My baby just turned 1 and I am emotionally not okay at all

I don’t really know what to put in the body text, I honestly just want support, I desperately want something to make me feel better.

I have been crying on and off nonstop for 2 days (she turned 1 yesterday) with no end in sight. I look at her and just start sobbing. I can’t have another baby, physically nor financially. Every first was a last and while I know that her turning 1 is amazing and we are so blessed, and I know that there’s so much more to come and so much life to be lived, and I wouldn’t ACTUALLY want her to stay a baby forever,… my brain is just “I want you to stay little forever I want to go back” and it’s stuck there

I just can’t handle the grief that comes with the fact that while the baby I loved is still here technically, she’s also gone and won’t remember any of this and I can’t visit her, I must keep accepting the gains and the losses of all the versions of her I’ll love

It’s too hard

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u/unluckyducky11 — 4 days ago

Never baked or decorated a cake before, picked an “easy” inspo

It’s giving Happee Birthdae Harry except much much worse

u/unluckyducky11 — 7 days ago

Looking for sick baby foods?

Baby is 11 months old and has a stomach bug and fever. But she’s also prone to constipation, she has prunes & prune juice everyday and still gets constipated.
So the BRAT diet seems like a bad idea

I’m trying to think of other foods that are good for a BLW babe that’ll feel light on the belly but won’t bind her up

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u/unluckyducky11 — 7 days ago

Things my grandma read to me before the age of 5

I tried to explain the Sop Doll story to my Vermonter husband as a “children’s story” and he looked at me like I was abused lol

Nope just a canon event at grandmas house, I think

u/unluckyducky11 — 9 days ago
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Is it normal for tomatoes to be green for weeks / months..?

Okay it hasn’t been months yet but…. There’s no sign of turning red.

I have photos from July 14th where these tomatoes are more or less the same size, they’ve hardly changed. My plant keeps producing new tomatoes but my biggest ones still haven’t turned red?? Not even any blush??

Is this normal? Will they eventually turn or do I have faulty tomatoes? It’s my first time growing them

u/unluckyducky11 — 17 days ago

Update a week from last post

We are 2 weeks from our first birthday & I’ve been nervous about her getting enough nutrition from just food to be able to stop formula.

After posting, I also shared my concerns with our peds who said she’s grown perfectly on her curve and actually went up percentile in height! So he thinks she’s doing fine but obviously if we saw a dip after stopping formula we could reevaluate.

But in the meantime I took some of the advice you guys shared on my last post and I tried my best to give bigger pieces & portions, as well as letting her graze more / take breaks (extending how long mealtime is), and offering a little less formula during the day to encourage solids more.

While it does still seem like she’s an air plant by nature and simply grows off sunlight and lint she finds on the floor….. I think there’s been some progress!!!!!

u/unluckyducky11 — 18 days ago

Friend or foe? Vermont NY

*ETA: Idk why NY is after Vermont in the title I mustve hit something without noticing but I live in VT not NY. Not that it likely matters when it comes to plants

This is growing on the edge of my yard. Is it poisonous? I have a fear of suspicious red berries lol. I love my kiddos to death but they’re wildlings and cannot be trusted not to eat random things despite being spoken to and being well old enough to know better. So I’d like to get rid of them if they’re dangerous. But I’ll leave them if they’re a snack!

u/unluckyducky11 — 20 days ago

About to be 12 Months Old & moving to cows milk..?

So at 12 months they say to quit formula and serve cows milk. But only serve 16oz a day, and like 4oz of water. They say “baby doesn’t need formula anymore because they get all the nutrients they need from food”

So…. I’m feeling nervous with 12 months coming up. My baby is drinking about 24oz of formula a day and has no interest in water. She eats very small portions. While I keep her diet as balanced as I can, it feels like she’s not really getting “all the nutrients she needs”. I’ve tried to remove one 8oz bottle from her day to get her to 16oz & to eat more food, but it just pisses her off to no ends & I can’t just ignore my baby’s hunger cry. But she doesn’t want snack as a substitute.

I guess I’m looking for advice. Is anyone else really nervous about transitioning out of formula?

u/unluckyducky11 — 24 days ago
▲ 36 r/garden

What is this tall fellow that just appeared seemingly overnight in my garden….

& also how did he change the dirt LOL

If I weren’t the only one who touches this garden I’d think he was transplanted here

u/unluckyducky11 — 28 days ago

When do you pluck a green tomato for fried green tomatoes?

This is kiiiiind of a cooking question but I feel there’s a knowledge of ripening & the physical look of the tomato that I simply don’t possess.

Also they’re Roma, I was TOLD they make yummy fried green tomatoes but I’ve only ever eaten steak tomatoes so I am already suspicious and don’t want to mess it up.

u/unluckyducky11 — 1 month ago

When do you pluck a green tomato for fried green tomatoes?

Further more my southern mom said I can make fried green tomatoes out of roma?? I don’t trust it lol

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u/unluckyducky11 — 1 month ago

10 month old & 7 year old.

Mac & cheese w/ hidden veggies, peaches, cauliflower rice, veggie straws, hummus & carrots.

I ate leftover fries from 3 days ago while hunched over the kitchen sink… if anyone cares

u/unluckyducky11 — 1 month ago

Buy chicken. Cook chicken for recommended cooking time. Decide it’s undercooked and will make me sick. Shouldn’t throw it away like last time. Cook longer. Chicken is burnt. Throw away chicken.

u/unluckyducky11 — 1 month ago

Would you let 10mo baby have some cheesecake?

My birthday is in a week and my husband ordered me a lemon blueberry cheesecake from my favorite local baker. Getting a cheesecake from her for my birthday has been a tradition for 3 years now, but this is the first of those years I have a baby (my big kids are 8)

I don’t know if I should let her have a little bit? I know cheesecakes are made with soft cheese, lots of sugar, etc…. Shall I purchase her a tiny cupcake of her own to join us in our tradition instead? Or do you think a small half of a sliver would be alright?

Not asking for like ya know, scientifically backed advice necessarily, moreso just what would YOU do?

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u/unluckyducky11 — 2 months ago
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More water? Less water? Do they want my kidney???

So this is my first year growing tomatoes and I have VERY limited space to garden. I thought I spaced these two far enough apart but it doesn’t seem I did, because they’re gigantic. There’s nowhere for me to move them now.

They’re always wilty like this. They just never look healthy & happy to me. We’re in a heat wave and I’ve watered the fuck out of them but now I’m wondering if maybe it was too much water??? Idk they’re wilty when I water them they’re wilty when I don’t, they never look different than this.

What do they want from me????

Will I ever get tomatoes or do I just have big green plants

u/unluckyducky11 — 2 months ago

Low on food with 10 month old - advice?

Okay so this week is just bonkers. First week of summer, big kids going to camps, birthday parties, starting home projects. I kinda dropped the ball on shopping last week. Slacked on stuff to prep for baby. I go shopping tomorrow I just did not & do not have the time today.

I have frozen purée’s I usually feed as popsicles in a nuby feeder. I have frozen tofu I thawed for her for lunch. Made her scrambled eggs. I have no raw fruits or veggies right now to make her but I did have one apple&beets pouch I gave her at lunch too. I have canned chickpeas but no time to make hummus. I’m really kinda scrambling around today.

I’ve been REALLY good about no added sodium, no added sugars, this whole time. But….. to make a long story short

CAN I JUST GIVE THE BABY KRAFT MAC AND CHEESE FOR DINNER??????

She’s 10 months so I feel like she’s in that weird in between where she’s certainly not a toddler but she’s not a little tiny fragile baby either. Her kidneys won’t hate me, nothings gonna happen, right??

Mama is tired. Mama does not want to think about ingredients or Whole Foods. Mama does not want to touch the blender or the oven or the food processor. Mama wants to feed the baby what the big kids are having, Mac and Effing Cheese.

And then mama wants to eat air fryer mozzarella sticks when everyone falls asleep

Someone tell me it’s fine to go from no added sodium in her diet to just a bowl of mac and cheese out of the blue lol

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u/unluckyducky11 — 2 months ago