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Naanu Mysore avlu, recently Bijapur ge shift aagidde. Illi jana yella tumba different attitude irutte antha anstide 😭 Nanage illina janara behaviour innu properly artha aagilla.
Yavude chikka issue aadru fight, shouting, full volume alli argument 😭 And funniest part andre, tappu clearly avaradde idru kooda shout maadtaare, apology antha concept-e illa.
Initially nanage actually scary aagittu because almost every minor inconvenience ge same dialogue:
“Bhutnal ge karkondu hogtini, alli mugisbidtini.” 💀
Matthe “Police ge call maadu, nanage police alli full connections ide” anta bere level confidence.
Somehow illi pratiyobbaru MB Patil ge related iddare anstade 😭 Yaar jothe jagala aadru same dialogue, same attitude, same dhamki.
First one year nanage genuinely scary aagittu, but now it has reached a point where I just find it hilarious 😂 Like bro, how does literally everyone have the SAME dialogue and SAME attitude??
Mysore people, please tell me..idhu Bijapur specific aa athva Karnataka dalli common aa? 😭

Naanu Mysore avlu, recently Bijapur ge shift aagidde. Illi jana yella tumba different attitude irutte antha anstide 😭 Nanage illina janara behaviour innu properly artha aagilla.
Yavude chikka issue aadru fight, shouting, full volume alli argument 😭 And funniest part andre, tappu clearly avaradde idru kooda shout maadtaare, apology antha concepte illa.
Initially nanage actually scary aagittu because almost every minor inconvenience ge same dialogue:
“Bhutnal ge karkondu hogtini, alli mugisbidtini.” 💀
Matthe “Police ge call maadu, nanage police alli full connections ide” anta bere level confidence.
Somehow illi pratiyobbaru MB Patil ge related iddare anstade 😭 Yaar jothe jagala aadru same dialogue, same attitude, same dhamki.
First one year nanage genuinely scary aagittu, but now it has reached a point where I just find it hilarious 😂 Like bro, how does literally everyone have the SAME dialogue and SAME attitude??
Mysore people, please tell me..idhu Bijapur specific aa athva Karnataka dalli common aa? 😭

I’m genuinely confused about whether my boyfriend is being protective or controlling, and I want an outside perspective.
My boyfriend has told me for a long time that I shouldn’t be too friendly with other guys. His reasoning has always been that guys talk behind girls’ backs, make up stories about interactions with them, and can ruin a girl’s reputation. He says he knows how guys behave and that I should be careful.
I trusted him because I thought maybe he understood male behavior better than I did. So over time, I stopped talking to a lot of my male friends and avoided going out with guys, even casually.
There was one incident that especially reinforced his belief.
Before we started dating, one of his friends, let’s call him Anirudh, was in the same unit as me. We were friends and he casually asked if I wanted to go out for coffee/smoking. I didn’t think anything of it and said yes.
Later, after I started dating my boyfriend, my boyfriend told me that Anirudh had apparently come back and told his friends that we had sat very close on the bike and held hands.
None of that happened.
According to my boyfriend, Anirudh was basically exaggerating the interaction to brag about himself to his friends.
My boyfriend was extremely angry when he heard this. But instead of blaming Anirudh for lying, he kept telling me that it was ultimately my fault because “guys are like this” and that I should have known better than to trust him or go out with him.
I kept accepting this because I thought maybe he was right and I had just been naive.
Now we have been dating for some time, and today I happened to search my name in his Instagram DMs.
He has a group chat with around 10 of his male friends.
Someone sent a reel of a girl and asked who she looked like. Someone replied “(my name)” and tagged my name.
His best friend replied “chii.”
What really shocked me wasn’t just that they mentioned me. It was that I searched through the group chat and couldn’t find another girl being discussed by name in the same way. Even girls who are much more popular/socially visible weren’t mentioned. My name was the only girl’s name I could find coming up like this.
I showed my boyfriend the conversation.
His response was basically that he didn’t say anything, his friends did, and he can’t control what they say.
I understand that part. He didn’t personally make the comment.
But it made me think about everything he’s told me about men.
He has repeatedly told me that I shouldn’t go out with male friends because men will talk, exaggerate things, or make up stories about me.
Yet now I’m seeing his own group of male friends talking about me.
And the Anirudh situation makes this even more confusing because my boyfriend’s argument has always been that I should have known that a guy might lie about an innocent interaction.
I told my boyfriend something along the lines of:
“If you genuinely had a crush on me since first year, like you always say, and your friends were also approaching/flirting with me despite knowing you liked me, why did you never take a stand for me or even seem to have a problem with them talking to me? You say you cared about me all along, but apparently your friends were comfortable approaching me and discussing me.”
His answer was that we weren’t dating at the time, so he had no right to say anything.
I understand that technically we weren’t dating, so he couldn’t control who I talked to.
But what bothers me is the double standard now.
I have changed my friendships because I believed him when he said men are inherently likely to talk about girls or make up stories.
He has even unfollowed many of my male friends from his own Instagram, and after that some of those guys stopped talking to me completely.
I don’t want to be naive. I understand that some men absolutely do lie or exaggerate things, and Anirudh apparently did exactly that.
But I don’t understand why his solution is always that I should restrict myself, rather than holding the person who lied accountable.
If a guy lies about me, shouldn’t the problem be the guy who lied?
Am I actually being unreasonable here? Is my boyfriend being genuinely protective based on things he has personally seen from other men, or is this becoming controlling and making me responsible for other people’s behavior?
I genuinely want an outside perspective because I’ve become so used to hearing “guys are like this” that I’m not sure anymore where reasonable caution ends and controlling behavior begins.

I dont like anyone, like everyone gives me icks no matter what i only see flaws in others and after a certain limit i cant tolerate same human around me.

Anyone else like that ?

Idk if it was a scam or something but i met this girl named "gauri mishra" near hadapsar through a dating app and later we started talking a lot, we had our date in kp where she kept on telling me about how much she likes fashion and loves jewellery specially she is very fond of swaroski.

Idk what romantic keeda i had in my mind that i gifted it to her after a month of us talking, later she would call me to order her food and they randomly ask for money saying its some "urgency".

One day i needed my money back since i didnt have any in my account and i had to travel so i texted her to return the amount to which she blocked me.

I shared this with my office colleagues too and they replied that it might be a scam and its very common in pune. Idk if her original name was that or not or was she genuinely from pune.
Please everyone stay safe with all these dating app scams happening around pune.

I’m an MBBS intern and had night duty yesterday. I came back to my hostel room around 7 in the morning, completely exhausted, and the first thing I noticed was ashes, a lemon and sindoor under my bed.

For some context, my roommate recently got cheated on by her boyfriend. For the past few days she’d been showing me all these Instagram reels about black magic and getting your ex back or making them regret things. I don’t believe in any of that, so I was just laughing at the reels. At one point I even joked, “You should try it someday.”
Well… she actually did.

When I asked her what all that stuff under my bed was, she went quiet for a second. Then it suddenly clicked in my head and I asked, “Wait… did you actually do that ritual here?” She laughed and said, “Yeah, I finally tried it. Let’s see if it works on him.”
I was just staring at her like… what??

Forget whether black magic is real or not. I honestly think it’s just her coping mechanism after the breakup. But why under my bed? Why not yours? And why would you burn things in our room without even telling me?

My charger, iPad and all my Marrow notes were literally kept on that side. What if something had caught fire? That’s what bothered me the most.
I had to rush back for morning rounds, so I just told her to please clean it up before I got back.
I came back a few hours later and the room looked exactly the same. She was sleeping. When I asked why she hadn’t cleaned it, she said she “couldn’t find a maid.”

Not once did she say sorry.
No apology for doing it under my bed. No apology for leaving the mess. No acknowledgment that she could’ve damaged my stuff or started a fire.
I genuinely don’t know if I’m more annoyed by the ritual itself or by the complete lack of respect for my personal space.
Am I overreacting? Because this feels incredibly weird and disrespectful to me, even if you completely ignore the whole black magic part.

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I'm not asking for a diagnosis. I'm just wondering if anyone else experiences this because I genuinely feel different from most people around me.

Whenever something upsets me, I don't just get angry and move on. My brain keeps replaying it over and over, and every time it replays, it somehow finds another reason to be angry.

For example, today my boyfriend lent his scooty to a couple I don't like (they're his close friends). I got angry about that. Then I started thinking, "Why would he do that when he knows I don't like them?" That turned into, "His friends always use him." Then, "They never return his money." Then, "He never stands up for himself." Before I knew it, I wasn't even angry about the scooty anymore..I was furious about every interaction I've ever had with those people.

This doesn't happen only with my boyfriend. It happens with almost everything. Once I'm angry, it feels impossible to stop thinking about it. I lose my appetite, I can't enjoy whatever I'm doing, and the anger just keeps building instead of fading.

Over time, it's also made me distrust almost everyone. I constantly feel like people will use me and disappear when I need them. I've become so independent that even if I'm struggling badly, I'd rather suffer than ask someone for help. Sometimes I even catch myself feeling resentful toward my own family because my mind starts questioning their intentions too.

I'm an MBBS intern, and while studying psychiatry recently, I started wondering whether this level of anger, rumination, and distrust is normal or whether I should actually get evaluated. I'm not trying to self-diagnose, but it made me realize that I don't see people around me reacting the way I do.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did therapy or seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist help? Was there a name for what you were experiencing, or did you find ways to break this cycle?

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've gone through something similar.

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I'm not asking for a diagnosis. I'm just wondering if anyone else experiences this because I genuinely feel different from most people around me.

Whenever something upsets me, I don't just get angry and move on. My brain keeps replaying it over and over, and every time it replays, it somehow finds another reason to be angry.

For example, today my boyfriend lent his scooty to a couple I don't like (they're his close friends). I got angry about that. Then I started thinking, "Why would he do that when he knows I don't like them?" That turned into, "His friends always use him." Then, "They never return his money." Then, "He never stands up for himself." Before I knew it, I wasn't even angry about the scooty anymore..I was furious about every interaction I've ever had with those people.

This doesn't happen only with my boyfriend. It happens with almost everything. Once I'm angry, it feels impossible to stop thinking about it. I lose my appetite, I can't enjoy whatever I'm doing, and the anger just keeps building instead of fading.

Over time, it's also made me distrust almost everyone. I constantly feel like people will use me and disappear when I need them. I've become so independent that even if I'm struggling badly, I'd rather suffer than ask someone for help. Sometimes I even catch myself feeling resentful toward my own family because my mind starts questioning their intentions too.

I'm an MBBS intern, and while studying psychiatry recently, I started wondering whether this level of anger, rumination, and distrust is normal or whether I should actually get evaluated. I'm not trying to self-diagnose, but it made me realize that I don't see people around me reacting the way I do.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did therapy or seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist help? Was there a name for what you were experiencing, or did you find ways to break this cycle?

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've gone through something similar.

I've noticed that people often feel personally invested in things that don't directly affect them..whether it's LGBTQ+ people, live-in relationships, interfaith or inter-caste marriages, or women choosing to drink or smoke. These choices are often met with social judgment, harassment, or attempts to control others.

At the same time, when serious issues like rape, mob lynching, or criminal intimidation happen, many people prefer to stay silent or say, "Why should I get involved?.. It doesn't affect me."

Why do you think this contrast exists? Is it because of social conditioning, cultural norms, fear of speaking against crime, selective morality, or something else?

We all got one life, let me make my own choice because I know when something wrong happens to me no matter what people won't come to save me so let me live my life on my own terms.