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The crew brought on tour is significantly smaller this time compared to other tours. They cut down a ton on the people that come alone for this tour. Even the videographer for NA was not brought along to the EU leg. But SavageRealm seems to still just be there and the only one with no official role in making the tour happen lmao. Does he provide that much emotional support? No disrespect

Title sums it up. I got bangs today and was really happy about them but a group of boys my age screamed “THATS A GUY” at me and another guy said “what gender is that” referring to me. I’m 20 and haven’t been treated this way since I was 12 it just sucks I spent a long time building my confidence and now when I look at photos of me all I see is a man. I’m just tall and have full eyebrows. That’s really it. I wanna feel pretty but now when I see myself I don’t see a woman and i can’t believe after every compliment i’ve gotten two of these comments can just tank my confidence.

I have heard that Berlin club audiences can sometimes skew older & people have told me that it's because they want to accept people who will be "mature" about what they see inside & are there because they're into the scene. i'm 19 and am frequently mistaken as German by locals before I open my mouth, I can't speak German and sometimes get scared to talk at all even in English because of it & then my vibe is weird. I love techno music especially when u can hear the 90s roots in it & truly love how Berlin goes about nightlife and do not want to go to these clubs just because someone on tiktok said to. how can I convey that to bouncers & have a good time getting into clubs if I choose to go alone without a German friend? Sorry if this sounds naive

I’m from the US, and generally where I’m from you have to be a very certain type of person to befriend people who work as police officers. They are mostly viewed negatively, if you tell someone “he’s a cop” when talking about a person it’s usually not reacted to with “oh, cool”, and you definitely don’t want your sister or daughter to date a cop here.

Is this the same in Germany? It was much more casual to meet people who worked as police officers and I wouldn’t have even known. They were also just younger in Germany, I’m 20, and I don’t know if I’ve ever seen a cop under 25 in the US, but everyone I met that worked as a police officer in Germany was around 22.
How do most Germans perceive those who work as a policeman?

Posting here because I’m asking more so about German cultural customs (at the end). I love being places where I can just decide “I want to go out” and there are food places open, things to do, pubs open that aren’t dead, third spaces to exist in, always places to meet people, and you don’t need plans long in advance to make things happen. Are Berliners very spontaneous in this way, where, if I lived there and had friends there, most people would be open to just grab drinks / go out on short notice? Or is this not really a German cultural custom / seen as rude to have not planned it in advance?

What can I do??? I’m not cancelling a study abroad experience for Coachella sorry the lineup rumors look so promising but it’ll be there next year & I’ve been before. Should I pay it off in full and sell the ticket once it’s paid off? If I cancel now, can I get my money back or will it only be refunded in credit to next years tickets? It won’t be too hard to sell the ticket since it’s sold out right?

Extended question from the title: can the place you live become “beyond saving”, to the point where the best thing is to just move away due to how many problems there are? I worry that I’m just running from problems that might come up in any place I live in over time.

I’m having conflicts with the thought of moving countries, I’ve wanted it since I was 13, it’s nothing new or out of nowhere. But now that I’m actually capable of it, part of me fears that I might just be running away from something that I can actually fix.

The city I currently live in brings me a lot of environmental stress (not just from work, but my overall sense of safety from high crime & natural disaster imminence), I don’t click well with most of the people here, and the city and people just don’t operate how I feel my best self does. The friendships I have here are not with the best people for me and it feels impossible to “reset” and successfully hide from my old life while still being in such close proximity to everyone.

At this point, I’m thinking about my long term health from this chronic stress. I’m starting to learn both in therapy and with at home research into how different parts of the brain work that being in this state for such a long time is going to have serious tolls on my quality of life if I stay here or if things don’t change.

I am still so terrified though that I haven’t tried and am just running away and I should make an effort to mend things at home. I want to ask people with more experience than me, do some places just become “beyond saving” where it’s better to them from afar and you just can’t live there anymore?

I’m having conflicts with the thought of moving countries, I’ve wanted it since I was 13, it’s nothing new or out of nowhere. But now that I’m actually capable of it, part of me fears that I might just be running away from something that I can actually fix.

The city I currently live in brings me a lot of environmental stress (not just from work, but my overall sense of safety from high crime & natural disaster imminence), I don’t click well with most of the people here, and the city and people just don’t operate how I feel my best self does. The friendships I have here are not with the best people for me and it feels impossible to “reset” and successfully hide from my old life while still being in such close proximity to everyone.

At this point, I’m thinking about my long term health from this chronic stress. I’m starting to learn both in therapy and with at home research into how different parts of the brain work that being in this state for such a long time is going to have serious tolls on my quality of life if I stay here or if things don’t change.

I am still so terrified though that I haven’t tried and am just running away and I should make an effort to mend things at home. I want to ask people with more experience than me, do some places just become “beyond saving” where it’s better to them from afar and you just can’t live there anymore?

Sorry, I don’t have the right vocabulary to describe what I’m talking about perfectly, but I knew this guy in 2020 who had this process using some platforms where he could unwrap every layer of a song and isolate every part like each vocal layer, the bass, guitar, etc.
I remember asking him how he did it and it was a lengthy process but I really want to try it out for this one song. I remember“Dolby” being significant for some reason. Does anyone know what I’m talking about??
He did it for Joji’s album “Nectar” if that helps. Thanks!!

Just something I’ve noticed. I bought a year long VPN subscription because my experience on the internet is significantly better on EU servers compared to the US where I’m from. I can immediately tell when my phone has disconnected and reverted back to the US servers because the posts I see are clearly geared to make you start feeling self conscious and anxious about how you look, what you eat, how you live. It’s like it keeps feeding things that intentionally get me to start comparing myself to unhealthy standards. The moment I switch back to EU servers, that content disappears. Has anyone had any type of experience with this?

There have been things I’ve experienced over the last few months and certain patterns I’m noticing that make me question if they’ve been seizures but wanted to ask a community that experiences a wide range of them. Does this instance sound familiar if you experience partial seizures?

During one of the last months I was with my abusive ex and experiencing intense chronic anxiety. One night we were standing outside while waiting for him to finish smoking & I remember experiencing a sudden wave of intense anxiety and fear for about 60-120 seconds without any warning or reason behind it. After that, my head involuntarily jerked violently to the left side and I remember falling to the ground, then getting control over my movement back once I was on the ground. I didn’t hit my head or anything and wasn’t laid out, my torso was still upright, but after that happened all the anxiety was suddenly gone and I was confused and tired.

Does this kind of event sound familiar to anyone here?

(TL German) (but this goes for any language, really)
I’m trying to study enough each day to be on track to hit C1 in 2 years. I plan on studying abroad, but for now, I’m self-studying at home. I’m at the very beginning of studying, starting from zero. At this point, how many new things should I be covering per day in order to be on track? Grammar concepts, new words per day, etc..

For those of you who have learned multiple languages & learned them quickly, I’d really love to hear from you how you went about this at the beginning.

When my bag was initially lost they said it would be on the next flight out and could be back to me by that night. I flew from GOT —> CDG —> SFO on a Delta/Air France partner flight.

My checked suitcase made it through just fine, but when checking in at GOT, there was an option to “check your hand luggage as space is limited on the flight”.

I thought sure, it printed a similar bag tag except it said “HAND” on it, then checked my duffle bag full of souvenirs as well.

When I arrived at SFO they called me and about 5 other people’s names on a speaker & told us at the information desk our bags had been delayed. Apparently the family next to me also had their son’s duffle bag delayed.

I’ve called for six days straight now and all they can say is “it’s in tracing.”

I’ve been flying for years and never had a bag lost. I’m worried that if they truly knew where it was it would have already been on one of the next flights from CDG to SFO. When the bag was initially lost, the first agent I spoke to at SFO claimed that it made it on the first flight from GOT to CDG but did not make it from CDG to SFO. Now, no one I speak to on the phone has any information about anything. I don't even know if CDG is responding to the follow-ups about finding my bag.

I'm really worried. Has anyone heard success stories in this scenario?

When my bag was initially lost they said it would be on the next flight out and could be back to me by that night. I flew from GOT —> CDG —> SFO on a Delta/Air France partner flight.

My checked suitcase made it through just fine, but when checking in at GOT, there was an option to “check your hand luggage as space is limited on the flight”.

I thought sure, it printed a similar bag tag except it said “HAND” on it, then checked my duffle bag full of souvenirs as well.

When I arrived at SFO they called me and about 5 other people’s names on a speaker & told us at the information desk our bags had been delayed. Apparently the family next to me also had their son’s duffle bag delayed.

I’ve called for six days straight now and all they can say is “it’s in tracing.”

I’ve been flying for years and never had a bag lost. I’m worried that if they truly knew where it was it would have already been on one of the next flights from CDG to SFO. When the bag was initially lost, the first agent I spoke to at SFO claimed that it made it on the first flight from GOT to CDG but did not make it from CDG to SFO. Now, no one I speak to on the phone has any information about anything. I don't even know if CDG is responding to the follow-ups about finding my bag.

I'm really worried. Has anyone heard success stories in this scenario?