u/RSinSA

Hello all.

I need to vent. I have had GERD since June 2025. It was rocky at first but I feel like I have gotten used to it, its mostly under control and I can branch out a bit.

Well. That was a DUMB thought.

I am able to tolerate matcha with 0 reflux as long as I have it with food. I can even get away with it without food, but I try to avoid that as much as possible.

I have had a severe migraine for days now, and in a pinch, I took tylenol and matcha together to get like an "Excedrin" effect without having to buy Excedrin.

Well, this was stupid. That night gave me the WORST FLARE in my entire life. It is completely uncontrollable. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I have constant, horrible, painful, burning that won't stop for anything.

I am so mad at myself. I have to take days off of work because it is so bad. UGH!!!!

Can someone please explain the concept of gray rocking and how to do it?

In what instances do you gray rock someone? I keep seeing this phrase online but it isn't explained. Thanks!

Hello.

I started at my firm 5 months ago. My office has had known circulation issues and they were “fixed”. My co worker that I share an office who brings in a space heater and runs it 8 hours a day. Beyond being EXTREMELY hot, this has caused me breathing and eye issues. My boss notified them that the office was hot and they said the temperature was perfect for them so they will continue to use the heater. In the summer.

I have been seeing a specialist and wrote to them about my breathing and eye issues. He agreed that it’s due to the heater and wrote a letter indicating that it’s the issue and why it’s causing an issue for me. I provided this to HR.

HRs solution is to provide a fan and for my co worker to move the space heater.

This does not resolve the issue and I’ve had to spend a lot of money on medications to try and help me breathe. One is 110 dollars.

My boss has been little to no help in sticking up for me in this issue; he told me to move offices but won’t formally notify HR that he allowed this.

I asked the specialist if HRs solution would be helpful and he indicated it would not be helpful.

What can I do in this situation?

I had a lot of "friends" in my 20s that ended up not being my friends.

Last year I became sick, and my "friends" of 30+ years disappeared.

I have no friends at 36 years old. I also do not have children, which makes me feel like a pariah among people, especially women. I am single. Most of my family has passed away.

I have a few questions.

1. How do you remain happy knowing you're alone?
2. Did you ever go through a period of time where you didn't have anyone, including family?
3. Did you ever make friends again?

I feel hopeless and helpless.

I’m rewatching this dang series and Christine is absolutely vile.

They‘re all stupidly moving to Flagstaff because Robyn… I mean Kody wants to stalk Dayton at college.

Christine is all gung-ho, but didn’t she want to move to Utah?! Why is she getting upset about the lack of a marriage license? What’s up with her talk with her CHILD, Aspyn. Who brought up good points about moving, and Christine could only say “I’m over this state“.

What does that even mean?

I have never yelled at a TV screen before! Her and her keep sweet voice are driving me insane.

Edit: This post is about the decrease in quality, not exactly my departure.

I have been going to B&BW since the 90s. I cannot tell you how many tubs of products I used to receive each year. I loved it.

As an adult, I would save and treat myself to the candles and the air fresheners. Then as I got older, I moved to the fragrances and the lotions, etc. I used it to treat myself.

I used to love coming home to how amazing my house smelled.

Now, I don't feel like its a treat. The candles hardly smell, the air fresheners run out of scent after 2 days of use, they no longer bring back my favorites from the previous year, its always something new.

The handsoap doesn't last as long and the stupid foam ones dry out my hands.

I am sadly giving up on B&BW. I feel like they made it so cheap now. It isn't worth the price. :(

I have worked at my firm for less than six months. I have a co worker that I share an office with. On my first day she told me all the work place gossip. She was late to my first day lunch that she knew about for a week. She would also turn all the lights off in our office and shut the windows. She was thankfully only in the office 2 x a week, so I just dealt with it. we would talk occasionally.

She was told she would need to come in the office full time and she took a LOA after that and kept extending it. I had to take over her joh for months.

Ever since she has returned, she blatantly ignores me, is constantly talking on the phone during working hours, taking longer breaks than allowed, etc.

She comes in with such a black cloud and I wish we didn’t share an office.

Can someone provide tips on how to handle this? I’ve never not gotten along with my co workers and this is completely new to me. I don’t expect us to be best friends, but she won’t even speak to me.

thanks!

My friend is the sweetest, funniest, most loving person that I have ever met. We were previously co workers and have maintained a friendship after the work relationship ended.

She has a son that is 25. The son has a child. The son is with a complete loser who introduced him to drugs and now he is addicted.

He lived with my friend and her husband for a long time, then went back to his "girl" and their child and started doing drugs again. My friend has done everything for her son, including helping raising the child, providing a roof for them both, paying for rehab, etc and nothing has worked.

The son got arrested and now my friend has the grandchild full time and now we don't talk or see each other. I spoke to her briefly and she said her life is in shambles. I have offered to come over to cook, clean and help with the baby, and she hasn't taken me up on it. I don't want to keep bothering her.

I hate her son for doing this to her and her husband and taking my friend away.

I look through this sub and I have tried Okome a few times (and didn't like it). Who has the best matcha in Fresno or Clovis? I am on the hunt!

Thanks!

My friend swore up and down that Hinge is way better than Tinder. This has NOT been the case for me. I hardly see any attractive guys, the ones I have matched with and went on dates with have been EXTREMELY weird, etc.

I matched with a single Dad, and he seemed fine. He weirdly asked me a lot of questions about the bible, but I figured he is someone where religion is important to him.

We kept chatting and yesterday, he finally responded to me on the app (never given him my number) and when I got home, I logged into Linkedin. Apparently 5 hours before he wrote me back, he viewed my Linkedin profile.

I find this EXTREMELY creepy, as my name is a common white person name, I do not have my place of employment on my profile and NONE of my pictures mention it AND my Linkedin picture and Hinge pictures are not even close to the same. I am highly creeped out.

Has this happened to anyone else and how do I prevent this moving forward?

I am rewatching the entire series and I am at where Meri asks the "fahmlee" for a loan. 40 grand, which isn't a lot of money in comparison to what they make per season.

Anyways, as per narcissist fashion, Kody said he had the funds and then he doesn't. Typical.

Christine, Janelle, Robyn and Kody talk about this issue and the stuff they say about the business plan or lack thereof, the stuff they had to do to prove to the fahmlee that their business was worth it (and how successful are they?), etc etc. My jaw was left open. They were horrible! Especially Christine, who hasn't done a business or gave up on real estate in 2 seconds.

I am so glad Meri gave them the finger, bought it herself and they're not a business partner.

HELL YEAH!

I noticed during Mykelti and Tonys wedding season (was that season 11?) that Christine was doing this weird fake crying thing. And all of the wives were staring at her like what are you doing?

Then season 12 rolls around, and she is acting like a complete Damsel in Distress. She hangs all over Kody, cries on Kody, is all over Kody.

It is like she is trying to act like Robyn since Robyn was busy with Ari and Solly.

It is so bizarre and its driving me nuts. Did anyone else notice this?

I am looking for an ergonomic office chair. Where is the best place to buy them that isn’t online? I’d prefer to try them out before buying it.

thank you.

I need an office chair recommendation. Yes, I have read the rules and the threads, but I have specific needs.

1. Preferably ergonomic.
2. I need it for a short woman, I am 5'3 with a small build.
3. I have a back and neck injury, it needs to be COMFORTABLE. I would need back and neck support, but not necessarily the head rest.
4. I sit behind a computer screen 8 hours a day.
5. Location: CA, USA
6. Price: Preferably under 200 dollars.

I have looked online, I have looked in stores, I am completely lost and in pain. My neck and shoulders and back kill me every day. Please, please, please help me!

*Edit: if you're not going to offer a name of a chair, please don't comment. I am in agonizing pain and have been throwing up from a migraine for 2 days. Just please, don't.*

Before I get blasted in the comments, let me explain.

I grew up poor. When I was in college, I was almost homeless. I had to stand in line for food banks. Sometimes I only had 3 cents if that at the end of the month. I cleaned houses, pet sit, baby sat, etc to make more money. I know how to bargain shop, and I keep my budgets low.

I work full time in a good career, I am debating getting a second job to pay off my student loans faster. I’m also going to law school.

Some times I want to do things with my friends or my sister. Grab some dinner. Watch a movie.

Frequently, they can’t because they’re broke. My sister only works part time, my friends have worked the same dead end job for years and don’t apply for better.

I am actively trying to make new friends to do things with, but in the meantime, I’m so frustrated that they’re broke and don’t do anything to change it.

I am tired of doing things by myself because the people around me are broke.

I need recommendations for a legitimate massage therapist. I have pretty severe neck/back injuries and need someone who is knowledgeable about injuries and the pain it can cause.

Thank you!

I am rewatching the show, and I am Season 11. Mykelti and Tony want to get married... two months after Madison.

I really, really, really tried to see it from each side, but I agree with Kody and Christine. I feel like Mykelti did this to take something away from Madison. To see if her parents truly loved her, since she saw how her mom reacted to Madison getting engaged.

It shows how immature Myleti and Tony are, and I understand the hesitation.

I am glad the marriage seems to be working out, and they have some pretty cute kids, but man... this is bad.

My Aunt was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and it is incurable. The cancer she has no cure once it is to this stage.

She is like a mother to me, after my parents died when I was 12 years old to another incurable cancer.

She has experienced every set back, every side effect, nothing has worked. She was finally in a treatment that worked, but due to a procedure, she had to stop it. She is now bed bound, sounds horrible and is extremely weak. She wants to keep pushing through and I don't know why. Every time we get a phone call, I just think the worse. I cannot imagine what this is doing to my uncle.

I wish she would just stop. I hate seeing her like this. I hate how much debt they're taking on for a cancer that has no cure. It is incurable. I wish this never happened to her. She is literally the best person I have ever met in my life. She is seriously amazing.

I hate that I feel like this. I hate that I am this selfish. I hate cancer.

Hello.

I hate throwing out the word "narcissist" because people call people that without knowing what it means, however, my therapist has pointed out their behavior.

I have an old friend who lives with my sister and she has narcissistic traits and has tried to make my life hell. Anytime something good happens in my life, she throws something at me. My sister is extremely gullible and doesn't see anything wrong with these behaviors, but that is another issue.

How do I stop letting someone's narcissistic antics get to me and how do I get her to simply leave me alone? I ended the friendship years ago and it doesn't stop.

Thank you.

Hello!

I am starting school next week and was registered in two classes (6 units). I work full time in a very stressful environment and job.

The classes I am registered for are Law and the Legal System (BA20) and Introduction to Paralegal Studies (Plegal-1).

Are these classes manageable with a full time job? I haven't been to college in 6 years, and I was only taking one class to finish my degree and it was online.

Thank you!