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It was actually really refreshing to see one of the Shukla sisters talk about married life without completely sugarcoating it.

She mentioned that when she first went to her sasural, she had to do ghunghat for around two days, even though she had already made it clear beforehand that she did not want to do it. She also spoke about relatives telling her not to show her teeth while smiling, which really shows how many small expectations can suddenly be placed on a woman after marriage.

Another thing that stood out was how her husband now goes to Mumbai quite frequently, so she ends up being alone at home a lot. Even something as basic as what she eats seems to depend on what the rest of the family is eating rather than simply what she feels like having.

She also mentioned that her brothers-in-law do not really act like brothers with her and instead act more like seths. I found that interesting because people often romanticise the whole devar-bhabhi relationship and assume it will automatically be fun and close, when that clearly is not always the case.

I also appreciated that she admitted her relationship with her husband has changed after marriage. They seem more mature now and are not as openly lovey-dovey, and she has also become more conscious about what she says and how she behaves.

None of this necessarily means she is unhappy, and obviously we only know what she chooses to share online. Still, I really liked that she acknowledged the adjustments and restrictions instead of presenting marriage as a perfect fairytale where absolutely nothing changes.

At the same time, I genuinely hope she gets to move to Mumbai with her husband soon. Living in a joint family can be really difficult, especially when you are newly married and still trying to build your own routine and relationship as a couple.

If her husband is travelling to Mumbai so frequently while she stays back at home, it would probably be really nice for them to actually live together and experience married life properly as partners. They would have their own space, be able to make everyday decisions together and just enjoy each other’s company without constantly having to think about the expectations of a larger household.

She may genuinely love her in-laws and enjoy being part of a joint family too, so I am not saying moving out automatically means she would be happier. I just hope she also gets the chance to experience some independence and build a home with her husband. Moving out does not have to mean distancing yourself from your family either. Sometimes having your own space can actually make family relationships healthier.

Overall, I just found her honesty really refreshing. Influencers often make married life look completely effortless, so hearing someone openly talk about the compromises, awkward adjustments and family expectations felt much more real.

Am I the only one who finds Sarah Sarosh’s hair growth videos a bit confusing?!

She keeps promoting different products and saying she’s been using them for a long time and has seen new hair growth. First it was Kérastase, then WishCare, and now she’s promoting Indulekha. She’s also promoted L’Oréal Elvive/Elixir before.

Like girl! how many products are actually responsible for this hair growth?

I obviously understand that influencers can use and like multiple products, and I’m not saying she can’t change her routine. But when every new product is presented alongside her hair growth results, it starts to feel like the audience is being led to believe that each product is responsible for the growth.

Hair growth is affected by so many things, and using a shampoo, oil or serum doesn’t automatically mean it caused new hair growth.

I just wish influencers would be a bit more transparent about this instead of constantly introducing another “hair growth” product.

At this point it’s genuinely becoming a pattern. First standing/climbing on a World Heritage Site for content, then putting their shoes on escalator handrails and blocking the escalator to film reels, and now posting a video dancing in a moving car without seatbelts. In most countries, wearing seatbelts for pass is mandatory

Why is basic public etiquette and safety so difficult? Not everything needs to become content. Public spaces aren’t your personal film set, heritage sites deserve respect, and seatbelts exist for a reason.

When you have such a huge young audience, repeatedly showing careless behaviour and presenting it as fun or normal is irresponsible. You can enjoy your trip and make content without ignoring basic civic sense and safety.

I asked why some people don’t want to sing even the first two stanzas of Vande Mataram or the national anthem and got downvoted like crazy. People were telling me to “ask your fellow Indians.”

Then I said Kashmir is part of India and somehow THAT got heavily downvoted too.

And from what I’ve seen, the sub seems very quick to ban or shut down people for expressing pro-India or nationalistic views.

I understand Kashmir has a complicated political history and people will have different opinions. But why does simply expressing support for India seem to get treated like some outrageous position there?

Criticising the government is one thing. Being hostile towards the country itself is another. What is actually going on with that sub?

Sarah Sarosh has said MULTIPLE times that she quit alcohol. After Umrah, she spoke about quitting again and made it seem like this meaningful religious and lifestyle change.

Now she’s openly drinking what looks like a cocktail??

Obviously people can change their minds. That’s not the issue. The issue is making a huge deal about quitting, getting praise for it, and then doing the complete opposite like you never said anything.

This is why influencer culture feels so fake sometimes. Every new phase becomes content and a new personality depending on what gets engagement.

And her comment section is MAD because people actually remember what she says 

Honestly, what was the point of this entire Yashasvi Rajput and Ashish Verma situation?

They randomly unfollowed each other. Then Yashasvi started posting and reposting reels about men not doing the bare minimum, while Ashish posted a reel about not getting married. Obviously people were going to assume something had happened between them. They knew exactly what their audience would think seeing all of that.

And now, out of nowhere, they follow each other again and post a video together like nothing happened?

I obviously don’t know what actually happened between them privately, but the whole thing feels so calculated. If nothing was going on, why post all those indirect reels while everyone was already speculating? And if something genuinely did happen, then suddenly coming back together with a video without acknowledging any of it still feels like they used the speculation to their advantage.

It honestly makes me feel like their audience is just a number to them. People commenting, speculating and constantly checking their accounts means more engagement, more views and ultimately more money.

And the AI slop thumbnail is genuinely giving me the ick too. After all that drama, that being the thumbnail for their comeback video somehow makes the whole thing feel even more like engagement bait.

I’m personally unfollowing both of them. If this was all done for engagement, I don’t want to give them exactly what they wanted.

Does anyone else feel like Gopaari is basically just being used to milk couple content at this point?

What makes it annoying is how they launched the channel in the first place. They told everyone they wouldn’t even post their first video until they reached 50k subscribers, so their audience got them to 50k before they had even posted anything. Then they said they would tell their love story at 100k.

But you actually have to give people a reason to get you to 100k.

They’re still only around 64k and I’m honestly not surprised. Most of the videos are just random couple challenges that feel like they could be filmed in an hour. Their most recent video was also basically the same concept Mridul and Aditya had already done.

The weirdest part is that they’ve actually had good content right in front of them. They had their roka, ardas, wedding preparations and so many other things happening in their relationship. Why have a whole couple channel and then not properly vlog the things people are actually interested in seeing?

Instead we get another challenge.

And the bulk filming really makes it obvious to me. Before Gopali left for her girls’ trip, they filmed three long Gopaari videos within a few hours. I know creators batch film and there’s nothing wrong with that, but three long videos in one sitting just makes it feel like they’re trying to get a few weeks of content out of the way as quickly as possible.

It feels like they sit down, film a few easy challenges, add some brand collabs and then they’re sorted for the next few uploads.

That’s what annoys me. Their audience literally gave them 50k subscribers before they had posted a single video because they were excited to see them together. It feels like they’re taking that audience for granted now and just using the interest in their relationship for easy views and sponsorships.

Going from 50k to only around 64k after all this time probably says enough. People were clearly interested in Gopaari. The actual content just hasn’t given them much reason to stay interested.

I saw Alfiya’s recent Instagram story where she mentioned she was choosing photos for her matrimonial profile and said she wants to get married soon. It genuinely made me curious because I don’t really know much about how common arranged marriages still are today.

Are arranged marriages still the norm in many Indian Muslim families, or is it becoming more of a mix between arranged and love marriages? I’d be interested to hear from people who have experience with this.

Also, I’ve seen comments mentioning that the family supposedly cut ties with Alfiya’s older sister because she had a love marriage. Is that actually true, or is it just something people keep repeating online? If it is true, does anyone know what happened?

More generally, why are some families still so strongly against love marriages, even when both people are consenting adults? Is it mainly about family reputation, community expectations, or something else

Previously, they made content around the phrase “saali aadhi gharwali.” I know some people see it as a joke, but personally I find it outdated and misogynistic because it normalises inappropriate jokes about the relationship between a man and his wife’s sister.

In a recent vlog, the youngest sister and her jiju, Punyakar, were half asleep in the car with their heads together. I don’t actually think there was anything wrong with that interaction itself. What I did find weird was the comments saying things like “they look so good together.” He’s literally her jiju, and she’s only around 18.

I feel like when creators normalise jokes like “saali aadhi gharwali,” it can encourage some viewers to see completely innocent family interactions through that lens, which is what I found uncomfortable.

Then later in the vlog, there was another clip where Anu was sitting with another married family member and again people were commenting that they looked cute together. Like what? Why are people shipping married people with their own in-laws?

Just a disclaimer about the title: I wasn’t saying the sleeping position itself was uncomfortable. I meant the comments under the video were uncomfortable. I don’t think there was anything wrong with them sleeping side by side. My issue was people saying they “look good together” when he’s literally her jiju.

No hate at all. I actually watch Aary Vlogs for time pass and find them entertaining in the background, but there are a few things I’ve noticed that have started to bother me.

One thing I’ve noticed is that they don’t seem to do much at all. It honestly feels like they spend most of the day sleeping in the living room.

The content also feels very low effort. A lot of the time, they bring Sameeksha and Aayush into the vlogs and keep putting the camera in their faces, and you can tell they’re uncomfortable or awkward. There doesn’t seem to be much planning or structure to the videos either. It’s mostly the same repetitive dad jokes, which I personally find pretty annoying. Parmeet constantly gets fed up by aary and yogis behaviour but they are so oblivious

From what is shown in the vlogs, they appear to rely heavily on Archana Puran Singh and Parmeet Sethi. They live in their house rent free, have household help available, and now even their new house was provided to them. Considering they’re both in their 30s, it’s surprising how dependent they still seem.

Aary also comes across as a bit of a man child and seems to have quite a few anger issues. Yogita, on the other hand, appears very submissive towards him and often behaves in a childlike way. She also acts like a baby whenever she’s hungry, which I find quite immature. It’s also ironic that she talks about how people shouldn’t overeat, yet from what’s shown in the vlogs, she seems to be snacking or binge eating very frequently.

Another thing I found odd was Yogita complaining about living in Madh because it’s about an hour from Mumbai city. I understand commuting can be frustrating, but from what’s shown, they don’t seem to have to worry about rent, food, or many other major expenses, and they get to live in a beautiful bungalow on Madh Island. From an outsider’s perspective, it comes across as a very privileged situation.

I also sometimes get the impression that Parmeet and Archana don’t get much time to themselves because Aary and Yogita are always around. It also feels like they spend most of the day bed rotting while acting as though they’re extremely busy. Parmeet also seems fed up with yogi and aarys immature behaviour

Again, this is just my opinion based on what I’ve seen in the vlogs.