u/AdventurousWind7919

LO is 8 months old and always a wonderful sleeper. We realized we’d been unintentionally feeding her to sleep and we wanted to stop that to prevent any future issues.

So 2 weeks ago we decided to switch up her routine and feed her earlier in the routine so we can put her down fully awake. Ferber amped her up more so we did CIO.

The first night she cried 15 minutes. Then 10 minutes. And now it’s either 7, less than 5 or one time it was no crying. For the either 7 or less than 5, it’s mostly just fussing or light crying and rarely hysterical crying. She usually cries for a few minutes, flips on her belly and then passes out for 8-11 hours, depending on the night.

Is there anything I can do to get rid of those few minutes of fussing/crying? Is there something I’m doing wrong? Is she still sleep trained with a few minutes of fussing/crying? Does it matter?!

LO is 8 months old and has always been a wonderful sleeper. Mehh daycare napper but her teacher's have assured me that is normal. Wonderful napper at home in her crib.

She either sleeps through the night (11ish hours) or has one wake up for a bottle and goes right back to sleep.

We realized we had been unintentionally feeding her to sleep. And while we had no issues, I wanted to get ahead of it for when we have to start brushing her teeth. I also didn't want it to cause any other sleep association issues.

We have (for the last 2 weeks) been focusing on feeding her earlier in the bedtime routine and putting her to sleep fully awake. Ferber seemed to amp her up more so we've been doing CIO. The most she cried (it was on day 1) was about 15 minutes. Every day since has either been no crying or maybe 5-10 minutes, at the longest and it is not hysterical crying. Is she still sleep trained, even if she cries for a few minutes? Is there something I am doing wrong or could be doing better?

She has finally popped a tooth and has been clingier than usual. Last night she woke up for normal feed around 1 am and then woke up again at 3 am. We gave her Tylenol and tried to soothe her back to sleep with rocking but it didn't work. We caved and ended up giving her a smaller bottle (2 ounces) and she drank it and went right back to sleep. I know 2 wake up's is no big deal and people would be grateful for that. I just don't want to introduce any new habits for her.

I want to make sure she is comforted but again, don't want to introduce any new fed-to-sleep or rocked-to-sleep associations. Should we just keep doing what we've been doing while she is teething? Others with experience in this, did you do anything different during teething? I want to ensure she is still an independent sleeper. Did they return to their usual good sleepers after the (never ending!!!) teething?

TIA!

First, I want to start by saying if I came across this post and read it, I would roll my eyes and tell this mom to grow TF up and get a grip. But unfortunately, I am completely serious.

So some back story, I was always a picky eater. Even as a baby (even when I thought no one was watching - my parents tested this theory multiple times), I would have like ridiculous reactions to fruits and vegetables. Like ridiculous, full body reactions with big emotions.

I straight up refused to eat like 90% of them. My parents took me to dozens of nutritionists and mental health therapists and they both basically said that it was likely a sensory thing and I would maybe outgrow it, maybe not. They saw the stress and tears and negative reactions it was causing both me and my family and told my parents to just let it go.

They made sure I got my multivitamin and continued to offer me a ton of fruits & veggies cooked and served in multiple fun ways. But basically, forcing it wasn't going to work.

Ironically enough, or maybe not ironically, I developed anorexia as a teenager and was really sick for several years. I was in therapy to address my feeding issues and anxiety around food and the overarching goal at that point was simply for me not to die, not necessarily focused on fruits and veggies. I ended up making a great recovery from anorexia.

Fast forward into my late twenties, I tried to continue to try fruits and veggies and the anxiety was overpowering. I am still in therapy and on an anxiety medication. When I knew I wanted to get pregnant, I tried even harder to eat more fruits & veggies and it caused me to become even more anxious and was essentially ruining my life. The general consensus is that is likely a sensory issue and a manifestation of my anxiety. Both nutritionists and therapists have decided that I can still be fairly healthy with the other ways I can consume some veggies, eating other nutritious foods, being active, and taking appropriate vitamins.

For context, I now eat some cooked veggies if they're in things (pasta sauces, various dishes, etc.) and I love things like tomato soup, other veggie soups, guacamole, salsa, etc. But the idea of sitting down and eating a salad or a piece of broccoli makes me sweat. I have continued to try them in fun ways and no such luck.

After I had my baby (she's 8 months old now), I made a goal that I would try every fruit/veggie that she tries and I have done it. But we're talking small bites and an insane amount of anxiety leading up to it. To the point it's ruining food again for me.

My husband is a trash can and will literally eat anything. He's such a brave eater with weird food and will eat any and all fruits & veggies.

My question for this community is.... Has any picky eater adult found a way to not create a picky eater child? I'm cautious about my health in other ways, seriously embarrassed about this part of me, and really anxious about how it'll affect my daughter, so if it was as simple as just eating fruits and veggies.... Trust me, I would. I realize not eating them sounds dramatic but I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

I KNOW the right answer is to keep trying them in new ways and to continue therapy/medication but that hasn't worked for me in 30 years and I don't see it working now. How do I tell my baby girl to eat broccoli if I don't?

Edit to add: My daughter is in a daycare with a kitchen so once she turns 1, she will get breakfast, lunch and an afternoon snack there. They are kid friendly meals but always include veggies and fruits and she will have other kids around her eating stuff. So in reality, we only have weekday dinners and weekend meals with her.

Edit to add AGAIN: Thank you so so so so much for the kindness and non-judgment. I was truly expecting this comment section to be super rude (if you've been in any of those Facebook Mom groups, you know why I thought that!) but I forgot how great Redditors can be. It also seems like others are experiencing similar things so hopefully you can also find support in these comments. You all rock and your kiddos are lucky to have you!

First, I want to start by saying if I came across this post and read it, I would roll my eyes and tell this mom to grow TF up and get a grip. But unfortunately, I am completely serious.

So some back story, I was always a picky eater. Even as a baby (even when I thought no one was watching - my parents tested this theory multiple times), I would have like ridiculous reactions to fruits and vegetables. Like ridiculous, full body reactions with big emotions.

I straight up refused to eat like 90% of them. My parents took me to dozens of nutritionists and mental health therapists and they both basically said that it was likely a sensory thing and I would maybe outgrow it, maybe not. They saw the stress and tears and negative reactions it was causing both me and my family and told my parents to just let it go.

They made sure I got my multivitamin and continued to offer me a ton of fruits & veggies cooked and served in multiple fun ways. But basically, forcing it wasn't going to work.

Ironically enough, or maybe not ironically, I developed anorexia as a teenager and was really sick for several years. I was in therapy to address my feeding issues and anxiety around food and the overarching goal at that point was simply for me not to die, not necessarily focused on fruits and veggies. I ended up making a great recovery from anorexia.

Fast forward into my late twenties, I tried to continue to try fruits and veggies and the anxiety was overpowering. I am still in therapy and on an anxiety medication. When I knew I wanted to get pregnant, I tried even harder to eat more fruits & veggies and it caused me to become even more anxious and was essentially ruining my life. The general consensus is that is likely a sensory issue and a manifestation of my anxiety. Both nutritionists and therapists have decided that I can still be fairly healthy with the other ways I can consume some veggies, eating other nutritious foods, being active, and taking appropriate vitamins.

For context, I now eat some cooked veggies if they're in things (pasta sauces, various dishes, etc.) and I love things like tomato soup, other veggie soups, guacamole, salsa, etc. But the idea of sitting down and eating a salad or a piece of broccoli makes me sweat. I have continued to try them in fun ways and no such luck.

After I had my baby (she's 8 months old now), I made a goal that I would try every fruit/veggie that she tries and I have done it. But we're talking small bites and an insane amount of anxiety leading up to it. To the point it's ruining food again for me.

My husband is a trash can and will literally eat anything. He's such a brave eater with weird food and will eat any and all fruits & veggies.

My question for this community is.... Has any picky eater adult found a way to not create a picky eater child? I'm cautious about my health in other ways, seriously embarrassed about this part of me, and really anxious about how it'll affect my daughter, so if it was as simple as just eating fruits and veggies.... Trust me, I would. I realize not eating them sounds dramatic but I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

I KNOW the right answer is to keep trying them in new ways and to continue therapy/medication but that hasn't worked for me in 30 years and I don't see it working now. How do I tell my baby girl to eat broccoli if I don't?

Edit to add: My daughter is in a daycare with a kitchen so once she turns 1, she will get breakfast, lunch and an afternoon snack there. They are kid friendly meals but always include veggies and fruits and she will have other kids around her eating stuff. So in reality, we only have weekday dinners and weekend meals with her.

I can’t decide if my algorithm hates me or if people are really this much more organized and dedicated than me….

For reference, my LO just turned 8 months old and is fed pumped breastmilk. She’s in daycare full time and the daycare has a kitchen. So once she turns 1, she’ll be getting breakfast, lunch and an afternoon snack there. So for most weekdays, we’ll just feed her dinner.

Currently, I’m alternating between bringing her purées (Beech Nut premade ones, *the horror!!!*), teething crackers/snacks, and leftover dinner that we ate. Everyone else in her class and apparently my social media is feeding their babies full blown gourmet meals.

She still gets plenty of breastmilk bottles. My husband and I both work full time and aren’t… the greatest eaters. So the idea of just “feeding her what we eat” both stresses me out with choking (even with following Solid Starts guidance) and just general lack of nutrition. We’re starting to eat better in preparation for when she truly will be eating what we eat but some nights are better than others. Tonight she chowed down on salmon and avocado like we ate, tomorrow she’s probably going to have buttered bread and a piece of cheese and barely eat it. We have, however, emphasized continuing to feed her common allergens (dairy, egg, wheat, peanuts, almond (flour), fish, etc.)

I love the idea of just feeding her what we eat, but again, it’s not always the healthiest options. And currently with the anxiety of choking and her still being so little, feeding her (anything other than breastmilk) when we’re out and about just doesn’t seem doable.

My question is…. Are you all (especially working parents) truly feeding your babies these giant multi-course meals multiple times a day? If you are, is your baby actually eating it?
I was always under the impression that food before one was for allergen exposure and just general exploration. If so, why are we making these giant meals?

Thank you in advance!

I can’t decide if my algorithm hates me or if people are really this much more organized and dedicated than me….

For reference, my LO just turned 8 months old and is fed pumped breastmilk. She’s in daycare full time and the daycare has a kitchen. So once she turns 1, she’ll be getting breakfast, lunch and an afternoon snack there. So for most weekdays, we’ll just feed her dinner.

Currently, I’m alternating between bringing her purées (Beech Nut premade ones, *the horror!!!*), teething crackers/snacks, and leftover dinner that we ate. Everyone else in her class and apparently my social media is feeding their babies full blown gourmet meals.

She still gets plenty of breastmilk bottles. My husband and I both work full time and aren’t… the greatest eaters. So the idea of just “feeding her what we eat” both stresses me out with choking (even with following Solid Starts guidance) and just general lack of nutrition. We’re starting to eat better in preparation for when she truly will be eating what we eat but some nights are better than others. Tonight she chowed down on salmon and avocado like we ate, tomorrow she’s probably going to have buttered bread and a piece of cheese and barely eat it. We have, however, emphasized continuing to feed her common allergens (dairy, egg, wheat, peanuts, almond (flour), fish, etc.)

I love the idea of just feeding her what we eat, but again, it’s not always the healthiest options. And currently with the anxiety of choking and her still being so little, feeding her (anything other than breastmilk) when we’re out and about just doesn’t seem doable.

My question is…. Are you all (especially working parents) truly feeding your babies these giant multi-course meals multiple times a day? If you are, is your baby actually eating it?

I was always under the impression that food before one was for allergen exposure and just general exploration. If so, why are we making these giant meals?

Thank you in advance!

Help me decide between these 2!

Both of these meet my overall high chair goals. My biggest need is for them to be super easy to clean.

Please let me know your experiences!

Help me decide between these 2!

Both of these meet my overall high chair goals. My biggest need is for them to be super easy to clean.

Please let me know your experiences!

Help me decide between these 2!

Both of these meet my overall high chair goals. My biggest need is for them to be super easy to clean.

Please let me know your experiences!

8 months pp and I EP. Baby is a great sleeper with usually just 1 wake up a night so I can’t even say I’m sleep deprived.

But I’m sooo irritable and angry, way more than I’ve ever been before. I’m in therapy and she’s basically told me to take breaks and step away when I need it.

My husband is super helpful with the baby but most of my irritability is directed towards him, even if he doesn’t always deserve it.

But I’m overwhelming irritable, impatient, and overstimulated. Is this from breastfeeding hormones? Does it go away or is this just who I am now?

8 months pp and I EP. Baby is a great sleeper with usually just 1 wake up a night so I can’t even say I’m sleep deprived.

But I’m sooo irritable and angry, way more than I’ve ever been before. I’m in therapy and she’s basically told me to take breaks and step away when I need it.

My husband is super helpful with the baby but most of my irritability is directed towards him, even if he doesn’t always deserve it.

But I’m overwhelming irritable, impatient, and overstimulated. Is this from breastfeeding hormones? Does it go away or is this just who I am now?

LO is 7.5 months old and was doing well with sleep training. A few hiccups now because she’s sick and teething.

But I’m curious if your definition of “sleep trained” means no false start bedtimes, no random wake ups and no crying before bedtime? Or do you still experience these incidents randomly?

Otherwise, what does a “sleep trained” baby look like for you?

ETA: We’re new to sleep training and it’s been a week. The most she cried for CIO was 15 minutes and it’s gone down every day. Last night, I just put her in her crib and she babbled and then fell asleep! No crying! Tonight she was back to fussing like 7 ish minutes. Is this fluctuation normal? I definitely think she’s overtired today and fussy from teething. Or does sleep trained mean they never cry before bed?

LO is almost 8 months and has always been an amazing sleeper. Great home napper but not great daycare napper, but she’s also a FOMO baby.

We realized we’d been feeding her to sleep (pumped breast milk in a bottle) and had no major issues with it but we wanted to get ahead of it. She was sleeping 8-11 hours with the feed to sleep so I don’t think she developed that association. We’ve done a few days of sleep training by feeding her, playing and hanging out and putting her to bed about 30 minutes after she’s eaten. She’s done great with CIO! (Ferber check-in’s pissed her off more). The most crying on day 1 was 15 minutes and now we’re down to about 2-5 minutes. Sometimes like a minute! She also has decided to sometimes drop her night feed too.

Overall, she’s done amazing! With naps, do we still need a full “bedtime” routine? Daycare doesn’t tend to feed to sleep and we only put her down for naps on weekends so it’s not that often. With that being said, am I going to undo everything if we still feed to sleep for naps? Does it even matter if it’s only like twice a week and we never had any feed to sleep issues prior?

TIA!

I recently posted recommendations for high chairs and you guys SHOWED UP! Thank you!

Now, is the Catchy worth it? That affects my decision for which high chair because they don’t have a Catchy that is compatible with every high chair.

She’s in daycare so most weekdays she would just have 1 meal at home and then weekends.

We got a splat mat and moving it and picking it up wasn’t worth it.

Is the Catchy worth it or just another gimmicky thing I don’t need?

Also, feel free to put your favorite high chair here too!

I recently posted recommendations for high chairs and you guys SHOWED UP! Thank you!

Now, is the Catchy worth it? That affects my decision for which high chair because they don’t have a Catchy that is compatible with every high chair.

She’s in daycare so most weekdays she would just have 1 meal at home and then weekends.

We got a splat mat and moving it and picking it up wasn’t worth it.

Is the Catchy worth it or just another gimmicky thing I don’t need?

Also, feel free to put your favorite high chair here too!

First of all, I’m annoyed because I bought a $150 high chair on Amazon that is ✨aesthetic✨ and the wood legs are splitting. (To be fair, we did hose them off, which was probably dumb. More on that below!) My baby has only been using it for a month. I’m concerned it’s not safe so I want a new one ASAP.

LO is 7.5 months old and we’re doing a mix of BLW and purées and shewwww it’s been a mess!

What are your recommendations?

Here are my preferences!

1. ⁠Easy to clean. And I don’t mean just easy to wipe down, I mean I want to be able to take it outside and hose it off. And not worry about the legs getting wet or damaged!
2. ⁠Affordable and long lasting. (Ideally around $120, if possible)
3. ⁠Have a foot rest.
4. ⁠A 5 point safety harness

I toyed around with the IKEA one (despite it not being as ✨aesthetic✨) buttttt by the time you pay for shipping and buy the tray, cushion, & after market foot rests, it’s close to $100 and I have to install all of the pieces separately. And I don’t like that it doesn’t have a 5 point safety harness.

But I’m concerned about any of the wood leg ones being hosed off.

Thank you!

First of all, I’m annoyed because I bought a $150 high chair on Amazon that is ✨aesthetic✨ and the wood legs are splitting. (To be fair, we did hose them off, which was probably dumb. More on that below!) My baby has only been using it for a month. I’m concerned it’s not safe so I want a new one ASAP.

LO is 7.5 months old and we’re doing a mix of BLW and purées and shewwww it’s been a mess!

What are your recommendations?

Here are my preferences!

1. ⁠Easy to clean. And I don’t mean just easy to wipe down, I mean I want to be able to take it outside and hose it off. And not worry about the legs getting wet or damaged!
2. ⁠Affordable and long lasting. (Ideally around $120, if possible)
3. ⁠Have a foot rest.
4. ⁠A 5 point safety harness

I toyed around with the IKEA one (despite it not being as ✨aesthetic✨) buttttt by the time you pay for shipping and buy the tray, cushion, & after market foot rests, it’s close to $100 and I have to install all of the pieces separately. And I don’t like that it doesn’t have a 5 point safety harness.

But I’m concerned about any of the wood leg ones being hosed off.

Thank you!

First of all, I’m annoyed because I bought a $150 high chair on Amazon that is ✨aesthetic✨ and the wood legs are splitting. (To be fair, we did hose them off, which was probably dumb. More on that below!) My baby has only been using it for a month. I’m concerned it’s not safe so I want a new one ASAP.

LO is 7.5 months old and we’re doing a mix of BLW and purées and shewwww it’s been a mess!

What are your recommendations?

Here are my preferences!

1. ⁠Easy to clean. And I don’t mean just easy to wipe down, I mean I want to be able to take it outside and hose it off. And not worry about the legs getting wet or damaged!
2. ⁠Affordable and long lasting. (Ideally around $120, if possible)
3. ⁠Have a foot rest.
4. ⁠A 5 point safety harness

I toyed around with the IKEA one (despite it not being as ✨aesthetic✨) buttttt by the time you pay for shipping and buy the tray, cushion, & after market foot rests, it’s close to $100 and I have to install all of the pieces separately. And I don’t like that it doesn’t have a 5 point safety harness.

But I’m concerned about any of the wood leg ones being hosed off.

Thank you!

First of all, I’m annoyed because I bought a $150 high chair on Amazon that is ✨aesthetic✨ and the wood legs are splitting. (To be fair, we did hose them off, which was probably dumb. More on that below!) My baby has only been using it for a month. I’m concerned it’s not safe so I want a new one ASAP.

LO is 7.5 months old and we’re doing a mix of BLW and purées and shewwww it’s been a mess!

What are your recommendations?

Here are my preferences!

1. Easy to clean. And I don’t mean just easy to wipe down, I mean I want to be able to take it outside and hose it off. And not worry about the legs getting wet or damaged!
2. Affordable and long lasting. (Ideally around $120, if possible)
3. Have a foot rest.
4. A 5 point safety harness.

I toyed around with the IKEA one (despite it not being as ✨aesthetic✨) buttttt by the time you pay for shipping and buy the tray, cushion, & after market foot rests, it’s close to $100 and I have to install all of the pieces separately. And I don’t like that it doesn’t have a 5 point safety harness.

But I’m concerned about any of the wood leg ones being hosed off.

Thank you!

I got a lot of anecdotal answers on a similar post in other subs but they’re also very anti-sleep training so I’m curious about the experiences in here.

LO is 7.5 months and an amazing night sleeper, always has been. Bedtime is between 7:30-8 and she sleeps 8-10 hours, feeds (fed pumped breastmilk in a bottle because I EP), and then immediately back to sleep for several more hours. Used to sleep through the night but since getting the never ending daycare cough, will often cough herself awake 1 time and then go back to sleep after feeding.

Her naps at home on the weekends in the crib are 1-2.5 hours and she does really well. A good car/stroller napper too. Not great at contact naps because she always wants to roll on her belly. Daycare naps are pretty bad but I think it’s because she has FOMO and it’s loud and overstimulating.

When she was younger, we put her down drowsy but awake and she’d put herself to sleep. I would say we unintentionally sleep trained her. Since starting daycare, she’s so tired for bedtime that we often feed her to sleep. It wasn’t an intentional thing but just sort of started happening.

My question now is, do we need to stop feeding her to sleep if it’s working? Clearly she’s connecting sleep schedules. Would you ride this out UNTIL it becomes an issue?

My only concerns are…

1. Are her poor daycare naps because they don’t feed to sleep? (I’m doubtful of this because she used to sleep okay there, even when we were doing this at home. And she does occasionally have good nap days).
2. Is this transition of not feeding her to sleep (when we have to start brushing her teeth and/or it’s time to drop her night bottle) going to be so much harder when she’s older? Are there success stories of babies being sleep trained successfully at a year old?

My husband says if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. And we should enjoy this good sleep while we can. But part of me thinks it makes sense to try to feed her earlier in her bedtime routine and use Ferber to get her to sleep without being fed, while she’s younger and easier to ST.

Grateful for any experiences in here because you guys all seem like sleep experts!