u/CorgiUprising

So, I met a buddy who’s husbands in the hospital last night and I really didn’t feel like going out and such, but for a friend, yes I shall. My mother knows my father’s chaotic behavior and let me know when he was on his way home (also kinda odd that he sends updates, almost as if to keep tabs). Anyway, my mother let me know he was enroute so I called it and left.

Welllllll, he got home before me, almost seeming drunk and proceeded to rant about “what did I say about going out during the week” and how it scares him when I’m not home (I AM 30 AND AN EMT! My weeks aren’t M-F)

He really believes I should only ever go out with him, obviously for control, obviously to keep track.

Anyone else?

It’s so sad how crazy this sounds but how it’s actually reality.

So I’m an emt and have been for 7 years, also a pharmacy technician for 4. I really want to get off the ambulance and really can’t stand pharmacy.

I have a BA in psychology, love law, also work with make a wish and coach hockey.

What are some roles I could transition to or what has been your experience transitioning from a role such as EMS or similar?

So I’ve been here for about 6 months as an AEMT, I’ve worked EMS for 7 years.

I’ve never seen communication this bad. Whether it’s dispatch, who’s not even in house, random time changes or schedule changes without saying a word or what’s going on today

So I’m at the south location and have no partner, nobody has told me to go anywhere, do anything, or hey head up!

Given the level of toxicity here, I’m sure I somehow will end up in trouble for sitting and waiting for comms.

I’m loving the free time on the clock, hating that I worry they’d find a way to be rude.
Time for some applications!

Context: I’m in the US and 7 years ago I worked at an EMS service which is pretty good. I also want to note, I grew up in an abusive home, which it’s important to the situation. Anyway, I was discriminated against and there was a lot of nonsense going on. When I was let go due to my attitude, I threw my uniform shirt on the ground.

I was VERY MUCH a person who couldn’t response properly to adversity. Since realizing it was due to my father’s emotional abuse, I have grown and worked to properly respond to things and matured greatly.

They are giving me an interview and I really would like to go back as it’s a great opportunity. The company has changed and the people who were bad are not there anymore.

How do I show I’ve grown? Any tips for asking for a second chance?

I’m 30 and sadly live at home still due to finances and the market is just crap, anyway…

I went out last night for a bit and sadly saw some of their friends at this bar so knowing my father’s usual response if I am out, I asked them to be discrete. Welp, I HAVE FOUND SOME MORE PEOPLE I CANT TRUST.

They tattled and went off on me as well.

My father then joined on the rant about how I shouldn’t go out, how it stresses HIM out, etc.

Because yes, I am saving but I need to be able to enjoy life just a bit.

I shall just be home anytime I’m not working, just so as to not deal with the BS.

anyone else?!

I’ve been an AEMT for 7 years and have had good luck with partners for the most part.

This service utilizes me in the A role and my partner is a B with about 2 years experience so I’d expect SOME LEVEL OF EFFORT.

No. He is, SLOW. Like, I ask him to start the check while I do the things I need to do.

I finish my thing and HE HAS YET TO START THEM.

We get sent to a call, and he’s messing around on his phone instead of atleast STARTING TO GO.

He has multiple times seemed to ignore calls and made me have to go SEARCH FOR HIM.

He always honestly seems stoned. Like that’s the best way I can describe him.

I love taking care of people, I do. My dread and my anxiety and depression and PTSD and allllll that won’t deter good patient care.

I truly. Hate. My job.

My coworkers and management are toxic. I can’t report my concerns for fear of backlash.

I’m just done. I want to work anything else.

Anyone else leave and do something not medical?

Y’all… the other day, I get home from work (12 hour shift, I’d not been home ALL DAY!) and I grab a drink from the fridge and some not wet food(a clam cake). I am nowhere near the dishwasher and I got blamed for drops of water on it. He rages as it’s always my fault and it was perfect minutes earlier. Sure. Fine.

Today?! I got home from being out all day, I had not even touched liquids at the house and again! He gets home and is like YOU WERE HOME ALL DAY AND YOU CLEARLY DONT LISTEN AS AGAIN THERES LIQUID ON THE DISHWASHER!

He then interrogates me and even with proof still said it’s always me, I don’t listen and I must’ve done something.

Meanwhile, my mother and sister have been home. ALL DAY!!

His OCD and narcissism are getting worse, the closer I get to moving out.

ANYONE ELSE?!

I’ve been an emt for 7 years, 4 as an AEMT.

These for a driver/emt position for both.

Tips?

I know the general stuff but this is huge.

I worked retail during college and now 8 years later of EMS, I decided pickup a second job… anyone else work full time elsewhere and work part time retail?

I just worry I’m going to say to someone “your not finding a shirt isn’t life or death” or some other thing.

My father just almost assaulted me again after there was a scratch on the stove.

A scratch not left by me, because I was making sure to lift the hot thing knowing if I didn’t clean right away, I’d be yelled at.

I’m just curious a good way to blow the whistle. Let his friends and family know he’s an abusive sociopath.

Let his friends know he tried to fuck my ex. And that’s why he got kicked out of the military.

Ideas?

The spicy chicken was nacho, seasoned rice, chicken, creamy jalapeño, right?

Anyone try and recreate this as that’s what I have set right now in my app and I miss this thing.

I’m 6 years in, I’ve dealt with discrimination, toxic BS, rude management, you name it.

Lately, I’ve been thinking 21$/hr for an AEMT where I’m using my license is not worth it. It’s just not.

I applied to AMR in the northeast and they actually ghosted me. So I reached out and was told they’re not hiring per diem?(I don’t want per diem?) they had HR ream me for reaching out. My plan with AMR was literally so I can work there and transfer out and have something when I move.

Ok so communication is a no, ghosting is cool.

I think that’s my last straw, I’ve given up on humans. It stinks because I love helping people, I enjoy the 911 calls where maybe it is just a scared grandma who needs a lift or an IFT. I enjoy that.

What I don’t enjoy is all the BS associated with it. I’ve seen professionalism go down, BS go up.

When did yall call it?

Update: quitting today.

He constantly does this, takes the lid off, but leaves it as if to say “it’s full, someone take care of it”

It’s wild even more because he was off yesterday(HE WORKS AN OFFICE JOB AND TAKES DAYS OFF! BUT THINKS I, AN EMT!, should work 5 days a week in EMS and doesn’t understand why that’s not a good idea).

Yet… if someone leaves dishes soaking or something? It’s a war crime.

Anyone else’s parent do things like this?

Like, ask me if you’re busy to do something? Cool. But this passive aggressive nonsense is old

Anyone else with this?

I’m 30, I appreciate when they’re normal, oh will you be home for dinner? Is fine.

No this is just weird.

The amount of obsession with how long I’m out with friends after a shift, I got texted, TEN MINUTES AFTER LEAVING WORK IF I WAS OK.

I then was told I shouldn’t go out so much and I was out abcd days and why drink?

Y’all… I worked those days… I went out last night with my best friend and had a single beer.

Why do they obsess over what we do, then create a narrative, then act like they didn’t go out and such when they were young?!