u/ProfessionTrue8117

My mom had a friend over the other night, and she went all out. She spent hours in the kitchen making fresh pizza from scratch, bought all the drinks, and spent ages cleaning up. Afterward, she was completely exhausted and started complaining to me about how tired she was from doing all that work. She told me that her friends coming over wasn’t that enjoyable.

I told her straight up that she should have set some boundaries instead of taking on all that extra effort. I explained how my friends and I do things: whenever I host, everyone brings their own food or orders takeaway, and we split the money down to the exact penny. My job as host basically starts and ends with providing tap water, coffee, and taking out the trash. I told her our way keeps things zero-stress and low-cost so no one ends up burnt out. My friends love it this way and we have made it normal in our group.. I saw online that it’s a Swedish tradition called knytkalas where guests bring their own foods and share them around.

She didn’t take that well at all. She said it’s just not a good thing to make guests bring their own food and drinks, and that a host shouldn't be asking guests to do that.

Now she's annoyed with me for criticising her setup, but I still think she's making her own life difficult by refusing to set limits. AITA for telling her she brought the exhaustion on herself, or is she right that making guests bring their own stuff isn't a good way to host?

Recently every meal that I have been making has been turning out bad. My husband eats all of the food as usual. He will act like he likes the food, and then when I offer to make it again, he says, 'No, that’s dead.' In all honesty, his actions have not offended me.

I do actually agree with him as I never want seconds of my food and struggle to finish one portion myself. Whether it’s the chicken being raw or the rice being overcooked somehow big things go wrong. It has been hard as I make it with love but it turns out average at best. I don’t know what I am missing.

He keeps ordering take aways and never suggests a cooked meal anymore. It really upsets me as he used to like my cooking before and would suggest it. Nowadays I hardly cook and I miss it. He doesn’t seem impacted by it but when he does get hot headed he says you can’t even cook us 1 meal but once he calms down he doesn’t mention it.

There was a temporary speed limit introduced on a dual carriageway that I use everyday. It was reduced from 50mph to 30mph.

I obliged the speed limit an aggressive driver purposefully speed up and then overtake me closely at speeds of 50-60mph.I am seriously not kidding. I don’t know what I am doing wrong. Am I annoying the driver as I am going the speed limit or is the P plate? Sometimes I beep in frustration.

The first time that it happened was when the car was joining the dual carriageway and then sped past me very closely and overtook me. Another time they were racing on Friday evening and did the same thing.

There has been other times as well where there hasn’t been any works that this has happened. It always happens at midnight. I feel like the drivers at night are dodgy as well probably.

I really want to experience that real love they talk about in movies. I want someone to love me the same way. Someone who wants to make my life easier and better. I just want to feel this true love. I have my first love but we didn’t work out.

Since the end of my first love I cannot love anybody the same way. I cannot trust them the same way. It feels like I am waiting on something that will never happen. We were supposed to get married and then it all went to waste. I was the reason for it ending and I genuinely believe that another man will never love me the same way. I lost one of the best things that has happened to me. He was the best partner ever.

I just wanna be in his arms again. I don’t want to be with anybody else but he hates me. I am so heartbroken and lonely.

In the last few months my British friends have been poking fun at me for saying it to retail employees and strangers when asking for directions or help.

I do find that most people simply don’t mind it. They are alright with being called buddy. I do think it makes the conversation a tad bit friendlier..

I recently purchased my airplane tickets to visit Fes El-Bali I didn’t bother checking much about whether it’s conservative or not. I was feeling adventurous..

Google advised me to wear maxi skirts, jeans and longer dresses. It did say that it’s quite conservative online.. Is that true? What is it like?

I have become quite close with a neighbour over the past year. He has a family of his own, while I am a single man.

At the beginning, the father would often invite me over for drinks in their back garden. Sometimes his wife would join us as well. We seemed to have a lot in common, and I quickly found myself enjoying their company. It became a regular thing for us to spend an hour or so together most days.

As time went on, we started hanging out almost every evening and night. It became part of our routine.

During that time, he began opening up to me about various health issues. He seems to complain about almost everything. One day it's the weather being too hot, the next it's his back hurting. I've also noticed that he has some unusual twitches and movements that appear from time to time.

Over the months, I started noticing certain behaviours that made me question his attitude towards other people. For example, I once told them about a family celebration where we rented a hall and arranged catering for my cousin's birthday. Instead of seeming interested or happy, they pulled strange facial expressions that came across as dismissive or envious. On another occasion, we saw a nice Mercedes with a personalised number plate, and his immediate reaction was, "What a loser." Moments like these gave me the impression that they often look for negative things to say about others.

He just asked me for $250 after showing me that he has just received $14,000 three days ago from his father to buy new furniture. He only purchased two items with the money. How is he asking me for money after he has received this amount.

Couple of months ago their washing machine broke and I allowed them to use my washing machine 10 times for their children’s clothes. When I started saying no then they finally went to launderette otherwise they were showing me bags filled of dirty clothes in their home..

One thing that also struck me was how aware he seemed to be of my movements. After I hadn't spent time with them for about a week, he started asking whether everything was okay. Shortly afterwards, he mentioned that he had seen me being picked up by friends and noticed me standing outside chatting with them at around 3 a.m. over the weekend.

I told him that we had simply gone out for a boys' night and that my friends had dropped me off afterwards, and we stood outside talking for a while. I couldn't help wondering why he was paying such close attention. My first thought was, "Why are you even asking me this?" It made me wonder whether he spends a lot of time watching what is happening outside from his window. We have only known each other for a year…
Something is fishy about this man but I cannot put my finger on it.

I (24F) have been talking to a guy (31M) I recently reconnected with. Things escalated quite quickly between us and we started discussing serious topics early on, including marriage, where we would live (UK vs Turkey), and long-term plans. We haven’t met in real life we are just texting.

At one point, the conversation included different ideas about where we might live. Initially, he suggested that we could live in Turkey first, but later he changed the plan and said we could live in England first instead and then move to Turkey later. I questioned the inconsistency because it felt like the plan kept changing depending on the situation.

The conversation also touched on him possibly needing a marriage visa to stay in the UK. I told him I cannot sponsor anyone financially or support visa processes, and that my parents would not allow him to stay with me in the UK.

At that point, the conversation became tense. He reacted by saying that if he wasn’t going to be moving to England, then there was no point in getting married, which made me feel like the idea of marriage was conditional on moving to the UK. He had quite a negative reaction to me not wanting to help him move to England. I confronted him today about it.

He then started questioning my intentions, implying that I might only be talking to him so he can help me move in with him.

I got defensive and told him I can leave the UK if I want to, that I don’t need to stay here, and that I could live elsewhere like Bulgaria if I chose to. I also said I only date men who don’t need to be financially supported , and listed things like my education, languages, and independence because I felt like I was being judged.

In return, he accused me of talking to him so I could move to Turkey, called me “weird,” and questioned my responses. The argument escalated and he eventually said it probably wouldn’t work out. I told him it didn’t work out as I would not bring him to the UK.

Now I’m wondering if I was the asshole for how I reacted and for bringing up my independence and dating standards during the argument, or if I was just defending myself because I felt accused of having hidden motives.

What do you guys think?

I was speaking to this girl who was 7 years younger than me.

We had many sweet chats but in 2 months we only met 2 times. It was due to me being busy.

On our last meeting I left her on seen for five days and then she proceeded to block me everywhere. It has been 3-4 years since she last spoke to me.

I think I saw her in real life 1 year after we stopped speaking. She walked past me as she was with another man.. We used to talk about marriage and children. It just seems to strange.

Did she leave me for another man?

My girlfriend goes on nights out frequently with friends.

I have never said anything to her but I am noticing that every other week there is a new empty bottle that I am seeing in the trash. She drinks 350 ml of Jack Daniels whiskey every 2 weeks. When being out with friends she continued drinking even more like 5-6 cocktails. When she does come back home she is very intoxicated. I know she wouldn’t do anything behind my back it’s just that it’s worrying. I hope it’s a party phase after all. To simply put it I think she is drinking far too much..

The excuse she uses for buying is that it was on sale and she couldn’t resist. She uses it for pre-drinks before she goes out.

So for two months now everyday and every night I am talking online with a Turkish man I met in the UK. I am seriously starting to crush on him and I do feel a bit love bombed.

When we met for the first time he was already telling me he is looking for something serious and then told me that he wants to have children soon. I was like yeah me too in a few years time. I told him I am not planning on having children at all yet. He seemed to agree. Before all of this he was already talking about it on text.

He was asking me questions about my past relationships. When is the last time I spoke with a man or had s3x with one.

He asked me so many personal questions. I couldn’t wait for it to end. I feel like his personality wasn’t great but his looks were.

The second time that we met he started talking about have I thought if I wanted a boy or a girl?

I was like I told you I am not ready for children. Why do you keep talking about it? He became quiet afterwards. From the on the conversation was awful. It was just so awkward that he dropped me home.

Over text he never ever told me these things. I am not sure about this man’s intentions or if I should even sleep with him.

During those times he was insisting to come to my house late at night. I told him many times and that he can’t. I then told him why can we not go to your house? He said we can’t go to his because of his parents.. I know that all men eventually want this so I am not saying he was definitely using me for that.

After our second meeting he hasn’t texted me back in 5 days. I plan on blocking him everywhere if he doesn’t text back. I really cannot understand this man. One day he talks about children the next day he doesn’t text back for 5 days..

Why is he rushing so much?

So this whole thing started one year ago. I was getting consistently cyber bullied. They were sending me all sort dms about participating in OF videos or 🌽 videos. I get these dms twice a month.

I don’t have a large following on instagram. Its a private account.

Is is normal to receive dms like that?

Its making me feel very weird. I keep reporting them. One day I found a setting that doesn’t allow anybody that I don’t follow to dm me. It has worked great.

Now every month since I stopped allowing DMs someone has been trying to get in my instagram. I keep receiving verification codes. I am pretty certain whoever it was must have gotten pissed when I disabled my DMs.

Is this cyber bullying?

As I drove past, I rolled down the window and shouted “Is two not enough?” and started laughing. The girl looked completely shocked and the guy next to her looked confused.

At the time it felt funny and stupid, but honestly afterwards I started thinking about how weirdly personal it probably felt for her.

The thing that still sticks with me is how instantly her face changed when we shouted it. It was like she thought: “How do they know that?”

Should I tell my friend or wait for her to confess to him?

Recently a man with an expensive car has started flirting with me on and off tiktok.

It has been casual and everything but he stays liking my posts and viewing my stories.

Does tiktok have rich men?

When I first moved into my flat two years ago, I noticed my next-door neighbors were incredibly standoffish always keeping things brief and polite, but cold. Meanwhile, I hit it off with everyone else in the building by just being friendly and lending a hand.

I became especially close with one family who often invited me over for drinks. During one of our balcony chats, they let me in on a little secret: those quiet neighbors of mine are actually the building "snitches." Apparently, they live in the group chat, complaining about every tiny thing and reporting everyone to management. My friend’s wife has also spoke to that neighbour and she was showing off by saying “ Oh I will be writing a big report to management about so and so”..

It suddenly made sense. A few months ago, I got flagged for noise during a small gathering for my birthday ( mini party basically) which was within the permitted noise time.

I couldn’t figure out who’d reported me at the time, but management confirmed it was just one person. Connecting the dots, it’s pretty clear my reserved neighbors were the ones behind it. Turns out, they aren't just shy they're the neighborhood watch nobody asked for.

During this whole time they kept putting me as a recipient for their parcels as sometimes they would get stolen in the lobby if left for too long. During that time I would always get their parcel and then give it back to them..

I stopped picking up any of their parcels. Funnily enough the delivery man was still ringing my doorbell but I was refusing to pick up their parcels and told him to leave them downstairs. This happened around 20 times but luckily it has stopped happening altogether now. They probably know I will never get a parcel for them.

In all honesty I could not stand to see them anymore so I put a lovely privacy on my balcony. From that point on I had even forgotten that they exist. There are no more small chats or even a hello. They are certainly out of sight and out of mind.

Nowadays when I do see them I am the one that keeps the conversation short and does not even bother to go past “hello” or “ how are you doing?”.

I hope this advice can help others in a similar position.

So my boyfriend never washes the dishes while I cook or even help to clean up after cooking. Honestly I find it tiring to cook and wash dishes.

He lets them pile up for a week and doesn’t bother cleaning them up until the dish becomes messed up. One time it lasted 3 weeks and eventually he cleaned them as he promised.

I told him this bothers me and he always says he will wash them. I do wash my plates and cups but his always stay there.

Lately I have been frustrated with the amount of dishes staying there including mine and his.

I purchased 100 paper plates, 40 wooden forks and 150 plastic cups. He was visibly annoyed by it saying that it was “ lazy and disgusting”. I told him what I find disgusting is how you constantly leave your plates in the sink which can attract cockroaches and pests in the longterm. I am sick and tired of seeing plates especially when he promises to wash mine so he can show how grateful he is for the cooking.

I told him that from now on I won’t be cooking or washing any dishes whatsoever.. Now it has been 3 weeks of zero home cooked food, takeaways, ready-made food and ramen noodles. I guess we both won’t budge on our principles. I think I might start making salads to be healthy at least. I feel really unhealthy.. It feels like I am living in a bachelors house. Haha