Presently, I'm looking to travel to Banff and Lake Louise next year!!
What months are considered off season and/or shoulder season for visiting Banff and Lake Louise?
If I can save a bit a bit of money and avoid a few people I'd like to. I know it's always expensive and busy but still.
I know my education and therefor career options were seriously limited in part because I greatly struggled with math in high school which greatly limited my post secondary career options :(
In hindsight, I should've just changed paths. Still, it's really hard to change your life path when you're skipping meals in university due to poverty, have an awful home life and got screamed at by my mom just to finish me useless BA :(..
Turns out you need more than BA to make any decent in money in Ontario and it all seems too late to me.
Now I'm in my early 30s and realized that if I'd done better in math I'd probably have better paying career options available. Now I'm making $22/hour and the job market is always bad. My best options in life still aren't so great.
Anyone else realize that being bad at math can seriously limit their career?
I (31) applied to the PA program at McMaster 4 years ago and was rejected :(. Frankly, I found the application process overpriced and quite awkward.
While I think I'd quite like to become a Physician Assistant, I'm not sure I'd actually be admitted to PA school.
I only have a BA and MA in political science. My grades were good but I lack any science courses or healthcare experience. I do have work experience outside of healthcare FWIW.
Would it even be worth applying to PA schools or going back to school to take the necessary courses to be eligible to apply? My concern is that the competition is so strong that I'd essentially be wasting my time.
Currently, I'm looking for career counselling services in Hamilton.
If anyone has recommendations for good career counselling services (either free or paid) in Hamilton please let me know! Thanks in advance.
I'm in my early 30s now and I'm realizing that having big dreams and goals in life has only led to disappointment and hurt.
I had dreams of attending a good university, getting a respectable career in a desired field, saving up to eventually own a small home, having a long term partner, etc and I now have none of that nor do I see how they can come about.
If anything I'd probably be better off and happier in life if I didn't have any serious dreams and just pursued the best option immediately available to me.
I'm in Canada for context. Getting a good career is very difficult here if you make the wrong choices.
DAE regret having dreams or goals of a better life?
I (32) have failed at pursuing multiple career paths in Canada and I'm at a loss as for what to do now. Currently working in a clerical role making $44k/year in a HCOL area and I can't afford anything. Don't even want to stay in my current field but I can't seem to do better for myself :(
I have a BA and MA in political science but they aren't worth anything and were massive opportunity costs. I probably could've done a lot more with my life if I'd gotten a more useful degree.
How do you find a career path to pursue when you feel like you've just run out of good ideas?
I started seeking treatment for depression when I was 25 in the form of anti-depressants and talk therapy. While I did find they both helped me become a somewhat functioning person again, they didn't really resolve my depression overall and I still deal with a lot of low mood and general dissatisfaction with my life.
I'm 31 now and life is just getting old now. I quit anti-depressants last year and talk therapy this month because I just felt like I wasn't making progress anymore.
Currently, I'm still living with my mom because I can't afford to move out, not much closer to finding a career I actually want and I'm still single 😞. It sucks because I thought my life was just starting when I sought treatment and now it doesn't feel that way anymore. I'm just tired.
Not sure what to do anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.
I've started reading Sanctuary and once I got to where Temple Drake gets abducted/trapped in the house I just don't feel like I mentally want to continue. I know it gets worse before the novels ends and I'm just struggling with my motivation to finish the novel.
Maybe it's because I'm not feeling that great in my personal life atm but I'm just not sure how worthwhile the novel is after page 70 or so.
Is it worth finishing Sanctuary or would I better off just finding something else to read? Perhaps Faulkner's short stories?
I'm 31 and I still live with my mom because I don't make enough money despite working full time for years now :/
At this point it feels quite embarrassing. I thought I'd be a lot further ahead in life. I've never even owned a used car and frankly, I doubt any woman would want to date a man who lives with his mom at this age even if it's because it's the best I can do financially atm. I feel too old to keep doing this, at least without an end in sight.
I know I can keep trying to eventually turn my life around but the older I get the more ashamed I am that I'm still here :(
Had a few chances to move out but I screwed up and now I'm just tired of it all.
I graduated college about 9 years ago now but this still really gets to me so I figured I'd post here.
I absolutely hated how anti-social most people at college were. To me, it felt as though if you didn't live on or near campus and found a clique/group of people to be friends with then very few people wanted to interact with you which sucked as I was a commuter student.
I tried joining clubs (which there weren't that many of), talking to people in class, and playing intramural sports but I had little success in making any friends. Most people I met were either uninterested or standoffish and seemed bothered I was speaking to them.
It got to the point where I thought I wasn't good at talking to other people and making friends. However, when I entered the work force I found I was actually pretty alright at it. It just seemed that college had a lot of anti-social people in it. It sucks because it screwed with my confidence for years afterwards.
tl;dr peers in college were cliquey and weird.
I didn't spend a lot of time in academia. Only a year on a course based program but FFS I'm so sick of people I talk to, especially online treating it like just another year of undergrad when I busted my a** off to get it. Maybe it wasn't a practical degree but I hate when people talk down to me because they think I just screwed around for an extra year.
I also hate it when people are secretly insecure about me telling them I'm more educated then them and I still get spoken down to by someone who can't read properly but refuses to admit it.
DAE feel this way?
University really set me up to fail. I got a useless BA and then was a fool and got an MA to top it off. I didn't get a very good education. My self confidence floundered and never recovered despite therapy. My mother emotionally, financially and verbally abused me all throughout and I never had the courage to get a better education.
Worst of all, I'm too burned out to go back to school and I don't even have the right courses to go back to school for a lot of things. I've failed at getting a career I actually wanted in life, in part because I'm not qualified to do much and lack any connections.
It seems that ever since university, I've never been in a position to really do what I wanted to with my life :(. I've spent my adult life never just being able to do what I wanted with it and I can't get anywhere in life now.
It's just so frustrating to know I could've done more if I hadn't gotten my useless degrees at a university that I absolutely hated all for nothing. I never got a decent job and now I'm 31. I know I could've done so much more with my life and now I never will.
I'm in my early 30s and I've realized that I seriously struggle with self confidence and self-esteem.
When I struggle with trying to learn or do something, I often mentally collapse in on myself. I feel just like I did back to my high school and university days where my mom would just yell at me for not doing well enough in school, my teachers being jerks to me and just being completely hung out to dry. The feelings are extremely intense.
Recently in therapy, my therapist tried telling me she thought I could be a physician and that really stung as it reminded me of getting yelled at by my mom for not achieving more in school :(. I haven't really had a lot of success in my life to be proud of.
How would I go about rebuilding my self-confidence and self esteem?
I'm in my early 30s and I genuinely don't see a good future for myself. My BA isn't useful. I'm stuck in a dead end corporate job. I couldn't get into a career I desired or that was even decent. I make poverty wages despite working full time and I live at my mom's house.
I'm sick of life and I don't see things getting better but I can't become content with my crummy life as I truly hate it.
Where do I go from here?
When I experience high levels of back pain, I find I can't perform a lot of tasks that require more mental input and flexible thinking.
How do you better deal with having a lack of mental bandwidth when struggling with chronic pain?
Personally, I find my ability to do more than the go to work and some exercise quite limited at times and trying to think of anything into the future beyond the short term is quite difficult to do.
Sometimes it feels like doing the minimum is hard enough.
I'm currently recovering from a third back injury over the last 8 years. It's manageable but I find I can't really do that much, especially if it requires significant mental input, more so if the level of pain I'm experiencing is higher on a given day.
How do you better manage the lack of mental bandwidth when experiencing significant back pain?
I find mentally, I'm a lot less mentally resilient and a lot less capable of flexible thinking when I'm experiencing worse pain. Is it possible to better manage this or am I just stuck getting by?
Often I feel like I'm drawing a blank when trying to figure out what to do with my life because I can't even think.
Recently, I had the privilege of travelling to France and while I certainly enjoyed my time over there, I realized I don't feel like my an adult.
I work full time but it's at a job that doesn't pay enough to afford rent much less to buy a home so I live with my mom. It's not the worst life but I'm seriously embarrassed that I haven't done more. I don't even own a car! Mentally, I feel like I've aged a lot but my life doesn't reflect that of a grown adult.
My coworkers are mostly younger than me. I want to change but I don't really see a path forward in life. I chose the wrong degree and I lack the skills to get ahead in life.
Don't have a girlfriend and don't see why a woman would date a man in his early 30s who doesn't make a lot of money at lives at his mom's house.
Is it realistic that I can start feeling like more of an adult or is that unrealistic?
I'm in my early 30s and I'm in a bit of an odd position financially.
I don't have any debt to speak of as I spent the last few years paying off my student debt and don't have any other debts (looking back this maybe not the best idea).
However, I also don't make a lot of money. Specifically, I make $22/hour working a clerical job in a field I don't want to stay. Partly because I don't enjoy the field and partly because I know I'll probably never make the money I want long term if I stay. I have a BA and that's it. Live at my mom's house as it's the best I can do (and the best price).
Besides investing, what else can I be doing to improve my financial situation?
I've deeply enjoyed reading Hemingway's works and the theme of travel and adventure in them. Similarly, I also like reading about Hemingway's life as he personally sought quite a lot of adventure in life.
How would a normal person find adventure reasonably similiar to what Hemingway did? Assuming they don't marry into money and have a day job of course.
I've been in therapy for the last 4 years now and I seriously struggle with the idea that my life could significantly better.
My therapist often says my life could be better if I put the effort in. For instance, I could find a girlfriend, I could get a better career, etc.
As someone who has heard that my life could get better a lot prior to therapy it comes off as quite hallow to me. Previously people have said to me to get me and my life never actually improved.
What should I do if I don't like being told my life could get better in session? Would it be best to just move on to another therapist or quit therapy? Should I bring it up to my therapist?