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I just watched Akira Kurosawa Stray Dog for the first time, and despite a few elements of the film, it feels really fresh and almost contemporary.

That’s something I’ve noticed with most of his films- they standout amongst other films from the 40s-60s as having some contemporary feeling quality about them. I don’t feel like I’m watching a black and white film from the 40s or 50s.

I was blown away the first time I watched Seven Samurai, I had the sense that it could be made today and it wouldn’t feel out of place.

I’m curious what your guys’s thoughts are on this?

per the title, I have the house to myself for the first time in years.

ive had a few beers and will have a few more and want to watch something

not necessarily relevant but the last two films I’ve seen are Memories of Murder (one of my favorites) and Yi Yi (what a film)

Ill probably end up watching The Bif Lebowski but curious what you guys recommend

thanks!

EDIT: I misspelled Big Lewboski but Im drunk so I’m leaving it in

I’m 35, and I know how young I am comparatively, yet I can’t stop feeling like so many doors have shut behind me and I’ve “aged out” of so many of the things I wanted to do in life.

A decade ago, at 25, I woke up to a chronic illness that has remained to this day and my life has been forever changed.

i was really smart and successful, did well in school, was in a musical group with one of my heroes, a 2x Grammy award winning artist and had a future ahead of me. I was going to be a career musician, and in my spare time I wanted to learn to dance and become an actor (local theatre at best, not like i was reaching for the stars)

I had friends who were ballet dancers who told me I should be a ballet dancer, because I moved so well. I knew I could be an actor and these were things I wanted to do- crafts I wanted to hone and explore.

but due to my illness I’ve basically become non-functional. Neither my cognition or my physicality is the same and I’m struggling to survive. I am currently not working and even basic tasks like folding laundry can be exhausting.

i did have a remission in 2022 and felt normal for about 4 months. i spent most of that time doing the normal stuff I’d wanted to do the last 7 years like walk and read etc. I was just grateful to feel health again.

In a moment of synchroniticy i befriend a world renowned strength coach who saw my innate ability to do Olympic style weightlifting, and started training me

i say all this to say how lucky I’ve been to be blessed with a lot of skills and capacities and to be around the right people, and to point out how it’s been taken from me and I feel so robbed and defeated and just broken

I don’t know how to handle the defeat and grief of life and I just want to live and experience things and grow and I feel so broke down and exhausBed

i guess I feel a sense of regret because even though my illness is out my hands, I feel like the last decade of my youth. my late 20s, early 30s has been stolen from me and I can’t get it back, and I wish things had gone differently.

My partner [35F] and I [35M] have been together for 4yrs, and within the last year or so our sex life has really changed.

In the beginning it felt really open and exploratory, like we were on the same page and enjoyed the same things. Now there are so many things that we used to do, that I love to do, that she’s not interested in anymore, and tbh I feel kind of duped.

To me, It feels like she was never into these things but was open to doing it with me, and now she’s decided to tell me she doesn’t like it, and it’s frustrating because, based on our first year or so together I had certain expectations about our sex life moving forward, and if I had known this was going to happen I probably wouldn’t have pursued this relationship.

For instance, I love giving my partner oral, and I couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t like receiving it. Fortunately my partner loves it but she, now apparently, doesn’t like giving oral, despite seemingly being very into giving oral in the beginning of our relationship. Now it’s basically not an option.

In a weird way, I feel led on or something.

Like there was something she acted* like she was very much into during the beginning of our relationship and now she won’t do it anymore, and I get the feeling she wasn’t ever really into it.

Not only does it seem unfair, not that I would stop giving her oral just because she doesn’t do that with me, but it’s just a bummer that there’s been such a profound change, and it makes me wonder if she was ever into it at all or just doing it to placate me or something. I don’t know.

I’m just frustrated that I’ve put this much time and energy into our relationship and now I’m dealing with such a huge change, it’s like night and day. Like if I knew she wasn’t into certain things from the beginning I would’ve just chalked it up to us being incompatible, you know. But we have history and a life together and I guess I just feel led on.

And I feel like I’m selfish or something, like it’s only about sex although I know that’s not true, but I also am wondering how she would feel if that situation was reversed, you know. I’m sure she would feel really frustrated if I pretended to be into giving her oral only to tell her I didn’t like doing it once we were in a committed relationship.

It honestly seems worse to me because I was in a relationship with someone for 8yrs and we had no sexual intimacy. We loved each other, and everting was great but we didn’t have sex, and while I chose to be in that relationship, (and we were young), it’s had a huge impact on my dating decisions since then and I guess I feel like I’m getting into a similar situation in a different way

Has anyone else been through this and does anyone have any advice?

I have woken up feeling sick and hungover every morning for the last 11 years. Man, it’s crazy to write that out because I was 24 when this all started.

Anyways, I still wake up feeling hungover, and I know a lot of us with ME/CFS sometimes have better times of the day, and I’m noticing how much better I feel after I have a bowel movement- it’s like there’s something inside of me making me sick, and after a BM I feel less sick.

Does anyone else have this experience?

Our 5yo is really strong willed and intelligent, and can often be defiant, and tries to negotiate… honestly everything.

Today I was picking him up from daycare and he knocked over a kids castle that he’d built. The daycare provider told me it was a game they were playing (building the fort/castle and using a soft block to knock it down) so it wasn’t a big deal

But was stood out to me is the kid he was playing with seems a little younger and he explicitly told our son he didn’t want him knocking it over, and our son did it anyways.

From my perspective there was a different understanding of the rules of the game, but what seems important to me is despite what the caretaker said or despite what my son and the other kid agreed on, it’s problematic that my son didn’t respect this other kids request.

So I spoke with him about in it in the car and his first response was to tell me it was a game they were playing, and that he made the rules up and the other kid wasn’t listening etc. (to hear the kid wasn’t listening to the rules to me reads as the kid didn’t understand or agree to them)

I told him I understand that it was a game they were playing and the caretakers said it was okay, but he needs to take into consideration the other kids wants/desires.

He responded by telling me the other kid doesn’t follow the rules etc. he regularly will point to other kids or peoples behaviors when it’s not really relevant to the situation- that kids behavior has nothing to do with his.

Now I say all this to say I don’t think this is a huge deal, I just want him to learn to do what is right- like maybe he and that kid did come to an agreement, and the caretakers were fine with the game, but the kid changed his mind and was upset that our son destroyed what he built. I want him to do what is right regardless of his desires or what others are doing or say is okay.

I asked him how he would feel if he had built a castle and told the kid he didn’t want jt destroyed and did it anyways and he said “happy” (which I know is not true).

And he also had to point out that it’s not a “castle but a “house”- like he’s always focusing on the wrong thing, IMO, and I want him to focus on the right things.

But stuff like this is always happening.

When we ask him not to do stuff he says “but I want to do it” or something like that, or will try to point things that other people or kids do- he’s especially into fairness right now and it’s a lot. It just feels like he’s trying to find any excuse to get what he wants or to scapegoat his behavior.

I’m just feeling really burned out and frustrated because it feels like everything is a battle right now, and I just want things to change before he gets older and feels even more entitled.

Anyone else been through this?

My partner and I have been together for 4 years and are raising her son, who is almost 6. I am his only father figure, and as such I am his dad, and raising him as if he were my own.

Tbh we’ve had problems since about a year in. We decided to move in together at the 1yr mark, and basically as soon as we made that decision and started actively for a place, we started having conflicts.

Honestly it was a while ago but what I remember is we would get in spats over nothing, and she would just have an attitude with me over small stuff. This gave me pause about moving in together, and I shared this with her and she kind of freaked out, said it was too late, and that we could work things out. What she meant by it being too late is we had both already given our landlords notice and were actively looking at places- I think someone had even signed a lease for her place already.

I guess I let her persuade me that we could work things out and we moved into together.

It’s honestly just been chaos after chaos the last 3 years. Raising a child is really hard, I’ve been dealing with health issues and adjusting to this life has been really difficult, to feel like I don’t have the time or energy for what I feel is important to me, and maintain the relationship.

I know raising a child is more than important, it’s a duty, but I also feel like it takes up too much of our life- for example I’ve been dealing with some heavy emotions lately, lots of anger over the betrayal of a friend and I shared this with my partner and it’s just clear that we don’t have the same views on these sort of things.

She says I “shouldn’t be this angry” and I asked her why she thought this way and her response was that it’s not healthy and it doesn’t set a good
example for our son.

Now I’m not blowing up or anything but I’m still feeling these intense emotions, and for her to relate my emotions to her son as parenting being the primary reason I shouldn’t be having such an intense emotional experience doesn’t resonate with me.

For one I’m trying to figure out why I feel so intensely and on the contrary if I don’t figure this out and just try to be happy or whatever how do I help our son if/when he has the issues? Surely
I can do better than “just let it go” or “you shouldn’t be so upset”.

I guess I feel resentful that I feel she’s kind of not interested in emotional or intellectual complexity. And I’m not trying to be judgemental, because obviously our son is a living, breathing, beautiful human being, but it feels like she doesn’t have anything outside of being a parent, and I know that can be a challenge for all parents where your life revolves around your child for a long time, especially when they’re young, but I guess it feels like she doesn’t understand that I want things outside of our relationship and family, like those are a big part of my life but I want more, and it feels like that’s all she wants and can’t comprehend why it’s not enough for me.

And not to sound selfish, but even our relationship has taken a backseat to parenting. We’ve gone on 2-3 dates, or nights to ourselves some Fall 2024, and had sex maybe a handful of times.

Even though he family lives in our town she feels it’s a burden to have them watch our son or have a sleepover and just doesn’t ask. The last time we had a date was beginning of February.

But anyways, we’ve both been struggling for the last 3 years and we separated last fall. I was gone for 3 mo when I realized how much I love her and our son and I went to make this work.

We decided to reunite and honesty I’ve been trying to make things work, I’ve been loving and compassionate, and she… hasn’t. She’s been pretty mean and rude to me ever since I came back- not outright rude, but the same snippy, snarky attitude she started having right before we moved in together

She says she’s just “spicy”.

Things hit a head this weekend when we got into a big fight. Lots of parenting stuff came up, but there’s a big discrepancy between the expectations of her as a parent and me as a parent. When she slips up and loses her patience and temper as a parent, I’m calm and intervene in a way that improves the situation. When I’m parenting and lose my patience or temper she doesn’t give me the same patience or grace and always makes things worse- but I get the blame for it.

So we had a huge blow-out fight this weekend and I thought “I’m done”, and I’m trying to figure out a way to get out. I did send her a text talking about all of the issues, and saying I’m done and she actually was receptive and received it well and owned up to how she’s been treating me, and wants to work things out.

I’m open to working things out, doing couples counseling but also feel like I have one foot out the door because this isn’t the first or even fifth time this has happened.

And what worries me is we hugged after talking and making amends and it didn’t feel the same, like something inside of myself told me “this isn’t right”. And I’m just feeling a lot of doubt

And honestly, there are times I find myself wishing I’d never met her and that my life had gone a different way these last 4yrs, like I wish I had a Time Machine.

I guess I feel like the reason I’m staying is our son, because I’m his dad and I love him; but the messed up thing is I’m not his dad, you know.

I guess I’m trying to figure out how to figure this out, because while things haven’t been great we still love each other and get along and laugh and it feels like we’re a part of each other, you know and I don’t know if it’s possible to get back what we had or if this is what we have.

**TL;DR** my partner and I have been quarreling for a long time and she wants to try couples therapy. I’m open to the idea but also feel like I have one foot out the door and am trying to figure out of I should make the effort or just end things. Im just not sure what questions to be asking myself or things to be looking for to determine if I’m making the best decision.

My partner and I have been together for 4 years and we do not communicate well together. We used to, but things have fallen apart.

We’re also raising her 5yo son. I say this because parenting is hard and I think most of the stress we experience is form parenting. While I consider him to be my son, I’m saying he is her son to define the relationships.

I don’t know how to say this in any other way, but the way my partner acts when we’re having disagreements or arguments always makes things worse.

I know I’m responsible for my actions and reactions. That’s my responsibility, no one else’s.

At the same time I can’t help but feel that I wouldn’t act the way I do if she wasn’t acting the way she was.

I know that sounds like I’m blaming her, but what I’m trying to speak on his how her actions/reactions are like a stimulus for what becomes arguments.

For example, one day last summer we were having a really great day- I woke up with our kid, made him pancakes, we were hanging out, and when she woke up I had coffee ready for her. She was so grateful and saying how wonderful I am etc.

We were all outside together, playing a game and then I had to do some work because there was a wasp nest ton our mailbox.

Our kid keeps getting in the way and I’m trying to keep him away, and he’s getting upset because he wants to be involved and see etc. it’s obviously dangerous for him to be around and I’m starting to get impatient, which was apparent to my partner.

We go inside, we’re trying to come up with a plan for the rest of the day. Our kid is interrupting us etc, I’m having a difficult time thinking, and feeling overwhelmed, when she asks me a question that I don’t know the answer to and let out an exasperated “I don’t know”

And she rolled her eyes at me.

I literally couldn’t think of the name of a book and she rolls her eyes at me.

And then it becomes an argument because I really loathe that type behavior.

What’s messed up is she does this stuff regularly, and I generally don’t let it get to me, but when I don’t handle it well, well then I’m the problem.

Another more recent time, our son was talking over us again, I was having trouble thinking, I needed to ask her something and I just couldn’t get it out without being talked over.

In between the time it took for her to answer our son so that she could talk with me, I figured out the answer and when she asked me what my question was I said “never mind, it was morning”.

And she kept pushing it. I kept saying it was nothing and eventually I got upset and it became an argument- and these arguments generally focus on why am I so upset and overreacting and how nothing should make me this upset etc.

Regardless of how upset I am, I’m upset, and it feels like everything she does adds fuel to the fire. Like I feel like I get upset easily and quickly but it goes away quickly, and if I have like even just a minute to get through it and let it go, it will go away and everything fines but she won’t allow me to have that time to cool off and just

So during this argument I’m like “hey this is getting out of hand, we need to take a timeout” and miraculously she agreed- it’s the only time she’s ever agreed to do that. Every other time she gets more upset and tells me I’m being controlling and trying to suppress her- even though we’ve both talked about having better strategies to prevent arguments from happening, such as taking a timeout; she doesn’t respect it ever.

I feel like I’m trying to create space so that things can cool off and we can come back and actually communicate about things; and she thinks I’m trying to control and oppress her.

But no less than 2 minutes later she comes into the kitchen where I’m cooking dinner, with my headphones on like I always do, and she just has a snarky attitude and says “what, so I’m not alllowed to talk to you?!”

And to be honest I handled it pretty well, I didn’t get upset I just responded to her and we talked and eventually it turned back into an argument.

But the thing is she’s always doing this- rolling her eyes, giving me an attitude, being snarky, scoffing etc.

Like the day she came home from the dentist a few weeks ago, she’s not having a good day and is trying to tell me about it. Our son asks us a question and that shifts the conversation and I brought up some parenting stuff- I’d say this is pretty normal, where we’re trying to have a conversation, and something parenting related comes up and the conversation shifts towards that.

We were coming back to the original conversation when I noticed her lip looked swollen and I just pointed it out to her and she snapped at me “no it’s not!”

And I was just tired of these types of interactions and I just became sarcastic and told her she was right, that it wasn’t

And that became an argument.

I don’t know. I know I overreact, I’m working on improving, but everytime I try to point out how her behavior amplifies the situation she gets incredibly defensive and says I’m blaming her.

I don’t know what to say. Like I’ve said I feel like I handle the routine attitude and sneakiness and eye rolling well, but it just wears me down and I’m tired of it, so I get upset.

But like, if she hadn’t done these things, I wouldn’t be getting upset. And that’s not to blame her, but like I’m not going be bothered by her not having an attitude with me, you know? I’m not going to get upset that she’s not rolling her eyes at me or scoffing or interrupting me

And I get no recognition for all the times I do respond well, you know. Not that I’m looking for it but i feel like I’m dealing with shit 24/7 and it’s wearing me down.

Oh yeah, she literally interrupts me during arguments and will finish my sentence for me, usually to tell me that I’m blaming her.

Yesterday we got into an argument, I tried calling a timeout, she told me I was controlling her, I’m getting heated and I’m literally telling her that we can take a break and come back later, that this wouldn’t be happening if we could just calm down and take some space- and the reason I’m so upset and she cuts me off and goes “it’s all my fault”

It’s just ridiculous.

Like of course I’m upset when I’m being spoken over and the things I do say are being misconstrued.

I don’t know man, I’m just frustrated and I need her to see that the way she acts isn’t good, and she routinely makes situations worse, because as it stands she doesn’t see her behavior as problematic, only my reactions to her behavior.

**TL;DR** my partner and I don’t communicate well and I feel like her behavior is problematic. She habitually has a tone or an attitude with me, rolls her eyes, scoffs, dismisses me, etc.
usually I handle it well, like I just let it roll off my back. But when I don’t, and we get into an argument the whole argument becomes about my reaction and how I’m blaming her.
I don’t know how to communicate with her so that she can see how problematic her behavior is, regardless of how I react/overreact.

I was a grocery employee at WFM back in 2016 in OKC.

We carried a Republic of Tea bulk tea that was a very colorful rooibos blend with blue, yellow, and white flowers/leaves/peels. I recall it tasting like an earthy fruity pebbles cereal.

I don’t even know if anyone in here has been at WF that long, or knows what I’m talking about but I’m trying to figure out what this tea could be so I find it or something similar to it.

Thanks!

I used to work at Whole Foods back in 2016 and they carried a Republic of Tea bulk blend that I believe was rooibos and there were a bunch of blue, yellow, and white flowers or leaves, maybe some dried peels. It was a really beautiful blend and tasted phenomenal- I recall it tasting like an earthy fruity pebbles cereal.

I’m certain there wasn’t any hibiscus in it, as I don’t like hibiscus lol.

I’m curious if anyone has any idea what I’m talking about because I’d like to find it, if not a similar tea.

I’m not sure what type of frame tv we have (my partner got it circa 2020/2021?) but it’s been pretty sluggish lately.

We just use it for streaming services, and when we are on an app it’s just slow, like navigating across content, using the search/type feature etc.

Is there a way to reset it or clean it up?

We just got a free trial for Criterion Channel.
Watched Kiyoshi Kurosawas Cure, man what an amazing, amazing film.

Anyways I’m wondering what are some films we absolutely must watch that are unique to criterion before the 7 days is up?

And just for transparency I had a subscription for like a year, watched tons of movies, but had to cancel it due to financial reason, and I wanted to watch Cure so bad that my partner signed up for the free trial.

I just watched Kiyoshi Kurosawa’s Cure for the first time, and man what an amazing film

When I saw the trailer the other day what really stuck out to me was just how good it looked, like it really gives meaning to the phrase “every frame a painting”- every scene looked so damn good.

I was not disappointed at all upon watching it.

I don’t really know many technical terms but it was the way the scenes were framed, lit, blocked and the composition- like how things sat in the frame. It just looks so great.

One thing that stuck out to me was how the camera rarely moved. All of the movement occurs within the frame. It was as if Kurosawa just set the camera up and let the actors go to work.

Theres some great camera work in the scenes as well, like in the scene where they interrogate the police officer who killed his coworker- the way the camera just sits in the middle of the frame and then finally moves to the chair in the bottom left, up to the top left, following the police officer up to the top right as he acts out his hypnotism with what appears to be a coffee stirrer and then moves back to the middle table.

The way the characters moved in the scene, and the camera eventually moved with them, and the way the fit in the frame, was brilliant.

The movie was chock full of brilliant moments like this.

I’d Like to know more about this, because I don’t really have any frame of reference for it.

I’d also lIke to know of more directors/films that use this approach. I do think both Ozu and Akira Kurosawa use this approach, but it’s something that’s sorely missing in Hollywood films, where cameras often cut back and forth between people in dialogue, and it just seems rare to set up a scene for people to move in, as opposed to moving around in the scene in a way that just feels different (imo it doesn’t make what’s going on visually very interesting)

Sometime last year a friend called me up and asked if I wanted to come teach for them at their new yoga studio.

I had a job but was looking for a change in environment and thought it would be a great opportunity, so I accepted the position.

It seemed to be going great at first, although slow, and I was looking forward to building up my classes there

A few months into working there, my friend was teaching an anatomy course. I didn’t have the money to attend but wanted to so I asked them if we could work something out and they agreed to take money out of my check. I was grateful for their willingness to work with me.

Unfortunately, on the second to last day of the course I woke up to my cat screaming in pain and had to rush them to the ER. I texted my friend to let them know what was going on and that I wouldn’t be able to make it. They acted very sympathetic and understanding

A couple weeks go by and I notice money stops coming out of my check. We didn’t have any conversation about me not paying for the course because I didn’t finish it or anything, and everything seemed normal between us, so I just didn’t bring it up.

Then out of nowhere I get a text letting me know I’m being let go.

Now, I will admit they had some valid reasons for letting me go. I had had the flu and had to cancel some classes, and my classes just weren’t filling up. it’s their business and their decision so that’s fine. I didn’t care that they let me go

But I was a little taken aback because I had achecked in with my friend after I came back from being sick, and about the class not filling up. Not only were they incredibly reassuring both times, but the last time I saw them before they let me go they were telling me how excited they were about my class, that there were new people signed up for the next one, and that they noticed my marketing efforts etc.

So when they let me go I said this and they came back with all these reasons, that I had been sick, and everything, and then they went into a lot of personal reasons

and then they told me it was a “red flag” that I didnt finish the anatomy course.

I think given the circumstances that its really messed up to hold it against me that I didn’t finish their course considering my cat was having a medical emergency and i had to put them down within a couple of weeks. I feel like it’s also really messed up for them to act sympathetic only to be holding it against me behind my back.

i also think it’s unfair for them to unilaterally decide to rescind charging me for the course and act like they’re doing me a favor only to hold that against me as well.

i just think it’s one thing for there to be problems (like me cancelling classes due to illness eg) and for them to be reassuring about It, and it’s another thing for them to be reassuring about it to my face but feel differently about it behind my back. Like for them to say “oh it’s no big deal, I’m glad you’re back and feeling better” but secretly filling it away as a red flag, if that makes sense. But I digress.

so, AITJ?

TL;DR: I was attending a course my boss was teaching but had to stop attending halfway through because my pet had a medical emergency. When they let me go a few weeks later they said that it was a “red flag” for not finishing the course. I think that’s really fucked up considering the circumstances, and to jold that against me. AITJ?

Here in the US at least, the view on anger is a negative one. it’s something to suppress, not express. something to let go of as quickly as possibly, not something to understand or wonder about. it’s basically not a feeling we should feel.

I understand that anger can be a very destructive emotion when people act out, and at the same time that seems to me to be a result of our cultures inability to feel anger in a healthy way. it seems like alot of the older generations were taught to suppress their emotions, to be stoic in an unhealthy way, and as such the ability to feel and regulate this emotion isn’t taught

personally, I don’t know how to feel or regulate anger. I mean I know how to not act out but lately I’ve been dealing with so much anger of feeling hurt and betrayed by someone. and no mater what I do, I don’t know how to Chang whom I feel or let the anger go.

and everyone I talk to. their response is to let it go, to not get so worked up etc

but people don’t ever say that about joy or happiness, you know, except for maybe some buddhists or something

But not only do I not know how to do that (its been months since the incident and I’m just ruminating every day) I also think there’s a reason I’m getting so upset, like there’s something to learn about and discover within this anger and I’m not sure how to inquire within myself about it.

Hi,

We’re looking for a pediatric dentist that specializes in airway health, if anyone has a recommendation

Thanks!

Does anyone else ever get this symptom where your stomach feels like it’s raw and burning and basically immediately your lips feel similarly, as if all moisture has been pulled out of them?

I get it several times a day and I’m not sure what it is. Last night I was going to bed, doing my nighttime breathing to relax and unwind and I just felt this burning sensation in my stomach (actual organ, not the general gut area), and then my mouth gets dry like SpongeBob out of water.

To be fair, I think this is one of the first symptoms
I experienced. I’d wake up and my lips would he so dry, and I get so dehydrated so easily- it felt like drank 100 beers or something overnight.

It’s honestly awful. And I know there’s a core tour of symptoms, but there’s a lot of symptoms that overlap with other diseases and andromeda and curious if anyone experiences this?

I’m in my mid 30s, burned out, feeling lost, disconnected from myself and others, everything feels meaningless, and I feel like I’m just kind of having a mid-life crisis.

Ive always loved reading but haven’t read anything in a while that’s felt magical, where I’ve felt a perspective shift, like my view of the world changed or was expanded, or felt inspired afterwards.

Some books that come to mind, having read them at a pivotal age, are Big Fish by Daniel Wallace, Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, and Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. They don’t necessarily have to be like these books, but just an example of some books I felt like had an impact on me.

I remember going to the library after David Foster Wallace died, because I loved his commencement speech, and accidentally brought home Daniel Wallace hah, but it was such a great moment of kismet because Big Fish was an amazing book for a kid who just graduated high school to read.

Any recs are appreciated.

About a decade ago my sleep started to fall apart and ever since then I’ve had a really hard time regulating my emotions and letting go of things.

Like the smallest things, it’s like every perceived slight has become congested within me and I ruminate on it all the tome

A few months ago someone I considered a friend said some really cruel things to me, and while I know what is and isn’t true within what they said; and that what they said says more about them than it does me, I can’t let go of the anger and the desire to cause them pain.

Whenever I do something like wash the dishes, cook, or go to bed, I just start to ruminate on these things and get so worked up and I just don’t know how to let it go.