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How do I fix myself? I sleep too much or too little, I spend hours upon hours on my phone or iPad, I don’t do my coursework often, I get stressed out and cry so easily, I get severely anxious in social situations, I have a hard time keeping a schedule, my habits never stick, i have a hard time initiating and completing tasks, my social life is dead, I become overwhelmed so easily, I have a low frustration tolerance, I feel little joy in life, my body often becomes heavy with tiredness.

im 24, so its just embarrassing at this point. My teen years were pretty rough, with coke/weed/alcohol abuse, an eating disorder, and suicidal ideation. While I’ve come a long way, I still feel so behind in life. I burn out to easily and have a hard time keeping up in uni right now, and just a hard time living in general, i don’t know how to fix all those problems listed above. I’ve been sober for 5 years, and I do exercise and eat healthy when I’m not completely wiped. I don’t know what else to do, besides kicking the phone/ipad habit I guess.

How do I fix myself? I sleep too much or too little, I spend hours upon hours on my phone or iPad, I don’t do my coursework often, I get stressed out and cry so easily, I get severely anxious in social situations, I have a hard time keeping a schedule, my habits never stick, i have a hard time initiating and completing tasks, my social life is dead, I become overwhelmed so easily, I have a low frustration tolerance, I feel little joy in life, my body often becomes heavy with tiredness

i don’t know what to do

so we’re working on a mandatory group semester project right now. The group has made an agreement that we meet everyday from eight am to 4 pm and work on the project. But I’m sooooooooooooo exhausted, like physically I just sleep and sleep when I get home, and even when I’m in school I feel foggy. I feel like I’m not contributing enough to the project, and I don’t know what to do.

I’m afraid that they just view me as dumb or lazy, I wanna try suggesting that I go home at 1pm everyday and just do the rest at home, but I’m kinda afraid to ask for that. There’s only two weeks left, and we still have a whole lot to do.

Long story short, da jeg var 14-15 brændte jeg helt sammen psykisk, jeg havde haft en spiseforstyrrelse i noget tid og et evigt forværrende selvbillede.
Efter lang ventetid blev jeg udret hos den offentlige psykiatri, som diagnoserede mig med autisme.

sagen er så den, at når man er 15 og allerede hader sig selv, så er en autismediagnose sgu ikke liiiiiiiige det fedeste i verden (har det stadig meget stramt med den tbh). Anyways, min angst, depressive symptomer, og spise/selvbillede problematikker blev helt ignoreret. ikke lang tid efter jeg fik diagnosen forsøgte jeg selvmord. Den har ikke ført til andet end fejlbehandling og misforståelser for mig

kort tid efter det kom jeg på et psykiatrisk bosted, og tbh de næste 5-6 år af mit liv er meget fragmenterede minder. Jeg udviklede et misbrug til bla alkohol, hash og kokain. (som jeg så senere kom af igen uden hjælp vel og mærke)

som 20-årig døde en af mine gamle folkeskolevenner, dette satte tingene lidt i perspektiv for mig, jeg havde levet de sidste 5-6 år af mit liv i limbo, ikke helt levende, men alligevel for bange for til at prøve at dø. Jeg tog en beslutning om at prøve at leve.

Jeg begyndte at tage hf enkeltfag, imens at jeg kæmpede med at forbedre min angst og spiseproblemer. Som 23-årig blev jeg student.

Nu føler jeg mig bare som en skald af en person. Jeg går på uni, hvilket er sygt hårdt og ribber helt klart op i noget angst for mig. Jeg føler mig frakoblet fra folk. De fleste har haft oplevelser med gymnasietid, arbejde, højskole, venner og fester ect ect. Jeg har haft oplevelser med at stikke fingre med i halsen, diskuterer med personale, købe kokain af mistænkelige mennesker, svedeture alene i min seng, angstanfald så slemme at jeg troede jeg skulle dø.

Jeg ved ikke hvordan jeg skal begynde at leve, jeg ved ikke hvordan man lever et normalt liv

School, studying, cleaning, exercising, eating, toilet visits, showering and hygiene, leisure, socializing, working.

HOW THE FUCK DO PEOPLE DO IT?

Im going crazy, i don’t even have a job nor am I that social, yet I still struggle with balancing just the basics (school, study, food, hygiene) and many days I just do nothing and feel horrible. how do I be productive and actually get stuff done?

I’m ADHD too btw

School, studying, cleaning, exercising, eating, toilet visits, showering and hygiene, leisure, socializing, working.

HOW THE FUCK DO PEOPLE DO IT?

Im going crazy, i don’t even have a job nor am I that social, yet I still struggle with balancing just the basics (school, study, food, hygiene) and many days I just do nothing and feel horrible. how do I be productive and actually get stuff done?

School, studying, cleaning, exercising, eating, toilet visits, showering and hygiene, leisure, socializing, working.

HOW THE FUCK DO PEOPLE DO IT?

Im going crazy, i don’t even have a job nor am I that social, yet I still struggle with balancing just the basics (school, study, food, hygiene) and many days I just do nothing and feel horrible. how do I be productive and actually get stuff done?

syntes jeg har læst flere artikler fra hvor der står ventetiden er ca 3-4 måneder når man har tilstrækkelig dokumentation. Men altså… jeg sendte min ansøgning ind i slut december 2025, altså ca. 5 måneder siden, og ifølge deres hjemmeside så er de kun nået til ansøgninger til og med den 11. september 2025…. de var i gang med august da jeg søgte i december, så det har taget dem 5 måneder at gå gennem én måneds ansøgninger.

med den hastighed kan jeg så forvente ydeligere 10-15 måneder? eller speeder det lidt op nu når de er ovre August?

It’s to be expected I guess but damn, things were going good I had stopped drinking and established healthy eating and exercise habits, and had plenty of success experiences, thought I would be able to handle things better this time around.

So I went down from 15 mg to 10, and holy fuck these last 5 months have been haaaard. In hindsight maybe it was dumb to lower my dosis 1 month before starting Uni🙃. I’m so socially behind right now, due to my social anxiety coming back ten fold, I feel like I’ve already fucked my Uni social life up (we’re a small class in my degree and they all already seem tight, parties, inside joke, everyone knows each others name, whereas I’m still unsure what half the class is called)
I also haven’t been a part of a big group in a looooong time, so it’s bringing back a lot of anxieties. Just a perfect storm really.

Guess I’ll be dependent on this drug till I die

I cant take it any moreeeee, hader gruppearbejde, og jeg syntes slet ikke jeg fungerer i min gruppe. De er alle meget udadvendte typer, som snakker hurtigt og meget, hvilket er fint men fuck det dræner mig når jeg skal arbejde.

I forhold til arbejdet så er der især én som er meget dominerende, han snakker over alle og tror nærmest hans ord er lov, han siger alt som om at han er 100% sikker og skal indblande sig i alt, også selvom man spørger en anden.

det er også virkelig svært at snakke med dem om det faglige, altså hvis der er noget jeg ikke forstår føler jeg lidt jeg bliver set på som en idiot. Jeg zoner tit ud, og det er self også træls for de andre, jeg får det bare mega dårligt med mig selv når jeg ikke er med, og tør nærmest ikke spørge mere pga den respons jeg får.

jeg fungerer bare slet ikke i grupper🥲

I overthiiiiink everything in social situations, my body language, other peoples ect, and I do try hard to appear “normal“ but I honestly never really know how I’m coming across. I think i always assume the worst, sometimes I think i come across as a weird creep, but people actually like me and talk to me.

other times I think im being totally chill but get told I seem mad or nervous, or I butt heads or offend without ever meaning to.

people are however always very surprised when I tell them I’m autistic, I just never know how I’m coming across, I feel so nervous and unnatural in social situations, I almost never react organically, my body language and words are all kinda an act of how I think I’m supposed to act, sometimes I dont even know how I would react naturally tbh

often when I feel anxiety I get this insanely creepy out of body experience, where the world around me just feels wrong, like everything is fake, I’m so afraid of losing touch with reality i don’t really know what to do

hejsa, hvad er nogle gode study spots I Aarhus hvor man ikke behøver at købe en kop kaffe til 45 kr?

I’m in uni and fml my major is very teamwork heavy, which just dosent work for me at all (autism yay), everything goes so fast and I feel like I lose 60 iq points whenever I work in teams, I just can’t keep up. I overthink everything and even the slightest disagreement or dismissal stings.

We work in a noisy classroom on top of that, plus we have many days from 8am to 4pm (7:20 - ~5 with commute😫😫)

so I just feel like shit whenever I get home, like my whole body and my head hurts, I feel like crying and my mind is foggy, which is shit because I often have shit to do at home too, like assignments, cleaning, gym, shower, all that.

I dunno how to cope, and I often just cry and fall asleep, which isn’t great when I have assignments due.

I’m in uni and fml my major is very teamwork heavy, which just dosent work for me at all, everything goes so fast and I feel like I lose 60 iq points whenever I work in teams, I just can’t keep up. We work in a noisy classroom on top of that, plus we have many days from 8am to 4pm (7:20 - ~5 with commute😫😫)

so I just feel like shit whenever I get home, like my whole body and my head hurts, I feel like crying and my mind is foggy, which is shit because I often have shit to do at home too, like assignments, cleaning, gym, shower, all that.

I dunno how to cope, and I often just cry and fall asleep, which isn’t great when I have assignments due.