u/tattoolvr2003

I want a full sour pickle w a crunch. And the pickle should make me pucker!!! Want that shit sour af

Any reccs? Besides grillos lol

One time she called me the DUFF (designated ugly fat friend- some bs from a movie) of our friend group. And when I was offended she was like, no bc ur gay (im afab) and none of the boys like u. And I was like oh okay alright…

Another time she told me she told other ppl she couldn’t be racist bc her best friend was a brown person (me)

BREAKUP STORY STARTS HERE: Our friendship ended bc I became rlly bad at responding and following thru with plans. And I do truly feel bad abt that.

Not an excuse, but the reason I was so flaky was bc I had just had a 7 year SA court case come to an end that started when I was 15 yrs old, where I was the victim and I lost, it was devastating for me and I was a mess.

But anyways she ends the friendship and then moved from NY to Colorado. Maybe like a year and a half later I texted her apologizing for my part and asking if we could talk- I also told her that I loved her sm and I rlly didn’t want her not at my wedding (as I am very serious w my partner and marriage will be on the table the next few years)

She agreed and we decided to meet up during Christmas break. She was 2 hours late, and came in sobbing about her highschool ex. I comforted her and we chatted and it was rlly good. It was just like old times. And we talked things out and ended thing rlly positively that night.

I texted her that night saying that I had a great time and it was rlly nice seeing her, she texted me back saying “at this point in time I’m not interested in continuing the friendship”

I was rlly confused and expressed that and was like why did we even talk then? And she got very mad and was like your violating my boundaries and you can’t force me to be ur friend. I responded saying I respect her wishes and hope to talk again.

That’s the last time we spoke. She moved back to NY apparently, I found out through a friend.
It’s insane to me that all I did was support and love her and she disposed me like trash. I don’t know why I still care when she obviously doesn’t. Ig it just still rlly hurts

I don’t think I’d ever let her back into my life. I think I’m just looking for support and affirmation in my decision to remain no contact.

One time she called me the DUFF (designated ugly fat friend- some bs from a movie) of our friend group. And when I was offended she was like, no bc ur gay (im afab) and none of the boys like u. And I was like oh okay alright…

Another time she told me she told other ppl she couldn’t be racist bc her best friend was a brown person (me)

BREAKUP STORY STARTS HERE: Our friendship ended bc I became rlly bad at responding and following thru with plans. And I do truly feel bad abt that.

Not an excuse, but the reason I was so flaky was bc I had just had a 7 year SA court case come to an end that started when I was 15 yrs old, where I was the victim and I lost, it was devastating for me and I was a mess.

But anyways she ends the friendship and then moved from NY to Colorado. Maybe like a year and a half later I texted her apologizing for my part and asking if we could talk- I also told her that I loved her sm and I rlly didn’t want her not at my wedding (as I am very serious w my partner and marriage will be on the table the next few years)

She agreed and we decided to meet up during Christmas break. She was 2 hours late, and came in sobbing about her highschool ex. I comforted her and we chatted and it was rlly good. It was just like old times. And we talked things out and ended thing rlly positively that night.

I texted her that night saying that I had a great time and it was rlly nice seeing her, she texted me back saying “at this point in time I’m not interested in continuing the friendship”

I was rlly confused and expressed that and was like why did we even talk then? And she got very mad and was like your violating my boundaries and you can’t force me to be ur friend. I responded saying I respect her wishes and hope to talk again.

That’s the last time we spoke. She moved back to NY apparently, I found out through a friend.
It’s insane to me that all I did was support and love her and she disposed me like trash. I don’t know why I still care when she obviously doesn’t. Ig it just still rlly hurts

I don’t think I’d ever let her back into my life. I think I’m just looking for support and affirmation in my decision to remain no contact.

Hi all! I’m very excited to start working towards my degree. I am very passionate about social work and it’s been my dream to be a social worker since highschool.

I’m very passionate about helping people. Im certainly not in this field for the money, but I’d like to work towards a comfortable salary. I also don’t know what area of social work I exactly want to be in. I just want to help people. If that means helping people and earning a little more money, that’d be ideal!

I’ve worked as a DSP w individuals w developmental disabilities for 6 years, and it has been amazing work. I love the community, and I truly love supporting the individuals I work with. However…… the pay is atrocious, I’m tired of being so poor despite working long hours- I barely scrape by month to month, and after 6 years I’ve really only managed to save like 4000 dollars 😭 (life’s a bitch and fucking expensive too😞).

I get that earning on the lower side of what social workers make is practically inevitable for a few years post grad. And I understand you have to gain valuable and irreplaceable experience and generally just pay your dues upon entering this field.

However I just want to put myself in a position, in any way possible, to make myself the most hirable candidate post grad. I also want to make sure I am working towards that goal of a comfortable salary and working in whatever area of social work that gets me to that goal.

I’m not quite sure what to entirely expect from my two years at school and field placements,
so pls give me tips on what I should be doing during these two years to land me at a comfortable salary (eventually) and make me a stand out applicant for when I am looking for jobs post grad.

I’m sorry if any of this comes off as shallow, I promise I’m in social work for the right reasons. I just want to make sure I secure my future as well.

I was recently diagnosed with sarcoidosis. It’s rlly severe. I have to get MRIs basically every 2 months for the next 5 years at least. Seriously…

In mri machines u can’t wear metal jewelry bc it’s a giant magnet, so it’ll rip it right out of your face. I heard gold isn’t magnetic but the jewelry can still heat up to dangerous heat levels in the MRI.

I’ve wanted a vertical helix for FOREVER (and a daith, tragus, conch and rook). Also maybe eyebrow piercings.
But these piercings takes months to heal and u cannot remove the jewelry during the healing process.

So are there any options for me? I’m going to move to NYC, will any piercers work with me and my MRI schedule? Or do I need to accept that I’m just not gonna be pierced up on top of being chronically ill…. 😞

Also my sarcoidosis is in my spine and brain so the mris are of my upper mid and lower back along with my brain. I’m DEEP in that MRI machine, and my head is being scanned, so I can’t simply just avoid taking out jewelry.

Hi I was recently diagnosed w sarcoidosis, it’s pretty severe as I have spinal lesions on my back from t2-t4.

I’m experiencing pretty bad upper back pain and neck pain. Sometimes it feels like everything locks up, like all my muscles in my upper back and neck are clenching when I move in certain ways. And it will stay like that for seconds, hours or days.

The other type of back pain I experience is, pain after a long day. My upper back and neck is so sore that nothing relieves it. Not lying down, not massages. It just stays in constant pain until advil/tylenol kick in and I fall asleep and wake up the next morning.

Does this sound like symptoms of sarcoidosis or just regular back pain? I don’t see a lot of back pain complaints here, and im worried it’s bc of my inactivity.

So technically this is not a pickle post. BUT I SWEAR ITS FOR THE PICKLE LOVERS NONETHELESS!!!

I just tried pizza dipped into red wine vinegar (my partner put me onto it) and it tastes AMAZING.

It tastes like pickled pizza. I doubt I’ll ever be able to go back again. You MUST try this combo!!!!!

Pickled pizza might not sound good, but trust me, just try it……

I generally like watching ameyahs nail vids, and stumbled on this subreddit when I saw a vid from Anya.tisdale confirming they don’t talk anymore.

So idk anything abt these sisters, why do ppl not like them and think they r narcissistic. I see a lot of ppl saying she is bc of the annoying self centered influencer stuff she does- is there any other reason?

I'm bleach-dyeing a shirt using Soft Scrub with bleach, and I'm applying it with a henna cone to make a detailed design.

Can I draw my guidelines on the shirt witha marker first and then trace over them with the Soft Scrub, or will the marker lines still show through even after the bleach lightens the fabric? Also what marker should I use in that case? I tried a water soluble white pencil and it’s not showing up and stretching my shirt

Also, once I finish applying the Soft Scrub and let it sit/dry, what's the proper next stepto make the shirt wearable?

Do I just rinseit out, wash it with detergent or?

I was diagnosed with severe sarcoidosis (I’ve had bad upper back and neck pain)

I have spinal lesions and it’s on my lungs.

My dr said I’ll start monthly infusions of immunosuppressant meds they give to cancer patients for 3-5 years.

Also no alcohol for 3-5 years while on the medication-What the fuck-

Anyways, what should I expect from this diagnosis? I was expecting to find out I have like a pinched nerve. Not that I have a disease that could leave me unable to walk one day. And low key was NOT expecting to be practically sober for 5 fucking years
Jesus

Ik nothing and I just can’t do the research, just pls tell me what to expect

I’m having a medical scare rn, its either a life long autoimmune condition or cancer. My doctor told me I need to go in for a biopsy, and my mom told me she could take me. I told my partner when they got off work, and they offered to drive me to the appointment. I have a tricky relationship w my mom, so I said yes. They then immediately were like “I don’t know if I can, well I can, but I barely have any hours at work so it’ll be difficult.” I said that’s fine my mom said she’d take me and I didn’t ask for a ride to begin with. Then they told me 10 mins later that they could if I rlly wanted but, again, it’d be pretty difficult for them to manage. And I was like bruh, it’s fine, I’m having my mom take me so she can bring me back after anesthesia, but they kept being like if u need me I’ll do it, but it’ll be so hard.

Like why tf offer atp.
So I kinda blew up and was like “don’t offer shit that you don’t actually plan on following thru, and if shits hard, either don’t offer- or don’t tell me abt it. I’m thinking about the cancer I might have. I just need a ride not a moral contemplation where I need to comfort you and say “no it’s fine I’ll be okay u do what u need to” I didn’t ask for a ride in the fucking first place

I’m angry

Edit: they did apologize for offering and then contemplating the difficulty out loud. And they told me they would take me. I said no because I’m very frustrated and I really don’t want them to lose hours bc of me. But they did genuinely apologize, I’m just still angry idk. Thank you all for validating how I am feeling though. 🫶🏽

I was curious if yall had any reccs for specific brands (and scents) that are cat safe candles? I find they either don’t smell very much, are not cat safe, or burn incredibly quickly.

I’ve tried petpourri (pawsitively fresh) and pet odor exterminator candles (fresh linen) and they were just okay (esp considering the price and how fast the pet pourri one burned)

I live in a shoebox appt. My cat breathes the same air as a candle pretty much no matter what (unless he in the kitchen, but the kitchen is still 10 ft away max lol. But there’s a door lol)

Any reccs for candles or r they all like that lol?

TLDR IN BOLD

I’m starting my MSW soon and I’m so lost on how to dress. I’m a trans nonbinary person, I’ve been in T for voice changes and I’ve had top surgery two years ago.

I unfortunately am either in pajamas or alternative clothing (which isn’t professional attire bc of how reveling it is/I don’t want to dress very alternative at work bc I feel like it makes my job harder lol). I went to an undergrad where everyone dressed alternative at class. And My job has allowed me to wear scrubs bc of the work I do. But now I have no clothes for a professional social work setting AND I don’t know how to dress as a nonbinary person professionally. Like no freaking clue.

Can I have some guidance, I’m truly smack in the middle of the gender spectrum. I genuinely can’t decide between womens outfits and men’s outfits when i look up “professional social work outfits”. id be a little less inclined towards women’s clothing (although not completely against, as I wear women’s clothes often) bc im afab.

But idk i think the professional style is just not rlly my style- so i think i need help in finding something that’ll feel kinda like me. I know it’s prob not gonna be my style and it’s a compromise I’ll have to be willing to make, but idk does anyone have any tips on how I should dress? Specifically what items of clothing I should look for in stores? Maybe store reccs (budget friendly pls!!!)? Can you post pics of your outfits if you dress androgynously/are trans/nonbinary? Any suggestion is welcomed.

TLDR IN BOLD

I’m starting my MSW soon and I’m so lost on how to dress. I’m a trans nonbinary person, I’ve been in T for voice changes and I’ve had top surgery two years ago.

I unfortunately am either in pajamas or alternative clothing (which isn’t professional attire bc of how reveling it is/I don’t like dressing alternative at work bc I feel like it makes my job harder lol). I went to an undergrad where everyone dressed alternative at class. And My job has allowed me to wear scrubs bc of the work I do. But now I have no clothes for a professional social work setting AND I don’t know how to dress as a nonbinary person professionally. Like no freaking clue.

Can I have some guidance, I’m truly smack in the middle of the gender spectrum. I genuinely can’t decide between womens outfits and men’s outfits when i look up “professional social work outfits”. id be a little less inclined towards women’s clothing (although not completely against, as I wear women’s clothes often) bc im afab.

But idk i think the professional style is just not rlly my style- so i think i need help in finding something that’ll feel kinda like me. I know it’s prob not gonna be my style and it’s a compromise I’ll have to be willing to make, but idk does anyone have any tips on how I should dress? Specifically what items of clothing I should look for in stores? Maybe store reccs (budget friendly pls!!!)? Can you post pics of your outfits if you dress androgynously/are trans/nonbinary? Any suggestion is welcomed.

The song “No tears left to cry” by Ariana Grande has a very specific part that sounds like a hindu bhajan to me.

Specifically when she sings the words “mind” ("Right now I'm in a state of mind”) and “time” ("I wanna be here like all the time”)

On those bolded words, she does a little three-note run instead of singing just one note. Istg it has a musical quality about it that reminds me of a Hindu bhajan. But I can’t figure out why!!

Can someone else take a listen (w an open mind, bc ik what it saying sounds ridiculous) and let me know if you’re hearing what I am. Please I feel like I’m going crazy.

I’m not an Ariana grande fan, but I do enjoy that specific song . I am Hindu who regularly listens to bhajans and I cant unhear it…. And everyone I brought this up to thinks im crazy but they also don’t rlly listen to bhajans (im the most religious in my family)

I’ve identified as nonbinary since I was 16, I’m 26 now. I’ve had top surgery in 2024 and been on T for voice changes for over a year.

And fuck i feel so exhausted being non-binary. I feel like I belong fucking nowhere. I don’t belong with cis women or cis men or trans guys or trans girls. I’m way too trans for cis ppl and too cis for trans ppl. I feel like as a medically transitioning nonbinary person there is no space for me and I feel like I belong no where. I have no one to relate to that’s just “my girls” or “my boys” bc I fit in fucking nowhere….

It’s become increasingly bad over the last few months, and I’m really struggling with SI. I feel like a trans failure. I feel like a cis failure. I’m going for my MSW this fall, and Idk how I’ll ever be a professional in the work place as a nonbinary person. Idk if anyone will ever respect me.

What’s the point? I used to be so proud of being nonbinary. Now I feel like it’s just a giant obstacle in my life. I so desperately wish I was cis or a binary trans person. I fucking hate being nonbinary, I’m a fucking joke. People literally laugh at me in public when they see me. I feel such disrespect generally since I’ve gotten top surgery. People rlly hate nonbinary ppl rn and I’m so sick of being nonbinary and hated. I wish I could be anyone else, someone palatable for anyone. I feel hate from cis ppl and I feel hate from trans ppl. It’s too much…. I feel like I’m garbage more and more every day

…..Idk how much longer I can do this…….

I remember when watching The Jinx on HBO that Robert Durst fully admitted to dismembering Morris Black, but claimed he did not murder him. He said that Black and him were good friends for awhile, he claimed Black randomly attacked him and he acted in self defense. He got off with no murder charge despite admitting in court to cutting up Morris Browns body.

I’m feeling like that’s the only route David has to take legally. Maybe he will admit to dismembering her, but not to murder? But idk cuz I’m not a lawyer, and maybe that’s not how the law works? I’m also not an expert on this case. Just a thought. What do u think?