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So in the black community there’s a common narrative that I’m always hearing, “if you don’t have two black parents then you’re not black, you’re biracial; black and mixed aren’t the same thing” which leads me to my next question. If a so called “mixed” or biracial person has children with someone else that is monoracial or fully that of one of their halves (ie: black/white/asian) are their children still not considered black as their mixed parent is not seen as black themselves? Or does it flippantly change based on phenotype and what others deem most appropriate? My dad is biracial himself and I’m pretty sure he’d be very offended if he knew about this common thing that floats around in the community as he sees himself as just black. As for myself being a 75/25 I mainly navigate life as a black person with the occasional mixed assumptions.

A few days ago I started talking to this new guy, everything was fine until he started bringing up how I would feel about being taught “wisdom” or lead by someone else as a “young lady”. It literally felt like I was being interviewed instead of talking to someone my age. However he literally looks like he’s around my age (I’m 22) so there’s that. The wording and phrases being used threw me off so I asked how old he is, and instead of just telling me he started going on a rant about how women love criticizing men’s ages and asked what’s the oldest and youngest I’d go, and said “I hope and pray you’re over 21”. My thing is I personally don’t have a problem with older guys, as long as they aren’t like 40+. but the way he’s being so weird about it gives me a weird vibe, I don’t know if I’m overreacting. I asked him again and he keeps saying that when we get closer he might tell me when we talk on the phone and even that’s not guaranteed. I have a strong gut feeling that this guy is at least in his 30s

Me and my ex broke up recently, and though we kept talking to eachother he suddenly went cold and cut contact with me, just yesterday he decided to stop sharing location with me, so I felt compelled to do a 5 card reading on the current state of the relationship; I pulled the three of wands, king of wands, three of pentacles, justice reversed and the knight of cups. So this is signaling to me that the energy is unstable right now, maybe a chance of reconnection if done right, but is there anything else you all get from this?