u/what_freaking_ever

Sokáig azt hittem hogy csak az én családom ilyen reggeli pacsirta típus, de azóta megtudtam hogy nem, kis hazánkban ez viszonylag gyakori. Mármint az a mentalitás hogy minél előbb kell kelni és reggel hatra már fel legyen mosva, ki legyen teregetve, meg legyen főzve, a kutya meg legyen sétáltatva és lehetőleg még a kert is ki legyen gyomlálva.

Aztán az hogy délután négykor vagy éppen este mit csinálsz az már sokkal kevésbé érdekel bárkit is, a lényeg hogy reggel nyolcig mindenképp váltsd meg a világot és ezt add is mindenki tudtára azzal, hogy ha jó reggelt köszönnek neked 8:30-kor, fennhangon jegyezd meg hogy jó NAPOT kívánok. Ezzel is kommunikálva hogy neked mennyivel nagyobb dákód van mert te már hajnali háromkor felmostál. (Nyilván kicsit túlzok, de sajnos tényleg csak egy kicsit.)

-I want to do [sexual act] with you.

-Are you sure?

-Yes, I am completely sure, that's why I said it.

-But... once I start, I won't be able to stop. I want to take this slow with you.

-It's fine i already said it's fine stop asking.

-*takes off user's pants and stops* is this okay? Do you still want this? Am I doing it right? I just want to make sure you're still with me.

GET TF OUTTA HERE WITH THIS ATTITUDE 😭 This is atrocious. Like you know what I'm just gonna open Pornhub at this point.

Excluding abusive situations and situations where the ex is stirring up trouble, obviously.

So many people look at their partner's exes like these horrible leech-demons whose sole purpose in life is to crawl back and steal their partner, so they must be exorcised at all cost. It's so ridiculous to me. If the situation wasn't abusive and the relationship ended on good terms, then I have nothing against someone staying friends with their ex. They were probably together because they get along well.

One of my closest friends is someone I briefly dated 6 years ago, but we talked about it and neither of us think of the other one that way anymore. Her partner is also one of the sweetest friends I've ever had and I would rather stab myself than backstab her just to get some.

Hell, if I had a partner and their ex suddenly needed help because their car got stuck in the snow or whatever, I wouldn't tell them "YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT GO, HOW DARE YOU". I also saw people get mad about this and I think it's wild. It's almost like people dehumanize them and reduce them to "boyfriend's previous sex partner" from a whole ass person who can need help and can move on emotionally like everyone else.

It's so confusing to me when I hear how effortlessly parents throw out any semblance of privacy. They leave the bathroom door open because baby will cry otherwise, they take the baby to their bed because they'll cry otherwise, their toddler is constantly in the same room as them, etc. It's like none of these people are introverted or just generally private. They're fully okay with NEVER being alone and talk about it like it's no big deal at all.

I am pretty sure I would go insane. I love being alone and only having social interaction when my battery is charged. Having a person follow me around, stare at me and talk my ear off all day sounds like hell, even if they're a toddler.

In honor of me losing my first 5 kg (~11 lbs) I've decided to write myself this list to motivate myself further and figured I'd share it here in case it motivates someone else too. Feel free to add your own in the comments!

-Being able to curl up in chairs, especially my gaming chair. I love sitting with my legs pulled up and I wanna be able to do it more comfortably.

-Running!! I've always wanted to be a long distance runner and just enjoy nature while jogging and listening to music. Right now I can only run for about 7 minutes.

-Moving more comfortably in a less sluggish way. Yoga and stretching is so difficult for me now because it's almost like I have to haul my body around.

-Sweating less in the summer... No sweating between my stomach and boobs...

-Not getting tired and achy after stairs.

-Being able to reach everything I want to shave without having to perform elaborate yoga poses.

-No more chafing from my thighs rubbing together.

Édesanyám mindig azzal jön hogy a gyerek így, a gyerek úgy, egy szülő támogassa a gyerekét ahogy csak tudja, ésatöbbi. Szerintem nála ez részben abból is ered, hogy az ő anyukája egyáltalán nem támogatta, sőt inkább traumatizálta.

De közben meg azt érzem hogy személyiségre egyáltalán nem kedvel. Nem fejezi ki ezt így nyíltan, csak nem keresi a társaságomat, nem csinál velem programokat. A legjobb barátnőjének a lányával sokkal jobban kijön, talán jobban hasonlítanak egymásra. Most is volt egy vészhelyzet és gyakorlatilag mindenkinek előbb szólt mint nekem, az említett barátnőt és a lányát beleértve. Nem igazán tudta megindokolni hogy miért, mert én is rögtön mentem volna, de ezek után rohadt nehezen hiszem el hogy tényleg fontos vagyok.

De ezzel párhuzamosan nem akarok/tudok rá haragudni, mert tényleg próbál támogatni és mondja hogy ha az ő gyerekét valaki bántaná, meg az anyai szeretet, meg ilyenek. Nekem ez úgy jön le hogy a gyerekét mint fiktív szerepet/elképzelést szereti, de a tényleges embert már nem.

Seriously, how much of a scum do you have to be to seek out the posts of people who are in a bad place and downvote them asking for help??? I genuinely don't get what anyone gets out of this.

The sheer concept of opening a sub specifically dedicated to asking for help whether that's a few kind words or tangible advice and then downvoting those posts is nonsensical to me. Like wtf are they even doing there then??? I don't want to give cooking advice, so I don't go to the cooking sub to downvote those posts, ffs.

Diákszövetkezeten keresztül dolgoztam. A fizetésemmel együtt megkaptam elektronikusan a bérjegyzékemet is tizedikén és döbbenten tapasztaltam, hogy szinte minden adat hibás rajta. Egy teljes műszak konkrétan hiányzik, a munkakör is olyan amit nem is csináltam, emiatt az órabér sem az amiben megállapodtunk (de lehet hogy a szerződésben az volt, bevallom nem olvastam el). A fizetésem összege sem stimmelt.

Tegnap utólag küldtek egy kiegészítést (amivel még mindig hibás összeg jött ki), illetve fogták és pirossal áthúzták az egészet a bérjegyzékben, oda írták hogy bérszámfejtési hiba és ugyanúgy hibás adatokkal korrigáltak. A javításban szereplő órabér és munkakör még mindig nem az amit nekem mondtak és amit ténylegesen csináltam. A hiányzó műszakom még mindig sehol. Vártam hogy ma történik-e valami, de semmi, úgyhogy írok nekik emailt és ha nem kapok választ akkor bemegyek személyesen.

Engem az érdekelne itt elsősorban, hogy ennek milyen jogi vonzatai lehetnek rám nézve? Pl. ha észreveszik hogy az egyik napra magasabb órabérrel számoltak, akkor követelhetik tőlem hogy fizessem vissza a többletet (annak ellenére hogy a végösszeg a hiányzó műszak miatt még mindig kevesebb mint amit kapnom kellett volna)...?

It feels like the end of the fucking world. It's been like 40 degrees for weeks straight, nation-wide drought, our lakes are drying up, some settlements were temporarily left without tapwater, our energy power plant had to be shut down temporarily because its pipes just couldn't reach groundwater anymore and now there's a huge fire along the train tracks on several settlements, due to the sparks from the train breaks.

Seeing the pictures of the meadow I grew up on in flames just killed something in me permanently. We're fucked, I don't fucking care what anyone tells me anymore, we ARE fucked. Maybe we can turn things around eventually, but there will be extreme damage before that happens, IF it happens. That's guaranteed at this point. Anyone who brings a child into all this better be a climate change expert with a brilliant idea, otherwise I am going to judge VERY hard. I'm done being nice about this shit. Anyone who looks at this and thinks "a perfect timeline for a child!" is fucking insane. I feel nothing but sadness for that child.

Tons of people say every feeling is a choice and I've never understood it. I am emotionless about a lot of things, but when I do feel something, I feel it deeply and it stays with me. I can choose to distract myself, but that emotion still stays there. Even cheering myself up only means shoving the negative feelings under the rug, but they stay there and then erupt the next time I cry from something.

People even say love is a choice and I don't get that either. I cannot choose who I love, I just can't. I either feel something or I don't, it's not something I can force. It's so confusing to me.

I'm using deepseek and it's in the trenches, I don't think I am gonna stick with it after the price increase, just burning what I already spent. The bots talk for me constantly now, it hasn't been this bad in I don't even know how long. I know it's always been one of those llm-isms, but for most of my janitor career, I haven't had the issue of the bot just writing full blown conversations between char and user. Now it's in every single message. I keep deleting it and it makes zero difference. Idk. Anyone else?

So I am close to finishing my Wyll romance, had the act 3 "rolling romantically in the grass" scene and when Karlach commented on it, she really didn't sound honest to me. It could absolutely be my subjective perception, but to me her tone sounded like she was trying very hard to be supportive because she knew that's the right thing, but she was lowkey dying inside.

Like when your best friend marries your crush and you offer to be the bridesmaid because, duh, you're her best friend, but you also kinda want to die in a dark corner. Again, might just be me tho. Wyll romance didn't make me fall in love to begin with, but this really cemented me in not wanting to replay it. I am incapable of doing anything that makes Karlach sad.

That's all I have to say. Idk how people can be happy working 40-45 hours per week on top of everything. I am fighting for my goddamn life constantly and everything is so fucking hard. I am physically exhausted, near my limit every single day. I'm convinced one day I'll just collapse from fatigue. Doctors say I am healthy, so it's just that life is really fucking hard. Those who are having a good time through all this are a different species or idk.

I absolutely adore Act 2 and its gloomy atmosphere, really feels like a horror game on its own. I also adore the messed up characters, Malus Thorm and his nurses are one of my favorite characters in the game. I would gladly play entire games with the same vibe, if anyone has any recommendations.

I hate this entire fuckass system and how it's set up. You're telling me whether I get a job is based on whether I can pick up the phone when someone calls me on a whim? Same with things like a call from the bank and any other call that's actually important.

Everyone should be obligated to also write an email stating the same thing they'd say in a phone call. Especially now that people have decided that public phone calls are one of the rudest most despicable things a person can commit, so you can't even pick up the phone when you're not at home.

Also don't even get me started on when you call them back and they don't pick up the phone and then call you again randomly a few hours later, or the next day. This can go on forever.

...if it felt fond/possessive of its avatar like Jon with the Eye? Don't ask how this question came to me, I'm down bad for hickeys and it just makes sense. Kind of. Like it'd send its cursed insects to leave bites on the avatar for no particular reason other than leaving marks. Somebody tell me they can see the vision and I am not just going insane please!

(Also I know the canon lore explanation is that the fears have no consciousness & will but it was also implied that The Eye has *some* feelings towards Jon, so there's that.)

Kitaláltam hogy ha már egyébként is csak éjjel tudok emberhez méltó módon funkcionálni, nappal meg csak zombiként vegetálok, elkezdem megint a hajnalban futást sétálással kombinálva. Visszajött az életkedvem, komolyan mondom. Teljesen szürreális volt hogy kimentem és nem izzadtam szarrá, vakultam meg, égtem le és sültem meg egyszerre. Édes drága jó istenem, hogy hiányzik nekem ez a 20 fok... És az időjárás előrejelzést nézve csak nem szabadulunk a pokol bugyraiból.

Pedig egyébként imádok aludni, de lassan már bármit szívesebben csinálok hajnali háromkor mint délelőtt tízkor. Kb az összes házimunkát éjjel csinálom már.

This is a phenomenon I've experienced a lot as someone who has always struggled with their weight and it still confuses me. I need someone with better people skills to explain this to me please.

For example I say I track absolutely everything, I go into detail to demonstrate that. Their reply: no you're not tracking everything, most people don't track things correctly. Cool, I'm me tho, not others???

With vague claims like "I barely eat anything and still gain weight" I get it. But when I say I do something and people are still like "no you're not doing that" I'm like???? You know better than me??? That's wild. There are very few topics where I experienced this phenomenon and weight loss is definitely one of the worst offenders.