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I work full time as an accountant. I actually did a two year degree in chemistry about 15 years ago. I actually regret not getting more degrees in it and becoming a full time chemist. I currently work 40-50 hours per week as a not for profit accountant and always think about how much I loved chemistry. I just don’t know if there is any pathway since it seems like the local uni and colleges would require me to be at school during working hours. Also financially idk if it would be worth it without doing a full PhD.

So if you get certified to do tax prep through their academy, is the job full time? And year round? I wanna do like 15 hrs a week, but idk if it’s just in tax season or all throughout the year?

Hi everyone,

To make a long story short, I was never a good student or probably not even an accountant for that matter.

I’m many moons removed from my undergrad degree and literally just work doing accounts payable as an “accountant.”

I am CPA eligible.

Last year I tried to study for FAR and truth be told, I quit really quickly and let my eligibility lapse since I was overwhelmed by Surgent. There was just no way in hell I was gonna pass with that. I did look at Gleim material and felt a similar overwhelm. There was no way. I had zero hope. I tried for one month and just completely gave up.

I’ve heard really good things about i75 CPA and think I want to give it a try. Have any of you passed with this course? Any of you who ever felt similarly to me and became a CPA solely using this course? If I get it and give this CPA thing another shot I am not willing to use another course as I’ve tested several and they all gave me an overwhelming sensation that even with work I wouldn’t get anywhere. I felt so depressed and incapable whilst studying for that month.

I need to be able to be taught the concepts and level up, little by little. Order and concepts matter for me. I am not fresh out of school and usually shut down when I see huge randomized paragraphs lmao.

Do you think I have a chance to pass the CPA solely with i75?

And lastly do you think it’s worth it, even if I’m not sure I wanna stay in accounting forever?

Thank you.

I know this is oddly specific but I currently work as an accountant at a PSLF eligible job. There ain’t no way in hell I can last another 7 yrs without dying from stress.

What’s the easiest job I could get doing PSLF where I don’t have to think too much? I just wanna go in, get my work done in peace, and leave.

Hell I’d even take 45k. Just a low stress job. I do not want anything with too much mental pressure or micromanaging.

Just something where I can make enough money to pay my bills and have enough left for groceries or minimal hobbies.

Really wanna get a BS in chem which requires in person labs.

But I can’t afford not to work 8 to 5 M-F.

Every program I’ve looked into locally never has classes in evenings. There’s a one off lab maybe. But most are in the daytime.

Is there any way around this??? Any ideas???

I would absolutely love to change careers and get a PhD in psychology eventually. But it’s basically a pipe dream since I’m a single parent with no network or support system. I pay a car note, mortgage, etc.

Is there any way? I guess I can keep on dreaming lol.

Coming from another field and I despise M-F 8-5 pm.

Firstly, I’m no therapist so I have no idea if she’s truly an avoidant. I’m just assuming so based on my experience and what I’ve learned online.

The connection started off magical and was super intense. She began telling me she loves me, and I was telling her the same thing back.

As time progressed I wanted to see her more and spend more time together as we were long distance. She started mentioning that it may not make sense since we are long distance. And I told her but we love each other and were working on making long distance a non issue, right?

She would feel smothered by her ex as she told me. Then when her family would visit, smothered… I’d rarely call or text to make her feel not so smothered and even then she would me at the end she’s not ready for a relationship and was feeling smothered.

I reacted negatively and was like “smothered by what?!”

And unfortunately I let negative emotions overcome me and told her never reach out again, I’ll never accept you. I was 100% angry and didn’t mean it. At the moment I was insecure and thought she was doing all this because she was talking to others and cheating on me. I don’t believe that to be the case any longer. I think I was just being anxious and she was being avoidant.

Anyways, she blocked my number and on all social media. Stupidly I tried circumventing it by using another number and sent her a barrage of messages telling her how much I love her, care about her, and want to make this work. The response was absolute silence.

It’s been 2 weeks and I’ve thought about her every single day. I miss her but am also willing to just let things go because I don’t want someone who doesn’t want me.

I don’t think she’s aware of her avoidant style and I was not aware of my semi anxious style.

Your thoughts on if she may ever come back? I worry about it cause I care about her. But I’m also working on improving myself so that I never fall into this sort of dynamic again, at least without understanding what is occurring and what to do about it.

For those of you who did have this happen, just want to know the timeline. Let’s say you dumped them/blocked them…was it a week? A month? A year?

Super ashamed of myself...last week my ex-situationship blocked me everywhere. Yesterday I unfortunately broke no contact.

I want to say we are both toxic, but I am not innocent. She separated from her ex husband last year and I got divorced 4 years ago.

Anyways we were talking, long distance, and met up several times. I really care for this person.

Last week we began arguing and I got triggered because she told me she isn't ready for a relationship. Before you go all in on me, I now realize that was perfectly fine and I was being insecure, insensitive, pushy, etc. From my point of view, I liked her so much I was wanting a relationship so badly.

Anyways, she was being a bit rude, or at least that's how I took it. I blocked her for like 10 minutes to cool down. Then unblocked her (see the toxicity here). I didn't even check social media anymore so I could cool down.

The next day I noticed I was blocked everywhere, which I totally understand. Unfortunately we have both done something similar for a day or two. This time around, however, she left me blocked. I was respecting the block for an entire 7 days until yesterday where I caved in and went to the lowest of the low, sending her paragraphs about how much I care about her, love her, miss her, and even sent an audio and a photo of myself.

I now realize how stupid and immature and pathetic this was, but I unfortunately cannot take it back. What I told her was the truth, but I just realize how stupid it is to circumvent a block. When someone blocks you they basically want nothing to do with you, and I went against that and humiliated myself further.

I don't even know where to go from here on out besides not contacting her again. I was in a severe state of depression and anxiety when I did this. And I am still depressed. She didn’t care at all to give a single reply. And I don’t blame her. I asked her to never reach out again, right? But I said it out of anger. And I regret it. I didn’t mean it at all. Well she took it to heart and it’s entirely my fault.

I really don't know how to function anymore. We were together for 10 months and since last week all has gone down hill and I'm distraught. Although she seems to be fine and happy, as if all is normal.

I guess my heart doesn't function that way, because I've been an absolute mess, to the point where I can't even pretend to be normal.

I'm going to delete my social media off my phone so as to not look at it, but I am actually suffering inside so much. I cannot imagine a future without her because all I wanted in my future was her. I did not even grieve my marriage to this extent. I'm so hurt and just don't know how to push forward.

I've fallen into a deep depression because of this...

I'm going to make a long story short, but she was getting out of a marriage for several months already, and I had already been out of mine for 4 years. She reached out and treated me like I was her love, telling me she loves me and cares about me. We were long distance but met up and also kept talking on the phone. I helped console her when her parent passed away. We were working on ways to move closer and not be long distance. She even met my child, as I'm a single dad...

Out of the blue, she started telling me she doesn't think she wants a relationship but that she cares about me. The odd thing is, rather than fight it, like I did once before, I said okay. I agreed, we can work on things slowly and maybe one day, but no pressure... Then she changed the topic and started saying I was smothering her and it was all just too much... and I'm like? We barely text because you're busy, then on the weekends you're busy, and now I'm too much? I scaled it down quite a bit... so I stupidly sent her a message saying I didn't appreciate her starting this conversation literally while I was at my child's graduation! And told her to leave me alone, etc. Well, she blocked me. A month goes by, and I noticed she unblocked me. I missed her so bad the entire time and friend-requested her again, which I shouldn't have done. She started writing to me asking why I'm "in and out of her life," to which I said, you are the one who wanted me gone, right? She changed the topic in regards to the graduation conversation and started complaining about something else. I said, if you felt smothered, you could tell me so, and we could establish boundaries to work through it. It's all about communication.

This time, I messed up. I proceeded to block her because she kept disrespecting me and typing in all caps. I left it alone and unblocked her literally within 10 minutes. Well, guess what, she blocks me permanently on all platforms and left it like that for over a week now.

But I acknowledged whatever faults and shortcomings I had to work on, whereas I never felt heard or listened to when I would explain how I felt... I realize this was all so toxic and not as nice as it started, but I also felt like this was all because she was secretly talking to her ex-husband again. Which, according to her, isn't true... but he was still on her Facebook reacting to each status. At the end of it all, we went from telling each other we love each other to "idk what this was," and eventually me getting blocked.

So I don't know the truth, and I really don't think sharing this story may have been very helpful, but I'm seeking advice. I am super distraught and hurt by this. I really saw a future with this woman and adored her deeply. But it seems like none of this was reciprocated. After 10 months, she didn't even tell her mom about me, which I was upset about.

All this to say, it's been a week now and I'm really, truly suffering. I want some advice on how to deal. I have work next week and I cannot even focus. I worked out today to try to calm the pain and was almost ready to have a full-on breakdown. I miss and care about this person, but it's all one-sided, and I'm the villain whose permanently blocked now.

I think my system is heavily dysregulated because I'm no longer functioning or able to do basic tasks. I have been so super depressed. I think I just realized this lady used me to get over her ex-husband and is possibly back with him? Why else would the guy still be reacting to EVERY status she makes on FB? But I'm blocked like absolute trash, all because I eventually wanted to have a future with her.

I'm already 100% isolated in life, and with being a single dad, this hurts extremely bad. I don't even have it in me to "improve" anymore. There's no more improvement to be made. I have done everything I could, and this was supposedly going to be the best chapter after the horrible downfall of my marriage, but now look... I really am shocked that this lady who acted so innocent, wholesome, professional, and family-oriented can just put me on block like a wholeheartedly evil individual, something I never saw from her. I'm really sick to the bottom of my stomach and cannot get over this.

That schedule is my limitation so I can’t change it.

I’m applying to an LVN program because it seems it’s the only thing I can find that will allow me to keep the schedule yet take classes.

Are there any other programs that you know that are ADN-RN or BSN that allow for this schedule?

Otherwise I’ll just stick to my local school…

I don’t know why but I have a big impulse to do this. I’m hurting so bad I can’t handle it anymore. I just wanna forget it all happened. My heart has literally sank into my chest.

I’ve been seeing ads on FB for 200 mg Modafinil. Sounds good and requires a prescription but apparently they’ll set an apt for you. Hypothetically if I was prescribed this, would it even be safe? My question is centered mostly around the safety of this, as I have no idea about it.

Is it bad if I use it often?

Sometimes I scan items when going out to eat with coworkers. I always just accept what it gives me after writing a brief description. What’s the best practice here?

If they go out to eat often and I use photo AI often, could it be that I’m off base with my macro tracking?

Most of these restaurants have no calorie information.

Do you know how miserable being a human being is with zero social interaction? I feel like I’m trapped in hell. My last straw was pathetically reaching out to old friends via Facebook. Nothing works.

I’ve found ZERO love interest.

Nobody wants a single guy with zero family and zero connections anywhere.

I’m sick of being alive. I have been doing this shit for over 3 decades. And I have experienced social isolation for a very long time. It’s not like I haven’t tried. People have families. People have connections rooted from where they grew up. Well established ones. I have NONE OF THAT. It does not get better. And I’m sick of waking up the next day pretending it’ll be different.

I’m in my mid-30’s. After my divorce with my narcissistic ex wife years ago, my life has never been the same. I’ve lost a parent and besides having sole custody of my child have gone 100% into isolation mode. I’m super lonely. Tried making friends at work but it’s all superficial. I also tried dating. I had two girls I really like both reach out to me. Both ended terribly. I felt like I didn’t do anything wrong but maybe I was the common denominator and this the problem. Both reached out to me with many similarities but a few differences.

Girl #1 and I communicated for about 9 months. She would tell me she loves me even though it was long distance and we were working on logistics of being together and making it work. Then she suddenly at the end brings up how it’s pointless since we are long distance. I’m like? Yeah but that’s why we are gonna make it so that we move together right? Weren’t we taking action on this? Then she would ALWAYS be busy and so I’d back off so as not to be annoying. I’d send her minimal texts throughout the day, including weekend. I would barely do anything because she always kept repeating she’s busy. Well she said I smothered her like her ex husband would and that she doesn’t want a relationship. I’m like dude, 9 months and you’re now telling me I’m smothering you when we talk but you don’t want a relationship? I heard her thoughts but she did not acknowledge mine at all, and eventually just stonewalled me and blocked me everywhere.

Girl #2 and I was just a few days. But we had two calls: one was 1 hr and the other just 15 min in a lunch break. She told me she wanted to keep talking to me but she’s just super busy with her business. I told her I understand. Well I let days go by and she would never write to me, not even to say good morning. Yet somehow whenever I’d post a story on FB, she’d heart it. She would be on social media a lot but was too busy for us to talk. This time after a horrible experience from the first one, I didn’t even end things with this one. I just unfriended her everywhere and deleted her number. She also asked me how we are gonna move together as well then never even talks after.

I’m super lonely and feel like I have a problem. Maybe I’m too boring or ugly. Or maybe since I’m in isolation they can’t imagine a life with me.

It just makes me sad thinking about.

Everyone tells me to stay away from it as it’s unhealthy. But then I see doctors online say it’s healthy?

Also, I’m trying to do OMAD; so if there’s any easy way to embed carnivore with OMAD, That would be great.

I’m in my mid-30’s. After my divorce with my narcissistic ex wife years ago, my life has never been the same. I’ve lost a parent and besides having sole custody of my child have gone 100% into isolation mode. I’m super lonely. Tried making friends at work but it’s all superficial. I also tried dating. I had two girls I really like both reach out to me. Both ended terribly. I felt like I didn’t do anything wrong but maybe I was the common denominator and this the problem. Both reached out to me with many similarities but a few differences.

Girl #1 and I communicated for about 9 months. She would tell me she loves me even though it was long distance and we were working on logistics of being together and making it work. Then she suddenly at the end brings up how it’s pointless since we are long distance. I’m like? Yeah but that’s why we are gonna make it so that we move together right? Weren’t we taking action on this? Then she would ALWAYS be busy and so I’d back off so as not to be annoying. I’d send her minimal texts throughout the day, including weekend. I would barely do anything because she always kept repeating she’s busy. Well she said I smothered her like her ex husband would and that she doesn’t want a relationship. I’m like dude, 9 months and you’re now telling me I’m smothering you when we talk but you don’t want a relationship? I heard her thoughts but she did not acknowledge mine at all, and eventually just stonewalled me and blocked me everywhere.

Girl #2 and I was just a few days. But we had two calls: one was 1 hr and the other just 15 min in a lunch break. She told me she wanted to keep talking to me but she’s just super busy with her business. I told her I understand. Well I let days go by and she would never write to me, not even to say good morning. Yet somehow whenever I’d post a story on FB, she’d heart it. She would be on social media a lot but was too busy for us to talk. This time after a horrible experience from the first one, I didn’t even end things with this one. I just unfriended her everywhere and deleted her number. She also asked me how we are gonna move together as well then never even talks after.

I’m super lonely and feel like I have a problem. Maybe I’m too boring or ugly. Or maybe since I’m in isolation they can’t imagine a life with me.

It just makes me sad thinking about.