u/Hawt_Air_Balloon

I have the unfortunate situation in which I have a child with my ex-wife who is an absolute narcissist to the T. The unfortunate part is the with HER part.

I'm not going to get into the details but for the last decade she has destroyed myself and my family in every which way, including almost putting us in jail and also financially.

To make a long story short, I was finally able to get full custody and break free from this individual a few years ago, because she had 50/50 and literally put my child in a harmful situation.

Ever since she has been doing smear campaigns and trying to figure out ways to get me back or abuse me. Some days it's like she wants me back, other days she's trying to get me in trouble, sue me, or get me in another plot / predicament.

Not only do I have 100% pressure of being a sole caretaker for my child, I also have to pay 100% of her visitation.

I don't know how else to say it, but I hope you just trust me. I swear to God I wish I could say she wanted to see our child. She doesn't. She doesn't even call and disappears half of the time. Once she realized I was the one assigned to pay for the visitation her eyes lit up and she's been pressing for it ever since. When she had 50/50 she wouldn't even want our child and would try to bring him over all the time. She has not paid a dollar for years and consistently just shows up to these visitations and doesn't talk/interact with our child, and then refuses to call or have nothing to do again. It's 100% to drain me financially.

Honestly, I'm sick of her and don't know what else mentally I can do to be normal and functioning for once. I cannot just get rid of her since we have a child together. But on the other hand, I'm dying inside. She has abused me so much before I even knew what abuse was.

Now it's affecting my child. Last time at the visitation she literally said, "maybe if I get you back I can get child support." Unprompted, I was told about this. She doesn't care about our child, she cares about receiving child support, because, and I quote, "do you think I can do it alone? No.")

This individual cheated on me with more than 4 people, got knocked up by a drug dealer (different kid), tried putting the drug dealer on child support AFTER failing to hook me for child support for a child that's not even mine, which she obviously isn't getting any because the dude does not even have a dollar to his name. So since I'm the responsible one she's trying to still get money out of me.

I've had enough of her. Honestly if I didn't have a child I would have moved out of the country to escape this person or would have offed myself already for the havoc she's wreaked on my life.

I'm at wits end and really am begging anyone for some insight on what to do. I'm trying to wait out the storm until my child becomes an adult but that's 8 years away.

I've caught her stalking me on the internet and even driving by my house in the area multiple times. I believe she's a covert and never gets in trouble for her manipulation and sick actions. It's always a new manipulation tactic. Last time it was trying to sweet talk me on father's day.

I've done gray rock to the max, for the last several years I have not spoken a word to her. I'm really trying to figure out how to maximize this person leaving me alone. She does not learn from consequences, police, court orders, or anything. She is literally a cancer and I'm so over it.

I have the unfortunate situation in which I have a child with my ex-wife who is an absolute narcissist to the T. The unfortunate part is the with HER part.

I'm not going to get into the details but for the last decade she has destroyed myself and my family in every which way, including almost putting us in jail and also financially.

To make a long story short, I was finally able to get full custody and break free from this individual a few years ago, because she had 50/50 and literally put my child in a harmful situation.

Ever since she has been doing smear campaigns and trying to figure out ways to get me back or abuse me. Some days it's like she wants me back, other days she's trying to get me in trouble, sue me, or get me in another plot / predicament.

Not only do I have 100% pressure of being a sole caretaker for my child, I also have to pay 100% of her visitation.

I don't know how else to say it, but I hope you just trust me. I swear to God I wish I could say she wanted to see our child. She doesn't. She doesn't even call and disappears half of the time. Once she realized I was the one assigned to pay for the visitation her eyes lit up and she's been pressing for it ever since. When she had 50/50 she wouldn't even want our child and would try to bring him over all the time. She has not paid a dollar for years and consistently just shows up to these visitations and doesn't talk/interact with our child, and then refuses to call or have nothing to do again. It's 100% to drain me financially.

Honestly, I'm sick of her and don't know what else mentally I can do to be normal and functioning for once. I cannot just get rid of her since we have a child together. But on the other hand, I'm dying inside. She has abused me so much before I even knew what abuse was.

Now it's affecting my child. Last time at the visitation she literally said, "maybe if I get you back I can get child support." Unprompted, I was told about this. She doesn't care about our child, she cares about receiving child support, because, and I quote, "do you think I can do it alone? No.")

This individual cheated on me with more than 4 people, got knocked up by a drug dealer (different kid), tried putting the drug dealer on child support AFTER failing to hook me for child support for a child that's not even mine, which she obviously isn't getting any because the dude does not even have a dollar to his name. So since I'm the responsible one she's trying to still get money out of me.

I've had enough of her. Honestly if I didn't have a child I would have moved out of the country to escape this person or would have offed myself already for the havoc she's wreaked on my life.

I'm at wits end and really am begging anyone for some insight on what to do. I'm trying to wait out the storm until my child becomes an adult but that's 8 years away.

I've caught her stalking me on the internet and even driving by my house in the area multiple times. I believe she's a covert and never gets in trouble for her manipulation and sick actions. It's always a new manipulation tactic. Last time it was trying to sweet talk me on father's day.

I've done gray rock to the max, for the last several years I have not spoken a word to her. I'm really trying to figure out how to maximize this person leaving me alone. She does not learn from consequences, police, court orders, or anything. She is literally a cancer and I'm so over it.

I’m no Excel expert by any means but over the past two years have been very well versed in pivot charts, Excel, and formulas etc. Helped my supervisor countless times with her own issues. Throughout the weeks said supervisor keeps saying I should take Excel classes and complimenting another individual I work with stating that coworker is really good and helps her. Which he is good, but I’ve confirmed he’s helped her once whereas I’ve helped her countless times. She keeps referencing this coworker any time she sees me and states how great their pivot charts are, where as I am actively submitting approved pivot charts on a daily basis.

There is literally no difference and I’m starting to think this supervisor is mentally sick and trying to pit us against each other for whatever reason. The timing is also off. Not too long ago I submitted a quite complex Excel sheet, same as last year. Supervisor like clock work mentioned I need to improve my Excel and offered me to take a class. I’ve taken 3 classes and done countless work on my own. There is NOTHING wrong with my spreadsheets or Excel.

You should see the work some of my other coworkers submit, not to be hating. I feel really targeted and sick of this nonsense. It’s like it’s never enough. I take feedback and criticism where warranted. But when nothing is wrong and I’m just told to randomly improve is infuriating.

Hi all, just wondering if Brain Scale is a good desktop app to use to try DNB?

BrainScale: Dual N‑Back Online + Smart Brain Games

I have seen all these different apps or products and I'm overwhelmed. Do they all do the same thing? I just wanna do the bare minimum 3x per week, lol.

Do I always need to do it via the cable? I was hoping there would be a much easier and automatic way to get my books on Kindle. Sometimes I procrastinate to do so for this very reason.

Unrelated side question: Do you all ever read two books at the same time? I want to try reading different books instead of waiting to finish one before starting another, lol.

The app shows a Venti Pike Place as 5 kcal and has the macros which is great.

But idk how to add the rest. I had 1/2 splash of coconut milk steamed, 1 stevia, and regular cinnamon powder.

How do I figure out the calories for the rest of the items and the macros?

I’m working on being more precise.

I know I'm probably dreaming but would love to get my hands on some graded readers if they are actually out there.

I had Facebook several years ago. I recently just created an account and wow have things changed. Maybe I have rose-tinted glasses of the past, but I think there are now a lot more problems than before.

One of the first things I noticed is that I don't think people were receiving my friend requests. I verified with one of my real-life friends. Sent them a friend request and they said they had to "search" for it and finally found it? Not sure exactly what that means.

Then I noticed my posts weren't hardly getting any interaction. I figured people didn't find them intriguing but then I realized I don't think most people are even seeing them to begin with.

My Facebook is full of ads, random videos, and random pages that I never really asked to see. I am not following any of it yet it still pops up on my feed, and I am trying my best to figure out how to only have the people or pages I follow solely pop up on my feed. But I don't think it's doable.

I wish things were the way they used to be years back as I don't remember hardly any of it being this spammy. Maybe it was and I just don't recall?

Anyways I guess I'm here to stay because I'm trying to become more social and have more social interactions online as well, but I don't think it's gonna help me with that anytime soon. Anyone else have similar thoughts?

I’ve been doing 16:8 but sometimes I push it further. Why do I look like I’m losing weight and slimmer but yet the scale has stayed the same plus or minus a few lbs for the last 2 months?

I’m not new to being lonely and isolated but it’s gotten severely bad in my 30’s, to the point now where I’m questioning my sanity. If it wasn’t for Reddit and my job I’d think I’d need to go to a mental institution.

I started off as an only child, so growing up I was already isolated. I have immigrant parents so I have family across the world who I never met but none here in the states.

High school was alright because you’re forced to hang out with other students all day since you can’t be absent.

But my real bout of loneliness began in my early 20’s. I went off for college but did not live on campus. Had an apartment and was losing my mind.

Sadly what little friends I had left I lost because I was isolated hours away in another city and met my ex wife who was a complete and utter narcissist, who made sure I didn’t even see my parents properly from time to time. She wanted me 100% isolated and so I spent the next 8 years in isolation.

She cheated and left me and I’ve been 100% isolated ever since.

I’ve tried reconnecting with friends throughout the years at least via social media but nobody cares. They’re all busy doing their own thing and living their own lives.

I tried dating online and even meeting a partner in real life but everyone is already taken or has a huge social life and see no incentive to go with me, a 100% isolated individual.

Even though I’m isolated, I make it a point to try my hardest not to give off a lonely vibe in the real world.

This one girl reached out to me and we started talking and I noticed as soon as she found out organically I don’t have a friend group or anyone to talk to outside of work she started using terms on me like “needy” and making excuses for treating me rudely. Ultimately I think she really realized that she didn’t want this life. Not that I am choosing it. I’ve been making an active effort.

The other night I stooped so low, that, without alcohol I sent a friend request to my ex gf from over a decade ago. How lowly and pathetic I’ve become.

Honestly now I see how people let their job become their identity. When I first started working I saw these people treating their jobs this way and I thought it was absolutely insane. Now I totally get it and really it’s the only thing going that’s keeping me together.

I don’t know what the point of this post was besides to vent but I am really feeling it now more so than ever. Luckily my faith has kept me alive these past few years but I’m honestly extremely sick of it. My effort thus far has gone in vain. I guess something about me makes others not want to hang out with me.

I was trying to figure out where to begin but I am a little lost. I see there’s a book and also a website?

I don’t have any equipment just a regular gym membership. I normally do leg days which is basically just squats and leg extensions.

Was just wondering where should I begin? Kind of concerned my technique will be off or I won’t have the proper equipment.

Also side question but does this program help with plantar fasciitis?

Do you think this would help with the ability to focus.

Ideally I’d also like to help my working memory with easily being able to hold multiple thoughts in mind at once.

Do you think DNB helps or is it more of a placebo?

I cannot sync my cards currently.

The Satan from the deepest pits of hell wished me a happy Father’s Day and completely ruined my mental status ever since.

Who gets on an airplane to fly across the country and cheat with a stranger off the internet. Then does it 4 more times in this city.

It’s been five years and I still wish hell upon her every single day.

I work in accounting and have a micromanager for a boss. Been here years tolerating messages and requests for status updates every five min it seems. Dread has seeped into my every waking moment. I’ve stayed for loan forgiveness, PSLF, but it’s gotten to the point where I don’t even care anymore. I want another position elsewhere. Plus here they just dump more work on you and don’t increase the pay and treat you like a child, very demeaning. I’m so over it. The stupid huddles, monthly birthday/cupcake parties and random activities followed by more copious micromanaging.

To an Al Jazeera type level? I see most resources focus on reading more than anything. I’m like a B1 level.

I’m currently in school to change careers into nursing but it’s a long journey doing prereqs. I’m not stopping though.

I work in business currently and at this rate won’t even get into school for another two years into a nursing program.

Just wondering if Alamo Colleges has any certificate programs for healthcare that pay decently that you would recommend that would be a little faster. I’m trying to change careers faster. But something that would still eventually help with my ultimate goal of becoming a nurse. Maybe an EMT cert?

Since my divorce years ago I didn’t try getting in another relationship. A girl from my high school popped up and we started talking for a few months. We never really had problems and got along just fine. But she never wanted to say we were a couple and would say her kids aren’t ready for that. So I was like cool, I have a child of my own. So I get it. Anyways I noticed every time her family was going to visit her, the same day she would randomly start saying stuff like “I don’t want a relationship right now” or start acting like I’m too needy and present when I literally wasn’t. Like the last time she started that and I was literally busy and couldn’t even reply right away then see all these negative messages. Oddly enough my ex wife used to have that pattern. Whenever her mother or sister was around it was always negative energy.

Well anyways this girl wrote “I told you I don’t want a relationship.” Nobody was even talking about relationships at all. I actually was getting tired of it because she is the one who acted like I’m the best thing ever etc.

So her and I stopped talking and I realized her words of “I love you” were all lies. There is no way in hell she loved me at all but used those terms so easily.

This person wasted nearly 1 year of time and abruptly disappears and blocks me after being rude to me on a random afternoon.

I don’t understand how these people operate.

Are they kind of the same? My friend is not a CS major yet but is going back to school for CS and was talking to me about this. I really didn’t have any idea so I said idk. lol. Just curious for those of you taking CS classes?

Hi all. I’m currently taking nursing prereqs. My goal is to apply for nursing school next year and go on a part time basis as I work full time in accounting. I am full of anxiety about harming someone in the hospital lol. I don’t want to make any mistakes or give a wrong medication and that’s causing me to panic. How do you get over these nerves? What’s the best advice you have for me? I also have imposter syndrome while doing my prereqs. I want to be the best nurse possible and also work in the ER ideally straight away.