u/Big_Duke_Six

Does anyone else feel that their church is not very inclusive or “accepting” of their single-adult population? When I say “not accepting” I don’t mean not welcome… but that Scripture lessons, ministries, and general fellowship programs seem to center around and cater to already established married couples? Observed that during pre-and post-service fellowship, married couples are talking to married couples, and that the singles are either leaving right away or wandering aimlessly looking for interaction?

I have done some research online and it seems to be a widespread issue (especially with single men), and I am curious about others’ takes on it…

49M... I moved to Fort Myers at the end of 2021 from New Jersey. I chose Ft. Myers bc my mother lived here and I was able to live w her for a few months until I bought and closed on my condo. This was before Ian, and I purchased my condo at the height of the COVID price spike.

Anyway... I am not really thrilled about the area. The beaches here are gross, the food is terrible, and the area is boring. My biggest gripes are the beaches/water quality and poor fishing areas.

I grew up on Atlantic beaches in NJ, so moving east is starting to appeal to me. My grandparents used to live in the Melbourne/Palm Bay area in the 80's, which then, was pretty nice. Can anyone shed light on how it is today? Any other Central or Southeast areas I should consider? I wouldn't want to go any more north than the Space Coast.

My other option is further up the west coast... like Sarasota or Manatee Counties. I still like the gulf coast vibe, and the water quality is SO much better than Lee County, south of the Calooshatchee.

Thanks! Feel free to ask any questions!!

Does anyone know of any local churches or communities that host weekly Bingo nights?
I'm not asking about or referring to the larger Bingo halls like Midpoint Bingo.

Thanks!

Has anyone changed out their horn to something "beefier"? The factory installed "beep beep" is a little embarrassing, esp. being from New Jersey and using my horn a lot in a not so cordial manner. 😛

I don't have lifts or the garage to do much work myself... is this something that's easy to do?

Those of you who'd switched it, what horn model have you used?

Forgive me if this gets posted a lot... I'm not on this sub often.

I am currently an admin assistant in a hospital system supporting a system director. Most of my administrative work is compiling auditing reports that the team submits, meeting minutes recording and distribution, and random things that come up on occassion. It's quite dull and boring for what I am used to from previous jobs.

I am biding my time until it's convenient to start looking elsewhere in the organization.

There are EA roles that support VPs throughout the org, that on the surface appeal to me, but not sure what the roles entail that would be different than what I do now.

So now I want to focus my development to be ready for an EA role in 12-18 months. What are the skills or tasks that make EAs different or unique compared to AAs?

I recently joined my company as an administrative assistant this past December. This position is a step down from my previous career experiences, but it is a foot in the door of a well-regarded and large local organization, and the only one that hired me after 3 years of gap employment after a layoff in 2022.

There is the typical 6 month freeze for every position, and I am approaching that in the middle of this month. I am comfortable in my position, but it is getting boring and routine, and with my skill set, I am capable of more.

How can I best approach my manager in a positive manner that I wish to look around and post for other positions, after only being in my role for such a short time? Or, it is best that I don't, and look outside the organization?

I've been suffering with ETD in my left ear for coming up to a decade, and it's miserable. I have tried ear tubes and steroid injection into the E-tube, but it's all been temporary.

I have an appointment tomorrow for another ear tube placement, and balloon dialation two weeks later.

I also have a very clicky jaw (TMJ?) on the side with my bad ear that sometimes gets sore and tight. Research pointed out that yes, TMJ can cause this.

Has anyone had their ETD diagnosed with TMJ as the cause, and if so how did you resolve it?

I will talk to my doctor tomorrow about this possibiility and maybe thinking the balloon dialation should be held off until TMJ is treated?

Looking for recommendations for local music schools/teachers to learn the guitar as an adult. I dont want to be "taught" out of a book, but theory and exercises to eventually play via tab and ear.

Looking for recommendations for local music schools/teachers to learn the guitar as an adult. I dont want to be "taught" out of a book, but theory and exercises to eventually play via tab and ear.

I'm currently 49m and creeping up to the big 5-0. Never married, and don't have kids.
A friend told me that their 50s were far better than their 40s.

In my experience, dating in my 40s pretty much sucked. I feel like I'm stuck on the island of misfit toys. Either people don't know what they want, have unresolved trauma or baggage issues, or just out to take advantage of others.
I've grown tired enough to the point that I don't even want a LTR or marriage, bc to me, it's being committed to the same drama and BS, and would prefer something casual or NSA at this point. However, I would probably strill be open to love if I found it.

So... enough about me. How are you all managing??

Looking to sell a car to Carvana, but I am buying one elsewhere first. I was hoping to transfer registration and insurance upon purchase, leaving the car i want to sell uninsured and unregistered. Would this cause a problem if I have a copy of the now-invalid registration?

I currently have a flat antenna mounted with stickers on the window of my sliding glass door to my lanai/balcony.

Does anyone have a recommendation for an antenna that I can mount inside my lanai (not outside... damn HOA!) that is strong enough for ~ 70mile range?

Good afternoon Brothers and Sisters...

I am reaching out as I need some advice about someone I have a bit of an interest in at my church.

For context... I am late 40s, she is early 60's. we have chatted several times, and she is always warm and cordial, in ways that she's not "obligated" to be as a sister in Christ. We have some similarities of our past (I don't want to explain due to privacy) that we had connected over originally. She always comes up to me at church with the biggest hug, etc.

Anyway... the reason for my hesitation to ask and coming here for advice is I had a relationship with someone at the same church that ended about 3 years ago. It was a bit of an ugly breakup to where we completely avoided each other at church (a bit of the Jezebel spirit in her, if you catch my drift).

My worry is not of my ex finding out... I don't think she would cause trouble.

My worries are the following...

1. Getting rejected, and having to run into her again.

2. The risk of gossip spreading around church.

3. Having it not work, and running into the same issues as I do with my previous ex.

How can I maturely approach her to invite her to a dinner/lunch where we can get to know one another more deeply without the risk of discomfort or awkwardness?
Should I approach her at church, or would a phone call be sufficient?

Good morning! I am a 49 year old male US citizen, trying to plan a 10-14 day trip this coming fall for the first time, but having trouble planning an itinerary.

ChatGPT gave me some rough ideas, but want to throw the question up here for more first hand experiences and recommendations.

My interests or things I definitely want to do on this trip:

Explore Bangkok... street food, nightlife, overall city lifestyle.
Pattaya (This is a maybe, unless someone can offer must-see's)
Beaches
Elephant sanctuary
Maybe one or two temples

I don't drink, however, I don't mind in engaging in adult fun with the ladies.

I'm not really looking to engage much with the mountain life this trip... maybe a future one.
Leaning more toward urban experience and tropical beaches.

Thank

Can anyone recommend a garage or handyman service that could do or assist with insulating a one-garage door in the Ft. Myers area? Thanks!

I am shopping online for a used car and see 2 2025 RAV4s with only 5K and 5,733 miles on them.

CarFax reports look clean. Any reason these might be for sale with such low mileage and only a year old?

I am shopping online for a used car and see 2 2025 RAV4s with only 5K and 5,733 miles on them.

CarFax reports look clean. Any reason these might be for sale with such low mileage and only a year old?

What are dark horse or hidden gem fragrances that still turn heads, and often aren't in the same conversation as the more popular brands like Sauvage or BDC?

I'm not talking about expensive designers... but more overlooked affordable/mid priced brands.

I;ve been in my role on this team supporting a Director/department head since this past December as an administrative assistant. There wasn't much of a learning program to learn the department-specific roles, so I just winged it until correction was needed or I found a better way. My boss confirmed that she's a very hands off manager, which is a positive, because I loathe working with or for micro-managers and helicopter bosses.

On the flipside, I think she is sometimes TOO hands off, to where I feel she thinks I don't exist. She rarely answers my emails and if/when, a long gap of time goes by. When I DM on WebEx or text her, I never get a response.

The more recent incidents have really made me feel this way....

Today, as well as a few weeks ago, she didn't come in the office, nor was there any indication of life/activity on WebEx for her if she was working remotely. I reached out a few times on emails for some things and no response. I asked her senior most report-to below her on our team and he said she called out. Same thing for a few weeks ago.

There are times this happens and people ask if she's in, and I feel stupid for saying I don't know. I have had some even insinuate "you're her assistant.. why don't you know".

Does anyone work for a boss like this, and how are you managing this? I brought up these communication issues in my post-90 day evaluation (which I got nothing short of rave reviews during), and they were acknowledged, but nothing seems to be changing.