u/HealthierCongruence

Switched from iPhone to my first Android, a Pixel 10, a few months ago. Overall fine, but sometimes im running into this issue where I literally cannot answer an incoming call.
I'll hear the phone ringing, try to swipe or press whatever's on screen, and nothing responds. Sometimes the screen just disappears entirely while it's still ringing. I'll even navigate to the phone app and see no way to answer.
It's happened multiple times. I'm 43, not particularly tech savvy, but I believe I know how to answer a phone.
One thing that might be relevant: I'm using the Niagara minimalist launcher. I don't know if that's interfering with how incoming calls display or behave, but it seems worth mentioning.
Has anyone run into this? Is it a launcher conflict, a settings issue, or I'm just an old granny that cant figure out how to use a phone?

My boyfriend screamed bloody murder at 3am and I aged ten years in two seconds. i was dead asleep. I shot up, grabbed him, started shaking him awake telling him "hey, you're okay, you're awake" while my heart is somewhere in the ceiling. the next morning he told me he was in a dream where a group of women were feeding him fruit and sticks and told him he should scream.
He screams in the middle of the night like once every 6 months. It's so scary for ME. for him, he said sometimes it's terrifying dreams, and other times it's not (such as the dream last night). so weird. is there any way to stop night screams? it scares the crap out of me and disturbs MY sleep! thank you

Trying to figure out whether my constant overwhelm is objective - I actually have too much —-or whether it's a mindset issue that better systems or a different relationship with time could address.

Here's some of what's on my plate:
-A book I'm in the middle of writing....A retreat I'm hosting for the first time in nine months — so there's real prep work involved to actually fill it and execute it. ...A podcast with about six months of already-recorded content that needs to be edited and released. I'm not recording anything new, but I still review every edit, give feedback, and request changes before anything goes live....A rental property I handed to a property manager, but there are a few issues right now, so it's not passive....Injury rehab and medical appointments. Cooking, cleaning, dog care, regular life..and ideally time for friends and family and leisure too.

...I have a VA helping with some things. But I think I might have too much ambition while still executing too much myself.

Is this a "do less" problem, a "hire more people" problem, or a "stop compressing timelines in your head" problem?..Cal Newport mentions a doubling heuristic: assume things take twice as long as expected. I wonder if artificially extending my mental timelines would reduce some of the urgency I feel. How do you distinguish genuine overload from anxiety-driven urgency? I wake up with anxiety most mornings. I won't pick up the phone if a friend calls mid-day because i have "too much to do". By evening I'm too depleted to connect with anyone. I know something needs to change - just a little unclear how to turn this into reality. thank you so much.

My boyfriend and I are visiting for about 12 days and I'd love some feedback from people who know the country well. Here's the rough plan:

Tirana (July 30 – Aug 2) No car. Thinking of staying in the Komuna e Parisit area rather than Blloku (heard it's noisy). Is that a reasonable base without a car? Morning walks to the lake, afternoons at the gym?, exploring/working during the day. where should we definitely go?

Berat Aug 2-4

Himare Aug 4-9 - beach time (maybe visit serande or other places but i heard traffic is a beast in august?)

Gjirokastër Aug 9-11 2 nights on the way back to tirana— castle and Blue Eye

About us: pretty low-key. Gym, yoga, hiking, beach, cooking, meeting people. Not big nightlife people. Aware it'll be hot but my boyfriend can only go those dates.

I would appreciate any honest feedback, if this sounds like a good plan, if we should modify, or if we need to add something :) thanks so much!

note - edited this itinerary based on feedback

i have a mini golden doodle who is part cocker spaniel as well. cutie patootie 2.5 years old....

Ever since I brought my little nugget home around 12 weeks old, loose leash walking has been a consistent priority. I've never let him pull ...maybe 95% of the time is a fair estimate, with the rare exception being something like needing to move him away from another dog quickly.

I've worked with trainers. I've instructed my boyfriend and dog walkers to follow the same rules. I treat when he's in position. If he pulls, we stop.

the walks are a bit exhausting.I have to be actively engaged, calling him back, stopping, treating, redirecting. Near a dog park or anywhere with interesting smells, it feels like there's no controlling him at all.

I don't know how consistent my boyfriend and the dog walker actually are. I suspect they may not be holding the same standard, but I can't confirm that.

is inconsistency from other handlers enough to undermine two and a half years of work on my end? Or is there something else going on? Is this just a high-drive/ mini golden doodle thing? At what point do I accept that some dogs just need active management on walks forever, versus this being a fixable training gap?

I have a PhD in psychology with a somatic focus on eating disorders. Not clinical psychology, which seems to be what most university positions want. If I could go back in time, knowing what I know now, I would probably have done clinical psychology but it is what it is. I'm not affiliated with any institution and don't plan on going back for a PhD in clinical psychology.

I work in the coaching realm - I've created downloadable resources, sometimes run group courses, have a podcast, etc. Research still fascinates me though.

A few ideas Im considering -

A pilot program evaluation for a retreat I'm hosting — measuring evidence-based elements, participant outcomes, changes in anxiety and related variables.

An MBRP (Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention) study specific to binge eating. MBRP is well-established but hasn't been tested in this population specifically. I'm certified in MBRP, I know the literature, and I think there's something genuinely novel there.

I've thought both through seriously — variables, existing literature, what would make them novel contributions. But nobody is paying me for this. It would be a significant time investment on top of an already full plate, with no salary and no institutional support behind it.

So honestly - do I just let this go? Or is there actually a realistic path for someone in my position to contribute to research in a meaningful way? Specifically wondering:

Is there any funding available for independent researchers with no institutional affiliation? Are there working models for this - citizen science, independent research networks, anything - or is the honest reality that without an institution it's mostly unpaid labor with limited reach? thank you kindly

im trying to dry age my steak but i am basically just putting some light salt on steak i buy and letting it sit in my fridge on a rack for 1-3 weeks. is this fine? it gets really dark red and a bit hard on the outside which i dont mind. i just like this method because i dont want to feel like i need to rush to eat all the steaks before a certain date or they will go bad (like other food). i dont need to worry about anything health wise as long as i dont have histamine intolerance correct? thank you!

the steak that has been in my fridge for about 10 days. its raw and i plan to cook it later.