I have display audio waveforms checked and the audio track is just solid green. I can hear the audio but can't see any waveforms. I've closed and restarted many times and it doesn't fix anything.
I run a small design agency and typically custom quote EVERYTHING. A lead would inquire, I get them on the phone to discuss the details of their project, tell them I'll get them a quote in 24hrs. Sometimes people are sticker shocked and we both feel like we wasted our time. I sometimes give a ballpark range at the end of our convo and they're also sometimes sticker shocked still leaving me feeling like I just wasted 30 mins on the phone.
Coming from a buyers perspective I HATE having to jump through hoops just to see what the price is. I feel like it's the car dealership tactic to getting you excited with the test drive then the salesman taking you inside to do the whole monthly payment bullshit factoring your trade in etc. I'd rather deal with Carmax and not deal with the BS or even order a Tesla online. Or be upfront like Apple which almost never goes on sale but you know exactly what you're paying for. You can buy an Apple product and not worry that it'll be cheaper next month or at another store.
I've recently decided to be fully transparent and upfront as possible with my pricing. I of course can't list EVERYTHING because not every project is the same but I've shared the pricing on my most common projects along with giving breakdowns of what's included. I don't want anyone on either side to feel like they've wasted their time. Here's my price, here's whats included, if you're interested and that's within your budget lets chat.
What are your thoughts on being upfront and transparent with pricing?
We all had an assumption this was happening as the products have been dwindling on the website. Its official now
My wife and I recently bought a home with a garage and Im excited to get rid of my mish mosh of random unorganized tools stuffed into a tool bag sitting in the far corner of our apartment coat closet.
I want to get a tool storage with drawers and coordinated tools. I dont work on cars or do any woodworking so i just need a general set that can cover a wide range of needs like putting together ikea furniture or kids toys.
Whats a solid tool box/storage and tool set i should look into?
A “competitor” is trying hard to hijack local clientele from my area. They are clearly located in Texas while Im in the DC area. They have cleverly setup location pages in EVERY major US city, setup a GMB for each city, and paid for reviews. I can tell they’re fake reviews because when I click on the individual people they have random reviews all over the US. They set their location as a coworking space but they actually work out of dallas. It’s actually working for them as they’re ranking #1 in the map pack.
Im sure they’ve done work in DC like I have done work in Texas but I dont claim to be based in Texas.
How can I report them?
In the past 3 years my 76 yr old dad has become an insufferable asshole. Everyone is doing him wrong; my mom, the cashier, repair man. He doesn’t shut up about it and has to rant to my mom. Im pretty positive it is some age related cognitive decline like early dementia or Alzheimer’s
Ive isolated him from my family and his only grandkids hoping it would force him to get help. I told him i am not talking to him nor seeing him nor can he see or talk to my kids until he sees a doctor and therapist. But he refuses and believes nothing is wrong with him.
He constantly smokes despite having throat cancer in the past and also blows any money he has at the casino. He has such terrible living habits that he weighs only 113lbs.
My mom is sick of it all and has started divorce proceedings. I am hoping that divorce scares the shit out of him and he finally gets help. If they do divorce i know it will be ugly. My mom would have to sell their home that SHE worked so hard for. She was always the breadwinner, she paid EVERY bill, made every major decision for the family, decorated EVERY inch of that house. She’ll have to sell it, give half to my dad who will then most likely blow it all at the casino.
Id much rather him get throat cancer again and pass away than go through an ugly divorce.
I do video production in the DC and was thinking about creating Youtube videos about filming in DC. Like the permitting process to film around the National Monuments in DC, flying a drone in the dc area, best podcast studios in DC etc. There aren’t really any YouTube videos like this.
I was thinking since youtube is the 2nd largest search engine this is an opportunity for my business to stand out. Also thinking embedding these videos in blog posts will help too.
Would youtube videos help my local seo or not worth the squeeze?
We’re at the tail end of 90’s nostalgia that Nike has been milking for 2 decades. Gen Z and younger are calling Jordans and other retro models unc shoes. I dont blame them because in the 90’s nothing from the 70’s was considered cool to me.
People like me in their 40’s and 50’s have pretty much bought all the retro’s they wished they had in high school. We’ve bought all the OG colorways and I dont need another pair of black cement 3’s or concord 11’s. Nike could be at the same spot where Harley Davidson is now, a legendary brand that relied too heavily on its storied past with little innovation and now their core customer is too old and already scratched their itch of buying a Harley motorcycle.
Nike is now scraping the bottom of the barrel coming up with storylines and models like Worlds Best Dad. They’ve retro’d EVERY successful shoe from the 90’s and its at the point they’re digging up models nobody really cares about like the field generals.
Go to any public place with lots of people and look down at people wearing sneakers, its mostly ON and Hoka. Nike needs to innovate to appeal to the general public who wants comfy walking shoes before 90’s nostalgia runs out completely.
Whenever I hear people complain about another Spotify or Netflix hike I just think "I used to spend $20 for ONE CD in 1998! I used to spend $20 for ONE DVD in 2004." I used to buy multiple CD's and DVD's a month. Now I have an entire music store of music in a pocket for $13 a month with Spotify. That was a CD on sale in 1998. Now I have an entire rental store of movies and shows for $9(with ads) with Netflix.
I get the complaints because these services used to be much cheaper than they are now BUT it's still cheaper than buying bookshelves full of CD's and DVD's. That CD and DVD collection in your house was a massive flex because it was literally thousands of dollars spent on media. So a lot of people put that on display in the living room to show off "look at how much money I spent on all these CD's and DVD's!!"
We recently put my father in law in a nursing home. Leading up to this he would spend 24/7 in a recliner watching tv, sleeping in that recliner EVERY night because it was too hard for him to get out of a bed. He also constantly drank alcohol all day, probably out of boredom. His physical condition was terrible and he could barely walk anywhere on his own. Simple things like going to the restroom, bathing, and feeding himself were extremely difficult. We didn’t know he was THIS bad until he got stuck IN the toilet for hours and his roommate had to call 911 to get him out.
That was 2-3 weeks ago and we got him into a very nice VA nursing home. Its very new, he has his own room, 3 hot meals a day, plenty of activities, and opportunity to socialize. But I get it’s not the same as home and having the freedom to do and go as you please. We hope that this place will improve his quality of life and not just have him rot away in a recliner watching fox news ALL day. That he will do PT to strengthen his body, get out and socialize with other guys, and just get out of his room.
Has a nursing home actually help your parents quality of life?
We recently put my father in law in a nursing home. Leading up to this he would spend 24/7 in a recliner watching tv, sleeping in that recliner EVERY night because it was too hard for him to get out of a bed. He also constantly drank alcohol all day, probably out of boredom. His physical condition was terrible and he could barely walk anywhere on his own. Simple things like going to the restroom, bathing, and feeding himself were extremely difficult. We didn’t know he was THIS bad until he got stuck IN the toilet for hours and his roommate had to call 911 to get him out.
That was 2-3 weeks ago and we got him into a very nice VA nursing home. Its very new, he has his own room, 3 hot meals a day, plenty of activities, and opportunity to socialize. But I get it’s not the same as home and having the freedom to do and go as you please. We hope that this place will improve his quality of life and not just have him rot away in a recliner watching fox news ALL day. That he will do PT to strengthen his body, get out and socialize with other guys, and just get out of his room.
Has a nursing home actually help your parents quality of life?
MacArthur was a BIG swing in effort to revitalize downtown Norfolk and turn it into a higher end shopping experience. It was doing well for a solid decade then in the 2010’s the cracks started to form. Many original stores closed and they were replaced with smaller mom and pop stores. The big nail in coffin was Nordstrom closing and it was downhill from there.
Many people argue that MacArthur was too ambitious for the local population. It was built on and around section 8 housing. Not really the population that would buy a $100 shirt at Nordstrom.
Since it opened, economic factors have really changed things. Everything has become more expensive since 1999. Housing has tripled if not more in price since then. 2 major economic events with the 2008 crash and the pandemic drastically changed things. Also like me much of the younger population that grew up in Hampton Roads moved away for better career opportunities that Hampton Roads didn’t provide. The economy of Hampton Roads is still very dependent on the military and outside of that there aren’t many career opportunities to keep local young professionals.
What do you think is the reason for MacArthurs demise?
My 83 yr old father in law was recently put into a nursing home after an incident of getting stuck IN the toilet for 7 hours. His roommate found him and called emergency 911. Ever since then he has been in a nursing home.
Last week we were gathering his clothes and stuff to bring back to him and we discovered a bunch of shit… literally fecal matter. Behind his recliner chair that he sits in 24/7 was a grocery bag filled with poop. On his bed there were a bunch poop stains, there were clothes scattered all around his room with poop stains on them. We had 0 idea he was THIS bad until now. He had trouble walking but we had 0 idea about bathroom issues. His roommate told us he had no idea either and was good about hiding it.
I get it, it’s embarrassing for an adult to yell for help to go poop.
This instance is a blessing in disguise because my wife and her mother(his ex wife) were arguing about what to do with him. His landlord was selling the place and he had to move out in 2 months. My wife wanted to find him an apartment close by and my MIL wanted him to go to a nursing home. I have been for the nursing home because i knew he was one fall or sickness away from 24/7 care. Well he fell in the toilet at a good time.
It sucks that he is losing his freedom and independence but we at least know he’s safe.
Growing up in the 90’s just about every house had a formal living room towards the front of the house that your mom decorated with nice furniture. Its usually the first room you see when you walk in the house. It was also the room us kids were forbidden to play in because mom didn’t want us to wreck the furniture or carpet.
Then there was the formal dining room with the big dining table and the China cabinet showcasing your moms prized china that is ONLY used for “special occasions” that never happened.
Mom kept these rooms in the house pristine for guests that never came. Some people used these rooms as junk rooms. Shopping bags and boxes piled in the formal living room and papers and mail scattered all over the dining room table.
Did your parents ever use the formal living room and dining room?
My grandmother is 96 and is still kicking. I love her to bits but she's not an enlightened old lady that gardens, regularly socializes, goes on walks, and approaches the world with a glass half full positive thankful mentality. She's constantly worried and bitter about something and just stays in the house. She's a bit of a diva and demands a lot from the people that help take care of her. She has ran off a few caretakers because she treated them like slaves expecting them to do EVERYTHING around the house. She is constantly worried someone is going to steal her precious jewelry, worried about what to eat next despite having a fridge and pantry of food that is literally overflowing, and worried about dying.
My grandfather passed 25 years ago and that was REALLY hard for her to handle because she was very dependant on him. In many instances the loss and stress of a significant other causes decline in health for the spouse but my grandmother is still kicking 25 years later despite that.
My aunt who lives with her and helps take care of my grandmother is kind of ready for her to pass. She never says she wishes her mother will croak BUT always talks about how she will travel more when she passes.
Anyone else have family members that are still alive despite bad habits?
My wife and I are looking for a babysitter on an as needed basis. Like if we want to go out to a concert or nice dinner here or there. Not a regular nanny for a set number of hours each week but like a relief pitcher for an evening or afternoon. Ideally like a student looking to make extra cash on their summer break.
My mother in law does most of the childcare during the work week and sometimes she needs some help or sometimes she has doctors appointments. Sometimes she just needs someone to help her out as our two toddlers are running circles driving her crazy around the house lol.
I know it's not 1995 and for $5/hr I can pay a 17yr old to watch our kids. This is a HCOL area plus I have two kids. I'm just trying to get a realistic idea of what this cost in the area.
Since their last finals appearance in 1999, the Knicks have been mostly a bottom dweller embarrassment of a franchise. So much so that KD and Kyrie joined the Brooklyn Nets over the Knicks in 2019. Dolan was known as a shit owner even banning 90's Knicks legend Charles Oakley from MSG.
They took so many big swings on the next big savior with Larry Brown, Marbury, Melo, D'Antoni, Phil Jackson only to still be at the bottom of the East. There would be a little initial success but then the team would sink like a rock. IMO they signed guys with success but had too big of an ego to adapt to the situation. Leon Rose took a no ego approach and brought in guys with more hunger than ego and slowly built on the success each season. But then they fire Thibs
Even up to the start of this season there were worries that the franchise pissed away everything built by firing Thibs. It was a joke last summer that nobody wanted to coach the Knicks and that they "settled" on Mike Brown because they couldn't poach Ime Udoka or Jason Kidd. And lots of fans thought they would go back to being the embarrassment of the NBA.
But a collection of hungry castaways really pulled it off this season. Mike Brown looks like Steve Kerr now by keeping the same core philosophies but adding the tweaks and rotations that Thibs wouldn't do. It's crazy how the Knicks went from a joke of a franchise to NBA champions.
This is a follow up to my last post
https://www.reddit.com/r/Aging/s/HR7YJIRBdA
My 83 year old father in law has exactly one month to find a place to live. His lack of initiative or even urgency to find a place on his own has been causing lots of strife with my wife and her mother(who is divorced from him). Neither wants to see him on the streets but neither wants to do ALL the legwork to find him a place.
This man can barely fill out a form on his own and needs someone to look over his shoulder and say “sign here, print your name here” My MIL has always done everything for him and since they’re no longer married she doesn’t want to drag him around to find a place to live. My wife and I are both busy working parents of two toddlers and time is super limited.
Folks in my last thread mentioned there are social workers who can help him. Where do I start to find one that can help him? Ideally someone who helps seniors clueless on how to fill out forms, use a computer, and need LOTS of hand holding through the process. Im sure there are many cases like this where seniors have 0 family to help them through the process.
Seeing Jeremy Lin celebrated at Knicks games has made me wonder if there are any full Asian Americans with expectations to make it to the NBA.
We hear a bunch of half Asians like Dylan Harper and Jordan Clarkson but I wonder if there are currently any full Asian Americans like Jeremy Lin that have high expectations. Not imports like Yao or Wantanabe but Asian Americans
Or have there been any full Asian Americans that were super hyped then fizzled out in college? I know it doesn’t help that Asian genes are traditionally short and that even being 6ft nothing is considered being a giant anomaly amongst Asians.
Last week my mother in law stayed with us because there was a big storm coming towards her house. She brought her box of valuable jewelry just in case her house blew away. That made me think, I dont see millennial and younger women today buying valuable gold jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, and earrings anymore.
Owning a bunch of valuable jewelry seems like a boomer and older thing now. My 95 year old grandma still loves going jewelry shopping but her dementia makes her paranoid that anyone in her house is going to steal her jewelry.
Even young women I know with money, don’t really buy jewelry like that. They buy expensive handbags as a “look at me Im rich” statement. Most dont really own any valuable jewelry beyond their engagement rings.
Do young women today still buy jewelry like our moms and grandmas?