u/No-Thanks-2069

Hello, I'm 18m and I've crushed on girls and been romantically attracted to them for as long as I can remember (since maybe 3 or 4 years old). As I got older they became less frequent (maybe one every 2 years) but also way more intense when they did happen. I'd lose sleep and miss meals for months over heartache, recently there was a girl I only had a short stint with but couldn't stop thinking about for a year after because I still liked her so much.

But the thing is I've never felt lust or erotic attraction for girls. Yet I have for guys.

Since the same age about I've been sexually attracted to guys. I remember looking around locked rooms when I was younger, and basically exclusively consumed gay porn from the time I had internet access. Never once did I feel that intense, adrenaline inducing thirst for lust that I felt with guys for girls. Yet I have no romantic or emotional attraction to guys. When I'd watch male stuff, I'd feel dirty and gross once I'd finished cause it was emotionally unfulfilling. It was detrimental to my mental health, and honestly felt more like a fetish, like a taboo than a healthy sexual attraction.

I find women physically attractive but not really in an erotic way, and I can get off to female porn but it's more so situationally, I'm not out thinking like that about random girls. When there's a girl a really like, I feel sexually attracted to her as in wanting to feel her body and make love to her, but it doesn't feel lustful, more so deeply emotional. When I'd imagine having sex with a girl I loved while finishing, although it didn't feel erotic, it feels fulfilling and enjoyable.

I actually have had gay sexual experiences and I hated them. It was adrenaline inducing and exciting but as soon as I finished I was horrified and realized I had no attraction to them and made me feel gross for days. It feels like a drug more than anything. I've never felt any sort of butterflies or the feelings I get when I'm around girls I like and have never wanted any sort of relationship with one. And I come from a super accepting family so I'm not having to suppress anything.

I hate what I've been cursed with. I feel like crying and I want to die knowing I'll never be able to have both feelings in a relationship like everyone else, let alone have a relationship at all. What girl would want a guy that literally fits the definition of homosexual, at least for the sexual aspect? I don't even wanna be with guys or watch gay stuff cause it makes me feel unwell, but I don't know what I'm gonna do. It's not like something a can pretend doesn't exist.

Hello, I'm 17m and I've crushed on girls and been romantically attracted to them for as long as I can remember (since maybe 3 or 4 years old). As I got older they became less frequent (maybe one every 2 years) but also way more intense when they did happen. I'd lose sleep and miss meals for months over heartache, recently there was a girl I only had a short stint with but couldn't stop thinking about for a year after because I still liked her so much.

But the thing is I've never felt lust or erotic attraction for girls. Yet I have for guys.

Since the same age about I've been sexually attracted to guys. I remember looking around locked rooms when I was younger, and basically exclusively consumed gay porn from the time I had internet access. Never once did I feel that intense, adrenaline inducing thirst for lust that I felt with guys for girls. Yet I have no romantic or emotional attraction to guys. When I'd watch male stuff, I'd feel dirty and gross once I'd finished cause it was emotionally unfulfilling. It was detrimental to my mental health, and honestly felt more like a fetish, like a taboo than a healthy sexual attraction.

I find women physically attractive but not really in an erotic way, and I can get off to female porn but it's more so situationally, I'm not out thinking like that about random girls. When there's a girl a really like, I feel sexually attracted to her as in wanting to feel her body and make love to her, but it doesn't feel lustful, more so deeply emotional. When I'd imagine having sex with a girl I loved while finishing, although it didn't feel erotic, it feels fulfilling and enjoyable.

I actually have had gay sexual experiences and I hated them. It was adrenaline inducing and exciting but as soon as I finished I was horrified and realized I had no attraction to them and made me feel gross for days. It feels like a drug more than anything. I've never felt any sort of butterflies or the feelings I get when I'm around girls I like and have never wanted any sort of relationship with one. And I come from a super accepting family so I'm not having to suppress anything.

I hate what I've been cursed with. I feel like crying and I want to die knowing I'll never be able to have both feelings in a relationship like everyone else, let alone have a relationship at all. What girl would want a guy that literally fits the definition of homosexual, at least for the sexual aspect? I don't even wanna be with guys or watch gay stuff cause it makes me feel unwell, but I don't know what I'm gonna do. It's not like something a can pretend doesn't exist.

Hello, I'm 18m and I've crushed on girls and been romantically attracted to them for as long as I can remember (since maybe 3 or 4 years old). As I got older they became less frequent (maybe one every 2 years) but also way more intense when they did happen. I'd lose sleep and miss meals for months over heartache, recently there was a girl I only had a short stint with but couldn't stop thinking about for a year after because I still liked her so much.

But the thing is I've never felt lust or erotic attraction for girls. Yet I have for guys.

Since the same age about I've been sexually attracted to guys. I remember looking around locked rooms when I was younger, and basically exclusively consumed gay porn from the time I had internet access. Never once did I feel that intense, adrenaline inducing thirst for lust that I felt with guys for girls. Yet I have no romantic or emotional attraction to guys. When I'd watch male stuff, I'd feel dirty and gross once I'd finished cause it was emotionally unfulfilling. It was detrimental to my mental health, and honestly felt more like a fetish, like a taboo than a healthy sexual attraction.

I find women physically attractive but not really in an erotic way, and I can get off to female porn but it's more so situationally, I'm not out thinking like that about random girls. When there's a girl a really like, I feel sexually attracted to her as in wanting to feel her body and make love to her, but it doesn't feel lustful, more so deeply emotional. When I'd imagine having sex with a girl I loved while finishing, although it didn't feel erotic, it feels fulfilling and enjoyable.

I actually have had gay sexual experiences and I hated them. It was adrenaline inducing and exciting but as soon as I finished I was horrified and realized I had no attraction to them and made me feel gross for days. It feels like a drug more than anything. I've never felt any sort of butterflies or the feelings I get when I'm around girls I like and have never wanted any sort of relationship with one. And I come from a super accepting family so I'm not having to suppress anything.

I hate what I've been cursed with. I feel like crying and I want to die knowing I'll never be able to have both feelings in a relationship like everyone else, let alone have a relationship at all. What girl would want a guy that literally fits the definition of homosexual, at least for the sexual aspect? I don't even wanna be with guys or watch gay stuff cause it makes me feel unwell, but I don't know what I'm gonna do. It's not like something a can pretend doesn't exist.

Do any of you also feel like it is impossible to feel attracted to both men and women are the same time? Like sexually, I get attracted to women with whatever I'm watching or thinking of, and then I'm not interested in looking at guys, but when I'm looking at male porn, I straight up cannot feel attracted to women. Or if I really like a girl, or I have one of those days where I'm attracted to girls more, the thought of being with a guy grosses me out. But if I'm crushing on a guy, I don't feel attracted to girls. I noticed this when I had a girl that I liked (and shortly dated), and the male friend that I'd been crushing on for years in consecutive classes, and had no interest in the thought of him when I was around her, but then started to lose interest in her when I was around him. Idk it's just weird and didn't know if any of you felt the same.

(Also the emotions I feel when attracted to each gender are completely different, I can't describe it though)

Hello, I received my ranking today and despite my GPA of 103.6 (4.14) I'm 53/850, which probably doesn't look great for a school like MIT. I go to the highest rated public school in a very large city, and just a neighborhood over I would be top 1%. I've chosen basically exclusively difficult AP stem courses as most of my schedule and I'm in the highest placement of math (calc bc junior year, this year multivariable) and because of this raw grades are in the 93-96 range rather than 97+ like the people above me. Even if I have a near perfect sat and 5s in every AP I took, is it joever? Or at least am I hurt a lot?

A text from my dad appears: "I think my headphones are still connected to your phone."

A text from my dad appears: "I think my headphones are still connected to your phone."

A text from my dad appears: "I think my headphones are still connected to your phone."

I might have kids in the future but I don't hear much about bi guys with children. If you're monogamous it probably isn't anything outward but it's gotta affect some things, right?

Curious because I intend to be with a woman long term but I don't here much about other bi guys in the same situation

For some background, I was always the fat kid growing up. It got way worse over covid, where I ended up 5'6 and 180lbs (81kg), all of it fat, no muscle. One day when I was 13 I snapped and became anorexic, somewhat slowly at first with "healthy" routines which quickly increased into disordered behaviors to the point I was almost hospitalized for my heart health. I intensely exercised all day and had strict calorie budgets I would count out repeatedly and would lose my mind if I went over my budget. I lost 60 pounds (27kg) in 6 months, not to the point that I looked unhealthy, just somewhat thin.

The worst part is that it actually worked, so I still see that time as a "good" thing. I finally looked how I wanted, and, despite it all, I found out I liked exercising (I took up running and still do cross country/leisure running to this day), and my confidence increased exponentially. It's been over 3 years since I recovered, and I've somewhat kept the weight off, but I've also kinda fallen out of shape again and have spent 2 years trying to lose a couple pounds.

Currently, I'm 5'9 and 150 lbs (68kg), and while I'm not fat, I certainly don't look fit. Funnily enough, I'm pretty athletic - I'm one of the better runners on my cross country team, I can do more pushups/pullups than most people- but compared to other runners/athletes my age, I'm one of the chunkier ones. At times, I've tried to get an eating disorder again because that's the only time weight loss worked for me, but it hasn't worked and I can't really afford to be in a bad place mentally, let alone the fact that I don't want to feel like that again.

I'm trying to lose about 20 pounds, but all my attempts have fizzled out after a few weeks. I'm about to be in my senior year and my mental health and confidence is horrible because of my weight. I often stress eat/boredom eat due to my academic load, which has also decreased my time to exercise. Do any of you have any advice of how to do this consistently and healthily? I'd prefer if it took under 5 months

Also -my eating is completely random right now- a cold can of beans for dinner, or perhaps an assortment snacks and protein shakes from 5pm to 10pm, or 2 small meals: one at 6 and then at 11

*forgot to mention I'm vegetarian*

For some background, I was always the fat kid growing up. It got way worse over covid, where I ended up 5'6 and 180lbs (81kg), all of it fat, no muscle. One day when I was 13 I snapped and became anorexic, somewhat slowly at first with "healthy" routines which quickly increased into disordered behaviors to the point I was almost hospitalized for my heart health. I intensely exercised all day and had strict calorie budgets I would count out repeatedly and would lose my mind if I went over my budget. I lost 60 pounds (27kg) in 6 months, not to the point that I looked unhealthy, just somewhat thin.

The worst part is that it actually worked, so I still see that time as a "good" thing. I finally looked how I wanted, and, despite it all, I found out I liked exercising (I took up running and still do cross country/leisure running to this day), and my confidence increased exponentially. It's been over 3 years since I recovered, and I've somewhat kept the weight off, but I've also kinda fallen out of shape again and have spent 2 years trying to lose a couple pounds.

Currently, I'm 5'9 and 150 lbs (68kg), and while I'm not fat, I certainly don't look fit. Funnily enough, I'm pretty athletic - I'm one of the better runners on my cross country team, I can do more pushups/pullups than most people- but compared to other runners/athletes my age, I'm one of the chunkier ones. At times, I've tried to get an eating disorder again because that's the only time weight loss worked for me, but it hasn't worked and I can't really afford to be in a bad place mentally, let alone the fact that I don't want to feel like that again.

I'm trying to lose about 20 pounds, but all my attempts have fizzled out after a few weeks. I'm about to be in my senior year and my mental health and confidence is horrible because of my weight. I often stress eat/boredom eat due to my academic load, which has also decreased my time to exercise. Do any of you have any advice of how to do this consistently and healthily? I'd prefer if it took under 5 months

Also -my eating is completely random right now- a cold can of beans for dinner, or perhaps an assortment snacks and protein shakes from 5pm to 10pm, or 2 small meals: one at 6 and then at 11

*forgot to mention I'm vegetarian*

For some background, I was always the fat kid growing up. It got way worse over covid, where I ended up 5'6 and 180lbs (81kg), all of it fat, no muscle. One day when I was 13 I snapped and became anorexic, somewhat slowly at first with "healthy" routines which quickly increased into disordered behaviors to the point I was almost hospitalized for my heart health. I intensely exercised all day and had strict calorie budgets I would count out repeatedly and would lose my mind if I went over my budget. I lost 60 pounds (27kg) in 6 months, not to the point that I looked unhealthy, just somewhat thin.

The worst part is that it actually worked, so I still see that time as a "good" thing. I finally looked how I wanted, and, despite it all, I found out I liked exercising (I took up running and still do cross country/leisure running to this day), and my confidence increased exponentially. It's been over 3 years since I recovered, and I've somewhat kept the weight off, but I've also kinda fallen out of shape again and have spent 2 years trying to lose a couple pounds.

Currently, I'm 5'9 and 150 lbs (68kg), and while I'm not fat, I certainly don't look fit. Funnily enough, I'm pretty athletic - I'm one of the better runners on my cross country team, I can do more pushups/pullups than most people- but compared to other runners/athletes my age, I'm one of the chunkier ones. At times, I've tried to get an eating disorder again because that's the only time weight loss worked for me, but it hasn't worked and I can't really afford to be in a bad place mentally, let alone the fact that I don't want to feel like that again.

I'm trying to lose about 20 pounds, but all my attempts have fizzled out after a few weeks. I'm about to be in my senior year and my mental health and confidence is horrible because of my weight. I often stress eat/boredom eat due to my academic load, which has also decreased my time to exercise. Do any of you have any advice of how to do this consistently and healthily? I'd prefer if it took under 5 months

Also -my eating is completely random right now- a cold can of beans for dinner, or perhaps an assortment snacks and protein shakes from 5pm to 10pm, or 2 small meals: one at 6 and then at 11

*forgot to mention I'm vegetarian*