u/ExpensiveSweet5849

So I have 5 siblings, and only 2 showed up to me graduating. One of my sisters couldn't come because her husband's in the military, she's states away, and she has 3 kids so i completely understand her because I know her situation isn't the best right now and she expressed to me multiple times how much this upset her. I'm upset with my 2 oldest sister, the oldest sibling in my house is always preaching about how important family is and that she's the only one who seems to care about family, I told her my graduation time and date 2 months in advance and according to her she called of 1 month ago but didn't get approved, but the thing about her is that she misses work a lot and whenever she calls off she gets approved, before my graduation happened 2 month ago she was already joking saying she couldn't come bc of work which make me think she never really wanted to come. She's now off for 3 days (the days she was able to get approved), but conveniently enough, she has her inlaws visiting for those days. My graduation was a day before they came, so it's really suspicious how she was able to get off when they came but not my graduation.

My other sister who couldn't come was in a different country across the world, and her flight back was 2 days before my graduation, and it also happened to get delayed. I'm mad at her because why would you even risk it by scheduling your flight that close to my graduation, she was there for a full month too, she arrived the day of my graduation but she still couldn't make it because by the time my ceremony was done she would be leaving airport. They both missed the ceremony but when I got home, they still didn't celebrate me, my oldest sister (the one who couldn't get off work) urged her to start opening her bags so she could see the gifts she brought us (mostly her) so now my graduation day became about them two. I asked her if she could bring my glasses and I sent a picture of what I wanted, she got me a cheetah printed glasses so I'm mad about that too. My oldest sister got a full suitcase of gifts. They couldn't come to my ceremony and they couldn't even celebrate me.

This part isn't that serious to me, but I also asked them all for 1 graduation gift that they can get together, a new phone bc mines constantly glitches, I got no phone. I just got a flower and a cake which we had to rush bc my oldest sister had to prepare for her in-laws arriving. Her birthday is tomorrow, and she's having a full party, balloon cakes, and gifts, but I couldn't even get that for graduating high school. I don't know if I should be mad because the sister that did show up said we'll celebrate another day because she noticed how upset I was. I have been ignoring them, and I didn't except their apology which was so half-hearted, I feel like I should talk to my oldest sister about this but she gets so defensive and she's so happy abt her in laws coming, her birthday and her daughter graduating pre school that I feel like I shouldn't kill her happiness because we technically are still going to celebrate me

Edit: Thank you all for the replies. I do realize that asking for a phone was unreasonable, and I only mentioned it once, so no one knows I'm upset about that. When all my other siblings graduated, we showed up and had parties for them. I always thought graduations were a big deal in my family. I think part of my disappointment also came from comparing my experience to my friends, who had parties and received gifts. I genuinely thought that was normal. My parents tend to take the back seat when it comes to planning celebrations, and because of the 15 year age gap between me and my oldest sister, my siblings have usually been the ones involved in these kinds of things.

Also, I know my grammar wasn't great, I wrote this while upset, and I wasn’t focused on proofreading. I was just trying to get my feelings out