Can i jailbreak?

I honestly don't know what to think anymore.

A few days ago my wife and I finally had a serious conversation about our marriage. We've been emotionally and physically distant for years, and I wanted to know if she felt it too.

I asked her how she felt about us.

She said, "I'm fine. I'm just busy with office work and taking care of the house."

Then she asked me, "What about you? You haven't come close to me. Don't we need to plan for a baby?"

I told her I couldn't.

I explained that I genuinely feel we're disconnected. It's not just about sex anymore. I don't feel loved, desired, or emotionally close to her. Most days it feels like we're just two people living in the same house, getting through responsibilities.

Then she started talking about the pressure she's under.

She said her sister is trying to have a baby, her brother is going to become a father soon, and her mother keeps asking when she's going to have a child. She said she's under constant pressure from everyone.

Then she said something that completely broke me.

She told me, "If you don't find me attractive, we can have an open marriage. Find yourself a girlfriend. Be with whoever you find attractive. Do whatever you want. Just give me a child first. That's all I want."

I honestly didn't even know how to respond.

The fact that she was willing to tell her husband to sleep with another woman, just so she could become a mother, made me feel like our marriage didn't matter anymore. It felt like my feelings, my loneliness, and everything I've been trying to tell her for years meant absolutely nothing.

All she wanted was a baby.

I told her I can't bring a child into a marriage that already feels empty. A baby isn't supposed to fix a relationship. If anything, it makes an already struggling relationship even harder.

Since that conversation I've been feeling worse than before. Instead of feeling heard, I walked away feeling like my only value is my ability to get her pregnant.

Maybe she's saying these things because she's overwhelmed by family pressure. I don't know. But hearing the person you're married to tell you to go find another woman—as long as you give her a baby first—is something I never imagined I'd hear.

Adopted a cute little Shihtzu for distraction of 60 days (i already have one of 3 years) to distract me more.

Is having a someone to satisfy my physical needs with the permission of wife sounds good ? if yes i think there is no going back. Sad but true.

Signing off with a heavy heart. Thanks for the suggestions on my last post.

I'm a 34-year-old man in an arranged marriage with my 34-year-old wife. We've been married for five years, and I honestly don't know how much longer I can keep pretending everything is okay.

From the very first month of our marriage, I felt something was missing. I kept telling myself it was because we were strangers and needed time to get comfortable. I believed intimacy would naturally grow.

It never did.

Our sex life has always felt one-sided. She never initiates. She never flirts. She never kisses me with any desire. There's no foreplay, no passion, no excitement—nothing that makes me feel like she's actually attracted to me.

Having sex with someone who just lies there, shows no emotion, and gives no indication that they actually desire you feels incredibly lonely. I feel more alone lying next to her than I do when I'm by myself. It honestly feels like I'm making love to a mannequin, and every time it chips away at my self-esteem.

Now, after five years, the only thing she seems interested in - having a baby. That's become the focus of everything. And I'm terrified.

I'm scared that if I agree and we have a child, whatever little attention I receive now will disappear completely. I'll just become the provider and father while my emotional and physical needs are forgotten forever.

I've tried talking. I've tried waiting. I've tried being patient. I've tried convincing myself that maybe my expectations are unrealistic. But how long do you keep waiting? Five years already feels like a lifetime.

The hardest part isn't even the lack of sex. It's the feeling of never being desired by the one person who's supposed to choose you every day. I don't remember the last time I felt attractive, wanted, or emotionally connected to my own wife

Lately, I've been having some really dark thoughts. Not because of sex itself, but because I can't stop wondering if this is what the rest of my life is going to look like. Living beside someone instead of living with them.

Has anyone actually come back from a marriage like this? Can someone who has never shown passion suddenly become emotionally and physically engaged after years? Or am I holding on to hope because I'm too afraid to admit that this is simply who we are?

I'm not looking for people to tell me to "just get divorced."

I'm genuinely looking for honest advice from people who've lived through something similar

UPDATE: 29- july

Why she is forcing me to have kids?

Her elder sister is trying conceiving
Her ‘Chache ki beti’ is trying
Her ‘Brother - Mama ka beta’ is about to have a kid
Her mother is somehow forcing to have a kid
And some other elements of the society.

Guys - I don’t want her to be a machine.

For the past several days, my life revolved around one question:

"Will my puppy still be alive tomorrow?"

I nearly lost my puppy. I also lost all respect for one person at the clinic.

Anyone who has watched a puppy battle parvovirus knows the feeling. You stop sleeping. You stop eating properly. Every vomit, every breath, every small movement becomes the difference between hope and heartbreak. Your entire world shrinks to one tiny life that's depending on you.

By God's grace, my puppy survived. For that, I'll always be thankful to the doctor.

But there is someone at that clinic whose behaviour I will never forget.

The doctor's assistant proudly mentions his 14 years of experience. If that's true, then it's heartbreaking that those 14 years didn't teach him the one thing every person in healthcare should have—compassion.

Every time I asked about my puppy, I was met with arrogance, irritation, and a tone that made me feel like I was bothering him. I wasn't asking pointless questions. I was asking because my puppy was fighting for his life.

What hurt even more was watching him suddenly become polite, patient, and friendly with some other customers, while speaking to me as though I didn't deserve the same respect. Whether intentional or not, the contrast was impossible to ignore.

A veterinary clinic isn't just about injections, IV drips, or medicines.

It's where people bring family.

Some walk in carrying hope. Others walk in carrying fear. Some leave with good news. Some leave with an empty leash.

In moments like these, a few kind words can stay with someone forever. Unfortunately, so can arrogance.

Experience doesn't impress me anymore. Character does.

Marshall

If you've spent 14 years treating animals but still haven't learned how to treat frightened human beings with kindness, then those years have taught you far less than you think.

My puppy won his battle against parvo.

I only wish I hadn't also had to battle someone's ego while trying to save my best friend.

Credits: Crown pet care - wadala road - Jalandhar

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Chandigarh seems to be going pretty hard on modified cars lately.

https://preview.redd.it/w97sjg1yqn8h1.jpg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7ad6b0a3b08ec0ffe15b414ada87512363109956

People are getting challans for wider rims and tyres, and I'm trying to understand the logic behind it.

Like going up for 1 or 2 inches is not a crime.

Not looking to argue, just curious where everyone stands on this.

Are these fines justified, or is Chandigarh becoming unnecessarily strict with car enthusiasts?