u/ExpensiveSweet5849

My family has been planning a trip to my home country for about a year because my cousin is getting married in November. I’m starting college, and most of my classes are online with live Zoom meetings.

I’m planning to attend all of my Zoom classes and keep up with all my assignments while I’m there, but I’m wondering if I should still let my professors know that I’ll be out of the country. I’m mainly thinking about letting them know just in case I run into any issues with internet access, time zones, or something unexpected.

Would you recommend telling my professors ahead of time, even if I don’t expect to miss any classes?

I’m 19 and in college. My parents don’t really want me to get a job because they want me to focus on school. My friends and I are planning a hangout before we all separate and go back to college, so I asked my dad if he could give me $20.

Later, my dad told my sister to take him to the bank to get me $50 instead. My sister told me that I should just spend my own money, which I got as a gift from Eid.

The reason I don’t want to spend that money is because my college has been having issues with my financial aid. They told me I need to set up a payment plan, and my dad already covered the first payment. I’m keeping the money I have saved in case they don’t resolve the financial aid issue by next month, because I may need to use it to make the next payment.

I do feel guilty asking my dad for money because I know he already spends a lot on me. My sister used to ask him for much more money when she was younger, but my dad was also younger and had more energy back then. Now that he’s older, I feel bad asking him for money even though I don’t ask him very often. I probably ask him for money around three times a year.

I’m not trying to take advantage of him, and I’m genuinely trying to be responsible by keeping my own money aside for college expenses. But I also feel like, at 19, I should be spending my own money when I want to go out with friends. Should I just use my savings instead?

So everybody knows that in Season 5, there is going to be a love story between Francesca and Michaela, and I don't want them to end up together. Not because they're both women but for 3 other reasons:

1: I find Francesca's character really boring, and I feel like she's had the spotlight for 3 seasons now, while most of the other characters only get one.

2: I really like John, and I feel like if they're going to go through with this, it shouldn't be the season right after he died. I think there should be at least a season gap before starting Francesca's story with Michaela.

3: Michaela is John's cousin, and she and John had an good relationship. So I feel like her getting together with Francesca would almost feel like a betrayal of John in a way.

I've been seeing a lot of people get called homophobic for not wanting them together, and even when they explain their reasons, they still get called homophobic. So I just want to know Is this homophobic of me, and why? Because I absolutely don't mean to come across that way.

Have you ever looked back on your childhood and remembered grown men your family knew trying to talk to you or get you alone? At the time, you thought they were just being nice because you were a kid. Then, as an adult, you realize how strange and inappropriate their behavior actually was. Looking back, my shyness as a kid really had me dodging bullets without even realizing it.

How do people find reading while drinking coffee so calming?

Every time I try it, I end up getting distracted and can't focus on the book. I've tried it so many times, but I just don't get it. People always talk about how relaxing and cozy it is, but I can't seem to experience that. Do you actually read and drink at the same time, or is it more like you take a few sips between pages? I'm genuinely curious how people make it work.

I genuinely want to know if I'm overthinking this. Every time someone, whether it's a man or a woman, refers to women as "females" in everyday conversation, it makes me feel a little weird. I'm talking about things like, "I met this female today," or, "Females always do ___." I'd much rather hear "woman"

To be clear, I'm not talking about when "female" is used as an adjective, like "female doctor," "female athlete," or in medical or scientific contexts. That sounds completely normal to me.

I talked to my sisters about it, and they said it's not a big deal. Maybe they're right, but I'm curious if other women feel the same way. I could even be reading a book, and if a character says "female" instead of "woman," it immediately stands out to me and feels off.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just being dramatic?

I'm 19, and my bra size is 38DD. I've noticed that my breasts don't sit up or stand the way they seem to for a lot of other people. Is that normal, and what causes that?

I've also noticed some women with larger breasts whose breasts sit up more than mine, so I'm trying to understand what affects that. Is it mainly genetics, support, or something else?

I always thought this was something that mostly changed with age, so I'm a bit confused about what's typical.

Kenzie isn’t in the wrong for exploring. It’s Love Island, you are meant to explore different connections. I think it’s unfair how much people are hating on her just because she had four connections while others only had one. Just because some people choose not to explore does not mean you should criticize her for doing it.

That said, giving Corbin the kiss in private is a little questionable. But from her perspective, after how big of a deal people made out of it in the villa when she was suspected of kissing him, she probably just did not want to go through that same situation again or have it blown up.

I have been trying to read this one book for a week. It seems so interesting, and I really want to read it, but there's just something holding me back. I get distraction so easily and end up doing random things instead. I often tell myself "a few more strolls on tiktok and I'll start reading," but then I lose all motivated.

Just a question because I'm curious.

I recently saw someone get criticized for saying "POC," and it made me realize I'm not actually sure when it's more appropriate to say "POC" versus describing someone as light-skinned or dark-skinned.

Is there a preferred term, or does it just depend on the context? I always thought saying "POC" was the more respectful option, but now I'm wondering if that's not always the case.

I'm just asking because I want to use the most accurate and respectful language.

I have a lot of siblings, and as the youngest, getting the front seat in the car was never really an option. Honestly, though, I never minded. I've always liked sitting in the back seat, zoning out, and looking out the window. When you're in the front seat, it feels like there's more pressure to keep a conversation going, and sometimes I'd rather just be in my own thoughts.

A couple of days ago, I was in the car with some friends. They were singing along to the music while I sat in the back, staring out the window. Apparently, I looked kind of sad, even though I wasn't. I was just completely zoned out. Later, one of my friends asked if there was a song I wanted to hear, and that's when I realized she might have thought I was bored or not having a good time.

I had to explain that, no, that's just something I do. Zoning out and looking out the window has always been relaxing for me. Still, it left me wondering: was I accidentally throwing off the vibe without realizing it?

Corbin needs to let Caleb have someone, he took kenzie and now he's about to take Parmida. Like let this man find love 😭

In Season 2, we learn that Lestat can't be burned to death. However, in Season 3, when his band mates discover that he's a vampire, he says something along the lines of, "Have you ever seen me in sunlight?"

If Lestat is immune to being burned, wouldn't sunlight have little or no effect on him? Is he just playing into the public's assumptions about vampires, or is there a difference between surviving sunlight and being completely unaffected by it?

If Lestat's blood from Magnus and Akasha is the reason Louis couldn't kill him, wouldn't Claudia have inherited that same bloodline since Lestat was her maker? Or do sunlight and fire affect vampires differently?

I know a lot of subreddits have karma restrictions, but I've noticed that the ones with those restrictions usually don't let you comment on other posts either.

Meanwhile, there are a lot of subreddits where I can comment just fine, but I can't make my own post. Why is that?

I'm so annoyed right now. I just started actually using Reddit, and the main reason I'm on it is to discuss the shows I'm watching. But every single subreddit for the shows I'm interested in has requirements that I don't meet. I don't want to constantly go into people's DMs asking them to post my comments for me. It's all just really frustrating.

Why does each community have different requirements, like I just want to talk to people who watch the same shows as me but I can't because I just started using reddit and don't match a lot of the requirements.

I made a reddit post talking abt how I was upset two of my siblings couldn't make it to my high school graduation and somewhere along the way I mentioned asking for a new phone for the graduation gift, through text because mine glitches a lot and sometimes its hard to use. A lot of people were saying that was an unreasonable gift to ask for (i have 5 siblings and asked them to chip in for the phone once). I also learned that reddit is NOT the place to go to vent. Some of you guys are so rude because why was someone talking about how I didn't deserve to graduate 😭

I did in fact delete the post because I was not abt to get flamed on my phone

I made a reddit post talking abt how I was upset two of my siblings couldn't make it to my graduation and somewhere along the way I mentioned asking for a new phone for the graduation gift because mine glitches a lot and sometimes its hard to use. A lot of people were saying that was an unreasonable gift to ask for (i have 5 siblings and asked them to chip in for the phone once). I also learned that reddit is NOT the place to go to vent. Some of you guys are so rude, because why was someone talking about how I didn't deserve to graduate 😭

So I have 5 siblings, and only 2 showed up to me graduating. One of my sisters couldn't come because her husband's in the military, she's states away, and she has 3 kids so i completely understand her because I know her situation isn't the best right now and she expressed to me multiple times how much this upset her. I'm upset with my 2 oldest sister, the oldest sibling in my house is always preaching about how important family is and that she's the only one who seems to care about family, I told her my graduation time and date 2 months in advance and according to her she called of 1 month ago but didn't get approved, but the thing about her is that she misses work a lot and whenever she calls off she gets approved, before my graduation happened 2 month ago she was already joking saying she couldn't come bc of work which make me think she never really wanted to come. She's now off for 3 days (the days she was able to get approved), but conveniently enough, she has her inlaws visiting for those days. My graduation was a day before they came, so it's really suspicious how she was able to get off when they came but not my graduation.

My other sister who couldn't come was in a different country across the world, and her flight back was 2 days before my graduation, and it also happened to get delayed. I'm mad at her because why would you even risk it by scheduling your flight that close to my graduation, she was there for a full month too, she arrived the day of my graduation but she still couldn't make it because by the time my ceremony was done she would be leaving airport. They both missed the ceremony but when I got home, they still didn't celebrate me, my oldest sister (the one who couldn't get off work) urged her to start opening her bags so she could see the gifts she brought us (mostly her) so now my graduation day became about them two. I asked her if she could bring my glasses and I sent a picture of what I wanted, she got me a cheetah printed glasses so I'm mad about that too. My oldest sister got a full suitcase of gifts. They couldn't come to my ceremony and they couldn't even celebrate me.

This part isn't that serious to me, but I also asked them all for 1 graduation gift that they can get together, a new phone bc mines constantly glitches, I got no phone. I just got a flower and a cake which we had to rush bc my oldest sister had to prepare for her in-laws arriving. Her birthday is tomorrow, and she's having a full party, balloon cakes, and gifts, but I couldn't even get that for graduating high school. I don't know if I should be mad because the sister that did show up said we'll celebrate another day because she noticed how upset I was. I have been ignoring them, and I didn't except their apology which was so half-hearted, I feel like I should talk to my oldest sister about this but she gets so defensive and she's so happy abt her in laws coming, her birthday and her daughter graduating pre school that I feel like I shouldn't kill her happiness because we technically are still going to celebrate me

Edit: Thank you all for the replies. I do realize that asking for a phone was unreasonable, and I only mentioned it once, so no one knows I'm upset about that. When all my other siblings graduated, we showed up and had parties for them. I always thought graduations were a big deal in my family. I think part of my disappointment also came from comparing my experience to my friends, who had parties and received gifts. I genuinely thought that was normal. My parents tend to take the back seat when it comes to planning celebrations, and because of the 15 year age gap between me and my oldest sister, my siblings have usually been the ones involved in these kinds of things.

Also, I know my grammar wasn't great, I wrote this while upset, and I wasn’t focused on proofreading. I was just trying to get my feelings out