the Mediator knew that it was me taking care of the children while she was away for deployment, even one time for almost a year. I even mentioned that even as recent as last week, she was at Canada for "training", I think the ex was surprised I knew, but my kids tells me everything. So she had to explain that to the Mediator how she was gone for 6 days, though she made it seem that her mom was watching the kids but I had custody of them too. I thought we had a 2-2-3 schedule but Mediator said it was more like a 2-2-5 schedule. I have them Mon, Tues and we Alternate Fri, Sat and Sunday. We've been doing this since 2020.

I did get worried when the Mediator was asking if the airport would be a good place for child exchanges if the Move Away was granted. I said it was fine but maybe I should have said to drop them off my place? I think I did show my concern how wild it was or just different having the airport at child exchange place, when we've been dropping off/picking up kids from each other homes just fine since 2020. I really just can't see that, the airport, being the norm for the children. She wanted me to have the Vacation time but the Mediator knew I would want the opposite. The ex wanted full custody too, legal and physical. While I stated I would like to keep the 50/50 but assuming she moves, I'll keep the legal at 50 but no choice for me to have the kids if she moves. Should I have stated I would want full custody? Or me showing that I was willing to continue the 50/50 for the kids benefits better?

One last thing, I brought up how she's still in a relationship with her Navy coworker, her cheating was one of the reason we split, and I was surprised she's not in a relationship lol There's a Navy station where she was planning to move to, so I was just putting two and two together. I don't mind if she moves on in any relationship, but I made it know it was a concern if our children started living like that. I only brought up her relationship when she brought up how my sister who's renting a room here was getting married and how her fiancé slept over my place lol Ex said she concerned how she doesn't know the fiancé lol Anyway, I did bring up how she has different room mates renting at her place, so I think she was trying to switch that concern around lol

Sorry my guys for long post. If you were in this situation or similar one, how do you think this first Mediation went? I just feel for my kids, there's really nobody they know in TX. Every person who helped us with the children are all here in CA. I hope I expressed my concerns to the Mediator as much as I could that it also aligns with their decision, for the best interest of the child, not just the parent.

Oh lemme add, the Mediator suggested if the children could be interviewed. I was all for it because both the kids especially my son did express how they don't want to move. I had to pick him up early one day from school, and he started crying when he got in the car. I asked him why, and it was because his Mommy told them they had "no choice" but to move. I made sure to let that Mediator know that. So Mediator suggests the children to be interviewed. I agreed but the Mother did not want to. Wonder why

I initiated Return May 22 and Temu approved stating they sent Request to Seller. 23 and 24 was the weekend and 25 was holiday. Seller contacted me May 26 and asked for pictures and I sent it. The item is still in the box, unopened and sealed. Not sure if the translating was correct but they asked if I want to keep the item and get partial refund of $50. The item cost me $400 including tax total. I told them I’ll only do $200, but I changed my mind and just want to return and get full refund.

Item is 100lbs. Maybe that’s a reason they want me to keep it? This my first time ordering from Temu and learning about the shopping and returning process. Seller shipped item from just 3 hrs away.

So I recently used Temu for the first time and bought a 3 seater bike. I found I better bike else where, so I decided to return the Temu bike. Since I'm a first timer, Temu gave me the option for a free return. While starting the refund process, it also gave me an option to do a partial refund and be able to keep the item because they said the package is heavy. I declined that since I wanted a full refund. The item is sealed, unopened and still in the package.

I'm still waiting for the Seller or Temu to email me the Return QR Code or whatever. I didn't get the option to select which Drop Off location to use though. Will I get that option once Temu approves the Return? I wanted to drop it off at the UPS Store next door.

I'm now getting second thoughts and maybe I should've accepted that partial return while keeping the bike to gift it to my sibling instead. I was wondering if I cancel the Refund, will the Free Return offer for first timers be offered again? And how likely I'll get that partial refund while keeping the item offer if I restart the refund?

The item shipped from a location like 2 to 3 hours from me. I'm in the SoCal USA. Hopefully this is helpful info too. Thank you.

Had my eye on the DRT for the longest because I plan to ride it on private and secluded off road trails. But I also see myself riding to work at least once a week, so I’m considering the FS too. Is FS good enough for mountain biking trails?

With the ebike laws especially here in SoCal, I just want to be cautious and a bit concerned that I’ll get stopped because it looks more like a moto or moped than a bicycle. So have you gotten stopped or anything?

Also, is an used FS with 2500 miles for under $1k a good price? What should I ask sellers about their used Revv1 bikes? Thanks

My immediate family is small, just my mom and 6 grown siblings, and an aunty. I was cool with her parents, mainly her dad, and two brothers. And cool with a handful of her cousins. A couple of her aunties and cousins are still following me on my social media and are on my friend's list, her Mom always likes the photos I post of the children, she often prints them out to hang at their home. They greet me during holidays and such. I had no issues with her family or anything but true colors are shown because the other handful of them did unfollow or whatever after she told her side, she didn't tell her cheating story though.

Anyway, so after like a year or so after the divorce, her mom texted me about cutting my son's hair and it looking bad lol She sent a pic and it was bad, she said sorry. I texted back and said it is ok. I sent her a barber pinned location that we often go to, and told her they could fix his hair whenever. That was our text exchange. For some reason, my ex tells me to "please do not text her mom". In my head I was "wth", as I told her that her mom texted me first and it's just about a hair cut. And when it comes to the kids, I want to have open communication with her parents and family.

The ex also got mad at me because her cousins invited me to their annual holiday party so I went. I'm currently trying to find that text where she texted, "why TF did you go to my cousins party", because I want to show the court how she is. She cut off my family from her socials, she started off fresh I guess and never added any of them back, my mom and siblings, even my brother who is the reason on how I met her the first place lol They don't talk bad about her or anything, just about her bad decisions.

I have a chronic illness and I'm kinda worried, she's gonna give my family a hard time if they wanna see our 2 children if I'm gone. This is basically alienation right? She has a big family, and every time any of them and their kids are in town, the ex asks me if she could get the kids during my parenting time and I let them go so they could see their cousins.

I'm just wondering if anyone went through this situation, of an ex not wanting you to contact any of their family even if there's no issues between you or the family. This could be used to show what they're doing is not in the best interest of the child right? Thanks.

So my ex misses had an Ex Parte Hearing 4/29 she wanted to expedite things so she could try to relocate from CA to TX with the 2 kids (9yr & 10yr old) in June. I know I didn't have to attend this hearing but I read showing up is a good thing, so I did show up. We both have lawyers but I also wanted to research online and read other people's experiences and their thoughts and suggestions. I don't think the ex got what she wanted, as it sounded the Judge brought up reasons why it couldn't be expedited because of how long court proceedings could take.

So now, we will have a FCS Child Custody Recommending Counseling on 5/29 And I believe another Hearing on 6/29. My lawyer briefly told me what to expect in that Counseling and he'll help me get ready as that date gets closer. But to those who have had FCS Child Custody Recommending Counseling before, how was it? What happens during it? Having this Counseling date a month from now is better than it happening in a couple weeks correct? This was the first time I attended a Court hearing in person, I've attending one virtually during Covid times though.

Short description of our situation, divorced finalized Feb 2021, we have 50/50 Custody, our Custody schedules have been fine, she pays me Child Support, and the children have lived in this area all their lives. Her reason for wanting to relocate is for a better job opportunity, she mentioned Texas cost of living and stuff like that. She only mentioned how she has a best friend, a cousin and a nephew in Texas but we do not have any family in Texas especially family that grew up and help take care of our kids. Our family support system are all in California, her parents/family and my family are here.

My lawyer will prep me before the 5/29 date and I have researched how to act or not react during this process but I want to be firm and not budge in letting the kids relocate to Texas, nor change our 50/50 Custody Agreement. I noticed she wrote a bunch of things on the DEC RFO "Declaration in support of a Request for Order" that wasn't truthful. I will focus on my child's needs and best interests first and foremost during the FCS Child Custody Counseling, this was called Mediation before right? Anyway, is this a good time to bring up false things she wrote? Also no where on that paper where she said the move will be temporary or for "just a few years" like what she texted me. Thank you for the time and any suggestions