u/vegetastolemygirl

My oldest brother has been tellin me to do this for awhile, honestly since i was in my early 20’s. Now my brother has lived abroad in japan, south america, and the middle east a little so he does actually have experience abroad. Ive expressed to him how dam near impossible its been to find a romantic partner especially as a loner in a new city. I moved from st louis to tampa back in 2023 and still have no social life down here.

I tried OLD apps (tinder) once, i got one match but she immediately unmatched me after i sent a message sayin hi and askin how she was doin. I saw the shit storm formin before me if i continued usin OLD apps and immediately deleted tinder. I have absolutely no social media except reddit. I know women say no social media is a huge green flag for alot of them but what Ive learned is that most women in real life will use a guys social media to guage how safe he is and to get a peek into his life/mindset. If you dont got social media for women to look at, you’ll most likely be deemed as not a safe guy or suspicious and passed up on. Still waitin on the day i tell a woman i dont have social media and she doesnt look at me like i just sniffed her hair without askin.

In real life, i go out to bars, the dog park, downtown, etc. The very very rare times a woman approaches me in real life with pure interest, i can tell its only cuz their drunk and confident in the moment but ive learned even then not to take drunk women seriously. In the past couple months, Ive had 2 drunk women insist that i take their numbers only to never respond to me (one actually left me on “read” instead of “delivered”). My big sis told me never take a drunk woman serious cuz “its the alcohol thats into you, not the girl. And she’ll realize it the next mornin”. My sis be sayin some real shit sometimes hahaha.

In my early 20’s i used to think my brother was trippin tryna tell me to go date in different countries when we have all types of women here at home in america. Now im 29 and after bein in 1 relationship in my entire life, i feel im down to try anything now. Its honestly like the universe is pushin me that way too cuz my mother is actually plannin on movin to mexico city next year and she said im more than welcome to come stay with her anytime for however long i want. Ive always loved hispanic culture and wouldnt mind meetin some of the women of that culture. My brother says since im a 6’2 lightskin guy, itll be a whole different world for me down there when it comes to meetin women and my curiosity is growin by the day.

And even then, i swear ive only ever heard the word used when sayin the the quentin tarantino film, “from dusk till dawn”. Ive never heard anyone use it casually like “i get off at dusk” or “we got home at around dusk”. Its like its a old outdated word.

So was givin a co worker (we’ll call him billy) a ride home monday night and he started openin up to me about some crazy work gossip. Ive learned that being the quiet in the corner coworker will make people open up to you cuz they know you dont talk to anyone else. And boy did he tell me some crazy shit. Ill make it as short as possible.

We have a very physically attractive 22 year old girl on our production floor. She’s very popular and the guys constantly orbit around her. What makes her more attractive is that she is a hard worker and puts in her share of the work without tryna get outta it. She has a genuine nice and caring personality in general.

She started hookin up with bob earlier this year (not his real name). Then she hooked up with billy. Bob gets jealous and not only stops talkin to her, he actually starts stalkin her outside of work. Bob gets caught on a ring camera around her house. Wont go further into that incident though.

Billy told me the above while i was takin him home. Then he talks about how he was smashin her and honestly just talkin about her in a horrible way. He bragged about how much control he had over her, how his name in her phone was “master”, how she was ugly and he would never be seen with her out in public, how he’s made her drive him to other girls houses to fuck, braggin how he turned her out, etc etc. He even showed me a VERY intimate video she sent to him and said he’d get her to fuck me for $100! He’s made it clear he has absolutely no respect for her. And she doesnt even know he thinks about her like this.

Nowadays i see her and i be feelin bad for her and shakin my head on the inside. Not bad enough to the point where id tell her cuz honestly i barely know her and i dont feel its my place to tell her. I also am not about to get sucked into any potential work drama over her, i already hate this place as is. But dam its crazy seein her walk around smilin bein nice, knowin how she gettin done behind her back.

Edit: with all due respect, if yall are gonna insult me, please stand ten toes down on what yall say and stop insultin me so it shows up in my notifications then deletin the insultin comment. Leave it up for everyone to see please and thank you.

Edit 2: tired of explainin myself cuz alot of yall seem to think this is like a movie where i can secretly leave a note with spy music in the background. Let me show the difference between reddit and my real life:

I successfully put a note in her locker. Now im in HR for goin into the womens locker room. Her car? After watchin like a weirdo, i know what car she drives. Now how to disable the parkin lot security cameras… Maybe the line shes assigned to that day? Cool i left it and she doesnt know its from me! Shes goin to HR! Whats that? She doesnt know who left the note so they’re gonna look at the inside cameras above each line? Well shit. Gee dont know where else to leave a note for a woman i once again, barely know…..

I could make a post a week from now talkin about how i told her and got fired and im pretty sure the top comment would be “is that girl alright though?”. Thats why i aint trippin off none of yall. Yall really want me to risk my livelihood for a girl i barely know and yall have made it VERY clear yall could give two shits if i potentially lose my job if she takes it the wrong way. Thats why yall aint phasin me in the slightest. Aint not one of yall gone send me money or help me pay my bills if shit goes sideways which there is a very good chance it could. She is not getting drugged, raped, or beaten. She is a good woman who sadly has poor character judgment. Its sad seein her get dogged. But not sad enough to the point im willin to risk everything for her.

I moved here in Febuary of 2023 and honestly establishin a social life here has been damn near impossible. Ive met people and even exchanged numbers but it never goes anywhere. Joinin hobby groups are hard because i unfortunately work nights. I almost joined my coworkers fishing group but then learned his (and the groups) life views and decided they were not the people for me to chill with. I do stuff on my own, go places on my own, but that shit gets so borin after awhile, especially when you see everyone else with someone or a group of people and their all havin hella fun. I made one friend last year but the friendship only lasted 4 months as we had different life views and she was also lowkey crazy. I went on r/tampasocialevents to see what was happenin there and a tumbleweed blew across my phone screen. Just wonderin if any other people from outta town goin through some similar shit.

Edit: a commentor made a good point. If your in the same boat as me and lookin for some people to chill with, DM me! Always down to meet new chill people.

I was at the downtown bars sittin outside at one of the picnic tables smokin my blunt and havin a beer. Another guy comes up and sits at the other end and starts eatin his pizza. A couple minutes later a beautiful girl comes up to our table and asks the guy if she can sit down for a sec. He says yes and they strike up a friendly convo. Her friends come get her after about 5 min, but she asked for his number and they both exchanged digits. When she walked away, dude was cheesin so hard hahaha. That was my first time witnessing a woman approach and it went exactly how i expected, success on her part. Women most def do approach!

Picked up a dude from the bar who was very visibly drunk. Didnt matter to me, it was a 5 min ride to his apartment complex. He gets in and starts hardcore flirtin with me. I show all signs im not interested nor gay. 2 min out from his crib, he leans forward and starts askin me if he’s my last ride and if i wanna hang out. I tell him no, still tryna be chill. 1 min out, he ask if my phone is in my lap while he’s still leanin forward. As im answerin him and turnin into his complex, i dead ass feel him rest his hand on top of my phone which is right in the middle of my lap. I immediately threw my shit in park, hopped out and told him to get tf out my car before i whooped his ass. He immediately started apologizin with his hands up and speedwalked off into his complex. I started walkin after him while yellin at him but had to get back to my car which i left in the middle of the entrance to the complex. Aint gone lie that shit dead ass pissed me off. I could understand what women be talkin about before when it come to this typa shit but now i SEE wtf they be talkin about.