u/unluckyducky11

Okay maybe this is a dumb post but I don’t know. I’m looking at my 9 month old, she’s holding her teether toy, slowly spinning the same part over and over again, staring at it very intently, focused.

The word on the street is “babies are always learning and developing” and I could see how that’s true.

But in a moment like this I’m like….
Is she slowly understanding cause and effect and motion physics? Or is she just vibing, no thoughts, just spin spin spin.

I wanna know if other parents have this thought or have an answer lol

So I guess for context I had the IUD in 2018, it was placed 3 months after I gave birth to my son, and I had never gotten a period yet. I never ever got one. I had it until 2024 and never bled once, and had no negative side effects. It was a dream. However it did get turned sideways in my cervix with no symptoms somewhere along the way, so removal was painful and traumatic.

Fast forward, I gave birth to my daughter in August 2025. I got my tubes removed so I am 100% infertile now and cannot get pregnant. No need for birth control. BUT my PPD has been really difficult and I don’t respond well to medication due to my clinically diagnosed OCD I’ve had forever that always targets medications. So my OB suggested an IUD because it will stabilize my hormones and I had a positive experience in the past with it overall, and hey who doesn’t love having no periods.

Well, I’m crashing out. I got my IUD April 17th and I have bled every single day since. Can’t have sex with my husband, am blowing money on pads, cramping everyday sometimes to the point of tears, and passing gross tissue and clots.

My hormones have stabilized a bit but hell, that might even be a coincidence given I’m 9mo postpartum now, they could very well be doing it on their own who knows.

What I do know is that I used to have 3 day easy periods and now I’m in fucking hell. I just scheduled a removal for next week. I feel stupid and silly and ashamed to go see my OB, especially knowing they’ll give me the “it takes 3-6 months to level out” speech.

But I would rather be at my worst PPD crying on my bathroom floor, than keep. fucking. bleeding.

I just had my fourth and last baby after a long gap (second youngest is 7). None of my kids have had any allergies or food sensitivities whatsoever

My 8 month old however had a pretty nasty reaction to oats recently. Welts all over the body, diarrhea and a diaper rash, stomach pain. We know it was the oats because she’s been *sensitive* before, getting little red spots around her mouth after eating them or on her belly after oat baby lotion. But her doctor said to wait a month or two and try again to see if she outgrew it. WELL clearly she didn’t and now it’s a confirmed allergy.

I’m feeling very concerned about raising a kid with an allergy, specifically one that’s more *sneaky*. People know to write “nut free” “dairy free” or “gluten free” but ask anyone “is there an oat product in this?” and they won’t know.

I didn’t realize the Gerber puffs I gave her were made with oat flour.

How will I navigate social events and restaurants, travel, or gosh I can’t even fathom sending her to be cared for out of my sight ever like a babysitter or school.

I guess I’m looking for support or advice from other parents navigating this